Reddit mentions of Superhuman by Habit: A Guide to Becoming the Best Possible Version of Yourself, One Tiny Habit at a Time

http://imgur.com/ggRZyOC here's what a normal workday food intake looks for me.

Part of what works is planning out the meals and cooking ahead of time. I make lunches and dinners for the week on Sunday and bag them up and divide them into containers.

I actually enjoy the ritual of all this now. That's the most important part is making everything a habit. I don't particularly love coffee but I've come to enjoy the ritual of making it and sipping it to start my day.

Also anytime you think to yourself "I don't want to do that right now" or "I'll do it later" DO IT IMMEDIATELY. Or at least start it. It's hokey but I read this book a couple of months ago suggested on reddit http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00NGC8I9E?keywords=superhuman&qid=1456858715&ref_=sr_1_4&sr=8-4 and even though I rolled my eyes at a lot of the stuff that really stuck with me. It's gotten me to enjoy just the process of somethings and I catch myself when I try to talk myself out of working out or eating right.

You made me think of this book.

Hey All!

You've spent countless hours with PMO — I hope you'll take 10-30 minutes to listen to this extremely insightful talk on attachment and addiction by Ram Dass.

This talk may get a little too woo woo for some of you but bear with it. It’s by an incredible spiritual teacher who brought Eastern ideologies to the West and pioneered research/experimentation with LSD in the 60's. He also authored the well-known book Be Here Now. Once you get past the spiritual connotations (if that's not your thing) and realize that there’s a lot of truth in what he says I think you'll be able to find a few takeaways from the talk (I've detailed my highlights and thoughts below).

• Intro: He begins with a breakdown of the role addiction plays as a coping mechanism to bring us back to a place of comfort in order to deal with the dis-ease/suffering caused by the mind's clinging to a state that he calls "home".
  
  
• 3:40 — "It will allow you to be in the presence of Christ but you can only stay two hours." A lot of the superpowers people see in this sub are simply people reaping the benefits of delayed and fulfilling gratification vs the fleeting and immediate gratification of PMO. Some of us hinder our ability to get the big candy bar later because we constantly get the small candy bar now, which in turn, makes you less inclined to even desire a big candy bar in the first place. In our case the big candy bar would equal your goals, meaningful relationships, equanimity, confidence, mental clarity, etc.
  
  
• 5:30 — The chain of reactivity: desire, gratification, relapse, coming down, self-loathing, etc. The remission cycle we're all familiar with. Honest awareness of this chain of actions is crucial.
  
  
• 7:20 — interesting take on addiction. I'm not sure if anyone has supporting/refuting evidence of the "my mother fed me food when I was upset so now I eat when I'm anxious..." idea. I would be interested to see it. It's a very intuitively sensible relationship and I can see it in my own experience. In my teenage years, I became too cool to be get a hug from my mom or have a talk with my dad so I unknowingly sought out my own coping mechanism, which began as curiosity and grew into something much bigger.
  
  
• 7:40 — Bringing awareness to the cycle. He states he "goes back to his spiritual practices..." these spiritual practices are simply a different version of our cold showers, push-ups, meditation, etc. Meditation helps us become aware of our thoughts, push ups give us another source of endorphins/dopamine, cold showers are a hormetic stressor which allow us to be more comfortable with being uncomfortable and thus we no longer seek to constantly cope with dis-ease.
  
  
• 9:05 — "Don't worry about the addiction... It will fall away when it will fall away." This is huge. I love this quote because we all have different levels of dependency on PMO as a coping mechanism. For some, it's deeply ingrained; the neuronal pathways take longer to rewire, cold turkey is harder, and maybe life is more stressful and we have to reach further to replace PMO with something more fulfilling. For others, they're hardly addicted and simply want to kick a habit they no longer find useful. For them, maybe 30 days is all they need and cold turkey was a breeze. We're all on different paths, at different ages, with different footprints on the path behind us that lead to our current situation. Keep striving to improve yourself and add beneficial habits in your life until PMO becomes a distant memory, or something you can create a healthy relationship with (which is hard to do, even impossible for some).
  
  
• 9:40 — "A lot of the programs to deal with addiction end up creating a new addiction to being non-addicted thats as bad as the addiction itself..." Don't stress about your badge. Be proud of it. Be honest about it. Watch it grow. But at the end of the day you'll only become fulfilled if you can take pride in what you've created for yourself outside of the pages of /r/nofap. You could have a year long streak and still not make meaningful relationships, not experience new things, not read, not grow, not create, not test the limits of your fitness and seek deep and lasting love. That's where the real juice is and in the grand scheme a relapse doesn't take away from your persistence in self-improvement...
  
• Regardless of my streak I'm proud if I make it through a month and can say to myself: "Man, I did really good this month, I relapsed once but I also did well on x project at work, went on an awesome vacation, stuck to my workout regimen, only spent x amount of money on alcohol, and finished Superhuman By Habit or As A Man Thinketh, etc."
  
  
• 11:35 — Here he discusses finding the triggers (not nude photos but the precursors to them), behind your urges. For him it's anxiety of giving a lecture. For you it might be loneliness, stress, idle time, boredom, a million other things. To remedy this he chants because that's his thing. Find your thing. Begin to realize what your triggers are and become aware of them and do your thing to avoid PMO. If you end up PMO'ing, don't beat yourself up, give yourself an honest evaluation of what happened and plan to better avoid it next time. My PMO weaknesses are hangovers and being bored at 2am when I usually go to bed at 11. Now I keep my phone away from my bed and try to avoid hangovers or cycle/workout/play basketball when I have them. Right now I'm doing no-drink-January to star the year fresh.
  
  The rest of the talk is really optional I'd say. It's kind of long but there are a few gems... I'll note a few things that stood out to me.
  
  
• 13:28 — Someone asks a 'codependent relationship with god' question that some of you may get something from, some may not. I'm not going to comment on it so much, but I do like Ram Dass' 'inner part of you vs outer part of you' quote at 19:17 regarding dualistic thinking.
  
  
• 21:20 — Question regarding dealing with greed and attachment. I like this part. Check it out if you have time. He discusses managing your awareness and becoming cognizant of your desires as they arise. 22:40 onward is golden with regard to awareness, desire and attachment.
  
  
• 26:35 — Uncle Henry Story – Right Livelyhood (One of eight of the Buddha's practices in the Eightfold Path)
  
• This isn't directly about addiction but it's a fun story nonetheless.
  
  
• 31:30 —Vulnerable question from a woman about relationships, the yearning for intimacy and the energy you have when you can't intimately connect with someone else and release that energy... Sadly this part gets cut off but it goes back to his initial point of being "Home"...
  
  Note: "Make your own Bible. Select and collect all the words and sentences that in all your readings have been to you like the blast of a trumpet." — Ralph Waldo Emerson... You don't have to relate to Buddhism or believe in God to subscribe to or understand what he's saying. It's intuitive. He's simply addressing addiction in his language, which a psychologist or broscientists might describe in the same way, but with a different language.