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How do I stop? You leave this abusive relationship. If you need help understanding your situation please get this book. It may give you the push you need to leave. You are not responsible for his anger!!

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I feel you. I dated a narcissist for a year before I realized what was going on. I beat myself up a lot about it. But put the blame where the blame is due! On him!

Don’t blame yourself for being an empathetic person and naïve to narcissism. It’s hard to recognize some narcissists. Mine was the handsome charming type and he duped a lot of smart women! He actually just married a very sweet, very beautiful local model with two kids. I feel so sorry for her. But thank God it’s not me. My point is that you’re not stupid for having spent time with him! These narcissistic men know exactly what to do to hook a woman in. They don’t act that way in the beginning or you would never go out with them!

I highly, highly recommend this book. It really helped me understand what happened in our relationship and get over it.

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Yes. And I blamed alcoholism when it was other things. Here's how I got out of it - 4 books:

1. Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
   
2. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
   
3. Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People
   
4. Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
   
   It doesn't all fit neatly into one package, but I found glimpses of his behavior in all of these, and to see the strategy behind all of his toxic and abusive behavior was lifesaving.

Yeps. Staying single is going to be the best option. Try to find happiness inside yourself. It helps you a lot through life.

I'm sorry you had to go through all that to get to that point. There's a psychopath.free website in case you're interested. I'm really, really sorry.

I hope at least you are cleared of the infection now and physically healthy. It's a good idea to build yourself up first. But, as a part of the build-up, I recommend you to read this:
Website (wonderful):
https://www.psychopathfree.com/

Books:
https://www.amazon.es/Psychopath-Free-Emotionally-Relationships-Narcissists/dp/0425279995/ref=pd_sim_14_4?ie=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=581FVXY7XHNKKZ253RSN
https://www.amazon.com/Without-Conscience-Disturbing-World-Psychopaths/dp/1572304510
https://www.amazon.es/Sociopath-Next-Door-Ruthless-versus/dp/0767915828/ref=pd_sim_14_4?ie=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=N54Z9CMYAWS29Z7Z85CB
https://www.amazon.es/Empathy-Trap-Understanding-Antisocial-Personalities/dp/1847092764/ref=pd_sim_14_3?ie=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=N54Z9CMYAWS29Z7Z85CB

Sorry if I am meddling. I hope you get better, and I hope at least your body is OK now. I really wish you a good return to physical and emotional health. And yes, best thing you can do is learn to live on your own and be happy that way. Maybe when you get to that point someone worthy will appear but... don't count on it. Not everyone is worthy, not everyone is marriage-material, or even long term relationship material, so not everyone can get a married happy-ever after. BUT, everyone can get a happy-ever after if they focus on getting it without depending on other people's decisions.

Link to book on amazon

Several books have already been written. One of my favorites right not is Psychopath Free

I am so sorry this happened. You have every right to feel how you feel. You have every right to protect yourselves from this toxicity. This is classic, get others to do their dirty work for them. If they can't reach you, they'll send in people they can manipulate to do it for them. They calculate these things. They actively think about ways to control and manipulate others. She's projecting her ugliness onto you. Your friend was sent in as bait. A pawn sent in retaliation for your going no contact. There are so many books written about this type of abuse. There's one written for victims specifically that helped me understand the psychological abuse in prior relationships as well as how to stay no contact and protect myself. The reason it helps to learn about, is it gives a name to what they are doing and provides you with tools to stay effectively no contact. You deserve your freedom and peace from these toxic people.


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Classical Narcissistic trait. Read this book to educate yourself, for ebook version click here.

I second everything in this comment. I also did these things and they've helped me immensely. Going back and re-reading our text or Facebook conversations really helped me see just how vapid and boring our conversations were. Not to mention one sided. I had deeper conversations with friends I hadn't seen in years in 15 minutes than I ever did talking to my ex.

One book that really helped me: Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People

I know what it's like to have friends who don't understand. I think it's just one of those things that unless you've been in a similar relationship you don't really get it. I mean, they listen and show support but I realized at some point it all just sounds crazy and toxic to them (because it is) and they're tired of hearing about it. That's what a good therapist is there for (or at the very least a supportive community such as this).

Dude your identity has been eroded please DONT TAKE HER BACK AGAIN else it will turn out to be the biggest mistake of your life.

If you have not realized its the same cycle every time, Idealize, Devalue and Discard.

First she will idealize you, that you're the best then slowly the phase of devaluing will come with lots of insults everything is your mistake apologize etc. then she will discard you in a blink of an eye.

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Your ex falls into one of the Cluster B personality disorder people from the description I feels she Has BPD.

your healing will take time dm me if want someone to talk.

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check these books soon you will able to connect all the dots.

https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995

https://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/1572246901/ref=sr_1_1?crid=18DNEAFLUU6T5&keywords=stop+walking+on+eggshells&qid=1562952682&s=books&sprefix=stop+walking%2Cstripbooks-intl-ship%2C379&sr=1-1

For your own wellbeing and sanity, I recommend you read these three books and follow the advice provided:

1)https://www.amazon.com/Toxic-People-Ways-Dealing-Miserable/dp/1929873441/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1T5CRFM6U59BT&keywords=toxic+people+book&qid=1572484367&sprefix=Toxic+people%2Caps%2C159&sr=8-1

2) https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Control/dp/0310351804/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1K7WOU16FNSBQ&keywords=boundaries+by+cloud+and+townsend+paperback&qid=1572484448&sprefix=Boundaries+by+cl%2Caps%2C165&sr=8-1

3) https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=sr_1_5?crid=1LT5SC2FLV4X1&keywords=narcissism+books&qid=1572484500&sprefix=narcissism%2Caps%2C163&sr=8-5

I’m very happy to hear that you are in therapy. That’s a wonderful thing. None of this was your fault. None of it. Don’t allow yourself to bear the burden of your abusers behaviours. These relationships never start off as being abusive. Manipulators are typically very skilled at making us feel loved, desired and special in the beginning. If they showed their true colours immediately, we would walk away! It’s like boiling a frog. If you put a frog in boiling water, it will jump away. But if you put a frog in temperate water and slowly bring the temperature up, it will stay in the water until it ultimately boils. This is what abusers do. They progressively increase the temperature. These changes are so incremental and progressive that we don’t even realize it. Have you heard of the book “Psychipath free”? It’s not a clinical/empirical workbook (i.e., not written by mental health professionals), but many abuse survivors find if helpful. Here is the link: https://www.amazon.ca/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995

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Just read at least one page from this and it's so precise it's mad.
Trust me. Psychopath Free

I am 6 months removed from a very toxic ex. Was so difficult to right myself again. A friend suggested this book when he realized how badly i was suffering with the mental abuse and gaslighting. Took me a good month to buy the damn thing... but it helped me see my ex in a different light and helped me realize I wasn’t the problem that he tried to make me out to be. In complete openness, I have no affiliation with the authors or publisher. Read some of the online reviews and the sections of the book that are posted online. Hopefully it will give you some inner peace and strength.

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People may not realize that Psychopath Free is a book by Jackson Mackenzie. Any one who's had a crazy person in their lives (everyone) should read that book to better identify crazy and how to handle it.

I recommend Psychopath Free. It's a very good book for dealing with toxic people and can be applied to BPDs as well.