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Short answer: figure out what you like when masturbating and then do that with someone else who you like and trust and have fun with. Don't set goals or deadlines, just mutually mess around and have fun. Things will become more and more fun; like any sport or hobby, the more you do it the better you get, and everyone has their own style.

Long answer:
Start with mutual masturbation. What feels best, what makes you excited? Talk to your partner, do those things. Ask your partner what they like. Try those things. Touch each other, play with each other, get each other off without penetration. Have fun.
Don't pressure yourselves. Use protection, have a pack of Plan B before you need it (a girlfriend might need it, you can be a real hero!) and have fun.

Also, don't be surprised if your partner loses their erection; guys get nervous too, and it can be a real ego-crusher to him when Mr. Happy doesn't do his thing.



Also - don't mean to insult your intelligence, so please understand that this is a fantastic book that I have recommended to adults. Ok?
Some of this stuff will be things you already know, but some will not be. Most Libraries will have it

Last thing; I recommend watching the Midwest Teen Sex Show - it's something like Saturday Night Live meets Sex Ed, and when I found it (I'm 44 - found this in my 30's) there was stuff I didn't know. They talk about all the nuances of sex that were never covered, and they also are frank and factual and just damned outstanding.

I'm a former Librarian, an Aunt to 4 kids, and the Social Aunt to many more - who explained things to kids with parents who couldn't.

If you have any questions about websites or places to learn more, lemme know. My personal experiences won't help, because we're all very different.

TL;DR - go back and read it. Also, double up on protection
(pill + condom OR IUD + condom OR diaphragm + condom... but always always use a condom!)

Much luck, hon. It's great good fun once you've figured things out and have someone awesome.

I love, love, love the book It's Perfectly Normal, and it's what my daughter and I read together. (I gave her the choice of reading it on her own, and she chose to read it together.)

It's not only sex positive, but it is very inclusive about non-heterosexual relationships. The section on masturbation is lovely. I appreciate that there's a two-page illustration of tons of naked people (pseudo-realistic cartoons), and it's every kind of body you can imagine—elderly folks, handicapped, various ethnicities, skinny, fat. It gives a great sense of how we're different, yet so much the same.


I also appreciate that it has a sense of humor while keeping it very real. The title says it all, really, and "It's perfectly normal" is a theme that runs throughout the book.


Edit: Wow, just checked out the one-star reviews on Amazon. The fact that people have their panties in a bunch about it should be proof enough that it actually tells the honest truth.

Buy this set of books. Read them yourself. Then read them with your daughter, as much as you're ready for. Leave them out where she can look through them herself.

http://www.amazon.ca/Its-Not-Stork-Families-Friends/dp/0763633313/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_c

http://www.amazon.ca/Its-So-Amazing-Babies-Families/dp/0763613215/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_b/177-6181848-2944312

http://www.amazon.ca/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763644846

By the way, it's not the "bad kids" at school who know about this stuff. In fact, it was very likely to be my own kids, who were as far from "bad" as you can possibly imagine. They simply had the benefit of having two parents who were involved in teaching a variety of different sex ed courses, and who were never uncomfortable discussing it with them.

I still remember my kids running into the house one summer afternoon, yelling, "Mom, mom, (our neighbours' 7 and 9 year old girls) don't know what a condom is!"

I said, "So, what did you tell them?"

Very primly, my nine year old girl said, "I told them condoms are a barrier method of contraception."

And my seven year old son jumped in and said excitedly, "And I told them condoms are like balloons, but never ever write on them with permanent markers, because they'll POP!"

It's hilarious what kids take away at different ages!

Give your daughter the gift of accurate information about her body, about sex, and about relationships. Not only will you be doing her a favour by empowering her with facts, but you'll also be helping every other kid she might choose share this information with.

My daughter's now in Grade 11 and has had to correct more than one of her friends on some basic facts. Yes, you CAN get pregnant if you do it standing up. The first time is not a "freebie". The Pill won't protect you from STIs. Using a tampon doesn't mean you're not a virgin any more, and no, it won't migrate into your uterus and get lost up there. Always go out with friends, stick with them, and never leave a drink unattended. Exposing yourself on chat roulette is a Very Bad Idea.

As for what other kids (who are also not "bad kids") might tell your daughter... I once had a very entertaining afternoon listening through my window to one 9 year old boy who was very seriously explaining to another 9 year old boy that all babies are the same when they start growing in their mummy's bellies, but then boys get "outies" and girls get "innies" and that's why boys and girls fit together when they have sex. There's always some interesting stories going around the school yards! Better to give your kids the real story, yourself.

It's going to depend on how many students you have in a class and whether you are co-teaching, but I definitely agree with setting routines.

Have a procedure for where they should sit and wait for everyone to be there. Do you need to take attendance? Check for proper outfits/shoes? Do you have enough time for a warm up routine?

I personally follow a sports themed model just to keep myself sane - 2 weeks of soccer themed games, 2 weeks of football themed games, volleyball, basketball, etc., with fun cooperative or holiday/seasonal themed games built in throughout the year.

My go-to websites for game ideas are physedgames , pecentral , and mrgym .

Also, this book is seriously great and only about $20.

Good luck, sounds like they're keeping you busy!

I'm sorry you're going through this; in a way, I've been there. My SS was given an iPad at a young age with no restrictions on it, which of course did not set him up for success in this area. I was the one who discovered some inappropriate googling (nothing too extreme, it was actually innocent in a way), so I texted DH, gave him the heads up, and added the child protection stuff myself. That was a year or two ago, and SS11 is just now going to be getting his Safari and YouTube back, but of course with child protection filter and a clear set of rules (no iPad in the bedroom, no headphones without permission). DH has also been good about having talks with him regarding internet safety, etc. BM is clearly uncomfortable with such conversations and generally does nothing.

I guess this isn't necessarily helpful since you are wanting to step away from this, but maybe talk to DH about adding the security stuff yourselves? Or you could perhaps ban the tech from your house until it is addressed?

We also bought my SS this book which I highly recommend: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763644846

I feel like this comment is all over the place. Good luck!

I think the above poster has a great idea for how to start the conversation with her, but I would suggest against getting her one of her own simply because of how young she is.

For one since she is so young she runs the risk of becoming desensitized and when she does finally have sex it could be more difficult for her to come without it. Another reason is the issue of opening herself up to problems if her daughter ever tells someone about it or shows it to a friend or heaven forbid lets a friend use it. I can see how someone could misinterpret it and before you know it you have CPS at your door and you are being investigated for child abuse.

My best friend is a sex educator and she suggest that you talk with her about masturbation and encourage her to explore herself but that toys at this age is just too young. She suggested I get this book for my daughter and it helped a LOT. It's Perfectly Normal

You might consider a book like "It's Perfectly Normal" to give to your son. It does a great job educating preteens about sex, birth control, sexting, puberty, etc. It could be a great segue to a discussion on sexuality and porn.

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763644846

For someone with Asperger's you will generally want something that has lots of visuals and good information. A book is a good choice (as opposed to just talking) in general because it lets the preteen reference back to it whenever he/she is interested, without having to ask awkward questions.

I happen to be fond of It's Perfectly Normal which is detailed and comprehensive without being overwhelming. It is a bit cartoony, but that allows it to have actual visuals that are accurate, while still being age appropriate and not porn (i.e., they can have drawings of penises instead of photos of pensises).

Strongly recommended.

(If you look at the amazon rating, it's only because a bunch of people put up 1-star reviews because they were offended that the book covers topics like masturbation.)

Books I like (and so does my daughter):

My Princess Boy by Cheryl Kilodavis and Suzanne DeSimone

In Our Mothers' House by Patricia Polacco

The Family Book by Todd Parr

William's Doll by Charlotte Zolotow

It's Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley

And pretty much everything Leslea Newman has ever written for kids. :)

Buy him "It's Perfectly Normal" and read it with him. It is a great book and our ten year old daughter loved it.

Therapy is an excellent idea. The fact that he's unwilling to talk about his bio father is reason enough. If you suspect abuse then definitely get him some professional support.

I know his response seems too big for the problem but if you look at it from his perspective he just got "caught" doing something he might not fully understand or have embarrassed or shameful feelings about; maybe even some worry about getting into trouble. (Not that you did anything to suggest it was wrong or bad, but kids just get sucked into those tracks of thinking). And then to have to have a talk about it...that night...gah! His preteen head just couldn't handle it. I'm not saying your concern about his response isn't valid; however had the discussion happened the next day or evening he might have been more able to manage his emotions and been more receptive. With my own kiddo often little time and space from a difficult situation helps defuse the emotion and makes him more willing to have a conversation.

Going forward - get a couple of books:
It's Perfectly Normal
Boy's Guide to Becoming a Teen

Then open up the conversation again, "the other night when we talked you got pretty upset and that's ok, I understand. I got you a couple of books and marked a few pages that you might want to read. You know I love you and I know these conversations might be uncomfortable for you, but I'm always here to answer questions or give advice. You don't need to feel embarrassed" Leave him the with books, let him know you'll check in with him later in the week to see if he has any questions; make a point to keep it causal.

Later in the week check-in. "Did you have a chance to read any of those books?" Got any questions?"
Then be sure to check in every few weeks. Doesn't need to be naggy; he just needs to know you're there and willing to answer his questions honestly.

Also, be sure read the books before you give them to him. They use a lot of simple language to explain complex topics which is super helpful for all.

BTW: your kiddo is pretty lucky to have you in his life. My personal situation is a bit similar and I will be forever grateful to my Dad for adopting me and raising me as his own. There's nothing better than knowing you have someone in your life that doesn't have to be there, but chose to be.

YAAAAAY!!! I'd like to thank my mother, for sliding a book titled It's Perfectly Normal under my door and yelling "IT'S MORE THAN MY MOTHER DID FOR ME" when I had my first period <3

I would like to suggest It's Perfectly Normal - it's illustrated and might feel a little childish at first, but it depicts really, really healthy attitudes about bodies, sexuality, consent, abortion, masturbation, intimacy, all kinds of stuff. Geared for pre-teens and teens, but full of info for all ages.

It's Perfectly Normal

One of the best ones I've found.

Did it before Junior high. Then when he got there I got him a great book and made him read it.

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing... https://www.amazon.com/dp/0763644846?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

I read it first just to see what's in it and man it goes over a ton of stuff. In depth and in a way they can understand all the stuff.

Books. There's a book my mom gave me when she didn't want to deal with this stuff herself, and they're fantastic. It's Perfectly Normal was really helpful for me around her age, and it tackles issues like masturbation in a positive but age-appropriate way.

My mom tossed me this book when I was 9.
http://www.amazon.com/Its-Perfectly-Normal-Changing-Growing/dp/0763644846
I was hella thankful to be given accurate and mature information at a young age.

8 seems a little unnecessarily young. I waited until my kid was around 10-11 and bought this book.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0763644846/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I really recommend it. It covers a lot of stuff and is very educational.

Big Mouth is a funny show but it's not an educational tool. I mean would you recommend your kid watching American Pie to learn about sex?

While not a parent myself, if I wanted to introduce the topic of sex into conversations with my child, I would start with a book that's easy for them to understand. Maybe start with a book like this and let your kids know they can always come to you with any questions.

It's Perfectly Normal

When I was about 10, I had an autographed copy of Arnold's fitness book for kids: http://www.amazon.com/Arnolds-Fitness-Kids-Age-6-10/dp/0385422679

I moved around a lot and it got lost. I wish I still had it because I could probably get about tree fiddy karma for a picture of it.

I got a book as well. This one, in fact.

So I hop on amazon because I was curious how the book was reviewed, and it turns out this is not her first. I'm not going to spoil the surprise, but note her pic in OP's link then follow mine

http://www.amazon.com/Seventeen-500-Health-Fitness-Tips/dp/1588167682/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1463329131&sr=8-2&keywords=Meghann+Foye

Any anger you have about her nerve to write such drivel will melt into laughter when you see what her last book was

Age Group: 10 & up

This is the book

Source: my own childhood!

Lose Your Mummy Tummy has exercises for post-partum. It covers diastasis and just the normal mommy pooch.

This book was mandatory reading in 4th grade at my school. My mom bought a copy for home and read it with me just so I understood the content.

After that it was whatever porn my older brother failed to close after using the computer.

take a look at all of things Arnold did for children and explain to me why you think he's a poor choice. here's a quick link to when he launched childrens activity programs in california to combat obesity. https://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/health/spotlighthealth/2002-11-15-schwarzenegger-obesity_x.htm

edit: here's a book he wrote for child excersice. https://www.amazon.com/Arnolds-Fitness-Kids-Age-11-14/dp/0385422687

and another: https://www.amazon.com/Arnolds-Fitness-Kids-Age-6-10/dp/0385422679