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I also had to quit GW2 due to it being too addicting. Personal two nickels: quitting video games cold turkey doesn't work, especially if you haven't changed your living environment, like the computer with all the potential games is right there in your house/apartment waiting to be played. It is an instant trigger reminding you to play again. My happy medium was strictly sticking to single-player games when I'm solo, and ONLY playing multiplayer/online games with people I have met and know in real life - as a way of socializing. Luckily the few friends that I have are busy and can only play on weekends so it's working out for now.

A few books that helped a TON in understanding why I had such a hard time quitting:

The Power of Habit

[Mini Habits] (https://www.amazon.com/Mini-Habits-Smaller-Bigger-Results-ebook/dp/B00HGKNBDK)

I hope it works out for you! IMO you are doing the correct thing getting back to old hobbies, but it definitely does take time.

I disagree with this guy, 5 minutes is better than nothing as getting started is the hard part. See the mini habits book.

Mini Habits: Smaller Habits, Bigger Results by Stephen Guise

Explains why motivation is not everything and you should not depend on it. Makes easier to develop habits.

Join the club, grab a sit. Try this book, might help. (https://www.amazon.com/Mini-Habits-Smaller-Bigger-Results-ebook/dp/B00HGKNBDK)[https://www.amazon.com/Mini-Habits-Smaller-Bigger-Results-ebook/dp/B00HGKNBDK]

I started reading it a few years ago and it sounded promising.

https://www.amazon.com/Mini-Habits-Smaller-Bigger-Results-ebook/dp/B00HGKNBDK


you might get a kick out of that book I posted, pretty much right in line with what you discovered by yourself, might have some additionally helpful info.

Read [Mini Habits: Smaller Habits, Bigger Results] (http://www.amazon.com/Mini-Habits-Smaller-Bigger-Results-ebook/dp/B00HGKNBDK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1413664270&sr=8-1&keywords=mini+habits+smaller+habits+bigger+results) by Stephen Guise.

I've done similar things to get out of depression. See also Mini Habits by Stephen Guise, great book.

I think this works for several reasons:

1. It is so small it seems doable, even with zero willpower.
   
2. You are making the tasks concrete which helps get you into an action-oriented mindset and out of a deliberative (will I do it?), ruminating mindset.
   
3. You do what you say you will, which builds self-trust and confidence that you can follow through on larger tasks. Many people are depressed in part because they keep saying they will do X and don't do it, so after a while they stop believing in their ability to do anything.

There's a book I read that had a similar philosophy: Mini Habits: Smaller Habits, Bigger Results https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00HGKNBDK/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_d1cLwbNYG382E

It's an intriguing idea. I'm more of a "focus on one thing at a time" kind of person. I take one habit and try to inculcate that in my routine, and then after few months, try to move to next.

https://www.amazon.in/Mini-Habits-Smaller-Bigger-Results-ebook/dp/B00HGKNBDK

This book helped me out a lot. I don't think it's for everybody, but in my case it worked.

This book explains that motivation is an unreliable source for action. Stephen Guise, Mini Habits: Smaller Habits, Bigger Results.

Set a daily minimum so that it's almost impossible not to meet it. Set one for what you eat and one for working out. For instance, for what you eat, your minimum habit is to drink one glass of water every day. For working out, your goal is three push ups every day. Once you get some success behind you, it will snowball from there and you will find yourself back in the swing of things. I highly recommend this book for details on this technique: Mini Habits

I would recommend the book Mini Habits, it does a great job of explaining why going cold turkey doesn't work, but incremental habits that are given time to become ingrained habits is the bets approach.

I do something I call 15/30. I have these cool timer blocks I set it to 30 minutes and I just play/do what I feel like, sometimes that is laying in bed feeling blah. Then when it goes off I do 15 minutes of "what I don't want to do but can't avoid." Repeat. The basic principal is reward yourself for doing what you can handle one bite at a time. It isn't a silver bullet. It doesn't make you feel like sunshine and butterflies, but at least some of the crap you have to do gets done and off your back. And that helps.

This is a good book if you are looking to explore the concept: Mini Habits (I think it is even free for prime members)

Read about mini habits:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00HGKNBDK?ie=UTF8&redirectFromSS=1&pc_redir=T1&noEncodingTag=1&fp=1
This helped me tremendously.

Mini habits
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This book really resonated with me. The gist is that people often fail because they choose too big. If you choose a smaller version of a habit that you are can garantee to be able to do on your worst day, you will start piling up the victories instead of failures.

He uses "one pushup" as an example. If your goal is one pushup per day, it's almost impossible to fail. Most of the time you will do far more once you get started but even on your worst day you can do one and have a win.

http://www.amazon.com/Mini-Habits-Smaller-Bigger-Results-ebook/dp/B00HGKNBDK

There. Thank me later.

Non-mobile: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00HGKNBDK?ie=UTF8&redirectFromSS=1&pc_redir=T1&noEncodingTag=1&fp=1

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Personal Development for Smart People by Steve Pavlina was the first self-improvement book I read and I really enjoyed it. It's pretty straight-forward and intelligently written. It's been a while since I read it, so I can't remember many specifics, but it helped me start to get my life back on track after being depressed for a while.

More recently, I read Mini Habits by Stephen Guise which really helped me with forming lasting habits.

Mini Habits is the highest rated habit book on Amazon (4.7 stars) because it works and has changed thousands of lives. It's the ultimate discipline book: the premise is consistency in action over quantity. Discipline needs to eventually become a subconscious function, as otherwise we'll run out of willpower. Mini Habits gets you to habit with easy, daily targets (preserving willpower while forming a base habit to build from).

My story: I do full workouts every day now. I started by doing one push-up a day. I read and write every day too because of my mini habits.

Disclaimer: I'm the author (and first beneficiary!) of Mini Habits. I wrote the post in the FAQ about motivation not being the start, which is a key part of the Mini Habits strategy.

> They know nothing of me, and I wish to keep things that way.

Well, that means you have a lot of privacy, use it!

Watch this you should take the time, then try to power-pose around 20 min a day, isn't much but it will change your thoughts (of course I don't mean 20 min straight, more like 2 min 10 times a day)

> I don't exactly do much [...]

read this it's great and free, and easily readable in a weekend. It's basically about how to actually do something, could also help with your "binge eating".

> I was clearly no good at it, so I gave up trying.

This is exactly the reason why you aren't good at anything.

Nobody is good at something at the first try, you have to work hard in order to get good at something. Pick something you like (and, in best case something that would also make a good job, but more importantly something you like), and then get really good at it, persistence is the key here.

> there are [...] things I can do comfortably on my own - [...] going to the local shop.

Well, if you buy something you surely have to speak (or, at the very least, somehow interact) with another human being. Smile. Try to smile to as much people as you can, and when there are no people seeing you, smile all the time (best case scenario: you smile all the time regardless of people seeing you)

> I always gave up on everything when the first try failed.

As I said earlier, persistence is the key. If you have some time, try to read the law of success by Napoleon Hill, available here as ebook, and here as audiobook (around 24 hours)

To your last paragraph, again, persistence is the key. If you are willing to spend some money, buy the book Mini Habits it basically teaches persistence through a rather unusual approach.

In case you can't click on the links, I'll list them here again:

Power-Pose : http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are

getting to do things : http://www.google.de/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=breaking%20out%20of%20homeostasis%20pdf&source=web&cd=3&ved=0CDAQFjAC&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.smashwords.com%2Fbooks%2Fdownload%2F362266%2F1%2Flatest%2F0%2F0%2Fbreaking-out-of-homeostasis-the-not-so-magic-pill-of-self-development.pdf&ei=Y2pzVO0Gx7w99ceBmAg&usg=AFQjCNF6-sqqzjEqmxF4whWsf7fWJotA9A&bvm=bv.80185997,d.ZWU&cad=rja

Law of success ebook : https://archive.org/details/Law_Of_Success_in_16_Lessons

Law of Success audiobook : http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUeRmc_VnIdefMXiYZAi-Bhztsm20fhrT

Mini Habits : http://www.amazon.com/Mini-Habits-Smaller-Bigger-Results-ebook/dp/B00HGKNBDK

This may only be part of the equation of learning to stop yourself, but a good book for when you're feeling helpless to create motion in your life is:

https://www.amazon.com/Mini-Habits-Smaller-Bigger-Results-ebook/dp/B00HGKNBDK

If you can do one push-up in a day or read two pages of a book, or something with a similarly small amount of effort, you can do what's in the book.

I also like the approach of slow adoption (Mini-Habits https://www.amazon.ca/Mini-Habits-Smaller-Bigger-Results-ebook/dp/B00HGKNBDK?ie=UTF8&*Version*=1&*entries*=0) where you just make really small changes. These seem easier to keep up.

For example I would say "go the gym one morning a week" and once that is a habit you go twice... before long you'll realize that you can go every day if you want since you have the one day a week thing figured out (and going twice is only marginally harder, etc).

I also find scheduling too tightly is a mistake. If you are really making progress on something and you don't have an external obligation just keep going! That is what you will want to do and what you should do. The only exception is if "keep going" is actually harmful to your other goals. But rather than "record music for one hour everyday" why not say "I would like to record music for 5 hours a week".

Finally, one hour blocks don't really allow much time for context switching.

>Also you said you handled too many people like that, so isn't this the norm already in the world? So why isn't this new norm being embrace by people? What learn the hard way?

Because it's not a new norm. This is the old norm that a new generation of people, including me, are trying to replace. That's why "entry level" doesn't mean what you think it means... anymore. "Entry level" describes the pay grade, more often than not.

Why do you think so many of those jobs have ridiculously high requirements? Because each successive generation become quicker at learning from the previous generation and then continuing to push the bar even higher.

>Mozart as a young musician, compared to today’s good young musicians, would be relatively average. How can this be? This relates to the third point about Mozart. For his time, he was excellent. But over time, we humans generally become more excellent. Standards of excellence have risen, often a lot.

How to Become Great at Just About Anything

I do understand that, one day, I will be replaced. Hopefully, the next generation will be even stronger, better, faster, and smarter than me. I do what I can to contribute to their understanding of the world and how it works, and I want to learn from them as well. If I can successfully connect my past to their future in our present, I will always have a fighting chance.

This field is fast-moving. Shape up or ship out. Here's a book recommendation.

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>Because they should not even use any metric to determine who to hire in the first place for a entry level role, condemning people who are bad completely.

I think it's a good thing to condemn people who are bad and refuses to fix their own problems. They made their decisions, and they get to suffer the consequences. Tough shit. I chose to address my flaws, and I got rewarded for it. This is how life works.

In my opinion, people who refuse to take responsibility for their own life and fix their own problems should not be rewarded or supported in any way... until they fix their problems. They did not do anything to deserve a reward, and they did many things that deserve punishment.

It's unfair to the people did their best to improve themselves to have to deal with problems from lazy, irresponsible people.

>When you were once a fresh grad and if no one is going to give you a chance, do you have today life as an experienced person working? You would be forever stuck at Square 1 isn't it?

Uh, I hate to tell you this, but even unpaid college internships have requirements. And I had to have at least one internship in order to graduate.

You see, I taught myself how to program. On my own time. When people saw the results of my efforts, if they like what they see, then they decide to invest in me.

You didn't do that. You have no skin in the game, so why would anyone risk their investment on someone who isn't proven? Your sob story is your own fault. You did this to yourself, you refuse to fix your problems that lead you into the hole you're in, and you deserve it. If you refuse to comply with other's expectations and prove yourself to them, then they will not give you chances.

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This job posting has a requirement that you do not meet. When a company specifically asks for a language, it is too much to expect that the company will be interested in teaching you how to program. "It's a job, not a college course."

"Learning how to program" and "learning a language" are two different, but related things. That's also why people said that if you don't know ruby specifically, then perhaps you can repurpose knowledge from a different programming language. That's what "transferable skills" mean.

Companies can't train you because you don't have the prerequisite skills. It's like asking to get into a freshman-level class, but your grades from high school and your test scores were too low, so you have to take a remedial class first. Or when you enter grad school, you still have to take undergrad classes if you don't know the material from those classes.

Companies believe that the prerequisites are the applicants' responsibility. If you disagree, then just go apply anyway and figure it out for yourself.

You said you will not join a company that cares about skills and results. You know what this field cares about? Results. Literally, return values of a function are results. Based on what you said, it sounds like you wouldn't like this job or this field. Go find a position that meets your criteria. Apply to those instead.