Reddit mentions of The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage

I hope you make it to a meeting. You aren't alone in your concerns. There's 3 Al-Anon books I'd recommend finding at your local meeting.
First, a new book on intimacy called Intimacy In Alcoholic Relationships. I've found it to be a powerful book...but one that can be intimidating and might best be read with other Al-Anon folks or with your sponsor.

Another book is call Dilemma of The Alcoholic Marriage While I'm not married, it did give me so much insight into what my parents went through in their marriage. It also has a chapter on sexual intimacy.

Here's a sharing from the Al-Anon.org website that you might be interested in.


And then there's an out of print book, but can still be purchased called Sexual Intimacy

So much amazing, honest sharing on topics like yours in this book. Definitely worth getting a used copy...but again, probably best read when you have other Al-Anon folk to reason things out with.


I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. It isn't easy to talk about, but it really is common in alcoholic marriages. Big hugs without expectation of anything more to you!