Reddit mentions of When Sex Hurts: A Woman's Guide to Banishing Sexual Pain

Hello! I have been diagnosed with vulvodynia and vaginismus, so I know your pain. I highly recommend this book: https://www.amazon.com/When-Sex-Hurts-Womans-Banishing-ebook/dp/B004JN0FCW/

Your doctor's tutorials are a great place to start, I recommend taking a deep breath and only looking at one resource at a time. It can feel overwhelming.

You may also be curious about the Beautiful Cervix Project if you want to see what your anatomy actually looks like beyond the speculum. (NSFW)

Wow, that sounds frustrating for both of you. A lot of women experience pain with sex, so you really aren't alone. A few things I would do if I were you is to first look up pelvic floor specialists in your area and/or an OBGYN who recognize this as unacceptable and is dedicating to helping you. I would also recommend finding a good sex therapist for you and your boyfriend. If you are in the states [AASECT.com] (https://www.aasect.org/referral-directory) can help you find someone. Also, there are some good books on pain during sex. When Sex Hurts is one that has been recommended to me before. Don't be afraid to get help and fight for your pleasure. Good luck!