Reddit mentions of Imperial Barber Grade Products Matte Pomade Paste, 5 oz

Don't wash it every time you shower, for starters. Just get it wet and then dry it normally and you'll keep some of the grime intact. Your hair sounds nearly identical to mine and I have the same problem. I wash it every 3-4 days and it helps. I also use Imperial Matte pomade every other day or so, and definitely after a wash and condition.

Thanks, dude! Imperial Matte Pomade + blowdryer + a little hairspray on the edges and back corner to keep em from falling down.

you can go for this haircut by Logic, which is a little short but you could still style them. You can try out the Imperial Matte pomade paste to make your hair a little nicer than it already is. I wrote a review of it here

I've had luck with this product. It's a matte pomade and you can run your fingers through it. Another perk is that it smells great. You can prolly find it cheaper else where online, but I use Amazon for the quick two day shipping.

I don't think you are anywhere near the buzzing stage yet. However, I do think you could experiment with a shorter hairstyle with more layers on top and a bit tighter on the sides. I don't have any insight of course into your genetics and where your hair will be in in 1, 5, 10 years but I recommend the following:

• ditch the volumizing spray and shampoos and regimens. I think this has minimum effect on your hair and can add to being overly focused on the issue (if in fact you do have MPB)
  
  
• get your haircut with a bit of messy texture on top in a style like this. This will be easy to maintain and the haircut itself does the volumizing for you.
  
  
• if you do put product in your hair, use (just a little of) a matte molding paste like this or this
  
  Good luck, man. Your case honestly doesn't seem that bad but I understand of course that these things are all personal and subjective with ourselves.