Reddit mentions of Broken Trust: …a practical guide to identify and recover from toxic faith, toxic church, and spiritual abuse (The Overcoming Series: Spiritual Abuse, Book 4)

This is problematic. It is far more important for you and your husband to be unified together and going to a church where you both feel God leading you as a couple.

I am even concerned that this pastor may at some point try to manipulate your husband to leave you, sadly, justifying it as "God's will" because of your rebellion or whatever other tactic he chooses. The fact your husband is staying and you have left is dangerous for your marriage.

Here is a book that is an excellent resource online that I think you and your husband should both read together that will hopefully be enlightening and really helpful. It is called "Broken Trust. . . a practical guide to identify and recover from toxic faith, toxic church, and spiritual abuse" ($2.99 on kindle)

https://www.amazon.com/Broken-Trust-practical-spiritual-Overcoming-ebook/dp/B073491BLN