Reddit mentions of How To Be A 3% Man, Winning The Heart Of The Woman Of Your Dreams

If you are interested in a book, [The 3% Man] (https://www.amazon.com/Winning-Heart-Woman-Your-Dreams/dp/0692552669/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1501271173&sr=1-1&keywords=the+3+man) is one that I have heard men describe which pretty much hits the nail on the head.

Well first off, I don't see the ultimate goal as just having sex. I see the goal as finding a women to grow in a relationship with, that doesn't have to be your goal, but that's how I look at it. I just want to try to get some dates and see where it goes, I don't have raging success but I'm lightyears away from the shut in I was 6 months ago. Women can offer you much more then just sex, even if it's just a simple conversation that leads to nothing.

You mention a sort of one and done with sex, that's certainly not what I'm looking for, but if that's what you want, I'd imagine today's dating services and hookup culture could help make it work. Just got to get out there. Yes, the struggles will be there, but track your progress and give yourself pats on the back. You used a Mt Everest analogy, just think of the progress and growth you'll have after completing that climb. It certainly won't be as hard the second time, right? And if a girl is having sex with you you are fairly likely to be able to get another date or whatever if that's what you want.

> Consider this: Can you tell me how much work does an extroverted man have to put in to do the same thing?

Probably a lot less, but there is no equality. Just focus on improving yourself, compare you to you. Personally, I try my absolute best to look at things from a growth standpoint. I used to be scared to approach even women that I already knew, I would have trouble holding conversations with anyone, scared to express myself and the like. But I improved, I talk to more people(anyone), I calmed down my toxic inner voice, etc. and I'm quite proud of the progress I've made so far. I won't presume to know your situation or the struggles you've had but you can improve too.

> I don't agree that the "less outspoken" guy with social limitations should automatically accept being lower value.

I absolutely agree with this, I'm sorry if I implied otherwise. Make your own value, don't let your self-worth be defined by others. Kind of off tangent but I made a concerted effort to improve my posture a few months back and I was shocked at how much better I felt, and the reactions I got from not just women but men was much better, much to my surprise. No one will believe in you if you don't believe in yourself.

There's a lot to be said about this stuff man and I certainly don't have all the answers, but I would just say to go out there and be the man you want to be and damn what anyone else thinks. There are billions of women out there, more then enough that you can find one where you both suit eachother. There is only one /u/Aeon199, be the best you can be.

Before I go I'll just recommend some books(and a youtube channel) that helped me turn my life around so to speak.

1. Corey Wayne's "How to be a 3% Man"
   
   • (I got it for 10 bucks on IBook) At first glance it's a trash dating book that's bound to be full of bullshit. But it helped me immensely to understand women and get my passion back. At the absolute least, I urge you to check out his youtube channel, he has many, many helpful videos. He's not perfect, sometimes you'll shake your head, but the dude changed my life and he recommended both the other books I'm gonna list. Here's a video, maybe not his best but it seems relevant, and I enjoyed it when I watched a little while back. "See yourself as a High Value Person" Edit: Also Never Doubt Your Own Value
     
     
2. Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People"
   
   • Absolute classic. Helps you to fine tune your social skills giving real life examples of the tips it provides. Easy to find and can get it cheap, I got it for 3 bucks in IBook. I think they should make people read this one in high school, I know that college business classes sometimes have it as required reading. Dramatically helped me improve my social skills in general.
     
     
3. David Deida's "How to be a Superior Man"
   
   • This one is a little heavy, it's not a dating or social advice book per se, it's more of a guidebook about what masculinity is, I feel like I understand myself much better after reading it. From the passion you feel from watching a touchdown in football(just an example) to your drive to accomplish to your raw attraction to particular females, this book goes into it. It gets spiritual and perhaps a little loony a bit later in the book but it's really good. I recommend you read it if you like the first two.

No but Rationale Male is. It's a little higher reading level then book of Pook but has similar content.

https://www.amazon.com/Rational-Male-Rollo-Tomassi/dp/1492777862

also 3% man is good.

https://www.amazon.com/Winning-Heart-Woman-Your-Dreams/dp/0692552669/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1502465369&sr=1-1&keywords=3%25+man

It helped me to understand what it means to be an emotionally-centered, confident man, and what women are actually attracted to.

I didn't have a clue about these things growing up. My father was emotionally unavailable, I was teased in school for being skinny, and I enjoyed video games and reading more than sports or cars. There wasn't a good masculine role model in my life.

This left me unprepared for high school, and when I did find girls that were attracted to me, I didn't know what to do with them. I figured if I acted like the jerks that I grew up with, they would like me. Turns out they just thought I was a jerk (go figure).

My lack of success and insecurities with women continued into college, but instead of acting like a jerk, I would end up being a doormat. I wasn't until my first "relationship" ended that I decided I needed to fix this part of my life and read the book.

It made me do a total 180 in terms of what I thought was expected of me as a man. Like removing a veil over my eyes. I recommended it to a friend and it did the same for him. I'm in a much healthier place now, mentally and physically, and my self-esteem is high. It's not something that changes overnight, but over time.

Two more books that I've read more recently which are also great are No More Mr. Nice Guy and The 3% Man

Excuse me sir, I'm afraid falling down from stairs especially in a PRISON is unlikely to happen. And hitting others is totally not tolerable and whoever did it will face solitary confinement and being taken to Max prison afterwards. So you're pretty safe inside there wink

Speaking of guitars, I just remember my brother did learn a few guitar lessons before. Months later he quitted it, probably lost of interests already. So we have a spare guitar lying somewhere inside the store room waiting to be dusted. I tried to sell it online but to no avail. But I'm not really fond of it.

I wanted to learn violin last year. I decided to give out after enquiring few music centers. It's quite costly but it's still affordable for me, but the thing is they told me violin takes years to master it. I did know every instrument needs a long time to practise. They recommend me to learn guitar instead. Because violin is like piano, it's best to learn when you're still a little kid. As a big fan of classical musics and opera, this bad news hit me hard. That's only the reason why I wanted to learn violin though. But anyway, I still enjoy these musics as usual. But I wish I had the chance to watch them live. The countries which nearest to mine and helding the concert are either Japan or Australia. I prefer Australia, then I'll have the chance to watch it in Sydney Opera House. Wooooooooo. Never been to Australia. But not so fast yet, this short trip is gonna cost me about 1 year gross pocket money.(Maybe a 4D3N trip) Holy Mother Of God, that's a lot! In order to achieve my maybe biggest dream, I'm learning stocks right now. I planned a 10k portfolio which will be carried out several months later. Hopefully, it will bring me enough profit for the next year's trip. But I still have another problem- my parents. Well y'know my parents are kinda conservative, I doubt they will let their child travel along to another country.

There's no need for a CD if you don't have or miss it, google it and you will the HD version which I did. I know it's pirating, but... that's the only way for me.

Watch out we got a badass over here! Now I need to get a revolver inside my holster. Preparing for a future dueling. Hehe.

The sub will die out soon or maybe eventually few years later, once the community stops making arts. Comic is the one going to die out first, then maybe fanfics and arts. It's rare to find new comics now, but I'm glad I bookmarked alot of comics before. About comics, I know there's only 5 left which are still making and updating. Savage Company, PL PG, Spintherella's, Kulkum's, and Mead cooperating with Anon's. Not sure there's more or not, these are what I have in mind, at 1:30am. You're scared of those stuff, don't you? evil laughs

I don't have any love experience before. But I do have few ideas that might help you. First off, I want to know do you like or love her. It has different meaning. The previous one is maybe lust; the latter is like we said 'My Judy' someone you want to live with her forever. Or maybe you like the characteristics of her, and wanna be friends with that sweet little girl? I'll leave it that for you. For tips how to approach girls, I just have a nice book which will do the job flawlessly. This book might be a little costly. Oh and the author has a Youtube channel too, here. I bookmarked this book long before, maybe I'll buy it somewhere in future.

Anytime man, I'm already started my holiday.