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Reddit mentions of "What Do You Care What Other People Think?": Further Adventures of a Curious Character
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| Release date | February 2011 |
If you're interested in Feynman's life and his great stories: "Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman!" and "What Do You Care What Other People Think?" are great reads. The guy was a goddamn rockstar.
Having been through something like this, I can share my perspective on what makes the difference. Apologies if the second person imperative tense is a bit too much, but it feels right.
Since you don't really have any direct control over what other people think, thinking and ruminating about it becomes a hobby that doesn't actually provide any reward or positive value. Recognize that thinking about how identity groups behave isn't particularly helpful or productive at any level whatsoever, and explore other pursuits! Essentially, try to "change the subject" of what's occupying your mindspace and time by deliberate choice.
So, focus on building, creating, exploring, achieving, helping, contributing, imagining. Find good-hearted and interesting people and befriend them. Pursue hobbies, read, self-educate, go on a hike, join a running club, find people who want to learn to play piano with you. Decide on and pursue a career, think strategically, try to figure out how to have your ducks in a row.
I'm mainly talking about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is really the only technique that has demonstrated consistent results. One doesn't even need a therapist to use it; just keep track of what you're thinking about hour to hour, and every time you're drifting into rumination about wasted time, pinch yourself and think about your plans for your future.
I know it's not always easy to do. Some apps might help. But we're neuroplastic and malleable creatures, and we get better at what we practice. So the main goal is to start practicing other things -- be deliberate about "changing the subject" you're devoting mental energy to.
Hope this helps!
What do you care what other people think? and The pleasure of finding things out by Richard Feynman. Some really good philosophical lessons about how to be a better scientist. Also some really outdated opinions about women so maybe gloss over that.