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Seems like the phases could also be tying into your natural fertile phase? Quite common/normal for some women to be majorly aroused/turned on during ovulation and not so much the rest of their cycle? Obviously your condition may be more prominant than usual cycle but you're definitely not alone in cyclical arousal or arousal on phases (even if for different reason).

It might help to read more around energies/phases of a women's cycle as the things you have said about cleaning/work also tie in. For example check out here: https://naturalshaman.blogspot.co.uk/2012/06/magic-of-menstrual-cycle.html?m=1 and https://www.amazon.co.uk/Red-Moon-Miranda-Gray/dp/1844266281

Learning to accept the phases (even if for you the phases are not directly hormonal but due to medical issue) might be beneficial. Explain to your bf the stages/cycles. They come/go, wax/wane and because you're going through a different phase does not mean you feel less for him but you just change through the phases. Sometimes sexuality is highly important and sometimes less so, but emphasise how it doesn't change your feelings for him or your relationship.

Maybe come up with a plan to spend a bit more quality time with each other when you're on your "down phase", just spending time and doing nice stuff that isn't sexual together?

Of course sex when you don't feel like it isn't advisable but would you be open to discussing pleasuring him during the phase when you don't feel like it yourself? But explain to him in advance that at that phase you don't feel like PIV so how about taking care of his needs in another way? Take some sexy pics when your in your "hot" phase and save to send to him during the "down" phase so he has something to pleasure himself with?

Sounds tough but with some good open communication and reassurance from you I'm sure he'll understand. Good luck!

Hypothalamic Amenorrhea is a combination of three things

1. Under-fueling
   
2. Stress (good, bad, physical, mental, etc)
   
3. Over-exercising (not only is it an obvious energy expenditure, but it also increases cortisol, which can be linked to HA)
   
   Any combination of these can lead to HA. Which is why someone that's anorexic can experience HA without exercising, or an athlete with a healthy relationship with food can also have HA. Every person is different as well, so some people can workout 7 days a week, twice a day, maintain a low body fat, and still not get HA. Others get it "more easily" (Not sure if that's the best wording?)
   
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   Have you recovered from HA from last year? By that, I mean, have you had three consecutive periods and are you still getting them on a regular basis? If not, then I'd suggest eating more, and keep exercise reduced. If you have recovered, the suggestion is to usually introduce exercise slowly. Start with 2 days a week. See how your period reacts (does your cycle length remain the same? etc), then slowly bump it up to 3-5 days a week, or whatever your plan is. Just make sure your period remains steady (if you really wanted to, you could also use OPK (ovulation predictor kits) to make sure your luteal phase (the length of time after you ovulate until your period) remains consistent. A lot of people see a shortening of their luteal phase if they introduce exercise too much/too quickly and that can signal that HA is close to coming back, which would be a sign to back off on the exercise)
   
   
   And most importantly, EAT lots of food!
   
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   If you're really curious, I found the book "No Period. Now What?" By Dr. Nicola Rinaldi to be a super helpful resource!

Update and resources below:
2 months in now and, while my supply never increased substantially, we have 90% of the breastfeeding relationship I wanted.

I triple fed for the first 3 weeks to try and increase supply during the window where everything is being set. We were lucky enough to find donors and supplement with donor milk and used minbie nipples (we tried syringe feeding, small cups, and the medela SNS but found the first two impractical for the volume being consumed and the last leaky and complex).

Eventually I made it through those first three weeks and then called off pumping because it wasn’t helping and I was super over it - I wanted to spend my time cuddling my baby.

At some point I got curious about the lact-aid - the medela hadn’t worked for us but I loved the idea of supplementing at the breast. In my research I found the below resource for home-made SNS and we’ve been happily using it ever since. We have the best of both worlds - we are breastfeeding, he’s drinking breast milk, we have the freedom of bottles, and I am crossing my fingers that next baby will get more milk out of me after all this stimulation!

Website: BFAR - Breastfeeding After Breast and Nipple Surgeries
https://www.bfar.org/

Book: Defining your Own Success: Breastfeeding After Breast Reduction Surgery
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0912500867/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_Cb6lDb3F7VP3J

Homemade Supplemental Nursing System parts and video instruction:
https://www.lactationconnection.com/Jack-Newman-s-Lactation-Aid-Feeding-Tube-p/54-5036-2.htm

Facebook page & group: Human Milk 4 Human Babies - California (search for your own location)
https://www.facebook.com/HM4HBCA/

I know you didn't really ask for my advice, but if you think you can find the time to supplement your reading, I'd recommend checking out Complete Book of Women's Running.

This was recommended to me when I first started to pursue running. It's very easy to read; you can finish off 20 pages in less than 40 minutes easily. And it's a great tool for lady runners of all levels. It taught me a lot about patience, pacing, why/when/how to rest, and questions like yours. There are also training schedules for most race distances, and you'll learn about the strategy behind racing. The book is very informative, and it really helps to keep you motivated after you've finished your 5k. If you check out /r/running, you'll see users regularly discuss losing motivation after finishing the race they are training for.

A used copy goes for only a couple of bucks on Amazon, so it's pretty affordable. If you're unable to afford that, please let me know. I may be able to send you my copy or arrange to send you a $5 amazon gift card to cover the cost.

Tina Muir, an Elite runner, just came out with a book on this topic-from the mental aspects to health aspects, and her journey to overcome it so she could have her daughter. Book title is “Overcoming Amenorrhea” https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Amenorrhea-Your-Period-Back-ebook/dp/B07ML1TSSP/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1549212186&sr=8-1&keywords=overcoming+amenorrhea+by+tina+muir ... have not read it yet, but I listen to her podcast and she has talked about this many times on there... she is a is a very honest and thoughtful person and I expect the same from her book. Anyway, seemed like a helpful related resource. Good luck, and it is great to hear you are on the road to recovery!

you might research berberine over metformin. many women have shown good results with it. it's also an over the counter supplement and doesn't have the negative effects of metformin.

i love nightshades (tomatoes and peppers mostly) so i am so not looking forward to testing whether they give me reactions or not. but what you're doing looks similar to a low fodmap or autoimmune paleo style elimination diet. i myself do basic paleo and it helps. i follow herbalism and functional medicine approaches to health, which connects autoimmune issues to each other similarly to how you have figured out on your own.

you also might find a great deal of good information in this book. i just picked it up. though i know a lot that is covered in the book already, it does have good information on dosages of important supplements that help with pcos support.

It’s a chemotherapy drug, some people swear by it (I have a friend who says it changed her life), but a lot of people have significant adverse effects. I’m really unwilling to try it (got diagnosed last December), but do your own research & see how you feel about it. I’m really sensitive to a lot of medications & hormonal BC, so I feel fairly certain that I’d be in the category that experience ALL the side effects.

I really liked the book The Doctor Will See You Now by Tamer Seckin
He’s a surgeon, so he really does push excision as the BEST option for treatment, but he does venture into other modes of treatment. If nothing else, reading it felt validating and gave me so much more information.

I’m glad you have a diagnosis! Welcome to the endo club?

Well no it's not absolutely necessary for everyone, but there are some good reasons to be on a birth control pill if you have PCOS.

One of the most significant is if you don't have regular periods, being on the pill can protect your uterus. The uterine lining is still being stimulated to grow by estrogen, but if it isn't shed regularly like normal it can get overgrown. This is called endometrial hyperplasia, and it's what can cause the 2+ week long periods some women get with PCOS. These sort of conditions are excellent for cancer cells to develop. That's why women with PCOS are at higher risk of uterine cancer...so being on a hormonal birth control pill can mitigate that risk.

Another reason is to treat the masculinizing symptoms of PCOS (acne, hair loss, facial hair grown). For this to work, though, one needs to be on a medication that will block the effects of testosterone. There are different medications that can do this, and some are birth control pills so they can be used this way to kind of kill two birds with one stone. Of course, for this to work it's important that they be anti-androgenic. Combination birth control pills contain synthetic estrogen and a compound that behaves similarly to progesterone...the progesterone mimic is the one that is the anti-androgenic compound in Yasmin, Yaz, Ocella (there are others too I just don't have an exhaustive list).

Why you bled so severely on a birth control pill, obviously I don't know but if you do see another doctor about this be it a gyno or an endocrinologist, be sure to tell them that so you and your doctor can decide if being on a birth control pill is safe for you.

As for diabetes medication, the fact that you have PCOS and they didn't talk to you about that makes me want to bang my head against a wall. PCOS is very often related to insulin resistance, so diabetes medications can help! The one your doctor was probably talking about was Metformin. It's very common and dirt cheap ($4 without insurance). I'm not on it now because it does have stomach side effects and I have IBS, so it was making me so sick I couldn't go to work. However, I took it for years as a teenager and it did really help. Not to mention, if you are insulin resistant, and if you have PCOS there's an excellent chance you are, you want to know about it! That's very significant for your future health, but there are things you can do to manage it such a changing your diet and taking medication, that can prolong or even prevent it from progressing to diabetes. At the least, you want to have your A1c tested to see how your blood glucose control is doing.

I understand the insurance concerns. Maybe you want to try this book? https://www.amazon.com/PCOS-Workbook-Complete-Physical-Emotional-ebook/dp/B004SPYNCO

There's a lot you can do yourself in terms of lifestyle changes to help control PCOS, and something like that can help explain the ins and outs of how it works.

At that age, the book my parents read with me was called "It's Perfectly Normal". It's a great book for younger kids that covers the basics of puberty and sex. (Just a heads up, it includes a section about gay people and bisexual people, and is very LGBT positive, just in case that's not something you're comfortable telling your kids.) It explains crushes, what sexual attraction feels like, the basics of how sex works.

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When she is a few years older (13-14), one of the best books you can get her (and read yourself, before you give to her) is called Our Bodies, Ourselves. It covers A LOT of stuff, in detail. It covers everything from the puberty basics, to what it means to take care of our bodies including drugs and alcohol, sexual health, safe sex, and mental health and wellbeing. It is an incredible guide to womens health. Heads up that this one covers some hard topics, including sexual violence and unwanted pregnancy/abortion. Personally I believe it's good to learn about these things early, but you may feel differently.

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Amazon links to each:

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763668729/ref=sr_1_2?crid=ZU9INC4R8RPF&keywords=it%27s+perfectly+normal&qid=1565136853&s=books&sprefix=it%27s+perfect%2Cstripbooks%2C230&sr=1-2

https://www.amazon.com/Our-Bodies-Ourselves-New-Era/dp/0743256115/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_img_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=TS7545ED92NZNFAWYDCQ

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Some things I was told that helped me growing up: you don't have to wait until marriage for sex, but your first time will be much better if you wait to have it with someone you trust. Someone you trust means someone who you have known for a long time, who has demonstrated to you in concrete ways that they care about you and your safety and well-being, who listens to you. It means someone who you can have really open conversations with, even uncomfortable ones. If you feel too awkward to talk about safe sex and how to prevent pregnancy, and what to do in case of an accidental pregnancy, you don't know the person well enough to have sex with them.

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Try to foster the kind of relationship with her where she will come to you with questions or if she's in trouble. "I expect you to wait until marriage", or "I will hunt down any guy who hurts you with a shotgun", or "sex is dirty and for adults" will not foster that kind of relationship, even if it is REALLY tempting.

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Let her know if she wants to be put on birth control, you will take her to get it.

This isn't trouble! There is nothing wrong with you! Most women do not come from vaginal penetration alone. You are not defective! (And it's possible some of those other women were faking orgasm, which is a thing some women do, you know?)

I'm sure you all can have a lot of fun exploring this, but it needs to start from loving yourself, and your husband loving you, not from a place of thinking there's something wrong with you.

A few books that might help you learn to love your body and your sexuality:

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Woman: An Intimate Geography by Natalie Angier

Hello! Sorry to hear about your struggles. My husband and I are going through the same thing. Yes I've read about cinnamon as well but I just read this book and the author had a lot of great suggestions. A lot of the dietary advice is to cut down on carbs of course (hard for anyone) but his suggestions are pretty reasonable.

I'm doing a self guided diet using the keto diet as a guideline and trying to get a lot more protein in my life. Overall with pcos it seems you have to be consistent because it all takes forever to start helping. Anyway, I'm kinda new here so not sure of what you've tried, etc but I hope you get the advice you need. :)

"The Guide To Getting it On" is a great comprehensive sex book with anything and everything you could want to know about sex. It is funny and easy to read and addresses all these issues and more. I highly recommend.

http://www.amazon.com/Guide-Getting-Universes-Coolest-Informative/dp/B0009YARI2/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1344492530&sr=1-1&keywords=the+guide+to+getting+it+on

Even if you think you don't have time to wait for a book, I do think it is still beneficial to consider for the future. It can actually be a lot of fun to read with your SO, or just have lying around for future reference.

Our Bodies Ourselves (http://www.amazon.com/Our-Bodies-Ourselves-New-Era/dp/B001JJBOTC/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1344492670&sr=1-2&keywords=our+bodies+ourselves) also has pretty thorough sections on sex and sexuality.

I would talk to the school's counselor. Your parents must know you're in a Harvard-feeder. Why go to nursing school at Harvard? Is it that special? At any school, someone has to get the Cs (especially if they bell), and maybe it's you, so what? I could have got straight As at my regular school and didn't, mostly because I didn't want to live with the stress (the 3.7 was hard enough, and I got plenty of shit for it). It took me a long time to realize a C is average, not flunking. Being average is just fine, it's flunking that's not. I'd love to hope that this is their way of telling you to not set your sights so high, because private schools aren't worth it, Harvard-feeder or not. There's only about 10 private schools in the nation that are worth paying for, and that's just for name recognition, and trying to get in to them is enough to break anyone. You can buy grades at those schools more easily than anywhere else.

And you know who was on the list, you can put it back, if you really have your heart set on those schools. Your academic counselor should be able to help you. A psychological counselor would be able to help you. Can you get your parents in the same room with your academic counselor?

And for the record, you will not be the first person at the school to scale back. Just imagine the stress some of your peers must be under. Ever read The Overachievers? Kids get pushed so hard, that dropping out or 'slacking off' at a public school would seem a god-send. There's no way you'd be the first.

Worst-case scenario, split the difference. Apply to all of them, your schools and their schools. If you get in to yours, see what scholarships they throw your way. I got in to the local private school, but was only offered $5500 toward a $15000 education. BS!!! I got a full ride to the better of the state schools, an I'm proud of it! I love my alma mater like none other, and I came out with no debt. The no debt is important, trust me on that.

Keep working at it. Find some middle ground. Don't go for broke just because you can. But don't give in just to make them happy. If you're dead set for private school, you'll get what you want. Take them to the counselor with you, they'll come around.

I’m terrible with remembering, so you might have to remind me! But I will say after reading that book, I think I have definitely been underrating without realizing. I’ve always been thin and have never weighed more than 120, even though I felt like I was eating a ton. According to her book, you should be ideally at a BMI of 23 ish to regain a normal cycle and to put on the weight you should be eating roughly 2500 calories a day. Which seems like a ton! But I figure it can’t hurt to try gaining the 10 extra pounds or so and see if it works. The book talks about a ton of other informative period and fertility topics and has a lot of input from women who went through issues. Kind of hefty book, but an easy and interesting read.

If you’re interested in other books I suggest:

Taking Charge of Your Book on Amazon $21
Period Repair Manual Book on Amazon $19

The results I got were so minor. I got a lot of good info from a few books. The best so far was the PCOS nutrition guide (I think that's the title) it explains how to treat each symptom. It was good because it helped me find the treatment for my specific symptoms.
I also spotted this one on amazon and it looks like it might be good https://www.amazon.ca/Peach-Fuzz-Baggage-Survivors-Point-ebook/dp/B00MSS1IKI/ref=sr_1_18?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1484078318&sr=1-18&keywords=pcos

I don't dream about blood, but I have other dream "signals" at different times of the month, including right before I start bleeding. Everyone's cycle is different, but it's pretty cool that you have noticed this about yourself! If you're interested in more discussion like this, check out Red Moon by Miranda Gray

Go for it!

I liked the comment in the other thread about pairing it with "Our bodies, ourselves" and just leave a note, "Use it or not, your choice. You can always tell me anything you need to" or something along those lines.

If your wife thinks your daughter would like to pick one out for herself, send her to Babeland with a credit card and a limit. They have awesome quality, lots of lelo, and are extremely female friendly and pro healthy sexuality.

As for all those people saying she wont learn to use her hands, bull. I could never get off with my hands until I had been using a vibrator for years. And I get off during sex just fine. A vibrator won't stunt her 'growth' and the idea smacks of 'needing to earn her way' bullshit.

Our Bodies, Ourselves 2013 is an awesome reference for her to have that will be helpful throughout puberty and afterwards. I still have my copy and check it out often.

This looks pretty good, too, and it fits her age range.

Just an idea, have you thought about wrapping the books in wrapping paper? That way it's more of a celebration than a somber occasion. Remember that if you don't want her to feel embarrassment, shame, or guilt, you should demonstrate the opposite. Read the books you got her before she does, so you two can talk about it.

I also highly recommend showing her how to use something like this app so she can easily predict her start date and symptoms for herself. There are little happy-face cartoons and it'll empower her to know how to take care of herself.

Not comprehensive, but women have Our Bodies, Ourselves. It's a great start.

And I always found the Mayo Health Clinic Family Health Book interesting as a kid, but it looks out of date now.

I imagine there are other reference books out there like these.

Your Dad is the real MVP!
My mother is a bit traditional in a couple of senses- she tends to frown on the idea of hookups/one night stands and has always advised me to save having sex for someone who loves and treats me fairly. That being said, whilst I've made a few mistakes in regards to my sex life (ie: chosing assholes/mistaking lust or infatuation with love and rushing into things), she's always been supportive and took it upon herself to ensure I had a good understanding of sex and relationships.

In regards to birth control, she actually encouraged me to go on The Pill at 15, moreso because of brutal periods but also as a precaution and had no objections about it. She also encouraged me to get an IUD after I became jaded with the notion of taking pills every day and she provided me with a lot of useful information on the subject.

She gave me this book when I was around 10 years old and going through the hell of precocious puberty and it explained SO MUCH. She was always quick to answer any of my queries so for that, my mom is pretty awesome.

Would definitely check out this book. She goes into a lot of detail of the causes of PCOS and how to help alleviate the symptoms.

Period Repair Manual: Natural Treatment for Better Hormones and Better Periods https://www.amazon.com/dp/1975926773/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_6y4UDbM3SFG4P

Well in "Woman: An Intimate Geography" Natalie Angier explains it that mammals traditionally had sex with the man entering from behind the woman ("doggy style", etc.) and so men associated the shape of women's buttocks with sex.

The idea is that women who had large breasts were more likely to have intercourse with men in face to face positions, because the men liked the look of breasts because they reminded them of buttocks. Having sex in face to face positions included more eye contact, which lead to more oxytocin release upon orgasm which lead to stronger pair bonding and love which created a more stable bond between parents and more involvement in children's lives from their father because he was so in love with the mother.

The other hypothesis Angier covers is that breasts are so aesthetically pleasing that women who had spare food or supplies were more likely to give it to the women with bigger breasts.

This sounds goofy, but it's still a really good book.

Sometimes emotional stress can affect our lovely lady parts! I'd recommend Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom for some interesting ideas about how to think about your health.

-signed, UTI/yeast frequent victim... ugh!! good luck!!

When she takes the pumped milk at daycare, are they warming it, or keeping it cold? My thoughts are that maybe she is drinking water because she wants a cold beverage - it is summer here, so that may feel better than warm milk.

When my daughter was 12 months old I was sending 9 oz per day, and we went down to 6 oz by about 15 months anyway. So in that respect, I don't find it too unusual that she is only taking 6 oz of milk at daycare. At this age, they are getting more nutrition from food than milk. If you check the chart at Kellymom, you can see that at 15 months, she probably needs around 15 oz per day total. If she is getting 6 at daycare, that leaves 9 oz at home. Do you think she's getting that? If you nurse say once in the morning before daycare, once when you get home, and once before bed, then she probably is getting that. She may be nursing a lot just to reconnect with you after being separated all day.

I would also recommend the book Mothering Your Nursing Toddler.

I would like to second The Baby Owner's Manual for your boyfriend.

I recently got the Caring for Your Baby and Young Child, 6th Edition: Birth to Age 5, which is a great reference for all sorts of "what do I do about this?" questions. It's written by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

I also really like The American Academy of Pediatrics New Mother's Guide to Breastfeeding and The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding for some basic step-by-step suggestions for starting breastfeeding and continuing at different ages.

The Houghton-Mifflin blurb compares it to Natalie Angier's "Woman", but your critique tells me enough to know that Angier's book is far better in its coverage of its own topic.

She is a good writer, and her book, while dated, is still worth reading.

You should get him these

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0199781559/ref=pd_aw_sbs_5?pi=SL500_SY115&simLd=1

^ this talks about how men became the stereotypical brawny man.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0553386735/ref=pd_aw_sbs_4?pi=SL500_SY115&simLd=1

^ this talks about women's bodies and the changes they go through (I'm thinking of getting this for me)

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1570628122/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?qid=1417541607&sr=8-3&pi=AC_SY200_QL40


^^^ especially this last one talks about how to have meaning fun relationships



My fiancé says: get him a dildo he'll be happy.

I think that PCOS is one of those "which came first, the chicken or the egg?" disorders. The actual causes are somewhat of a mystery right now. I've gone back and forth on what I want to blame for why I developed PCOS, but the important thing is understanding how our hormones function (or dysfunction lol) and how we can have a bit of control over them. What we eat is definitely as important as how much we eat.

I don't know of readings specific to PCOS but a book on hormones in general is really helpful. One that helped me was "Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom." The author is a doctor but also has a down to earth/motherly approach to understanding our bodies.

https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Bodies-Wisdom-Revised-Emotional/dp/0553386735

I really enjoyed the book, "How Weaning Happens" for learning about what to expect for a baby who is going to self-wean. My LO is now 16 months and so far nursing a toddler has been 15% pain (as she discovers all these great new positions!) and 85% joy. I've also heard that the book, "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler" is supposed to be fantastic but I haven't read it.

I was recently asking about good sex books in another post. Here were some of the good ones I found:

http://www.amazon.com/Our-Bodies-Ourselves-New-Era/dp/0743256115/

http://www.amazon.com/Guide-Getting-6th-Paul-Joannides/dp/1885535333/

http://www.amazon.com/Sexually-Shy-Inhibited-Womans-Guide/dp/0984057463/

http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Sex-You-Want-Inhibitions/dp/159233301X/

http://www.amazon.com/Because-Feels-Good-Pleasure-Satisfaction/dp/160529876X/

http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Idiots-Guide-Amazing-Third/dp/1592573274/

http://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260/

Your anthropology professor was regurgitating "evolutionary psychology," which is widespread folk-knowledge bullshit.

There's tons of great resources that show how the "Battle of the Sexes" narrative is misleading, but there's a really great one that tackles the evolutionary psychology theory in this book by Natalie Angier: https://www.amazon.com/Woman-Intimate-Geography-Natalie-Angier/dp/0385498411

(see chapter "Of Hoggamus and Hogwash" if you're interested).

I recommend getting this book for your sister, she can look up anything she ever needs to know, lots of good common sense advice, and scientific explanations for everything.

[Our Bodies Ourselves] (http://www.amazon.com/Our-Bodies-Ourselves-New-Era/dp/0743256115)

For most women, it's simply a pH issue. Check out "Woman: An intimate geography." It can probably be helped only the slightest bit when he changes his diet (avoiding fruit and veg isn't good for anyone anyway).

When he's not cumming inside you, your vag, as you know, is a pretty clean, balanced place. Smells fine or has a clean, yogurt-ish tang. However, throw in that very alkaline cum and the whole system gets thrown out of whack. Unfortunately, that allows anaerobic bacteria to flourish.

From her book (I just happen to be reading it now).

> Distressingly the microbes make trimethylamine, which is the same substance that gives day-old fish its fishy odor. They make putrescine, a compound found in purifying meat. They make cadaverine, and I need not tell you from whence that chemical was named.

Your only real solution is to stop having sex regularly where he comes inside you. It will give your vagina a chance to reobtain it's homeostasis.

edited to add: Your vagina is normally fairly acidic, with a pH of 3.8 to 4.5, so it's more acidic than black coffee. His ejaculate is 7.2-8. Those are extremely different.

It was more than likely Everywoman by Derek Llewellyn-Jones. 9 editions and millions sold since 1971, still the best no-bullshit sex and puberty book ever. Should be read by everyone who hits puberty, male or female.

Maybe the next time you all are at a family gathering slip her a copy of something like our bodies ourselves. I know I'm stereotyping, but I feel most abstinence only education tells you that everything is a horrible incurable STD and doesn't give much information on the health and well being of your body. There are plenty of things that bodies do that are perfectly fine, but are concerning when you have a lack of knowledge.

You should read a book though. this book is excellent start

Never saw the cover of Woman: An Intimate Geography, I take it?

(And, yes, that is an affiliate link. Google it yourself, if you'd rather.)

I'm gonna take a guess and say Our Bodies, Ourselves. If this wasn't it, this book is the one that my mom got me. I don't think it was just heterocentric, as I remember some lesbian input as well, but it was a good book. My mom and I didn't/don't have that great of a discourse about sex, but this book magically appeared on my bookshelf when I got around puberty. It helped.

I suggest getting her the book Our Bodies, Ourselves. I gave my copy to my younger sister for one of her birthdays :)

The feminism boards, or indeed any of the discussions on mumsnet.com are always good and down to earth.

A classic of the women's heath genera is Our Bodies Ourselves https://www.amazon.co.uk/Our-Bodies-Ourselves-New-Era/dp/0743256115

I've heard good things about this book.

If someone hasn't recommended this book already, let me suggest Our Bodies, Ourselves. It's a hugely helpful resource for tons of women's issues and is one book every woman should have.

The Nursing Mother's Companion has been recommended to me by several people, though I haven't read it yet. I have been reading the AAP's New Mother's Guide to Breastfeeding, which is okay so far.

In this regard I recommend a book called "Every Woman"

My mother calls it her Bible and has had every edition since 1971. She is a midwife and refers patients to it.

For the bride: [Our Bodies, Ourselves](http://www.amazon.com/Our-Bodies-Ourselves-New-Era/dp/0743256115]

Are we looking at the same cover? This woman does not look 75+ pounds overweight to me. She doesn't look overweight at all. https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Bodies-Wisdom-Revised-Emotional/dp/0553386735