Reddit mentions of Sex Bondage BDSM Kit UTIMI Restraints Set Sex Toys with Hand Cuffs Ankle Cuff Bondage Collection & Blindfold & Tickler Included

This is the one I bought specifically for $9 at the time, the 'Utimi Fetish Under Bed Restraint Kit with Hand Cuffs Ankle Cuff Bondage Collection', but it was actually purchased a while ago so I bet you could find one cheaper if you looked!

I'm hoping people might see that you can find some good gear for under $10 if they've been thinking about exploring another side of themselves like I was. :) Perfect starter item!

LONG. I might title this 'my second tinder match, continued, wherein I get to try some new things.'

This is an update to my previous post.. They both happened last week so I figure they fit here.

We met up again yesterday at my place. She wore a blue sun dress this time and bright red lipstick, which is a fetish of mine. She had said that she wanted to enjoy Sunday and sit on my deck in the sun, and read the paper and drink coffee... But we both knew that would all come second to the main event.

On entering my apartment I closed the door behind us and we stopped pretty much just inside the door by the living room. We stared into each other's eyes for a few moments before starting to make out. At some point she said something like 'I'm willing to do what I need to, to earn the right to hang out on the deck' which was music to my ears. WHO IS THIS WOMAN?? And are there more where she came from.

So she sticks her hands down my pants and unzips me and drops to her knees for a blowjob. Greaaat. After a while I command her to take off her sun dress and now she's kneeling in front of me in the living room on the wall-to-wall carpet, her black lacy underwear stark against the pale skin of her fit, plus sized back -- a wonderful sexy blank erotic space -- and her hips and butt. She's also wearing a bra and heels. Then one of us took off her bra...

I had cupped my right palm against the back of her head as she bobbed up and down, but I also love women's backs and butts, so I'm occasionally stroking her back, and reaching down and squeezing her ass....This continues for another 5 minutes? and then I tell her to flip over to doggie and I take off her underwear (over her heels). I lick my finger, reach down to separate her lips and stir up the wetness, and then I simply start pounding her from behind, doggie. I didn't want to finish there though so after a few minutes we moved into the bedroom. This is where it got [more] interesting.

I hooked her up again to the restaints on the bed -- these by the way -- and put a blindfold on her. Then I climbed on top of her naked body - she's still wearing the heels, though - and started making out with her before mounting her chest and fucking her tits and face. After a few minutes of this, I got off of her and walked out of the bedroom.

Leaving her there without saying a word, I headed into the kitchen, grabbed a small mug, and put a fistful of ice into it from the freezer. On the way back to the bedroom I popped a piece in my mouth. I got back to her bound and blinded form and immediately started sucking her nips, introducing her to a sudden and hopefully unexpected coldness (she might have heard the ice rattling around in the kitchen from there). About 10 minutes of ice play followed, and I like to do it slowly and with varying (short) breaks so that she's not sure whether there's going to be ice or not, or where ... I did place a piece of ice on her labia for around 15? seconds - in retrospect (for me but not for, you, dear reader, but all will be made clear) I should have left it there for a minute at least - it might have stung!

Yes, you read that right ;-)

A few more minutes of ice play and I abandoned the ice to return to basic mouth and hand. I worked my way down to her breasts, alternating sucking and lightly biting on each one, and simultaneously fingering her pussy.

I wanted to get her off, and she was clearly enjoying this, but it's nice to know what a partner likes. So I said to her, what do you like?? And she said, bite me more. Hard.

I'd never bitten anyone HARD before. She's bound wrist and ankle spread-eagled on the bed and blindfolded and now she wants me to bite her nipples like some walking dead zombie.

Can do!

I begin sucking her right nipple, and then I nip down hard on it in my front teeth and suck while pulling my head back, causing her breast to sort of vertically extend from her chest to my mouth. Her nipple is in between my front teeth. I thought I tasted something but she's not pregnant so it couldn't have been milk - it must have just been sweat. Anyway.

She gasps with pleasure.

So I let that one go and repeat this move with her left breast. More pleasurable noises and I can she she's loving it as she thrashes her restrained body around.

Now I start to be creative, for me anyway, as I've never been in this situation before. So I slap her breast - whack! - and she loves it. Now I'm biting and sucking and one, and whomping the other one and she's into it. I move my hand to her pussy and she's wet and slick. I can feel her get wetter as I smack her nipples.

Then I have another creative moment and I decide to bite on her nipple, suck hard, pull my head back to 'extend' the breast, and then, trying to time it just right, I release her tit from my teeth and at the same time give it a stinging WHACK! with my right hand. It takes two tries to get the timing right but she goes a little wild. I'm sort of proud I came up with this move which I, of course, now privately refer to as the 'Scum-and-Nipplely.' (No I don't. But it seems like a good move.)

I keep this up for a while and then I recall that I read or saw that some women like to have their pussy slapped. I've never done that, either. So I give her pussy a flat-handed slap and am rewarded with a gasp. Remember that she can't see any of this coming.

She really starts squirming. I give her V one slap. and wait. and one slap....and wait...then I bite her right nipple and give her V a series of slaps with my right hand, whack whack whack whack whack whack whack whack- the response is squirming, moaning, thrashing...It's great.

Then I try to kiss her and she turns her face to the side!! Seriously, I was surprised. I was like wtf is going on?? But only for maybe...5 seconds? Then I understood. I grabbed her head with both hands, forced her face straight and kissed her violently. I was assured I was doing what she wanted when she bit my tongue but didn't bite it off, which I imagine she would have done if I had suddenly been doing things she didn't like...

I see what's going on and I like it. She continues to turn her head away as I try to kiss her, and then when I go to finger her she closes her legs hard (she can't close them all the way, but the under-the-bed restraints had moved around the corner of the mattress a bit and gave her more leeway). I like this game. I move down between her legs and force them all the way open with my arms . Then I jam my face in her pussy and eat her out vigorously while using my arms to force her legs open. I've never (had to do? been lucky enough to do?) anything like this before but I'm totally into it. I'm munching away and she keeps 'trying' to close her legs. She's moaning and bucking and squirming.

At some point I thought a riding crop would be nice. I don't ride horses and I haven't prepared for this, so I don't have one in the house. However, I DO have a cat, and this is one of his toys. Purrrrfect! I get off of her and go into the living room and grab it. I climb back on top of her - again, she's blindfolded - and give her a few kisses.

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You know what, that photo of it sucks. I looked on line and couldn't find a good one, so here [OC] it is.

But I was using it like this. Thwack! The braid is leather or some fake leather. Real enough anyway.

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Then I sit up - I'm straddling her - and after a pause during which I take careful aim, I give her a left nipple a sudden stinging whack with the leather braid and cord of the cat wand. This is unexpected to her, but her reaction is pure pleasure. So I whack her nipple and wait....And then whack the other one and wait....I'm taking my time; she's getting red, livid straight lines on her body. I'd call them 'crop marks,' but they truthfully are cat toy marks.

I took some time slowly and methodically striking her breasts and then moved to her body and her vagina. The cat toy doesn't have the weight to really smack a vj, though, but she seemed to love it. I alternated between swatting her body with the leather braided/corded cat toy, and working her over with my teeth and tongue.

At this point I've been attacking her for a solid 30 or even 40 minutes and I'm running out of steam. It's only like 1pm on Sunday and I haven't eaten food yet.

I launch an all-out biting and tounging attack on her body in an effort to give her a big O, which kind of reminded me of the fireworks finale at a July 4 celebration.

We spent most of the rest of the day reading the paper on the deck, drinking coffee, at some point we went out for a bloody mary and some light food, and then back to my place where we hung out more before some chill naked play.

Then she had to get back home.

It was 8:30pm. We'd been hanging out about 8 hours....

Tying each other up is super fun, and it doesn't have to be all that complicated. It's easy to get caught up in all the fancy rope play stuff but you don't really need to learn or buy much of anything to get started.

• Learn to make cuffs out of his belt. Loop it around one wrist and through the buckle, then around the other and back through the buckle like a figure-eight. Pull tight and run the excess length through the little loop near the buckle. Now you've got handcuffs with a leash on them - use your imagination from there. This is also nice because it feels very tight and restrictive, but he can wiggle out of it if he really needs to (although judging from your post I'm guessing he won't want to).
  
  
• I would highly recommend picking up some sort of under-bed restraints. These are completely idiot-proof and are very affordable. They take all of the guesswork out of the beginner stages of bondage stuff. You don't really need anything fancy, this would probably work fine: http://www.amazon.com/Fetish-Restraint-Bondage-Collection-Female/dp/B00N8C14WU/ref=pd_sim_sbs_hpc_2?ie=UTF8&refRID=09ZP8A1W1EVCN53ZRVPK
  
  
• Slapping is perfectly safe as long as it stays open-handed only. Worst case scenario his face might get a bit swollen, but that takes seriously a lot. Like if you're that into slapping, you're the type of person who doesn't give a fuck if it bruises or not anyway.
  
  
• Ask him exactly what sorts of bondage excite him and what kind of things he wants to try. Be specific. Yes, it's kind of awkward subject to breach - especially when you're 19 and relatively inexperienced. Communication is 100% the only way to get the full potential out of a sexual relationship. As a fun project, I'd recommend doing something like mojoupgrade.com together if you haven't already. In a nutshell, you both fill out a questionnaire regarding your sexual fantasies/desires/off-limits/etc and then at the end it gives you a list of everything you answered similarly to. It's easy and it's fun. My partner and I re-take it for giggles every once in a while as our preferences change and grow over time.

I'm not a big rope person, but I SWEAR by my under-mattress restraint set. If you're up for buying yourself something new, try this baby out https://www.amazon.com/Fetish-Restraint-Bondage-Collection-Female/dp/B00N8C14WU/ref=pd_lpo_vtph_121_bs_t_2?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=ZGP83FJH9VY27S57GEZQ

Easy as pie to get in and out of in a pinch, especially if you tie your arms near each other, but also sturdy. I've had mine for almost a decade!

Nice job! This is not bad at all. Maybe explain how you did it? What materials? If others want to do it themselves.

What I like is that this is velcro so it would be super easy to pull on/off rather than have to unbuckle a cuff. Can switch positions quickly with more fluidity than having to uncuff then cuff again. And customized perfect for the wife!

What I would like to point out is that, you said it was super expensive but there are stuff that aren't. Amazon 4 Cuffs and 4 belts for $16. If the inside is uncomfortable you can add extra felt since you can DIY =P

Actually I was looking at this set that is similar.

http://www.amazon.com/Fetish-Restraint-Bondage-Collection-Female/dp/B00N8C14WU?ie=UTF8&qid=1465457966&ref_=sr_1_1_s_it&s=hpc&sr=1-1

I might do some looking on Etsy some more or Fetlife to see if I can find an inexpensive set I would like better. Unless of course anyone has a better suggestion.

And yes, as the Dom I am the one in charge and it is my responsibility to ensure the health, safety, and care of my submissive at all times. This goes double if she willingly allows me to place her in a helpless situation. I've seen a lot of those reckless posts myself in the last few weeks and they enrage me. Yes this is a game but it is one that can have severe life long repercussions if something goes wrong.

As I mentioned in another reply I cannot tolerate the thought of women being hurt. Not because I think they are weak or anything but because I think they are the greatest gift God has given us and should be treated as such. If I ever actually managed to harm my partner, even by accident, I am not sure how I would take it beyond very very badly. So I must always ensure that there are no mistakes or injuries for both of our health.

I have straps for light bondage like this

I normally am the one to use them on my LTR but she has also used them on me.

Utimi under bed restraint is what we have and we really like it.

I pee in the bathroom sinks at home an lie about it. My wife knows I am lying and it infuriates her that I keep doing it, but fuck it, I'm human.

this is something I'm slightly ashamed of myself for wanting NSFW

No need to apologize, I think you approached the subject very respectful with an eye towards advice and helping your relationship. Not every fetish is for everyone, but you're clearly not being judgemental about that and being supportive of her, so you're to be commended.

Drop the handcuffs idea and get yourself some bed straps and cuffs. They run beneath the mattress and can be easily hidden, but are there when you need them. My wife and I have a pair of these and they're very useful for restraint without all the fuss of ropes and stress positions. That should meet your needs without going to great lengths to learn the sometimes intricate rope bondage art that's out there. :)

Softer things you can do include having her blindfolded and naked, kneeling at your feet. It will put her in a submissive frame of mind, and if you cuff her hands behind her back even more so. For a submissive, it's a state of mind as much as it is a sexual experience. It may feel a little weird to you at first to treat her this way, but its an expression of her trust for you, and your love for each other, so try to think of it that way.

I know you said you're not into humiliation, and that's fine, but you should really consider a few particular submissive pet names for her. Things you can call her during those experiences. "My slut," or "My precious pet." The My is important... you establish your ownership, while at the same time are acknowledging this is something special that you both share with each other.

And my biggest recommendation is that once every month or every other month you have a date night where it's full on submissive and Dominant. She's naked, collared, serving your needs. She kneels at your feet while you watch TV, you tie her to the bed, you spank her, you choke her, you call her your slut. Giving her one night of as much dominance as you can muster will give her the outlet she craves while not putting too much pressure on you to do it too often. Set the scene with candles, incense, make it a whole big thing for her AND for you. Use her as roughly as you can, set little goals for her and give her extra spankings if she fails to meet them ("Oh dear, you didn't cum as quickly as I said... present your ass again.").

Edit: Oh, and I forgot to mention, hot wax is a very good friend of the cautious Dom. :) If you get the right kind of candles and let it drip on her, it's quite intense without being the kind of pain I know you feel you're not capable of inflicting. You might also consider finding out if there's a BDSM fetish club near you that you could attend on rare occasions. I found it very enlightening when I was going through a similar stage as you, and never realized just how hot and sensual a flogging could be until I watched one in person. Had to run out and buy floggers the next day. :) You may not reach that point, but it's always a useful education.

We use this: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00N8C14WU/

It's inexpensive and it gets the job done. The cuffs are pretty comfortable, but the best thing is that they're detachable, so at some point if you want a different style of cuffs (we use leather) you can just swap them out.

Thanks for sharing, just finished reading all the posts and comments. Very useful and glad I read this. I see this as an opportunity to grow and get a deeper raw connection with her. I feel the energy and I know she wants it so it naturally feels like the next step. I got some basic cuffs for now since I never got into it before. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00N8C14WU/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_-rh2CbFVMHWVP

tada! https://www.amazon.com/Utimi-Fetish-Restraint-Bondage-Collection/dp/B00N8C14WU

Spread eagle where her arms and legs are tied to the bed frame in an X position is going to be the easiest. Doggy style will give you good access to her as well but the rope work is a little trickier.

I have had this restraint set for years. It’s very basic but it works.

Also this could be a great opportunity to play around with forced orgasms. Once you finally let her cum don’t stop. As she continues to orgasm her clit will become more sensitive to the point it can be overwhelming. Imagine vigorously rubbing the tip of you cock right after you cum. You can then make her beg you to stop. Also telling her she is your little fuck toy and you can do what you want with her can set a fun mindset for both of you.