Reddit mentions of Broken Toys: Submissives With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction

There's a book on this exact topic including input from those with BPD issues. Stories of kink and condition breathing the same air and partially from the view of partners which is also invaluable. Broken Toys by Raven Kaldera. And Mastering Mind is companion for the dominant side especially good if your Switching at times as well. Kindles available. Part of a series of 4 with one each for physically disabled dominants and subs too (Hell on Wheels and Kneeling in Spirit).

https://www.amazon.com/Broken-Toys-Submissives-Neurological-Dysfunction-ebook/dp/B013PQCP08/ref=pd_sim_351_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=EBCTDAEW69HZ1SS2BN00

https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Mind-Dominants-Neurological-Dysfunction-ebook/dp/B00PG5DZCY

These resources might be able to help you and you Sir. The two books are ones that I read in my own training to be a better Dom. They have been instrumental in helping me deal with my sub's mental issues and my own as well. My own ability to care for myself was revolutionized by these two books along with caring for others. There is real life changing and life saving information in here.

I am not affiliated with the authors or Amazon in any way. I am not trying to sell anything. I simply want to share information that has helped me and others.

Mastering Mind: Dominants With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00PG5DZCY/ref=oh…

Broken Toys: Submissives With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B013PQCP08/ref=oh…

Additional groups I like that you might find useful are:

BDSM Depression and other Mental Disorders
https://fetlife.com/groups/1496

Past Abuse / Present Pain
https://fetlife.com/groups/5258

Psychology & BDSM
https://fetlife.com/groups/5852

I agree with you 100%. I should elaborate on what I meant by saying that I try to not kink shame.

Things like diapers, blood play, watersports, CBT, fisting etc are things that I don't personally understand, but I try to not say "wtf ew gross??" when I encounter it. I try to not judge people who engage in proper SSC just because I personally don't understand it.

But things like forced breeding and actual, literal, slavery deserves a SOLID dose of kink shaming.

I recently read a thread here on reddit about paedophilia (I think it was on /r/ChangeMyView) and an actual pedo said that he uses age play to get release. Edit: here's the thread. "I feel sympathetic towards virtuous pedofiles". Obvious trigger warning. The comment I described is the top comment. Barf.

I have previously been open about age play because I'm a bit bratty and semi DDLG and I personally enjoy the age regress and being playful (it's a bit therapeutic, but I struggle with anxiety and depression and I know a lot of other "littles" do as well, even though I'm 35 years old), so I can understand age play on some level, but that comment made me full stop rethink it all.

I have a lot of issues trying to reconcile my kinks with my very firm radfem beliefs, I think I have a long way to go, I think a lot of the things I enjoy come from a dark place. Just so that's clear (because I know people are going to jump down my throat as soon as I mentioned DDLG).

I'm very open to have a discussion about this, anyone is free to PM me, or maybe we should start a thread. I know BDSM and radfem do not go together. My kinks were formed at a very early age (about the age of 9), and I have mental health issues and was physically abused as a child, so I KNOW that a lot of them (maybe all of them) come from an unhealthy place. A lot of the people in the scene have mental history and a history of self harm. I only know the submissive mindset so I don't know how doms think. But the person I described clearly has some huge fucking issues.

So yes I agree with you that kink shaming needs to make a return. It used to be about the things that I described, but now it's turned into not being able to criticise or question anything.

Regarding mental illnesses and submissive roles, I came across this book

"Broken Toys: Submissives With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction" I really want to read it, I think it will do me a lot of good, but I currently can't afford to splurge on books, but hopefully soon.

Just plugging it because I think it will be an interesting read for anyone who are radfem.


>How soon before paedophilia mustn't be 'kink-shamed' on the grounds that some children are shown to enjoy it?

I know people who use this rhetoric. I only know of one person (one person too many) in my local BDSM community who actually believes this, but he's not active in the BDSM club but he goes to fetish parties. He says that paedophiles are persecuted, that people who oppose it are ageists etc. He also says that videos and pictures of sexual abuse of children should be shared to uncover abuse. If it's not shared, then no one knows... But that's a whole different discussion.

I agree with you. We need to kink shame things that are CLEARLY abusive, like the situation I described. If a woman engages in certain BDSM activities because she's self destructive we should speak up and shut down on the "You're kink shaming!" bullshit. People who are self destructive engage in a lot of harmful behaviour, like drug abuse. We wouldn't condone of a women choosing to use heroin, we would try to help her.

I was absolutely nauseous during my conversation with him about this. We have also talked about pornography and his stance on that is also "but she chose it!".

It's very clear to me that a lot of men excuse their abusive and misogynistic behaviour with BDSM.

I can't say too much as I'm still struggling with this myself but I recommend the book Broken toys by Raven Kaldera and Del Tashlin. They have some good advice and more than that, it helped me not feel so alone with these issues.

https://www.amazon.com/Broken-Toys-Submissives-Neurological-Dysfunction-ebook/dp/B013PQCP08/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=broken+toys&qid=1566233829&s=gateway&sr=8-1

There's answer excellent book on this very subject, it's called Broken Toys, I got it for kindle and it's an awesome read for any Dom(me) into BDSM that has a sub with mental illness. You should check it out and have your Dom check it out.

Edit: Here's a link to it: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B013PQCP08/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1511801599&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=broken+toys

CPSD, panic disorder, manic depression 😅 feeling like I may want a full time Daddy to retain the illness out of my mind
Using positivity and online CBT worksheets online helps but therapy is an indispensable resource ✌️

That went on longer 😅 but I wanted to add a book suggestion for bottoms struggling with mental illness if anyone's interested ❤️

Broken Toys: Submissives With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction

Mastering Mind: Dominants With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction

I think this varies from person to person, but in most cases I think it can be helpful if addressed correctly. I've recently started reading a book that addresses this particular issue (BDSM and mental illness).

If you're interested, the kindle version is quite cheap.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B013PQCP08/ref=tmm_kin_title_0?ie=UTF8&qid=&sr=