Reddit mentions of Lessons from the Fat-o-sphere: Quit Dieting and Declare a Truce with Your Body

> "two whole cakes-lessons from the fat o sphere"
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> That is a book!?

That is two books, actually. Truthfully, "book" might be a generous description - they appear to essentially be collections of blog posts rendered in hard copy, in order to swindle fat people who want reassurance that nothing is wrong with them, that fat is healthy, that they don't have to lose weight, that doctors are bad and wrong about obesity, and so on.

http://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Fat-sphere-Dieting-Declare/dp/0399534970

http://www.amazon.com/Two-Whole-Cakes-Dieting-Learn/dp/1558617930

That's one side of the story. Not the only one. It is the side that is blessed by our fatphobic culture.

http://www.amazon.com/Obesity-Myth-Americas-Obsession-Hazardous/dp/1592400663?tag=duckduckgo-d-20

http://www.amazon.com/Health-At-Every-Size-Surprising/dp/1935618253/ref=pd_sim_b_1

www.amazon.com/Rethinking-Thin-Science-Loss-Realities/dp/B002GJU35U/ref=pd_sim_b_4

www.amazon.com/Lessons-Fat-sphere-Dieting-Declare/dp/0399534970/ref=pd_sim_b_5

http://www.amazon.com/FAT-SO-Because-Dont-Apologize/dp/0898159954/ref=pd_sim_b_6

I have the same struggle. I recently received a gift card to Kohl's (they have a respectable, if not huge, plus size section) and decided to get some new things for fall, and god did I have to work hard to keep myself from spiraling downward. I find that one thing that helps a lot is reminding myself that if things don't fit or work for me, then that's not my fault. Blame the clothes, not your body. Also, I've recently made a personal rule for myself that I will not buy things that I don't love. I'd rather have two pairs of pants that I love than five that make me sigh with resignation whenever I wear them.

Also, I highly recommend the book Lessons from the Fat-O-Sphere. It really changed my perspective on a lot of things. If you have an e-reader, PM me and I'll send you a digital copy. Actually, even if you don't I'll convert it to pdf and you can read it on your computer. :)

I read! a lot! my favorite blog is http://danceswithfat.wordpress.com but i also read books- i highly highly recommend lessons from the fatosphere by kate harding and marianne kirby. I've also read Fat!So? by Marilyn Wann, The obesity Myth by Paul Campos. Health at Every Size by Linda Bacon PhD, and I'm currently reading Fat The Owner's Manual by Ragen Chastain and Fat Sex by Rebecca Jane Weinstein.

I also write... I write for three body positive blogs- my own, fierce freethinking fatties, and axis of fat. So I writ eout my insecurities and my strengths and I try my best to get back on track.

I can't recommend Lessons From The Fat-O-Sphere enough! OP, here's a link if you like. Another great one in the same vein is Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls. If your gyno says you're good to go, then I wouldn't worry too much. Obviously improving your health in general is a good goal, but don't tie your self-worth to it. You're already great.