Reddit mentions of How To Fall Out Of Love - New Revised Second Edition

https://www.amazon.com/How-Fall-Out-Love-Revised-ebook/dp/B00BFMJLNO

Damn, are you me? My ex broke up with me 3 months ago and it was out of the blue. I only noticed afterwards that she had slowly been receding. We were long distance so it's hard to tell when something is up.

But yeah. She actually found someone else a month literally after our break up, and we were together for 2 years. I didn't understand how she could've gone onto another person so quickly while I was still struggling to ACCEPT the fact that we were broken up.

It sucks a lot and it feels like you just got sucker punched in the gut when you weren't looking. I'm going to skip the "time heals" lecture and give you some solid shit to go by that helped pull me out of my dark pit of crying.

1. Running is a necessity. Already running? Run more. Just take my word for this one. It'll help you mentally AND physically.
   
2. Work out (lifting weights) . Running is fantastic on its own, but if you work out you can not only help shape your body and keep it healthy, but it also helps you mentally just like running.
   
   
3. Eat healthy. Forget about diets. Avoid fast-food and other junk and put in fresh fruits, vegetables, and meats as you can. Eating healthy mixed in with running and working out is not only going to help you get healthier but it helps you FEEL better.
   
   
4. Go out and try more things. Go make new friends. Go be nice. There's a lot of tremendous shitty feelings that you're going through. Helping other people and making new friends will help with that.
   
   
5. Take time to REALLY understand what happened. I think this is one of the most crucial things. If you understand what went wrong and how each person contributed, you can get better from it.
   
   
6. Don't beat yourself up, seriously. I know you have a lot of regrets, what ifs, and memories jogging through your mind. And getting the advice "move on" isn't really advice at all. You have to learn to accept that yes, there were some faults you contributed to the relationship but that's okay! You're human!! You NEED to make mistakes. That is the only way you'll learn. These things are now out of your control and a thing of the past. And that is one thing why feel so hopeless afterwards. But you can channel those experiences into something of positive note. You can take what you learned and did wrong and avoid doing so in the future. You can take what he did wrong and avoiding those kinds of people in the future.
   
   I personally don't like how people "hate" their exes afterwards (unless it's for an extreme reason). Don't try to have a negative outlook on this person. This was the person you gave your heart to and more so. And you did so for a reason. Acknowledge that you loved him for a reason but that reason is no longer there. He is not the same person anymore and he's still putting you in a difficult spot after all of this.
   
   Have good intentions and just do your best to make yourself happy and people around you. I know you want closure but you're not going to get it. Especially not from him. My ex left me out of the blue, like I had said. But she told me because she wasn't ready and said she wanted to figure herself out. Just very bland reasons overall. She then proceeds to block me from all communication but a month later she decides to message me. And she asks what i'm up to and how i'm doing and such. I get on my old fb account and I find out that she's already in a relationship with another guy. But she never mentioned it in our chat. And what I had to do next was painful but worth it. I just blocked her from contacting me. It sucked because I really wanted closure from talking to her but I got nothing.
   
   I knew from then on that I wasn't going to get closure from her. But that was also when I realized that I needed to make my own closure. And this is where you start putting in the effort to help yourself.
   
   If you ever need to talk to someone, you can pm me.
   
   edit: Also grab this book ASAP. I know the title's cheesy but just trust me on this one.
   http://www.amazon.com/How-Fall-Out-Love-Revised-ebook/dp/B00BFMJLNO/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1422230727&sr=8-1&keywords=how+to+fall+out+of+love