Reddit mentions of Love Your Life Not Theirs: 7 Money Habits for Living the Life You Want

How much debt? Anyway, I'm with you - any amount is bad.

If she gets upset at you for giving good advice, I hate to say it but take it as a real cue about how long term your relationship is going to be - you're trying to help her and it doesn't sound like she respects your opinion, and it's not about a small insignificant thing. How she hands her money might affect you in the future because if you get married it will become your debt as well.

It also sounds like she feels like her options are limited and that piling on schooling will automatically result in success, regardless of the mound of debt that's accumulating. Maybe start by trying to talk to her about the motivation behind what she's doing, and where she things it is going to go. Sounds like she wants the easy path and doesn't admit to her failures.

On money, if it is the issue (I don't think it is) you might consider these books for her, which she could also take as a total slap in the face, but worth maybe a try:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310337429/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_taft_p1_i2

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1937077594/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1937077977/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1

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Also, consider attending Financial Peace University (https://www.financialpeace.com) together. Tell her it's something you're interested in, and you'd love it if she attended with you as a couple. I'm sure you'll hear plenty of other people talking about student loans and how they were saddled with debt. Maybe it would help her to hear from other people's stories.

Other books I might suggest that are helping me keep more of my income include:

America’s Cheapest Family

Cut your Grocery Bill in Half

MoneySmart Family System great for seeing how to teach financial education to your kids.

Love Your Life, not Theirs

The principles in these are helping my situation a bit. I’d check overdrive or your library for copies.

Get her the book:

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Your-Life-Not-Theirs/dp/1937077977