Reddit mentions of The Alabaster Girl

It's great that you're starting to take control and responsibility of your life but this is a word of warning - it comes with a price.

You are no longer allowed to be indifferent about anything. You must be attentive and nurturing to this relationship 100%. This is something that isn't stressed in TRP because TRP is more concerned about being alpha, not the responsibility that comes with it.

This kind of behaviour will breed a certain kind of women - perhaps one that you want. If you continue with this, she will start to look to you for everything. You make the final choice and the first suggestion on where you are going for dinner, holiday, fun etc. It can be very exhausting and you do not have an out card by saying "I'm too tired" or "I don't care, you decide" anymore. This is the curse and the blessing of being a captain.

In return to your leadership, her agency will start to leave. That's a good thing because your role will now be to take the stress and pain away from her everyday life. Remember: women want to be carefree - they want to be reminded of the times when she was young with 0 responsibility, running through fields of grass in her beautiful sundress. If you allow her to do that, you are the best of men.

What that means is you need to bridge that gap between her temptation, pain, vulnerability, enjoyment and her life indulgences. Normally this gap is filled with other things such as a night out with the girls, getting drunk or indulging in wasting time on daytime TV. I've seen people escape into their work before to run away from a husband who is unable to support her in all the places in her life. She needs a confident, an advisor and someone who is non-judgemental that is forever on her team that can make her forget about her worldly responsibilities.

With your actions you are making a promise to her - that you will never let her down or hurt her. You will never use her for your own ends and you will never abuse your power by demanding or raising your voice. Taking on this role means you the rock in which she will rest everything. You will be forever fair, never making false threats or throwing insults because you are a man, and better than that.

This also means you're treading a fine line when you refuse to accept her hug in greeting. Do not play power-games with the one you love the most, instead, give her a constant that she can forever rely on.

(As an aside, if she was giving you a hug as an apology, it would've been destructive to the relationship to refuse it. The way it sounds like you did it, as a "hold that thought" moment, is acceptable).

I personally consider this the biggest sin of men to date. They don't know how to communicate or the right times to be vulnerable or strong. You must learn how to do that if you do not already.

Recommended reading to help you find that place (if you haven't already);

Zan Perrion: The Alabaster Girl

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Alabaster-Girl-Zan-Perrion/dp/0992016606/ref=sr_1_1/


John Gray: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Mars-Women-Venus-Communication-Relationships/dp/0007152590/ref=sr_1_1

(Yes I know some people have opinions about that one, I found it incredibly helpful in learning how to communicate).

>Seduction implies a me vs her mentality,

How? I think we're simply disagreeing on terms now. Seduction is giving her a fun dream to enjoy. But in the semantic argument, we've now entered into philosophy.

> She becomes an object

We're all objects to each other via our perspective. This is the nature of consciousness until you cross over into Enlightenment.

I see what you're trying to say, and I agree, but you're simply changing terms. I doubt I'm going to persuade you to see seduction as a cooperative act, but here's my best shot.

You can't trick people. It's really impossible. People trick themselves. You never "seduced" a woman by your definition of seduction. She decided to play along in the role of "the seduced."

However, in my definition, it is a cooperative act because in order to seduce, you must first be seduced, i.e., attracted enough to care to seduce her. It's a mutual act of dreamweaving. She bats her eyes at you, you approach, spit some game, she laughs and touches your chest, you two go home together, you both open your bodies to each other.

At no point was one person doing anything to the other exclusively.

If seduction is manipulation, then you're manipulating each other, so really neither of you is being played as you're both being played.

Your definition cancels itself out. And even if you do switch over to my definition, the same thing is still happening, you're simply seeing it differently.

This is getting very close to becoming a Zen koan....

"What is the sound of a man seducing himself?"

I think you would enjoy Zan Perrion's book, The Alabaster Girl. I've actually met Zan, too, and can confirm he knows his shit.

This post reminded me of a guy I met on holiday a few weeks ago, who had been working with the author of this monstrosity and lent me a copy... so much raughter (rage + laughter).

The book is free on Amazon right now for kindle until December 18

http://www.amazon.com/dp/0992016606

Well, after I read the sample chapter on his website, it is almost a direct rip-off of this guy: The Alabaster Girl

Not sure if the entire book is like this, but it sure doesn't seem original or new.

https://www.amazon.com/Alabaster-Girl-Zan-Perrion/product-reviews/0992016606/ref=cm_cr_dp_d_show_all_top?ie=UTF8&reviewerType=avp_only_reviews