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Found 21 comments on Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's:

u/stripethrowaway · 9 pointsr/RedPillWomen

Have you looked into autism in general? Being in a close relationship with someone who is not neurotypical is difficult and I don't know if doing things with the RPW toolbox will necessarily help. Autism requires a schedule, structure, and a direct form of communication from a logical standpoint.

Based on what I've seen of people on the spectrum in my family and their relationships, the most successful relationship I've seen was actually where the wife acted in far different than a "RPW" way; almost like a manager. Their home is clean, they seem happy, their son is doing well. The least successful; they've been married for almost 20 years and they don't speak, she's cheating, and she's allowed his hobbies to take over the home and between his random hobbies of collecting various things and his failed small business attempts, the house is like an episode of hoarders, and their daughter is open about how miserable she is on social media.

This is anecdotal, and by no means fact. I'm just not sure whether submissive sexual strategy is going to fix this.

There's a chance that he's centered his curiosity on too many things at once and unguided, people on the spectrum can overwhelm themselves. Sounds like this could be happening to him. I don't know how or why he's so against getting diagnosed, in the States it could qualify him for state help and getting a therapist could help him deal with sensory overload. It's as far as I know, illegal to discriminate against autistic people.

This is an amazing book on the experience of someone on the spectrum, by the way, I highly recommend it!

u/Demonkey44 · 9 pointsr/autism

https://www.theatlantic.com/amp/article/406180/

You are not defective. That would imply that being neurotypical is better. I don’t believe that, except that society’s constructs make it easier to be neurotypical.

One of the coolest guys, who designed the guitars for the rock band Kiss was autistic with Asbergers. You have hidden talents and ways that your brain can organize information that are superior to a neurotypical. You just have to find the way that works for you and train yourself to do it. These books are Asbergers related, I’m not sure what kind of autism you have but they are a good read.

https://www.amazon.com/Look-Me-Eye-Life-Aspergers/dp/0307396185

https://www.amazon.com/Journal-Best-Practices-Marriage-Asperger/dp/1439189749

Good luck and feel better!

u/roast_spud · 9 pointsr/books

Psychology (studied, but never practiced)

Here are a selection of interesting books:

u/Shark7996 · 6 pointsr/aspergers

First thing for you to remember: You are the same person you have always been. If you really do have Aspergers, then you always have. This changes nothing.

You might want to get a 'professional' diagnosis, at least then you'll know for certain and you'll have actual proof.

Alright, supposing you do have Aspergers. Where do you go from here? I'd say this could be a good opportunity to dig into some self-improvement. There are plenty of forums (just like this one) full of autistic people going through a lot of the same situations as you. I'm one of them! If you have any questions on, say, "How do I respond to this in a conversation", etc, ask away.

I'm sure there are also books on the subject - but honestly, it's nothing I've read up on. I just sort of played it by ear as I went. Although I did read the book Look Me in the Eye and enjoyed it a good bit. It might not teach you much about handling autism itself, but it'll give you someone to relate to, and John Elder Robison really made something of himself.

Other tips? Study people! Figure out what draws you to someone or turns you off from someone else. Try to take steps to act more like the people you like. (This should actually go for everyone ever, but it also applies here!)

As far as eye contact goes, try actually thinking about eye contact when you're having conversations. Learn to not look at "their eyes", look at "those round white spheres with a black dot in the middle", or their forehead, or their head as a whole. The action of directing your eyes at theirs isn't what's difficult, it's the thought of looking at their eyes. So just give it some practice, focus on it, and you'll get better.

Sarcasm? Sarcasm can be tricky for anyone. If someone says something with a strange tone of voice, or if what they said doesn't make sense for some reason, take a moment to think about the possibility that they were just kidding. If you're looking over a ledge and your friend says "Hey, jump off", obviously that wouldn't make sense, they're probably joking. Stuff like that.

As far as stress having your routine disrupted - that's actually something I struggle with a bit myself, and I personally don't have a great fix for it. If you can, see about finding something happy or distracting to preoccupy yourself with during the distraction. If you're able, maybe text a close friend, or if not, replay in your head some favorite scenes from a movie you like.

Hopefully this is actual the start of some good changes for you. It's not a disease, and it's not a sentence! It's just who you are.

Bless.

u/hmpf_to_that_friend · 6 pointsr/aspergers

Not who you wrote to, but I read "Look Me in the Eye" by John Elder Robison and it was a revelation. He was also diagnosed late in life. I knew when I saw the book's title in a bookstore that this was going to be about That Thing that I'd tried to deal with too, and had so many failures with.

It's an excellent read!

u/LeEyeballKid · 4 pointsr/autism

A lot of people will suggest The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time, which is a fine book, but the author didn't do enough research and was just writing a novel.

I'd recommend John Elder Robison's books. He has wrote multiple memoirs and lives a very vivid life; he, his son, and possibly (don't remember if she was diagnosed) his son's mother are all autistic. I loved the books, and I've never seen myself or connected with a book like I did with his. His books aren't hard to read and I believe there are four in total.

The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time:
https://www.amazon.com/Curious-Incident-Dog-Night-Time/dp/1400032717

Look Me in the Eye:
https://www.amazon.com/Look-Me-Eye-Life-Aspergers/dp/0307396185

u/jasonleigh9 · 2 pointsr/advertising

I just finished reading Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's and if your experience is similar, you'll probably be great at advertising. John had to learn how to interact with other people by observing as an outsider, which is a super useful skill for advertising. You might also consider exploring the art side of things, and getting good at InDesign and Photoshop.

u/Nomdermaet · 2 pointsr/specialed

I've been a special education teacher for 10 years and I haven't found anything like what you are describing. However, two books that helped me understand what some of my students have to deal with are Overcoming Dyslexia and Look Me in the Eye

Also the Wrightslaw website that deals with Special Education Law. I've used that quite a bit

u/lia043 · 2 pointsr/aspergirls

John Elder Robison is the brother of Augusten Burroughs (who you might know as the author of “Running with Scissors”) and is on the spectrum.

John has this book called “Look me in the eye,” which got good reviews and is about his experience living with ASD. I read a snippet of it and keep meaning to go back to read more (because his writing style is witty/funny, like his brother’s, and what he writes about is also very relatable).

Here’s a link to the book if you’re interested:

https://www.amazon.com/Look-Me-Eye-Life-Aspergers/dp/0307396185/ref=nodl_

u/bunfart90 · 2 pointsr/aspergers

this is actually known to be aspergers-specific (not saying that anyone who reacts this way is on the spectrum, but that aspies are more likely to react this way), also as documented by the memoir look me in the eye.

u/OwlishWisdomMW · 1 pointr/breakingmom

http://www.amazon.com/Look-Me-Eye-Life-Aspergers/dp/0307396185/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1451791511&sr=8-1&keywords=look+me+in+the+eye

It's one of my favorite books, it's written by the brother of Augusten Burroughs (Running with Scissors, Sellivision) who was diagnosed with asperger's well into his adulthood. There's some funny stories about how he viewed the world as a child and you can really get to see inside the mind of someone with the disorder.

u/papakapp · 1 pointr/Reformed

If anyone has, or is friends with somebody with aspergers, read look me in the eye

Hilarious, informative and inspirational imo.

u/Instifly · 1 pointr/AdviceAnimals

You need to read the book Look Me in the Eye. Its a book about this guy growing up with Asbergers and having to grow up feeling different. I had to read it for my summer reading for university, but it was honestly one of the most interesting and changed my view on the whole subject, I'm extremely glad I did (its the only school assigned book I ever liked and that's saying something). If you haven't read it, I would pick it up and read it ASAP, the guy goes through the same stuff as you.

u/MercyRoseLiddell · 1 pointr/u_DanceswithStorms

I’m sorry you’ve had to go through all of that.

Although if 3 of your psych doctors think you have Aspergers, you probably do. From my understanding (from my own psych doctor) there isn’t really a test for it, rather than behavioral markers, thought and even speech patterns. There also isn’t much you can do for Aspergers other than behavioral therapy.

Source: I have Aspergers.

Some books that might give some more insight are:
https://www.amazon.com/All-Cats-Have-Asperger-Syndrome/dp/1843104814

And
https://www.amazon.com/Look-Me-Eye-Life-Aspergers/dp/0307396185

Look me in the eye is a story from someone who was diagnosed later in life.

u/crazyeddie123 · 1 pointr/AdviceAnimals

Hey, at least you didn't write a book in which you told the whole world that you wonder if you picked the right sister or not. While referring to your wife as "Unit 2" because she's the second oldest of three sisters.

Surprisingly, they're divorced now.

http://www.amazon.com/Look-Me-Eye-Life-Aspergers/dp/0307396185

u/civex · 0 pointsr/needadvice

What kind of therapy have you had? It's hard to find a therapist and therapy philosophy that works with who you are.

May I say that the word "confront" is perhaps troubling. There's generally no reason to "confront" someone, from my understanding of the word. If you don't want to be confrontational, I'll suggest that there's no reason to be. Maybe one of us misunderstands the word.

If someone says something that you agree with, how do you deal with it? I'd suggest the same approach when you disagree. There's no reason to analyze what others do or say, whether it bothers you or not. My suggestion is to suggest that different people have different ideas and behaviors; instead of "assessing" it, instead of seeing it as a problem, you might consider accepting differences as a given.

Abruptly withdrawing from all interaction is not a social behavior, for example. It's a behavior that bothers others, do you see? I don't know you, so I can only guess, but my guess is that you're somewhere on the Asperger's scale. I'd recommend a visit to someone who can evaluate you and come up with some ideas.

I wish you the best. You can improve. Whether you are diagnosed with Asperger's or not, let me recommend "Look Me in the Eye" by John Elder Robison as an example of someone who seems similar to you and who figured out how to have conversations and other social interactions.