(Part 2) Reddit mentions: The best baby & toddler feeding supplies

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I was the same way. In fact, when I first found out I was pregnant I was certain I was going to just formula feed from the start. But the more reading I did about breastfeeding, breastmilk and the benefits for both my baby and myself I decided I was going to give it a go. I still stocked some bottles and formula in case things didn't work out for whatever reason. I think having that stuff actually helped me push through the hardest parts of early breastfeeding, because I knew I had backup and was determined to not have to use it unless it was due to a supply issue. I was determined to push through the discomfort! A lot of the stuff you'll read will say if it hurts, you're doing it wrong. That's not always the case! First of all, your nipples aren't used to this kind of work load! Babies nurse A LOT in the early days. It can feel like you don't do much except nurse! So it can take a little bit for them to get used to this. Also, your lo can be born with a pretty small mouth, making it hard to get a deep latch. Mine had a tiny mouth! Our latch and technique were perfect, but she had a shallow latch. By week 3 we were totally on track, it became second nature to nurse her. She had grown, my boobs were used to things and it became a really enjoyable experience. I was obsessed with whether her latch was right those first 3 wks and watched about a million videos on latching, had an appt with the LC I saw during recovery and the hospital and read more stuff. I was assured our latch was great and to try to stop being so worried about everything. It's really hard not to worry! Is this right? Is she getting enough milk? Is this cluster feeding? Whyyyy do my boobs hurt?! But seriously, at 3wks something magical just clicked into place. Cluster feeding is going to suck! But it is necessary to build up your supply! Comfort nursing is real too, and your baby will need lots of comfort in the early days. Things that got me through those first few weeks:
-my husband set up a snack station on my nightstand. He had fiber one bars (trust me, you'll need them lol), fiber one+protein bars, granola bars, nutrigrain bars, pb crackers etc and every time we woke to nurse he got me fresh water. You need to stay hydrated!! And it's easy to get weak, nursing can be really draining! Having a snack nearby that you can eat with one hand is super helpful
-Water. Lots and lots of water.
-When we'd wake up in the night for feedings I'd nurse on one side, then my husband would change her diaper and hand her back to me to finish the other side. The break up would help wake her up and helped make sure I was never TOO engorged. I never had to get out of bed unless absolutely necessary, which was also a huge help.
-Philips Avent thermal gel pads I kept these in the freezer, they are big and bulky but omg they felt wonderful!! You can also warm them.
-Lansinoh Gel Soothies i kept these in the fridge for adding cooling. They were great.
-Lansinoh! Lots of it! I used it at the start and end of every session in the beginning. Let your boobs air dry a little too from time to time. My boobs were constantly out those first few weeks. My husband called this phase "sun's out, guns out!"
It's really hard not to worry or be worried about it. It's hard work! It's a lot more than I ever thought it would be. But here we are at 1yr and almost 2wks still going strong! I wouldn't change a thing. I feel blessed to have had a pretty easy time with this, and to have had a great supply all this time. I am absolutely in awe at how all of this works, and so happy that I stuck with it. You'll need support, but with a good system this can be an amazing experience. I keep saying weaning is going to be harder on me than it will be on my daughter! And always remember, if breastfeeding doesn't work out - you aren't a failure. Formula is there for a reason, it feeds babies and helps them thrive! At the end of the day, a fed baby is the way to go. If breastfeeding is not working, then switch and don't let anyone try to make you feel guilty about it. It's none of their business anyways how you feed your baby. All that matters is your health and happiness and your baby's health and happiness. Best of luck!!!

Here are mine:

• Secure Beginnings Crib Mattress - a totally breathable crib mattress. You can take the "sleep surface" off and throw it in the washing machine when needed. I surprisingly don't do it that often. The mesh fabric and space under it helps in temperature regulation and air exchange. Basically, helped me as a new mom not worry about suffocation. I ended up going wild and getting two sleep surfaces per mattress. I got one set in the regular size and a mini crib for our room.
  
• LED Touch Light - these suckers are rechargeable and hold their charge a long time. They're super portable. What I like best is that you can turn them suuuuper dim, which is great for middle of the night wake ups and diaper changes. We have one hanging from our headboard and one hanging above the changing table. And then another around the house. There are tons of sellers of this type of product and they're quite inexpensive.
  
• Wet Bag - a reusable and washable bag to stash wet/dirty stuff. An essential for cloth diaperers, but also great for pooped on clothes, bathing suits, etc.
  
• Fischer-Price Ultra-Lite Day and Night Play Yard - this is a smaller and less expensive version of a traditional pack and play. We kept it in the living room and baby spent a lot of time there as a newborn.
  
• Gripe Water Lots of gripe water. Good for gas, sometimes hiccups, and gentle relief for stomach upset. Also helps some newborns poop.
  
• Grovia Magic Stick Diaper Balm - made for cloth diapers, but would work for sposies. A barrier "cream" on a stick, so you don't have to get your fingers gross. Smells amazing - I literally sniff the stick every time we use it.
  
• Freemies - great for hands-free pumping, especially in the car or at work. Fits inside the shirt. Can be hit or miss on if it works for individuals, but it works GREAT for my boobs. Regular flanges hurt me and didn't yield good output, but Freemies agreed with my body wonderfully.
  
• Spectra Pump I have nothing but good things to say about the Spectra pump. I have the S1 (battery operated), S2 (plugs in), and the S9 (battery operated, but not as fancy as S1). I haven't had any issues with my pumps, but others have had great customer service experiences. It's a "closed" system, which means it's impossible for milk to get into the pump on accident. This is a good thing.
  
• Kiinde Storage Bags - these breastmilk storage bags are more expensive, but highly durable. I love the twist top - much easier to use then a zipper top. We used the whole bottle system from 0-6 months. At six months, he realized he could take the nipple off the bottle and we switched to Como Tomo bottles. But for those months, it was SO NICE to just send the bags to daycare and wash only the nipples (the shells stayed at daycare).
  
• Lillebaby Complete Airflow Baby Carrier - while baby carrier preferences will vary widely by body type and personal preferences, I love my Lillebaby most. It doesn't require any special insert for newborns and the lumbar support was awesome. The airflow version was great, as I live in a very hot state.
  
• Lectrofan Sound Machine - you may be wondering why this is $45 and other sound machines are $20. Because it is amazing, that is why. Seriously 100% amazing.
  
  Hope this helps somebody!
  
  Edit: added a few more after the Spectra.

I started liquid formula with breast milk supplementing after my LO's first day due to a low supply. I understand the failing feeling and I still feel that way at times when I stopped pumping at 5 months. It's hard but as most people say, fed is best. Honestly, having to formula feed is probably the best outcome for all in my situation. My child had no problem transitioning at daycare since she was used to the bottle and having others feed her. I get depressed with little sleep so I could have others help do the overnight feedings once I stopped pumping. You'll feel guilty for some time but you really shouldn't. You are doing what is best for you and your child.

I can't answer the questions about WIC, but here are some tips and answers to your questions:

-Powder formula is not sterile. There are varying ideas if you should give powder formula to a newborn or wait until they are a few months old. I always err on the side of caution, so I did not begin powder formula until LO was 4 months old. I used premade liquid formula up until that point. Your doc can best advise when to start powder formula.

-You keep the liquid formula at room temp until you open the container. Then it needs to go into the refrigerator. Your baby will probably be OK with eating at room temp (mine was until her first cold and then she got picky) but any that is from the refrigerator will most likely need to be warmed up. Again it depends on your child's preference.

-It is advised to not use a microwave to warm a bottle. It can create hot spots though as mentioned here some people just make sure they mix it around. I haven't ever used a microwave and don't intend to. I either use the hot water method you described or use my bottle warmer. I have this bottle warmer: https://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-850T-Bottle-Warmer/dp/B0035LLG2W/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1484580287&sr=8-1&keywords=doc+brown+bottle+warmer It was great at first though now it is a bit temperamental 7 months in. I use distilled water for the warmer. I just pop the bottle in the warmer and then go do a diaper change while the bottle is heating up.

-I still warm the bottles with powdered formula due to my child's preference described above. She will gag if it is not warmed up enough. I also pre-make bottles of formula and keep them in the fridge so that I don't have to waste time making one when it's the middle of the night or LO is hangry. When you switch to powdered formula, you can buy a formula pitcher to do a big batch at a time so that you aren't making each bottle every feeding. https://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-Formula-Mixing-Pitcher/dp/B001I481LM/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1484581617&sr=8-1&keywords=formula+pitcher is awesome.

-I had a few samples of bottles. My favorite are the Philips Avent Natural. If you use this one, pull the nipple all the way up into the ring until it is flush with the top. I had months of leakage until I figured out that I wasn't making the bottle correctly. You will find out which one works best for you & LO.

-I started out with 4 bottles and now have a total of 11. I decided that I didn't want to spend time washing bottles several times a day and now just do it once at night.

-As previously mentioned, your child will maybe want more milk in a few days to a couple of weeks. You will need to watch for hunger cues for your child to know when she is hungry. She will keep seeking out the bottle after it is empty or maybe even try to root at your breast. Mine would cry after the bottle was just given so I knew she needed more than advised. She started to drink 3 ounces after a couple of weeks.

-This wasn't one of your questions but it's my best advice: BURP YOUR LO OFTEN!! Stop after every ounce to burp your baby in the first few weeks, and then later halfway through the feeding until your child is old enough to burp themselves. With the combo of a bottle & formula, your baby may get gassy. Save yourself hours of screaming by trying to burp her as often as possible.

-I used Similac and then switched to the Costco powder brand about a month ago. I'm in Canada and the Costco brand up here is basically Enfamil. In the states, the Costco brand is basically Similac. It's way cheaper and ingredients are almost the same.

-Sign up for the Similac strong moms rewards program if you stick to Similac. You can get coupons for money off of your formula (can be used with the liquid cans) and eventually free formula coupons. I believe Enfamil has a similar program but I never looked into it. I would just receive their coupons in the mail a lot too.
Just like you would with a dog switching to new dog food, you would want to slowly switch over to any new brand to avoid stomach upset.

Feel free to p.m. me any more questions you may have. I also find the Similac website gives pretty good advise on how to formula feed.

Good luck!!

I had similar concerns before my son was born 3.5 months ago. It seemed like everyone had trouble, so I was fully prepared for a miserable experience and was mentally steeling myself to power through for the sake of my baby. And then... it was super easy. No real latch issues. Minimal pain. No supply issues. Used a bottle day 2 and pacifier at week 2 without any nipple confusion. When needed, we used formula here and there without any problems. It's pleasant and sweet for me to nurse him and it's been a wonderful bonding experience! I was lucky, but I also think people with good experiences don't tend to comment online about them as much, so maybe they're underrepresented.

I will say that if it's in the budget, stocking up on some supplies, including just-in-case supplies, was helpful. It's great to have them on hand the second you need them - I'm not sure I would have thought to go out and buy them in the moment otherwise - and also provides some peace of mind before the baby comes knowing that you're prepared.

For me these included:
Earth Mama Angel Baby Nipple Butter - use early and often!
Hydrogel pads - Ameda, Lanisoh and Medela all make them; they are reusable over a 72 hour period or so and they feel AMAZING, especially when refrigerated first (I used and liked the Lanisoh; I snagged a bunch when the price dipped to ~$3). Don't wait till it gets bad to use these!
Lanisoh heating/cooling pads - cooling is soothing and especially nice when you're milk comes in; heat is good for encouraging let down and helping with any clogged ducts
Medella SoftShells - The least essential of the bunch, but a nice-to-have if you want to slather on nipple butter but not stain your nursing bras/tanks or just want to allow some more airflow. Worked great for me but possibly not for everyone's anatomy?

As I'm writing this I remembered many of these recommendations came from this excellent (and now recently updated) Lucie's List article on breastfeeding prep.

You can't predict how this stuff will go but for as much as there is to worry about, there's also a lot to look forward to with nursing. Good luck!

Breast milk (if expressed very cleanly) can be safely kept at room temperature for up to eight hours. Those are the guidelines from the Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine, which the CDC draws on to formulate their own guidelines.

So your wife can pump, and just leave it out until the next time one of you goes to the kitchen. A system like Kiinde (which allows you to pump directly into a storage bag, which can be used to refrigerate or freeze, and then used as a bottle later) can help save time, because you don’t have to worry about cleaning bottles between feeds. You can also buy extra sets of pump flanges so she has enough to get through the night without needing to wash them (for example, if she pumps/feeds four times during the night, and you have four sets of flanges, then you won’t need to wash them all until the morning. Pump, feed, back to bed). You don’t have to pay full price for the pump manufacturer’s brand; you can search Amazon for “Spectra flanges” or “Medela flanges,” and you’ll find lots of inexpensive options. Some women really like the Pumping Pals flanges; other folks like the Maymom ones.

If you can afford it, one of the best new mom hacks is to put a mini fridge (not dorm fridge sized; I’m talking like a foot and a half cubed) on her nightstand. She can have cold water on hand every time she breastfeeds, and any snacks that require refrigeration, and when she pumps she can just toss the milk in the fridge until she’s ready to take it to a freezer (it’s safe to refrigerate for a few days before freezing). They’re about $70-something at Walmart if you’re in the US, or you can find them for a third of that on Fb marketplace or whatever your local equivalent is.

You/your wife may also want to talk to a Lactation Consultant or breastfeeding support group about pumping before feeding. Right now, at five days, you’re in the time frame where you’re establishing her supply. As a general rule, the more she empties her breasts, the more they’re going to produce. So pumping and then feeding is telling them to make more more more, leading to additional engorgement. Meeting with an LC (if possible) or attending a breastfeeding support group would be useful in helping her find the balance between relieving the engorgement and not causing an oversupply.

Having an oversupply sounds harmless, or even desirable, but is actually really frustrating because creating too much milk can cause the baby to get too much of the low-calorie portion that comes out early in a feed (called fore milk), and not get enough of the high-calorie portion that comes out later in a feed (hind milk), causing him/her to be gassy and fussy, and can even make it difficult to continue breastfeeding. Btdt, would not recommend. Balance is good! In the same vein, if she’s pumping before feeding, most of what’s coming out is probably fore milk. Which is great for baby’s growth right now, because he/she will mostly be getting the higher-calorie hind milk. But will mean that if you DO save this pumped milk, and later use it to bottle feed baby, you may want to mix it with some hind milk as well, so baby doesn’t get super gassy or even sick.

Also - congrats on your new little one! You’re in the thick of it right now. It will get easier. You may want to try dividing up labor if you haven’t already (baby gets hungry, your wife picks up baby for a feed, then you do the diaper change and soothe baby to put him/her back down again after the feed. That way each one of you can maximize the amount of sleep you’re getting between feeding cycles, instead of both of you just staying up all the time.

Good luck! It really does get easier. And you can definitely toss the milk if you want to, but you don’t actually need to.

I'm currently nursing my twin daughters - they're 7.5 weeks. During the first couple weeks, I fed them individually... but, I felt like I had no time to do anything but feed them, so I started tandem feeding to cut down the time. At this point, we tandem feed 95% of the time. There are times during the day when I'll feed one of my daughters individually because the other is sleeping... but, if it's close to feeding time, I'll wake them both up to eat. I always tandem feed at night - I find that I get more sleep that way!!

I use the My Brest Friend Twins Plus Deluxe Nursing Pillow and I love it! I found this video really helpful as well... I use a similar approach except I have one twin up against the arm of the couch (so they can't fall off) with one boppy on the other side. I also wedge receiving blankets on either side of them to give them more stability and make it harder for them to roll off - this makes it easier to tandem feed when I'm by myself (since it's a lot easier to have my husband around to hand them to me!).

There are times when my breasts are pretty squishy and I've never felt that my daughters have a hard time breathing... particularly with the double nursing pillow.

The only other advice I have is that it gets easier! The first two weeks were really hard for me... I'm a FTM, so that may have played a role as well. At times I wanted to give up breastfeeding all together, but I am so glad I pushed through! When I was feeling particularly overwhelmed, we supplemented with formula and bottle fed pumped breast milk a few times. At first, it made me feel like a failure, but I believe giving myself a few breaks in the beginning is what helped me be so successful at 2 months in...

If you have any other questions, please ask! And good luck with everything!! :o)

:( That does sound hectic. My registry is kinda all over the place because I've already bought a ton of stuff, but just some suggestions of some things (FTM so no idea really if these are good or not, some were recommendations from friends, some were recommendations from various online resources).

• car seat, extra base if you have more than one car, and stroller
  
• baby carrier - I got the ergobaby 360 with infant insert but the Lillebaby 360 is also super popular.
  
• swaddles - aden & anais seem to be hugely popular.
  
• bathing supplies - washcloths, bathtub
  
• first aid kit supplies - NoseFrida, nail clipper, thermometer
  
• feeding - bottles, sterilizer (some people told me I had to have it, some said it was totally unnecessary), bottle cleaner brush, drying rack (seems like everyone else loves the Boon grass, but I don't have the counter space!) You can get a pump through your insurance if you plan to breastfeed, I ordered mine through Aeroflow. I ultimately chose the Spectra S2 over the Medela PISA because it's a closed system, which apparently means less chances of bacteria getting into the system and thus easier cleaning.
  
• burp clothes - I was told to just get a ton of cloth diapers to use as burp clothes, and to have them everywhere.
  
• diaper pail - I have two friends who say this is good enough, so I went with it. They also said to use doggie poop bags to contain the smelly diapers.
  
• humidifier
  
• Boppy for nursing
  
• Backpack style diaper bag
  
• baby may need a more convenient place to be set down other than the crib, something you can have near you in the kitchen, shower, whatever. Popular options are the rock n play, Boppy lounger, or a pack 'n play. I plan on getting the Chicco FastAsleep pack 'n play because the crib/dresser/changing station is on our 2nd floor, so I figured this could double as a changing station/napper on the first floor.
  
  Lucie's List is probably the best resource I found online.

If you have a Costco, their brand of formula is identical to Similac and it's much, much cheaper. My son has been on it since a month old and has done perfectly well with it.

As for outings, I take bottles with water in them and the diaper bag dispenser of powder formula measured out. I'm sure somebody linked it already, but it is usually a round container with three compartments and a lid that rotates so you can pour out one section at a time. Super handy, I use it often. This is what I have...the single one is nice if I know he'll only need to eat once when I'm out.

Another thing I recommend for home is the Dr. Brown's Formula Mixing Pitcher for mixing up a day's worth at a time. Around a month he should be eating anywhere between 24 and 32 oz, possibly more during a growth spurt. My son was at the top end of that, but he's leveled out to 34 oz a day at 6 months. Anyway, this really helped prevent wasting any formula because you can pour out 2 oz, and if he finishes it, give him 1 or 2 more. It takes a bit of time to figure out how much he wants at once, and sometimes it will vary a lot because he's still little, but overall he'll get pretty regular for a bit before he starts needing more at once.

Also, feel free to come join us over at /r/FormulaFeeders. It isn't the busiest sub, but we're a helpful bunch of you have any other specific questions! :) Congrats on your little one!

Its definitely tough and a lot of work. I will say based on your summary, it seems like you are doing everything to the best of your ability, which is the most important thing. I just passed the two month mark, so I will tell you now, it only gets slightly better. Supposedly at 3 months, it can start to get a lot better in regards to having a pattern and more control over the schedule. But, as a 2 month vet, here is how I'm managing this to the best of my ability:

You wife definitely does need support. Depending on how well you can sleep, instead of STAYING awake with her, get up, get the baby, help her set up for a feed, then go back to sleep.

I don't know about yours, but my baby needs to feed for anywhere from 30 minutes to a full hour. an hour of sleep 3-5 times a night can make a big difference with your ability to handle it long term.

Also, buy your wife this pump. Its WAY better than the free one we got with insurance, it pulls out way more milk, and it's easier on her breasts. As an exclusively breastfed baby, this will allow her to pump, make a bottle, then SHE can go back to sleep and you can take 1 or 2 feedings every once in a while.

You love your child. you are trying, and you are asking for advice. You are already doing EVERYTHING right. Hang in there, it'll get better.

P.S. Once you get your first regular baby smile, it'll allllllllll be worth it

• Diapers Sensitive skin runs in our family and the regular brands made her break out something awful but cloth, babyganics and [up & ups] (http://www.target.com/p/diapers-bulk-plus-pack-select-size-up/-/A-15121671 ) worked great. Pull Ups for older ones.
  
  
• Potty Training We have [This one] (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01C431NRE/ref=twister_B01E930B16?_encoding=UTF8&th=1) and [This one] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00F667QS2/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&th=1)
  
  
• High Chair like this
  
  
• [Stroller] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00H8MQBFQ/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&th=1) its well padded and is comfy for even the older kids.
  
  
• Carrier We have [This one] (https://www.amazon.com/Carrying-Positions-Carrier-Detachable-Included/dp/B01IUS08FK/ref=sr_1_4_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1478452855&sr=8-4&keywords=mei+tai) and a ring sling that I still use but I wish we had bought one like [This] (https://www.amazon.com/Infantino-Cuddle-Ergonomic-Hoodie-Carrier/dp/B01B45KW0C/ref=sr_1_6_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1478453079&sr=1-6&keywords=carrier) It would be easier to put on.
  
  
• [Nursing pillows] (https://www.amazon.com/Boppy-Nursing-Pillow-Positioner-Peaceful/dp/B00HMGBJCS/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1478458541&sr=1-4&keywords=nursing+pillow) my husband used it all the time and this is her favorite spot to cuddle up still
  
  
• Pack n Play
  
  
  
• Bouncer chair I believe ours was the previous model.
  
  
• [Swing] (https://www.amazon.com/4moms-rockaRoo-Baby-Swing-Classic/dp/B00I0BVQFO/ref=sr_1_27_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1478452147&sr=1-27&keywords=swing&th=1) We have one similar to it the other ones tend to be a pain to move around.
  
  
• Some sort of walker This or [This] (https://www.amazon.com/Bright-Starts-Around-Activity-Zippity/dp/B00OC8B1IQ/ref=sr_1_6?s=toys-and-games&ie=UTF8&qid=1478454444&sr=1-6&keywords=activity+jumper) or [This] (https://www.amazon.com/Evenflo-ExerSaucer-Learn-Jumper-Jungle/dp/B006PB2H4A/ref=sr_1_7?s=toys-and-games&ie=UTF8&qid=1478454444&sr=1-7&keywords=activity%2Bjumper&th=1)
  
  
• Some sort of activity toys like This, This,
  
  Comfy rocking chair
  
  When it comes to cribs, pack n plays, rock n plays, bouncers and swings its upto the childs taste. Out of my nieces and nephews 1 always napped in a rock n play, 1 in the swing, 1 would sleeps anywhere, 1 would sleep on mommy or a boppy, 1 in the crib and my daughter would only sleep in the carrier or being held. She never used the rock n play, crib or pack n play but loved the bouncer and occasionally accepted sitting in the boppy or swing. They are all so different. With our little girl her reflux was so bad that if she was laid flat she would immediately throw up.
  
  
  (I will edit to add more when I get a minute)

Hi! I’m back!!
Although I thoroughly intend to write my birth story when I’m ready, I just finished my first piece since the baby arrived so in celebration, I’ll pair it with something useful.

I really appreciated posts like this while I was pregnant so here goes:

Things I didn’t know I needed:
(AKA things I have frantically ordered on amazon at or around 2am)

•Bottle Drying Rack This probably seems obvious, but when we didn’t get this from our showers we were like... idk why we can’t just use a towel??

•Safe way to cosleep My husband built a BEAUTIFUL Sidecar Crib, but it was attached on my side of the bed and it took 2.5 weeks for me to have healed enough to climb in bed around it safely with the baby. This way, I didn’t have to bend over to pick up baby or even spit up to check on/soothe him.

•Lactation Suppliment My lactation consultant approved. This one worked well in my breakfast tea.

•Better flanges My poor nipples were so sore and the flames that come with the Medela... well I’m not sure who they’re supposed to fit but not me. My doula practically ordered these for me. GAME CHANGER.

•Pumping bra I was cutting holes in sports bras. This is better.

•Nipple Shells Another kind reddittor sent me in the direction of this AMAZING INVENTION after I posted a photo of ice packs tied to my nipples with a burp cloth because I refused to wear a shirt my nipples hurt so bad. I will be purchasing these for EVERY PREGNANT WOMAN FOREVER. They keep your nipples dry, collect drips, apply counter pressure to keep your nipples shaped correctly for latching, and most importantly omg nothing touches the precious nips and you can wear a shirt!!

•Car mirror

Me: that seems extra, he’s in a car seat and safe why would I need a mirror??

Hormones; HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAH YOU FOOL

•Car adapter for my breast pump Cheaper than batteries

•Shade for his side of the car because anything that wakes up my sleeping baby is the devil. This one has a bonus that allowed me to roll the window down and it was HOT in the south

•Better suction for the breast pump Again- just better than whatever they send you

•My Breast Friend we got the boppy but this one saved my back

•Heating pad Turns out I’ll do ANYTHING to keep the baby asleep when I transfer him to his crib including preheat the darn thing (on low!) before I lay home down

•Stroller Caddy You’ll want somewhere to put your keys, phone, and coffee

•Baby K’tan An easier way for my husband to wear the baby.

•Leggings I had a pair of these before, and they are SO COMFORTABLE on my postpartum body that I bought 5 more in different colors!

•Extra pump parts for whichever pump you have

•A hands-up swaddle I found at Target

•Wine.

Anyway, hope this helps! Best of luck to all of you!

You should check with the airline, but if your kid is under 2 and has his own seat, I'm pretty sure he must be in an FAA approved car seat or a CARES vest. I prefer the car seat, because my kid is a squirmer. But YMMV.

As for lugging the car seat around the airport, you will have to do that yourself. No one will bring it to the gate for you. But you can invest in one of these, which is basically a luggage trolly for your car seat. We used it with our monkey on our last trip, and it worked great. If it were me, I'd put my little in a carrier and tote the big one around with the car seat carrier. Check the double stroller and infant car seat as baggage (it's free). Much easier way to move around the airport.

As for layovers, I avoid them at all costs. More chances for ear aches going up and coming down. More chances for delays every time you take off and land. Usually more than doubles travel time. Just not ever worth it in my book.

Hope that helps. Good luck on your trip!

Now this is a conversation I can get in on.

Let's begin with my stainless steel measuring cups. I bake a lot so these are so useful. The 1/8 cup comes in so much more use than I ever imagined it would. And they're just so much nicer than plastic ones. I want to get a set of stainless steel measuring spoons but haven't yet.

Next, I would probably say my French Press. Coffee is important, and my French Press makes some delicious coffee.

I absolutely love this skillet. Works like magic.

I also recommend this 3 tier cooling rack to everyone. It's so useful and stores so well.

In the fall/winter I use my crock pot a whole lot. I also find having large mason jars to be useful for storing food, though I also have this tupperware.

Finally, my KitchenAid stand mixer. Self explanatory. It's fucking awesome. I just want to spend every waking moment putting it to good use and baking everything under the sun.

Let's do it in the kitchen.

This list is awesome! I was not nearly that organized for my registry! Just a few comments from the other side (my baby is 3 months currently).


Baby nails are sharp and scary, some friends bought us this Electric Nail File and it is absolutely amazing, not painful for baby at all and much more efficient than the little files.

This butt spatula thing has been great for when we apply diaper cream! Saves us from getting it on our hands.

For me personally, I found the Boppy rather ineffective for nursing at first while we were trying to figure out nursing. Baby would kind of slide down between the Boppy and my stomach. Now at 3 months old, the Boppy is super useful for propping baby and sometimes as a nursing pillow if I decide to use one. My first few weeks of nursing I'd use the Brest Friend Nursing Pillow it was great when Baby really needed a little extra support for getting into the best position for nursing.

Breastfeeding was very painful for me the first few weeks. Our LO ended up having a bad latch due to tongue and lip ties we had to get lasered (anterior tongue tie had been clipped by Pediatrician in the hospital, she still had a posterior tie that was diagnosed later by a lactation consultant - just something to keep in mind), by the time we had the procedure done the damage was done to my nipples. These nipple shields are one of the things that really helped my nipples heal in between feedings to keep my bra/clothes off of them. I hope you don't have to use them, but something you may want to make a note of in case you have a similar experience. If you do end up having nipple pain, ask your OB (or Google how to make it yourself) for a script for "Newman's Nipple Cream", that stuff helped save our breastfeeding relationship!


Good luck, looks like you're off to a great start!

Dr Browns all the way for us. I've tried Avent, Born Tree, Playtex,..you name it, I've tried it and I find Dr. Browns are the best. They also make a bottle warmer which isn't essential, but it does save time.

Here is the Dr. Browns feeding set I got from my registry and it's great - has everything you need:

http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-Polypropylene-Natural-Newborn/dp/B001IXYOD2/ref=pd_sim_ba_1

Here's the bottle warmer:
http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-850T-Bottle-Warmer/dp/B0035LLG2W/ref=sr_1_1?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1335786939&sr=1-1

Good luck! :)

I'm the father of my first 1.5 month old. We have several products that no one should live without.

MVP:

http://m.target.com/p/fisher-price-newborn-auto-rock-n-play-sleeper/-/A-16386093?lnk=rec|mwebpdph2|viewed_bought|mwebpdph2|16386093|1

Close second:


http://m.target.com/p/halo-sleepsack-100-cotton-swaddle-navy-pin-dot-small/-/A-14258213

Third:

http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-850T-Bottle-Warmer/dp/B0035LLG2W


Last and most certainly not least:

White Noise Free: sounds for sleep and relaxation by TMSOFT
https://appsto.re/us/nlQDr.i

There is also a Google play version of this app.

We have "heavy rain pouring" playing on my old nexus 7 about 75% of the day. It is the most amazing thing I've ever seen. It instantly calms her down.



I would love to help more. I can give you my Amazon baby registry if you'd like. I can tell you what you should and shouldn't buy off of it. Let me know if I can help.

My first piece of advice is to seek out help NOW before the baby comes, because it's much harder in the blurry newborn days to have the energy and strength to do so. Find your local La Leche League or other breastfeeding group, contact them, let them know your situation and see if you can get a phone number or two for the leaders so you can call. Also see if your hospital has IBCLCs (professional certified lactation experts) that will be available to you and let every member of the nursing staff know that you want to see them as soon as possible after your baby is born. You may have no problems at all. But if you do you'll be prepared to get help.

There's a little device you can buy that is like a little suction bulb, that you put on your flat nipple to draw it out right before you latch the baby on. Here it is: latch assist nipple everter. I used it, it helped. A pump would do the same thing, it's just much bigger and more cumbersome and expensive.

My first was in the special care nursery so like a low-level NICU. Did you know that the woman on the cover of that infamous Time magazine issue "Are you mom enough?" breastfeeding her 3-year-old was a NICU mom? It's definitely an additional hurdle like you say but you have got this and you're going to do great! Good luck!

Congrats on the baby! I’m 3 months out. Here’s what worked for me. Please know that every woman and baby is different though!

For the first 3-4 weeks my baby ate only from the breast. This was to ensure that my body knew to make enough milk. Yes, it meant me waking up sometimes every 30 min - 1 hour for cluster feeds. Yes, it was so fucking tough on my nipples. (If her nipples hurt, I highly recommend these gel pads.). I almost quit multiple times. But as some others have posted, it’s really important in those early weeks to have baby on breast each time baby wants to eat so that your wife’s body knows to make enough milk. My husband helped by bringing the baby to me, handling diaper changes, and making sure that I was eating and drinking enough (this is important!! Her body needs the proper fuel to make milk.). We also had support from his mom who would hold the baby while we got in a nap for an hour or two. Once baby got back up to his birth weight and I felt like we were doing well with breastfeeding (around 3-4 weeks), I pumped about an hour after a feed in the early morning, which is when milk production is at the highest. Just make sure to leave around an hour between pump session and next feed. Then, the next night my husband fed the baby with this milk and I got up and pumped. It sucks, but it’s important for supply issues. Not pumping when baby is fed can lead to decreased supply and also potentially clogged ducts and mastitis from being too full of milk.

With regards to introducing a bottle, we started at 3-4 weeks. Not too early so as to avoid nipple confusion and bottle preference and not too late to avoid bottle refusal. We started with Dr. Brown’s level 1 nipple, but he was leaking milk out of his mouth and got a bit fussy at the breast, so we switched to preemie nipples to reduce the milk flow rate. Here’s a helpful chart on nipple flow rate.. It all depends on the flow rate from your wife too - if she has a strong letdown, slow letdown, etc. Hope the best for you guys!

Looks great.... I have 16 mo old twins. The beginning is really rough, but there's some amazing payoff as they get older.

A few suggestions:

• We had our girls crib together for the first 3 months or so. We kept one crib in our room and one in the nursery. During the day they would sleep in the nursery; at night they would sleep in our room so we could get to them faster and easier in the middle of the night.
  
  

• Glad to see you have Boudreaux -- when you need that stuff, you REALLY need it.
  
• You may want to get rid of that baby powder. They do not recommend using it anymore because all the dust it throws in the air can be bad for the babies' lungs.
  
• You may want to replace the basket next to the glider with a table so mom can have a drink or some food. Also good place to put the pump (if she decides to pump).
  
• My wife chose to feed in the living room, so we quickly moved the glider there. It gets lonely pretty quickly to sit there and feed all day without people or TV to keep you company.
  
  
  Also, you may want to get one of these nursing pillows: http://www.amazon.com/My-Brest-Friend-Deluxe-Nursing/dp/B0032Z81M4/ref=sr_1_4?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1426256362&sr=1-4
  
  Good luck!!!

We offered it cold from the fridge, or room temp. Made night feedings a bit easier.

Things that worked for us (2 kids, both formula-fed after 3 months each due to PPD):

mix a batch of formula for overnight, if you're using powdered. Protein shake mixer cups work wonderfully for that.

Don't warm bottles past room temp - makes it easier if you are out and can't warm a bottle.

Powdered and liquid ready-to-feed formula apparently do not taste the same to baby. My son will not drink RTF formula, only powdered.

for on-the-go with powdered formula, you can use small containers for formula like this one.

Coupons - most manufacturers have some sort of coupon program. Enfamil and Similac bith regularly send out $5 off coupons.

watch for deals - Babies R Us and Target often have good ones.

Dr Brown's wipes - if you are out and about, use 'em to clean a bottle instead of carrying 87 bajillion bottles or trying to do dishes.

Get the least complicated and most readily available bottles your baby will accept. Least complicated means fewer parts to wash, readily available means replaceable if one is lost/broken/whatever.


Good luck, mama!

• I bring all the items I need to actually pump (tubes, flanges, etc.) of course, then I used to bring the attachable bottles but I found these bags save a lot of time, and now I don't need to bring the bottles. I pump straight in the bag and give it to daycare at the end of the day. I also bring the little bag that came with the Medela Pump In Style. It's black and small and can conceal the milk and pump parts as I walk around the office putting them away, etc.
  
  
• I have the PIS so the bag is built in. I super super love it.
  
  
• The first couple weeks I would wash everything in between and it was a pain in the ass. I then just did the zip loc bag trick. Cut down on a lot of time. I found a little plastic zip-able folder here at work (the kind you can snap into a binder and keep pencils in). I used two of those, one for each boob accessory. I didn't really wash them in between, which might be gross but oh well.
  
  
• At first I pumped three times a day, then when I got busier at work, twice a day around 10:00 and 2:00. I stopped nursing (just pumped) for a week while on antibiotics, then got my period, then kid got sick and now is highly distractable and more interested in food...so my supply has taken a big hit. The past couple of days I have been able to make it BFing her in the a.m. and then after I pick her up from daycare and she gets formula and solids the rest of the time. I believe if I were more diligent and kept pumping, it would be fine, but she is happy, I am happy and we made it six months EBF so I'm pretty proud of that.

This is a newer version of mine and I freaking love it! She eats all her meals in it like a regular high chair and then for supper we eat at the table and set her in the booster. It's also perfect when I have friends over with smaller babies because then they can sit in just the high chair part (strapped to a chair) and she just sits in her booster. It's also excellent to travel with. We take just the high chair seat part when we go out of town.
I used the cushion for maybe a month before I got sick of washing it. She just sits in it bare and I wipe it out to clean.
I'm super happy with ours!


Ingenuity Trio 3-in-1 Ridgedale High Chair, Grey https://www.amazon.com/dp/B019D3SVQO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_AgEczbY91HV3G

Freezer meals are great! I'm single and I love having a lunch I can just grab out of the freezer and go, and when I'm tired and don't want to cook, I have a ready-made dinner. I usually make a big pot of something on the weekend, chili, beans & rice, or stew. I didn't get around to it last weekend and yesterday I got off work late and I was wishing I'd made some stew. Got Taco Bell instead. I'm going to the store today to get stew ingredients!

Containers like these are great for freezer meals.

Once you get the hang of it and find some go-to recipes you like, cooking with a slow cooker is easy. You pretty much dump in the ingredients and leave it on all day. Onions are good in most things. I dice them up and put them in a ziploc bag in the freezer, then I can throw in a handful in whatever I'm cooking. A jar of crushed garlic is handy too (in the fridge).

No I mean if somebody else gave her a bottle I pumped at the same time (or soon after).

For building a stash, I would feed her (both sides) and double pump immediately after (while she napped usually). Every little bit helps when you're trying to get a day or two worth before going back to work. I think I had about a week's worth actually. The morning is the best time to pump after she eats because your milk supply is highest in the morning. I never had any luck pumping on one side while she ate on the other (not coordinated, plus she was and continues to be a huge baby so there wasn't room for it!)

Order a hands-free bra now. I know there are hacks involving sports bras, etc. but I didn't feel like it was such a huge investment considering I used it multiple times a day at work. That way you can do something relaxing while you pump (like browse reddit!)

Also since you asked earlier about storage, I used these:

http://www.amazon.com/Kiinde-TS-N-001-NA-Breastfeeding-Starter-Kit/dp/B00CXSPL24

I pumped into the same bag which I stored the milk (and would freeze it in as well) and then the same bag could be used with the bottle. Eventually those bottles stopped working for us (just how she was with bottles, every baby has their own preferences) but being able to pump directly into the bag I stored it in saved me some steps. I liked it.

Freshology Menu:

Muesli Granola with Non-Fat Vanilla Yogurt, Canadian Bacon & Fresh Fruit

Cost from grocery store:
Granola: $5
Yogurt, non-fat, greek style (pint or more): $4
Fresh seasonal fruit: $2-3
Canadian Bacon: $3-4

total out of pocket cost: $14 for a week's worth of food
Servings (approx): at least 4
Cost per serving: $3.50
Freshology cost per serving: $15-20

Spinach and Baby Mozzarella Salad with Marinated Cherry Tomatoes
Bag of spinach, approx 4 cups: $3
Mozzarella cheese: $5
Cherry Tomatoes: $3-4 for a pint
Balsamic Vinagrette dressing: $4 for a bottle

total out of pocket cost: $15 for a week's worth of food
Servings (approx): at least 4
Cost per serving: $4.00
Freshology cost per serving: $15-20


Wild Caught Barramundi w/Roasted Celery Root Puree & Wild Mushrooms
Barramundi or fresh fish: $5-6 per pound
Celery root or potatoes: $3
Mushrooms, pint: $3

total out of pocket cost: $12 for a week's worth of food
Servings (approx): at least 4
Cost per serving: $3-3.50
Freshology cost per serving: $15-20

Tiramisu Cup
Sub your favorite fruit w/a reduced calorie pudding
Fresh fruit: already purchased from breakfast
Pudding cups or homemade pudding: $5 for basic ingredients

You can buy all these groceries to last you an entire week for a measly $46 - let's just round it up to $50. This is the exact same food you would be eating from Freshology for one day.

Buy some tupperware containers (like these here: http://www.amazon.com/Rubbermaid-50-Piece-Easy-Find-Storage/dp/B002RSO2PW/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1325047820&sr=8-1 ) and pack your lunches in them. You can get this reusable set for less than the cost of one day of Freshology's food.

Are you convinced it's a ripoff yet?

We have the [Ingenuity Trio 3-in-1 high chair](Ingenuity Trio 3-in-1 Ridgedale High Chair, Grey https://www.amazon.com/dp/B019D3SVQO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_zAdeAbNXFQMPX.) and we're a big fan of it. Funny thing, we got it for much cheaper in Wal-Mart (even from what it says online). We have enough space so not concerned about having one that folds up. We love the wheels to move her around. Since we're also having kids close together we're not concerned for storage. It also makes things easier getting multiple uses out of it with more than one kid at the same time. Once we're done we'll just give it away or sell it. Has a top tray that pops off and a bottom tray. Both can go in the dishwasher and the seat cover is easy to remove and put back on.

I use these to freeze milk. I've heard of people reusing them, but I don't since I only use about 4-5 a week.

We typically send 10ozs/day to daycare for my 10 month old, which usually gets eaten if we are lucky. 5 of it is stuff from the day before that I pump and 5 is from my freezer stash. When I pump each day, 5 goes to the fridge and 5 goes to the freezer. This way, my baby gets some fresh and some frozen while at daycare.

Good luck!

If I decide to pump exclusively after maternity leave, I am going to go with the Spectra. Specifically the Spectra S2 if they're still available (the first and third gens haven't had as many great reviews as the second).

Personally, I am going to breast feed and manually pump during my 6 week leave. I bought these breastflow bottles that I'm hoping will allow hubby to feed baby during the night with my pumped milk and not inhibit baby's taking to the nipple. I'm still contemplating how long I am going to breast feed. I believe I am going to try a combo approach closer to the end of leave and slowly wean baby off of the breast as he will have to be transitioned into day care.

Spectra has some excellent reviews, though, so I would really look into their products if they're covered by Aeroflow. There are two STMs that I work with who tried both Medela and Spectra and opted for the Spectra pumps. The biggest thing for me was the reviews about how quiet they are as I don't want to be announcing to my whole office that I'm pumping, you know?

Honestly, road trips when bubs was under 1 year were so much easier than they are now at 1.5. He gets bored much more easily now, and needs much more movement. If your kid is active, I agree with the other posters that it really helps to stop every couple hours at a rest stop and let him run around in the grass and fresh air for a few minutes.

As for the formula, could you just fill some bottles with water, then use a formula dispenser when it's time for a bottle? Something like this: https://smile.amazon.com/Munchkin-Formula-Dispenser-Combo-Colors/dp/B000RFCXIK/.

Good luck!

In my opinion: bring the car seat!
Pros:
-Buy a car seat trolley. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B005CNEQK0/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_a_it?qid=1463885954&sr=8-1&keywords=carseat+trolley&pi=SY200_QL40 (sorry for formatting on mobile). It basically turns the carseat into a stroller.
It will keep them in their own space and you can relax. We were arriving from out of the country so we had to go through customs and the whole 9 yards and it kept her happy for 99% of try time.

-Your baby will be comfortable. Bring their normal car toys/snacks or whatever. It'll be no different than being in the backseat of the car.


Cons:
-It is big. It'll give them the ability to actually kick the seat in front of them. But personally I'd rather feel little feet tapping my back than potential screaming

-It adds time to boarding and disembarking. Takes approximately 3-5 minutes of having to unstrap it from the trolley and hook it into the seat. But sit at the back of the plane if you can (southwest should be relatively empty at the back) so you're not holding people up.

I know we took our daughter on a 2 hour flight last year (when she was about 14 months) and it was a looooong 2 hours with climbing all over us and fussing. We took her this year on the same flight with a car seat and it was like she wasn't even there for most of it...she slept for at least a solid hour.
I literally just got back today from the aforementioned flight, and I promise it was a breeze compared to no car seat. Worst case scenario is you have to check the car seat from the plane (it's not a big deal to do it that way I've done it with strollers before).

I just flew JetBlue so I'm not sure about Southwest, but if you get there early and board as soon as you can I'm sure you can get decent seats for your situation.

Good luck!

This one. i like that it's a closed double pump and actually it's one of the highest rated on Amazon. It doesnt come with a carrying bag but that doesn't matter to me. If Tricare will only cover a few select ones though, like other insurers, I'd pick whichever one is free. :)

It is so hard at the beginning! My first never latched well and we ended up exclusively pumping and eventually switching to formula at 10 weeks. We had to do what we could to save our sanity.

My second ended up having a tongue and lip tie. It was so painful that first week before they were discovered! As soon as we got them both revised, things got easier. She was still constantly eating the first month, but I was able to keep my soreness to a minimum with lanolin and Medela soft shells for sore nipples. I highly recommend those soft shells! Also Ameda hydrogels provided great relief the first week when we were battling the tongue and lip tie. They last for several days.

Here's links to both but they also sell them at like Babies R Us type stores if you want to run out and get some immediately:

Ameda ComfortGel Hydrogel Pads https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003IP2L38/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_Am1LybZ3NTJGR

Medela SoftShells for Sore Nipples https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00LSP1PE6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_Gn1Lyb42HY72B

They keep well. I have one of these bad boys that I cook and store them in. Thinking about buying a second one because my husband has started sneaking mine. It fits comfortably in an 8 at but for the 6qt you'll have to trim the corners.

BabyBliss Eco Friendly Silicone Baby Food Freezer Storage Tray | 9 Large Cups (2.5 Oz) | Clip-On Silicone Lid | Toxin and BPA Free & FDA Approved | Ov https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M188L3L/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_J5XdHuFBZHppi

Yeah, it was a pain in the butt trying to wean him from it, but we did it in one day. He was like 3 months old by then. Hopefully you can find a way that works better. We also used the breast flow bottles which seemed to help correct his latch. http://www.amazon.com/The-First-Years-Breastflow-Bottle/dp/tags-on-product/B001R1SOSG

My Brest Friend for twins - my friends with twins love these. http://www.amazon.com/My-Brest-Friend-Deluxe-Nursing/dp/B0032Z81M4

They also like the Snap n Go double stroller frame. Fits 2 of almost any car seat.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B008U4MKU6/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?qid=1418814066&sr=8-3&pi=AC_SY200_QL40

Also I second the swing(s). It's a life saver!
Check with r/beyondthebump for current twin momma advice.

We went through SO MANY cups! I finally found this one and it works like a charm (kid is almost 3 and still uses them). We just take the straw on the inside out, because he can't grasp the concept that you DON'T tilt the cup to your face.

I agree with the OP of this comment, too. Your kid is just doing normal 11 month old stuff. Early intervention isn't going to be much help when he's pretty much done with bottles!

The Spectra is so much better. Spectra Baby USA Double/Single Breast Pump with Rechargeable Battery, 3.3 Pound

The S2 is cheaper because it doesn't have the built in battery, but it's great to be able to brush your hair and then go pack lunches all while pumping. You can also easily rig Medela parts to it if you want. They do make nice flanges and are more readily available.

Get yourself some hydrogel breast discs. Continue to apply lanolin like there is no tomorrow but also the breast discs on top. They really speed up healing and feel AMAZING (particularly if you put them in the fridge first). Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Ameda-17261M-ComfortGel-Hydrogel-Pads/dp/B003IP2L38/ref=sr_1_5_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1511837404&sr=8-5&keywords=hydrogel

Yeah, those are great. I have two styles of baby food molds. I use the rounded 7-compartment mold in my 6qt IP:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00MYE40CO

I use the square 9-compartment mold in my 8qt IP:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01M188L3L

I'm very fortunate to have both IP sizes, which cuts down meal prep time because I can run two batches at once & get 16 egg bites ready to freeze in one shot, and it's easy enough to just throw more eggs & whatnot in the blender. I'd imagine you could probably stack them with a double trivet to double up in each pot as well...hmm, might have to try that at some point.

Twins are 2 months old! Also, that is what my bottle prep looks like.

I am pumping, and supplementing my breast milk to boost the calorie content still. I use the Dr. Browns's formula mixer pitcher to prep the milk for the day, and then sterilize and fill bottles so they just have to be warmed up.

Also if you are pumping make sure to change out your valves if you notice a drop in output. You can use the duckbill with most pumps, and they are easy to clean. I just don't get why something for 2 boobs comes in a 5 pack.

wow those clip right to the pumping funnel? Thats awesome. Once I run out of my lanisho bags I'm going to switch. Thats two less bottles I have to wash/steam after every use! Thanks *edit: after reading reviews I'll just stick with the lansinoh ones and keeping washing bottles.

I really hope it helps. I used [these] (http://www.amazon.com/Philips-AVENT-Thermal-Pads-2-Pack/dp/B00643FRUA) too. Not this specific brand but the same kind of thing. It helped a lot. The pain did get better around month 3. Hope it helps and doesn't get too bad.

I know alot of people here are all about the cute bento boxes, but I have these and they work well for me. I generally only portion out a couple days at a time and refill from the bigger containers.

Also if you are adept at portion control and like gelato/sorbetto, I've found empty talenti containers are about perfect for holding ~200-300g fruit.

I bought like 10 different kinds of cups. Lots of people say the straw cups are the easiest but I could not get him to drink out of any cup other than a open cup.

What finally ended up working as a "sports top"

http://www.target.com/p/multicolored-tear-drop-bottles-2-pk-colors-may-vary/-/A-13788730

Which help him figure out this camelbak kids water bottle

CamelBak Kid's Eddy Water Bottle, Dino Party, .4-Liter https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00NXX0N76/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_QPysybZADAHRV

Now he also can use

Nuby 2-Pack No-Spill Cup with Flex Straw, 10 Ounce, Colors May Vary https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003N49ML8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_hRysyb1E4YSRQ


Now that I look it seems like a logical transition. He couldn't figure out how to suck and once he figured that out he's been able to apply it to the other cups.

This took from 6 months to 15 months to find what works.

We got this one and love it. It reclines and the cover is easy to clean (wipe down or throw it in the wash and air dry).

Ingenuity Trio 3-in-1 High Chair – Ridgedale - High Chair, Toddler Chair, and Booster https://www.amazon.com/dp/B019D3SVQO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_CMzWBb8MSV9DJ

Breast milk and letting them get lots of air! When you can't just hang out topless, just a tiny bit of coconut oil feels really great. Also these things. You can put them in the fridge and they feel SO good. But don't use them with milk or oil, just a little bit of water if you don't want to use them dry since they can be kind of sticky.

I use Muji tubs and pump bottles. If you're in an area that has one I'd definitely check it out. Not sure how the shipping is, or if it's worth it but something to consider.
Someone posted this once which seemed like a good idea for things that go in tubs since it's meant for powdered supplements and snacks so I doubt it leaks.

Yeah that Meal Prep Haven one looks cluuuutcccchhh.

Sorry it took me so long to get back to you.

This is what I use. Ya know, typical usage. Wash them at the end of the day when I'm done and when I heat up food I zap it for 1 minute.

This is my lunch bag that I use everyday. I bring it to work everyday. I use it as my quasi wallet/junk bag too. Wallet, smokes, iPod, vape, and random other assorted junks I use through out the day. It's got 3 "shelves" for tupperware containers, side pockets for junk or thermos or mixer bottle, within the main compartment you can fit a freezer pack, and finally it's all insulated. I swear by this thing.

I just found this on Amazon. Looks interesting. Figure it's better then baggies of brown "cocaine" in my lunch bag.

A few things to think about --

Although there generally isn't harm to suckling on a pregnant woman's breasts, if your wife is at all going to have a high risk pregnancy, you may want to avoid suckling while she's pregnant as there is a chance that the oxytocin released into her body could cause her cervix to soften before it's supposed to. La Leche League suggests that women in high-risk pregnancies wean any existing children. For the rest of us, it's more than likely safe.

Obviously, no breast feeding for the first few days/weeks after childbirth, as the colostrum your wife will produce needs to be saved for the child.

In general, once the child is born, you can drink your fill after the baby is full.

While your wife is pregnant, practice your latch.

Here's a really helpful sticky post from Fetlife on adult latching and other topics.

1. The First Years Breastflow bottle is helpful for adults hoping to practice the vacuum/suction motion required for a proper latch. It's difficult to "trick" this particular bottle into releasing fluid without having a rhythmic latch. Drinking 3 - 5 ounces of fluids in the Breastflow each day should help in building tolerance and tone for suckling. Most adults will find this a bit tiresome and frustrating at first.
   
   https://www.amazon.com/First-Years-Breastflow-Bottle-Ounce/dp/B001R1SOSG?ie=UTF8&*Version*=1&*entries*=0
   
   
2. When initially beginning to latch-on to the breast, the suckler should gradually build their tolerance, as tired muscles do not maintain a solid latch. When the adult suckler's mouth and jaw become fatigued, they typically adopt a "lazy latch", meaning without realizing it, they begin to lightly use their teeth for a bit of natural leverage. No one wants to develop poor habits, so start with short periods of suckling.
   
   
3. The instructional latching videos created for mothers of nursing infants are still helpful for participants in ANRs. Adult sucklers need to ensure their upper lip strikes the breast just above the nipple, with the majority of their mouth falling below the areola. The action of coaxing the milk from beneath the areola, versus trying to "suck it from the nipple", is also consistent in all nursing relationships.
   However, since an adult mouth is much larger than that of an infant's, an adult suckler will not be able to duplicate the nipple placement explained in traditional latching videos. A baby's mouth is so compact that the hard and soft palates consume the majority of its structure. So, the adult nipple obviously reaches a great distance into the infant's mouth or well into the soft palate.
   
   The adult mouth has a much larger surface area, and the size of the hard and soft palates vary greatly, making nipple placement a much more variable factor. Since there is no scientific data regarding adult suckling, the exact nipple placement in an ANR is always going to rely on trial and error. EARLY communication is key. Discomfort should be immediately discussed and patiently problem solved. Remember, once poor habits develop, it's more difficult for the adult suckler to learn new strategies than it is to develop successful ones early on.
   
   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zln0LTkejIs
   
   
4. Pay close attention to body placement when problem solving latch difficulties. When working on latch problems, try to be side-by-side. Take time to make sure you're comfortable. The suckler is frequently too high on the nurser's body, so if there's continued latch discomfort, the suckler should move down towards the nursing partner's feet until the partner expresses greater latching comfort. It may surprise the couple how low the suckler is eventually placed before the latch feels right. Also, the suckler may have to switch sides before nursing the second breast. Sometimes a latch is not comfortable nursing both breasts from the same side; its just an inconvenient truth. In addition, EITHER the upper OR the lower breast may feel more comfortable being nursed on one side or the other; this too varies. Try to be flexible and start without preconceived notions until the latch feels free from discomfort.
   
   
5. Latching can feel uncomfortable during the Newman-Goldfarb protocol and during certain phases of the menstrual cycle. Higher levels of estrogen can cause nipple sensitivity for many women, which complicates the process of achieving a comfortable latch. If a normally painless latch feels uncomfortable, consider current estrogen levels as a potential cause.
   
   
6. Lower milk levels can contribute to a much less comfortable latch. The early stages of establishing a milk supply are generally some of the most difficult phases of latching. However, the more the glands and ducts develop, the more successful latching becomes, and the less discomfort suction causes. Hang in there! Use breast gel packs whenever possible to relieve discomfort and don't let those nipples crack. This is the time to lather on the nipple cream.

6 months in: we got a ton of crap. Here's what we actually used:


Baby car seat and base: Make sure the one you get is a rear facing one. Find a model/make that has the detachable base and fits into a stroller. example: graco If you have two cars, get two bases. It will save you from having to install the seat each time you need it. Just install the base once and you are done. If you are unsure of the install, check with your local police or fire department, they might have someone that is "certified" to install them. If you do find a deal on used ones, check the expiration date. They are required to have one. AND NEVER USE ONE THATS BEEN IN AN ACCIDENT.


Furniture:

Crib, sheets, mattress pad covers(3-4) bouncy chair, Boppy pillow, nursing pillow(if mom is nursing)


Diaper bag with changing station: Is a diaper bag that can unfold to a portable changing station anywhere. example <- dont get this one too expensive. Shop around.



Consumables

Diapers; if you plan on using disposables. Avoid getting newborns as they're usually only good for a week or two at the most. Stock up on 1,2,3 sizes. Wait for the sales and coupons at the local stores then buy, buy buy. You can never have too many. If you switch sizes, you can either save them for the next or donate them. No shelter will turn away free diapers. When you think you have enough, buy two more cases.

Same with wipes. Generally the wipes and diapers go on sale at the same time. Buy buy buy. You can never have too many. Keep an eye on coupons. we were able to get boxes for 2$ each with a combo sale/coupon.

Diaper Geni: Trust me. Get one. FYI, you can get generic refills online for 1/2 price.(amazon)

Spit up rags, there are as many out there as you can think of. Wanna save money? kitchen towels. Cheap, buy in bulk, they do the same job as the "baby spit up rags" but without the added "Baby" price tag.



Wearables

Swaddles: newborns love the swaddle(most of them). there are two kind, the wrap and the cheat. The wrap is just basically a small towel that any nurse can show you how to use. The cheat uses velcro. Halo sacks are a good name brand.

A few suggestions.

1. Cold gel pads like these inside a sports bra to limit movement/stimulation.
   
   
2. Ibuprofen for pain.
   
   
3. Peppermint! Really. Strong real peppermint. My doctor recommended buying a few tins of Altoid curiously strong peppermints and just keep sucking on one throughout the day. Peppermint is known to dry up milk, tea isn’t really strong enough.
   
   ETA:
   
   
4. Vitamin B6 at 200mg for 5 days only then back to daily recommended dose of 100mg if needed.
   
   I’ve heard Sudafed and Benadryl help but I didn’t use them myself.

My son has these Nuby straw cups. They are easy to clean and a really good size for his little hands to hold. He drops them a lot and the plastic hasn't cracked or anything.

Oh! My LO is the SAME WAY. We use these and she LOVES them. She also can't close them and then cry when she can't open them back up, so that's nice. We've also recently bought one of these for water because it holds more than a sippy cup. She LOVES hitting the button to open it!

We get the Target Up & Up Advantage (generic for Similac Advance). It’s $21.99 for the 35oz tub and often buy them 3 at a time to get the $10 gift card. Also, in case you don’t have one already, a formula dispenser is a lifesaver for on-the-go.

I am so so sorry this happened. Yeah it's spilled milk, but it was a lot of work just to get that milk to spill!

I had flat nipples and the LC at the hospital gave me a nipple everter. I would use it right before latching and LO could get on no problem. After a couple weeks, she fixed my nipples herself and I haven't used it since.

You're doing a great job, and it is so so hard, ESPECIALLY in the beginning. Lots of love to you. You can do it!

I was gifted some Nuby bottles, and was very surprised when my EBF LO had no problem latching onto the breast sized nipples, but they also have the straw attachment, which I've heard breastfed babies do great on. http://www.amazon.ca/Nuby-2-Pack-No-Spill-Flexi-Colors/dp/B003N49ML8

We use the Munchkin 360 cups and Contigo cups for water and Take and Toss for milk.

None of these have a chewy, durable nipple though. My son was EFF/bottle fed (Dr. Browns) so we did a few weeks of this transitional bottle before making the switch. But ultimately the 360 cups worked best from 6M-1 year and then the hard spout on the Contigo was just easier for him after his first birthday.

There are these, although the reviews don't seem that stellar.

I have a Hygeia, not a Medela. But my process is, pump into bottles, transfer to bag and send bags to daycare with one bottle. Our daycare provider then pours the milk into the bottle herself, so there's less dishes for us that way. I believe some daycares require you to send individual bottles though, so that may not work for you. Either way, I only use the one set of bottles to pump into, refrigerate them with the bags of milk in between pumpings and then just wash them once at night at home (usually in the dishwasher, less hand washing that way).

You could just pump into bottles and cap them to send to daycare, you don't necessarily need a huge stash. My IBCLC actually recommended that I not start pumping until a week before I went back to work. It depends on your supply and how you react to the pump, but the average woman pumps a perfect amount in one day to send to daycare the next day. Then you only really need a stash for emergencies.

Just some options to think about!

I like the duckbill ones a lot better because they are easier to get off. These are the ones I have.

Wow that's crazy. We're talking just standard plastic tupperware, right? I have this set and it's a really great product for how cheap it is.

The First Years Breastflow is supposed to be very good and somewhat similar to nursing. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001R1SOSG/ref=cm_cr_asin_lnk

But to be quite honest there's a good chance that he's just not ready yet and you might have to postpone your trip. My daughter refused cups and bottles as well and it wasn't till she was a year that I could go anywhere without her. I'm not saying that you should feel guilty for wanting to get away Lord knows I sure did, but sometimes you have to play the cards you're dealt.

We made homemade purées starting at 5 months. It’s pretty easy really. We had a magic bullet lying around for some reason, and that worked pretty well. A blender would work too. You don’t need some fancy baby food maker device.

Beyond that:

• a steam basket and a sauce pan for steaming vegetables
  
• this silicone freezer tray or a regular ice cube tray
  
• gallon freezer bags
  
  And that’s about it. We made a couple batches of various fruits or vegetables every week or two. The cubes last a while in the freezer, and we took a couple cubes out of the freezer every night to use the next day.

Get on amazon and buy these. Pay for the fast shipping.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B003IP2L38/ref=mp_s_a_1?qid=1348250700&sr=8-2

These saved me with both of my babies!

Also, start nursing twice in a row per side for a few feedings - so left left right right - get it?
This will give each nipple more time to heal after a feeding. Apply something cold- like an ice pack or ice wrapped in a soft baby washcloth before AND after nursing. The cold can give you a little numbness before nursing and be really soothing after.

Are you crazy? If you're warming bottles then you NEED a bottle warmer. You'll be kicking yourself. Make sure to get one with a reservoir for water (so you're not filling it every time with water) and also some sort of timer that you can set. I got this one and loved it.

http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-850T-Bottle-Warmer/dp/B0035LLG2W/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1422596386&sr=8-1&keywords=dr+brown+bottle+warmer&pebp=1422596343323&peasin=B0035LLG2W

Just in case you or someone else is wondering about this, I saw an awesome solution on r/SCA: these bad boys (in the 40cc size). I filled each compartment with product and it's been amazing for traveling, sleepovers, etc.

This is the one we have. It's about $30 and I feel like it was a great investment. You tell it how many ounces and what type of bottle you use and it knows how long to warm it up and it keeps that setting every time. So I just have to push a button and it heats it up just right. The only downside is that the tommee tippee bottle are really fat so they don't fit in the warmer, so I warm the milk in the medela storage bottles I pump into. Pump and store in the fridge, throw it in the warmer, then pour the milk into the tippee bottle. Makes 4am feedings a hell of a lot easier on a tired momma. :)

A regular pillow could definitely work. I personally used the boppy with both my girls and loved it.

Get something like this for formula. If you're breastfeeding, I just got used to feeding in public. I would find a quiet spot and get down to it. I've found Starbucks or hotels always have restrooms with changing tables. Nordstrom has the most amazing women's lounges with quiet areas for feeding and changing. You can buy something on your way out as a thank-you.

It really is a huge help to have them in the seat on the plane. I don't travel often but I bought a used lighter and cheaper seat to use for one trip earlier this year.

I also bought this:
https://www.amazon.ca/Britax-Seat-Travel-Cart-Black/dp/B005CNEQK0/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

It won't get used often, but it was soooooo nice to have in the airport, partly because the kids can sit in their seat while you pull it.

What brand are you drinking?

There are a number of protein shake mixes available that run about 25g protein and <4g of carbs. I'll usually make one with an extra half/full-scoop of pure whey protein (+12-25g of protein) and 1 Tbsp of MCT oil (+14g of fat) and 1 Tbsp of heavy cream (+6g of fat). Sometimes I'll add 2 Tbsp of flax meal (0 net carbs) or sliced almonds (+5g of fat, +1g of net carbs, +2g of protein, +1g fiber) if I'm running the immersion blender through it. Almond flour would be a good alternative if you want to use a blender bottle. Toss in a little K-salt (.25 tsp) to get your potassium up as well with negligible impact on flavor. The bitterness of the K-salt actually seems to help cut the perceived sweetness too. If you're taking creatine, you could mix that in as well.

If you need something that will travel, get a blender bottle and some of their little stacking cup things. The MCT oil should travel okay, just keep it out of direct sunlight. If you have access to a cooler or fridge (or it's winter and you live somewhere cold) the heavy cream is an option too. I'd avoid pre-mixing the dry and wet ingredients though, I've not had good results doing so.

Rose went from bottles straight to straws. She didn't figure out sippy cups until she was 2. We went with a Tommee Tippee variety at first, and then bought some Munchkin ones like this. Now we use cups like these, and they have sippy cup lids too (my second daughter prefers sippy lids to straw lids).

That's awesome!

Since its $500 though, I will add on a suggestion that would be not quite as cool, but much cheaper. You can buy car seat travel carts, like this, this, or this, and use them with the car seat you already have.

Telescoping handle with wheels and bottom support perfect for this, uh, project.

Recipe: (you can bake at 350 if you don’t have InstantPot)
4 eggs
1/4 c heavy cream
1.5 c grated cheese
.5 c cottage cheese.
Season to taste.
Blend ingredients
Fill egg bite mold (http://amzn.to/2zCOHY0

Add 1 c water to InstantPot
Cover with foil. Set to stream for 8 min. Do natural release. Enjoy!

We are a 20 minute drive from the hospital and husband will not leave my side, so I'd like to get everything in. I'm a notorious overpacker, too, but I'd rather have something I don't need than have not have something that I do need.
Mom Stuff:

• A nicer hospital gown to make me feel human
  
• Mesh panties
  
• A few non-slip socks
  
• Travel sized makeup & general toilettries
  
• Nursing shirt
  
• Super comfy yoga pants that I can leave with
  
• Heavy flow pads
  
• A few different stool softners
  
• A few different nursing bras
  
• Something to lay down in the car for leaks
  
• Disposable nursing pads
  
• Tucks cooling pads
  
• Spray
  
• Nipple butter
  
• Preperation H wipes
  
• Gel nipple soothing pads
  
• Nursing pillow
  Baby Stuff:
  
• Onesies in different sizes (nb, 0-3)
  
• Hat, socks, mittens
  
• Car seat
  Dad stuff:
  
• He's kindof on his own. I've been telling him for a month that I need his overnight stuff. He finally got some travel toiletries, so I guess we're getting somewhere
  Both
  
• 10ft charging cable
  
• iPads
  
• Kindles
  
• AppleTV (we're still not decided on this though)
  
• Snacks
  
  I think that covers just about everything. I used travel packing cubes to keep all of the clothing items organized, and I already had several different other travel bags that I generally use when actually leaving town, for all of the "other" items. [edited formatting]

I've had good luck with these: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00XVASFGC/ref=mp_s_a_1_2_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1505233867&sr=8-2&keywords=duckbill+valve

I have a Spectra S2 and a Medela manual pump and can confirm they work with both.

Sounds like you may need something like this. I haven't personally used them but i have seen a lot of moms on here recommend them.

The tray comes off and it’s easy to clean

Ingenuity Trio 3-in-1 High Chair – Ridgedale - High Chair, Toddler Chair, and Booster https://www.amazon.com/dp/B019D3SVQO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_qAMTBb2B3VDFB

Ok, I will try to format this nicely, but for some reason it always comes out TERRIBLY, so if you see it's been edited, it's just for formatting. Also, I didn't do any sort of price search, so these links aren't the best price guaranteed.

Dream Team Pumping Purchases

• Spectra Pump S1/S2 - one has a battery, that's the only difference. You can vary both the suction strength and the suction frequency on both the milking and letdown settings. There is a timer (yay!), and it remembers your settings. The only drawbacks is the tubing has a strange surface finish that picks up everything, so that kind of sucks, and the default is it's not on the letdown setting when you power on.
  
  
• Pumpin Pal Flanges - Unfortunately these aren't compatible with the Spectra style pump parts, so you need some other pieces to use them. They draw the whole breast in, not just the part around the areola.
  
  
• Maymom Adapters - These allow you to use the Medela style connectors and flanges with the Spectra.
  
  
• Medela Connectors - These don't have to be Medela, they can be Maymom or Nenesupply, but I couldn't find ONLY the connectors from either companies in my quick search.
  
  
• Duckbill Valves - These are way better than the little yellow piece valve with a rubber flap (if the flap moves, it doesn't always work). These are one piece, way awesome.
  
  As for bottles to attach...you can use Ameda or Medela bottles, or any bottle that fits the Medela connectors (I use the Medela bottles and sometimes Dr. Brown's bottles since they fit (depends on what's clean).
  

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00CZAQIZ4/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1425183252&sr=8-1&keywords=blender+bottle+gostak&dpPl=1&dpID=31xVh%2BUDp6L&ref=plSrch&pi=AC_SY200_QL40

I use these for travel. You can buy more to add on in different sizes. They lock and don't spill. It's really best to keep your routine as close to normal as you can.

Work out childcare backups -- people you can call if you have an emergency, need a date night, need a daycare.

Work out a pediatrician -- ask friends, your girlfriend's OB-GYN.

What I'm glad I had:

• car seat that doesn't turn into a baby carrier
  
• boppy pillow
  
• wearable baby carrier
  
• swaddle blanket
  
• a rock-n-play
  
  What I could have waited on:
  
  
• stroller until 6 months
  
• finishing his nursery until 6 months
  
• toys until 3-4 months
  

It's basically an oversized baby formula dispenser in a cup, right? Is there room in the outer cup for a mixing ball or some other kind of mixer? If not, it's less functional than those items separately, because you aren't going to put the dispenser back in a dirty cup so you still need room for both in your bag. If it does include the mixer, I could definitely see a market for it, especially those who don't know about formula dispensers because they do work great for protein powders and such.

A double nursing pillow. If she plans to nursing it is essential and even if she doesn't intend to nurse it's great for feedings and cuddling with the babes. I bought one on my pediatrician's advice on the day I brought my twins home from the hospital and used it continuously until they were a year old.

We had this one which has pockets for your water bottle, phone, snacks, etc. and also a back strap to keep it from getting away from you.
http://www.amazon.com/My-Brest-Friend-Deluxe-Nursing/dp/B0032Z81M4/

I used to get really raw with my second one, and I found a nipple shield helpful. I'd stick it on with a bit of lanolin, and it'd keep my raw skin away from his gums.

I also LOOOOVED these things for the first month or so of bfing. If my skin was raw, I could keep it covered in lanolin and I could keep my bra from sticking to it. https://www.amazon.com/Medela-SoftShells-for-Sore-Nipples/dp/B00LSP1PE6

There's nothing wrong if you're not getting much when you pump. The pump isn't as efficient as baby when it comes to getting milk.
The hospital where you gave birth might be another place to check. They sometimes have new moms groups that meet. It's worth a try!

Maybe nipple everter could help as well? Lansinoh LatchAssist Nipple Everter with 2 Flange Sizes, Nipple Extractor for Breastfeeding, Suction Latching Aid for Nursing Moms, Nursing Essentials. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00112EIWW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_RyknDbZ74TZF5

Here is a link to the one I’ve seen:

Lansinoh LatchAssist Inverted Nipple Corrector Nipple Everter, 2 Sizes https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00112EIWW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_lBWZDbTWTQJSQ

You use it prior to the feeding. In theory it will draw out your nipple to allow for a better latch, then they can nurse normally.

if you pump daily, you should replace them every month. Or if you are fed up with how shitty they are, buy duckbills. They're a million times better and easier to clean.

https://www.amazon.com/NeneSupply-Duckbill-Breastpumps-Breastpump-Breastshields/dp/B00XVASFGC/ref=sr_1_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1502805050&sr=8-1&keywords=duckbill+membranes

My little girl will drink from her straw cup but loses interest at the breast. My logic is that the nursing slows her down, with a cup she can keep playing and drink whenever she wants to.
Try a straw cup like this one. There's a lot of bad reviews, mostly because the bottom straw is not long enough to reach the bottom so I'm trying to find these because you can trim the straws to fit the playtex bottles. Anyways, I use these for now, even though if she throws the cup it spills everywhere, I try to keep it contained by taking the cup away if I notice she's not interested anymore.

[cups! Where do all the cups go?] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0054YZDWC/ref=aw_wl_ov_dp_1_12?colid=4BT22CEFKD1R&coliid=I107PH0QV972T1) :)

I have a Medela hand pump with those membranes. I'm not a fan because it's easy to lose the little white parts.

I prefer these off brand replacements (cheaper, too): Nenesupply 5 Count Compatible Duckbill Valves for Medela and Spectra for Spectra S1 Spectra S2 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00XVASFGC
It's kind of funny that they come in a 5 pack.

This is not answering your question, but if you are looking for an inexpensive but sturdy crib, IKEA has really great options. We got ours for $100 (not including the mattress). My daughter didn't sleep in until she was 5 months old though. She slept in a rock n play or her swing or when being held up until then - hated any flat surfaces the minute we got home from the hospital.

Regarding necessities at first - the boppy was completely necessary. I had one for the upstairs and one for downstairs so I didn't have to carry it around all the time.

Medela Soft Shells for Nipples

My friend was telling me about this when she was breastfeeding.

My LO had a terrible time with bottles - the only ones that worked were the slow flow kiinde. Worth a try, especially if you are considering pumping anyway.

Also, I second the nipple shield idea if you haven't already tried it. Mine was SO painful unless I was using a nipple shield...and the biggest size. The LCs were kind of dismissive of it, but it was a lifesaver for me.

I am a Labor & Delivery/Postpartum nurse so I deal with this a lot! Usually we can get them to pop out with a latch assist or a hand pump. If not, or it pops out and goes right back in, we try just pinching a chunk of areola around the nipple and putting it in the baby's mouth like a sandwich. If we can get them to latch onto that, the baby will usually pull the nipple out. If that doesn't work, we try a nipple shield, but it is a last resort because sometimes it will cause latch issues.

That sucks! Two things:

http://www.amazon.com/Drop-Stop-Original-Patented-Filler/dp/B00BYH6C1E

(There are cheaper versions, or just roll up a small towel and shove it in there)

And love this system

http://www.amazon.com/Kiinde-Breast-Storage-Twist-Starter/dp/B00CXSPL24/ref=sr_1_5?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1450393495&sr=1-5&keywords=kindee

I've only tried these: Nenesupply 5 Count Duckbill Valves for Medela and Spectra. Designed for Spectra S1 Spectra S2 Spectra and Medela Pump In Style Not Original Spectra Pump Parts Replace Medela Valve and Spectra Valve https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00XVASFGC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_MUcWBb26HRDY0

And I don't think they work as well as original so I bit the bullet and bought the originals. I know reviews say they are just as good, but that wasn't my experience.

We do Dr Brown's bottles and their bottle warmer is great, not sure if it fits the Avent bottles but it should - http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Browns-850T-Bottle-Warmer/dp/B0035LLG2W

or with a Charity Donation (Smile Link)

https://smile.amazon.com/Friendly-Silicone-Freezer-Approved-Dishwasher/dp/B01M188L3L

I tend to do smaller ring, and micro mail, and use GoStak containers which are nice and portable:

https://www.amazon.com/BlenderBottle-GoStak-Storage-4-Piece-Starter/dp/B00CZAQIZ4

I keep my 18ga 3/16" rings in the taller ones.

My LO started doing the choking/coughing this week while bottle feeding. I found that she needs to burp whenever she does it. Of course she throws a fit an gets super fussy because she still wants to eat but still needs to burp. Once she burps she starts to eat again fine.

If you want to slow him down while eating and have more of a "breast" like eating experience I would suggest the Breastflow bottle as it slows them way down. But it's also kind of an annoying bottle. You can't get all of the milk out when feeding. But it's the one our LC suggested when we were still trying to BF.

Our favorite straw cup is actually one of the Take n Toss cups. It's very basic but the lid has a seriously good grip to the cup. He tosses it on the floor and it only leaks two drips from what was in the straw. I've only had one crack open from dropping it.

http://www.amazon.com/The-First-Years-Straw-Ounce/dp/B0054YZDWC

The other we use for in the car or diaper bag is the munchkin click lock. It's spill proof but does leak from the straw a bit. He also has to work harder to use it. I tried it myself and it was pretty difficult. But, I don't have to supervise.

http://www.amazon.com/The-First-Years-Straw-Ounce/dp/B0054YZDWC

Is she breastfeeding? I ordered these in a fit of desperation in the middle of the night. Wish I had them from the start, slowest (feeling) two day prime shipping of my life.

https://www.amazon.com/Medela-SoftShells-for-Sore-Nipples/dp/B00LSP1PE6/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1485119492&sr=1-4&keywords=medela+nippleshield

Could you premeasure everything? Like put the water and herbal mixture in the bottle then have the formula mix in another container? I had something like this that I measured out the formula powder into. Then dump the powder into the bottle and shake vigorously. Took the hassle out of explaining it.

I've heard wonderful things about this Spectra one. My insurance paid for the Medela PISA, but I plan to buy this one out of pocket if it doesn't work out for me. It's hospital grade and less than 200$.

We use these with their car seats: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005CNEQK0

But if we weren't taking car seats, we would for sure use a double stroller.

Honestly, there isn’t much you can do. It takes a few weeks for your nipples to toughen up. I think mine finally stopped bothering me around the end of week three beginning of week 4. My LO is now 10 weeks old and they only hurt when she grabs them with her razor talons. Some things you might try in addition to applying the nipple cream.

• Take some Tylenol for the soreness.
  
• Apply warm compress before nursing and use your fingers pressed around the nipple to help soften the breast and make the it easier for the baby to get a deep latch more quickly.
  
• Apply cool compress to breasts after nursing to decrease inflammation.
  
• If your nipples rubbing on the bra is painful you can use breast shells inside your bra.

Salmon, skin down on a cast iron griddle. Get that skin all crispy and enjoy.

Yummmmm.

No soup for you!

Here's a kitchen related item

Yep, my daughter uses them. The First Years Take & Toss Spill-Proof Straw Cups - 10Oz, 4 Pack https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0054YZDWC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_AtnPybN75GPQ8

I have not tried them yet (pregnant with my first), but have heard that the Ameda hydrogels last a lot longer than the other brands. Still disposable, but much less so than medela. You can get them on Amazon here.

"Unfortunately, the car seat we have is a convertible, so it’s pretty heavy and not meant to be carried around. "

FYI you can get a dolly to wheel the carseat around the airport, and the kid can sit in it too. We travel with a convertible seat often and it's fine. (one time we forgot the dolly and I had to carry the seat one handed to and from the plane, do not recommend that but not the end of the world)

Britax Car Seat Travel Cart, Black https://www.amazon.com/dp/B005CNEQK0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_5Id4Cb7BGZ2A7

Munchkin 80103 Powdered Formula Dispenser Combo-Pack (Colors May Vary) https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B000RFCXIK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_DCZyCb82T3ZPF

Having the two options (single and multi) was definitely handy.

Not sure where you are located, but here in Canada, President's Choice makes their own version that I have seen in Loblaws.

I also have sensitive nipples. It did hurt in the beginning but we worked through it and I'm so glad we did. It was absolutely worth it. Also: nipple shield, and nipple gel pads

Get a blender ball go stack or pro stack

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00CZAQIZ4/ref=mp_s_a_1_sc_2/141-2419754-4275704?ie=UTF8&qid=1499905412&sr=8-2-spell&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=blender+bottle+pro+stack

I've traveled with it many times and never had a problem.

My daughter refused traditional sippy cups at all costs. The only cup that worked for us were straw sippy cups like this:

http://www.amazon.com/Nuby-2-Pack-No-Spill-Flexi-Colors/dp/B003N49ML8

Lanisoh makes a little device called the Latch assist, which I found works amazingly on my invented nipple. You suction it on a few seconds before you want to feed, and it pulls out your nipple enough for baby to latch and start a good suck. Also, half the price of those medela ones.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00112EIWW

if your wife plans to breastfeed, spend $7 and bring a nipple everter. It will save you a lot of crying all around.

http://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-LANSINOH294983-Latchassist-Nipple-Everter/dp/B00112EIWW

We had a long journey from fast flow bottles in the NICU to breastfeeding with no problem. The double nipple bottles (Breastflow) were a huge help for us. They make the baby both suck and squeeze, mimicking the nursing motions. Then we did a nipple shield and slowly weaned off of that. It took about 3 weeks before he would breastfeed without any extra stuff. Now he switches back and forth without any issues.

One thing I've found is sometimes my nipples deflate when he's trying to latch. I tug on them and get them to perk up so he has something to grab on to. It seems to help when he's frustrated. Also try different ways to hold your breast, her head, etc. Different pillows (i.e. Boppy vs. bed pillow) can make a difference too.

Try not to put extra pressure on yourself. It does take time and practice.

EDIT: I remembered something the lactation consultant had me do. Start out with a bottle and give her a little snack so she isn't freaking out. Then try to breast feed. We did this same method to wean off the nipple shield and it worked great.

Does anyone know where I can buy BlenderBottle's GoStak locally?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00LSP1PE6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_B2-xDbMNM4W64

These.

Lansinoh LatchAssist Nipple Everter with 2 Flange Sizes https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00112EIWW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_3uIgDb8MNCVA2


Try this! It helped a lot with me!

What pump do you use?
You could try these to replace your parts.

I had the spectra s2 and replaced my duckbill valves with these after a few months. They also can replace the valve/membrane combo on the medela!

Here’s the non-sponsored link:

https://www.amazon.com/Friendly-Silicone-Freezer-Approved-Dishwasher/dp/B01M188L3L

These Ameda ComfortGel pads have helped me deal with blisters/skin getting ripped off

If I don’t use them I use Lanolin after every nursing or pumping session.

I would put the premeasured water in the bottles and send the measured formula in in one of these formula dispenser

A type of nursing pillow

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00HMGBJCS/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1482674005&sr=8-3&keywords=boppy&pi=SY200_QL40

Give this a try!

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00112EIWW/ref=oh_details_o06_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Here is the mobile version of your link

My son figured out the camelback straw cup at like 9 months. He snatched my cup and used it. We got him his own and he likes it. I wouldn't call it leak proof though. It leaks quite a bit after being bumped around a lot. We use these and so far they are the least leaky (it still happens on occasion but way less than anything else) and they can take quite a beating (our son throws his around a LOT).

https://www.amazon.com/Nuby-2-Pack-No-Spill-Straw-Colors/dp/B003N49ML8/ref=zg_bs_166801011_17?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=0WD0VFS2DCK9Y4390Z3J

This is a rhetorical question, but why would you use a shortened Amazon link to hide your spam affiliate link, when you can make the link say whatever you want right in Reddit?

Non-affiliate link for people: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01M188L3L

These three brands are the ones I have seen recommended, because they mimic the breast the most closely. They claim to limit colic and nipple confusion.

• Adiri
  
  
  
• Breastflow
  
  
  
• Born Free
  
  
  I have heard that this type of pacifier is nice, because it can't be upsidown in their mouth, and it has that little tab on it so that your baby can't easily get it in it's mouth sideways and get it stuck. It's also made of one single piece of medical grade silicone, so none of it can break off and choke your baby.
  
  
  Personally, I'm not putting any pacifiers or bottles on my registry because I don't know if I will actually need to use them or not. I figure people have doing just fine without them for hundreds of thousands of years, and if I have them around I might end up using them just because I have them.

Nipple shields are kind of annoying after awhile though, and sometimes they keep the baby from getting as much milk out. Have you seen [these things?] (http://www.amazon.com/Lansinoh-LANSINOH294983-Latchassist-Nipple-Everter/dp/B00112EIWW/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1370628332&sr=8-1&keywords=flat+nipple)

If you're nursing or pumping, a good nursing bra is invaluable. I cringed when I spent $70 on mine but damn if I didn't use ALL the time.

Also, in the early days of breastfeeding/pumping my nipples were SHOT. They hurt so much, any fabric on them was torture. I LOVED these, they were a lifesaver: https://www.amazon.com/Medela-SoftShells-for-Sore-Nipples/dp/B00LSP1PE6/ref=sr_1_11_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1505236261&sr=1-11&keywords=nipple+shield They keep fabric from touching your sore nipples and can be worn under a bra.

They are too small for the travel cart (baby luggage roller). One thing that helped us was this https://www.amazon.com/Munchkin-Formula-Dispenser-Combo-Colors/dp/B000RFCXIK?th=1 Or something similar.

They are also a have these, which helped a lot for snacks, but you are too early for that too. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B06XBSQC26/ref=s9_acsd_topr_hd_bw_bPeLSV_c_x_w?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=merchandised-search-11&pf_rd_r=YWWRS3ECJNP8NXXRJSQB&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_p=c4a6ef1b-1185-599f-85a0-59ba492404e0&pf_rd_i=379024011&th=1

Extra pacifiers (probably five just in case), they will always drop them in the most inconvenient places. Keeping them up after feeding and before boarding worked well for us, but neither of us ever had to do it alone. For the flight, plan, plan, plan and then take it as it comes.

The default size for the flanges for Medela brand is 24 mm. If you find the angle uncomfortable, consider getting the Pumpin Pal flanges. They come in packs of 3 with 3 different sizes. Kind of annoying, oh well. You can reuse the flanges, just put it in boiling water for 10 min to sanitize it. I wouldn't buy a pumping bra this early, your size will probably change.

Yes to tubing, it's good to have extras lying around. Be advised, they are generally sold in singles and you'll need 2 if you're dual pumping.

DO NOT PURCHASE MEMBRANES. Those stupid white flaps are crap. Get the duckbills instead.

Haha, I think that was the part that pissed me off the most. There were a few pieces she didn't take because I was using them when she was moving out, but I was so annoyed when I saw the rest of it gone. She always premade her lunches for work and was constantly eating out of tupperware, so if we had the same sets, I'd understand if she thought some were hers, but they were completely different. She had this style and I had these. They're not even the same brand. Ugh.

When I was at Walmart, the cashier saw all the stuff that I was replacing (but he obviously didn't know that) and he was like, "Are you just moving out on your own?" I didn't want to get into the story and rant at him, so I said yes, but I was sooo annoyed being reminded about it.

Since others are saying their nipples were fine, I will chime in and say my nipples were a shredded disaster the first month of breastfeeding and I almost gave up like 1,000 times. Every time my son cried I cried. I still wouldn't recommend roughing up your nipples first - I don't even know if that would really help when you have your little piranha going to town on your nipples. I ended up ordering these, and using with lanolin, and that finally allowed the scabs on my nipples to heal between feedings (rather than the scab drying stuck to my nursing tank and then ripping off when I moved my shirt). After the first few weeks, it stopped hurting at all and we made it 27 months!