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"What Do You Care What Other People Think?": Further Adventures of a Curious Character

http://www.amazon.com/What-Care-Other-People-Think/dp/0393320928/

.. e what do you care what other people think?

Non essere presuntuoso, non hai una vaga idea del nullo cazzo che glie ne frega alle persone di te (e di me, hai capito il senso del discorso).

Inoltre, la prima volta "fai la figura", il resto della tua vita lo sai. Mi sembra onesto come scambio!

I just finished reading that one as well as the sequel "What Do You Care What Other People Think"...

http://www.amazon.com/What-Care-Other-People-Think/dp/0393320928/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_b

It's beautiful, brilliant and tragic at the same time, especially when he writes about the death of his first wife.

This lecture was featured in the last chapter of the book and was what inspired me to post the link up.

> I've never heard of the o-ring investigation afterward being obvious in any sense.

Feynman's second autobiography has a pretty clear explanation of the post-event inquiry. They called in Feynman to take a look because he was known to have an excellent technical mind. Rather than try to get up to speed on the thousands of components and systems of the shuttle, instead he chose to chat with a bunch of engineers; it took him 48 hours to conclude an O-ring had failed, because every engineer he talked to said the same thing. He then fashioned a tiny O-ring out of the same material as the Challenger's, and dropped it into a glass of ice water in front of a Congressional panel. It deformed severely.

It was made public by his daughter Michelle (from his second marriage) in the book, [Perfectly Reasonable Deviations from the Beaten Path: The Letters of Richard P. Feynman](http://www.amazon.com/Perfectly-Reasonable-Deviations-Beaten-Track/dp/0738206369], which she edited. Feynman's deep love for his first wife was scarcely a big secret (see: What Do You Care What Other People Think?: Further Adventures of a Curious Character), his atheist-leaning agnosticism and sanguine attitude about his own death, and the obvious love that he felt for his children make me strongly doubt that there is anything amiss about this letter.

The only issue is that it is posted here without a link to the source and likely without permission. But that's an issue of copyright ethics and law, not whether Richard would want this letter seen now, a quarter century after his death and a lifetime since Arline's.

I know a number of real rocket scientists who consider the shuttle a black hole, many of them who've been wishing for the end of the program for over a decade.

Know who Richard Feynman is? Ever read his opinions?

What Do You Care What Other People Think?

Stop caring about what people think and you could become a Nobel Prize winning physicist.

Ah, see, I understand where you're coming from albeit on the opposite side of the spectrum. In a strong breeze, I'm likely to blow away. Last week, I started going to the gym. It's full of guys that are likely to break someone like me in two just by looking at them.

But you know what else is interesting? There are a couple of people in terrible shape, totally obese, that are making an effort to shed pounds. No one stares or cracks jokes. If someone has a question, the regulars answer it. They're thrilled to see people that want to better themselves. All you need to do is take that first step.

My best advice is to start walking more, no need to jog. Instead of eating 5 slices of pizza, eat 3 and have a salad. Little cuts will make a large impact.

If you're interested, I can check with my buddy and see what he did to lose weight. On average, he lost 5 pounds a week through diet and exercise.

PS - If you're looking for something to read, check out Feynman's What do you care what other people think? If I can live half the life he did, I will be content.

As long as you're happy ... you're happy. Why do you care what other people think, Mr. Feynman? (link)

Naturally the true test of a model is "out of sample testing", in which you use the model to predict the results of a new experiment before you perform the experiment. In particular, you predict and then perform a new experiment whose parameter-set was not used in the creation of the model and the fitting of its parameters k_cooler and k_steak.

Anything by Simon Singh is worth reading. In addition to what others have recommended, these books are good:

[The man who loved only numbers](http://www.amazon.com/MAN-WHO-LOVED-ONLY-NUMBERS/dp/0786884061/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1254333710&sr=8-1
)

Flatland

Prisoner's Dilemma

A mathematician reads the newspaper

A mathematician plays the stock market

Innumeracy: mathematical illiteracy and its consequences

Also, while not exactly about Maths:

Surely you are joking, Mr Feynman

What do you care what other people think?

The Art of Computer Programming

There's another book of Feynman anecdotes titled, curiously, What Do You Care What Other People Think. Enjoy!

It's either in Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman!, or in "What Do You Care What Other People Think?". Both are well worth reading.

If anyone is interested in some great books about the disaster I suggest these:

Riding Rockets

Dick Feynman's Second Book

Relevant reading, and a very good story: The chapter called "It’s as Simple as One, Two, Three…" in Richard Feynman's book, "What Do You Care What Other People Think?."

In this chapter, Feynman explains how he came to discover, with some help from his friend Bernie Walker, how different people think in different ways. In essence that thoughts can be visual as well as verbal.

Highly recommended read.

What do you care what other people think?

http://www.amazon.com/What-Care-Other-People-Think/dp/0393320928

Most of my exes remain friends, so I don't really have anything against seeing them. Again I guess I'm also pretty picky so I've never had the misfortune of dating a real psycho. I've also never tried to actually date within my own immediate team (I would agree that that feels a bit incestuous to me for some reason).

Where I currently work (a major fortune 500 multinational), about a quarter of my closest coworkers are married to other people in the company (and a bunch work in the same building. 2 of the 4 in particular work even on the same floor, but different departments). My current boss's wife used to share the same skip level manager with him, several years ago. The rest of us on the team rarely see them at lunchtime since they usually run off to eat with their spouses :) The oldest guy on my team is in his 50s and his second wife works downstairs and it's really cute every day at noon he goes "time to go collect my bride, see ya later!".

For the 2nd point I like to follow the advice given in the title of this memoir..

True to form - He really did not care what others think!

For more pure gold like this, read the pleasure of finding things out, Surely you're joking Mr. Feynman and What do you care what other people think

he wrote another one, too!

"What Do You Care What Other People Think?": Further Adventures of a Curious Character

Well, hopefully others who use it have a better feel for what it's really like day to day. I hope your interview goes well. Ever read any Feynman about his time up there? It's pretty entertaining.

Edit for link to book: "What Do You Care What Other People Think?": Further Adventures of a Curious Character https://www.amazon.com/dp/0393320928/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_ilGzDbPP6AZHQ

I suck at helping depressed people, but I want to try it anyway, another perspective can't hurt.

"Should see myself as important and how it hurts people around me" sounds about dumbest thing I ever heard.

I don't see myself as important at all, and I don't think I should worry about people around me at all if I am not happy myself first. You just even can't possibly love them without loving yourself first and utmost. I wouldn't even want to see myself as important because that would imply expectations, of others, about me. It's about what they want. That is them, saying to me: you don't get to do what you want and we don't care really. We want you to think that you are important and work for us. First pep talk to your employee who you are about to screw over. "You are important to us, you know."
Me NOT CARING what other people think, is what gives me great joy, fun, creativity and liberty in life. And I usually end up doing the right thing anyway and not just for me. I would be extremely unhappy and depressed if I ever wasted my time on how other people see me or how I make them feel. Meet Richard Feynman. He was just about happiest, smartest and most productive and "important" guy ever lived (Reddit darling too of course). Never thought he was "important" for one second. Not even when receiving Nobel, he despised any such "honorary" clubs. He was expected many things many times of many people - never cared one bit! http://www.amazon.com/What-Care-Other-People-Think/dp/0393320928

Predictably Irrational - Dan Ariely

The Tao of Pooh - Benjamin Hoff

Surely You're Joking, Mr Feynman! and What Do You Care What Other People Think? - both wonderful collections of Richard Feynman talking about his life, the way he thinks about things, and lessons he learned.

Those are really the first four that come to mind that have had a noticeable effect on the way I think. Might do the same for you, as well.

as someone who works as NASA have you read Richard Feynman's What Do You Care What Other People Think?: Further Adventures of a Curious Character ?

Half of this book by physicist Richard Feynman is about when he was part of the congressional investigation into cause of the challenger disaster.

http://www.amazon.com/What-Care-Other-People-Think/dp/0393320928

*lot's of edits due to wine.

I'll just leave this here, because it is probably the most relavent thing it could possibly be.

http://www.amazon.com/What-Care-Other-People-Think/dp/0393320928

Feynman opened my eyes more than just about any other author.

Yikes. I reference you to Richard Feynman's great book: "What Do You Care What Other People Think?" in regards to your family. You don't have to ignore them, but it's important to understand that in the end you make your own decisions.

I would just focus on him. And take him to go see some art or something.

EDIT: Haha, just realized I started my comment with "Yikes" too. Weird!

Its a shame that you are too cautious about what other people might think of you instead of forming your own opinions. It's a disease. It takes a lot of courage to overcome. I have a great book recommendation for you https://www.amazon.com/What-Care-Other-People-Think/dp/0393320928 if you like reading so much.

I just don't like the fact that you are apologizing for being part of academia as if its some kind of a limitation. You just did not standup for yourself and your academia connection. I am not so proud of you as a fellow academia person.

relevant book? :)

It takes practice, but it's a very important skill so worth cultivating. This is one way to look at it, from the logical side:

https://www.amazon.com/What-Care-Other-People-Think/dp/0393320928

You seem to misunderstand my point. I am not dissing engineers or rocket scientists. To understand where I'm coming from, ask yourself, how is it that a space shuttle blew up in 2003, 15 years after the Challenger incident? Then, read this.