(Part 2) Best products from r/AskGayMen

We found 2 comments on r/AskGayMen discussing the most recommended products. We ran sentiment analysis on each of these comments to determine how redditors feel about different products. We found 23 products and ranked them based on the amount of positive reactions they received. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.

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u/AufDerGalerie · 2 pointsr/AskGayMen

I am so sorry that your mom went through that and that you lost her.

I struggle with lapsing into unhealthy coping mechanisms in the face of emotional pain—numbing behaviors that in the short term help me get through a difficult time, but that get in the way of what Brene Brown calls whole-hearted living.

Pema Chodron talks about the paradox of how running away from pain causes us to suffer more than learning to stay in the moment and let ourselves feel things deeply.

Kristin Neff’s work is in the same vein as Pema Chodron’s, and is also excellent (she’s a psychologist and a researcher, whereas Pema Chodron is a buddhist nun).

Another resource that’s been a big help to me is Byron Katie’s The Work, which is a process for dealing with stressful thoughts (by filling out worksheets that help you work with those thoughts). Her worksheets are available for free (go to the “downloads” link and look at the “judge your neighbor worksheet” and “the four questions”).

I don’t mean to give unsolicited advice—these are things that have helped me in similar circumstances. Things might be different for you. xo

u/amnorvend · 2 pointsr/AskGayMen

I have a few thoughts on being a Gay-friendly. I'm not speaking for any of the other letters in LGBTQ because I can't.

I think the most important thing you can do is be courteous and non-judgemental about a patient's sexual history. Sometimes even in a liberal place like where I live I get the evil stare when talking about my sex life.

Next, butts. Butts are important for everyone and yet difficult to talk about. That's true for everyone, but both are doubly true for gay men. In fact, almost all the rest of this is about the butt.

I think gay men just tend to care about butts more than straight guys. Men are attracted to other guy's butts. If they're bottoms, it's a sexual organ. But even if they're a top they'll still care about their butt more than the average straight man.

A procedure that might leave a scar may cause a gay man more distress than it might a straight man. A condition that affects his butt may also cause distress. Gay men might freak out more about butt problems than straight men because they may have probably been told about all the awful diseases they'll get if they ever engage in any sexual acts. So take their concerns seriously when someone thinks their hemorrhoid means they have AIDS.

More to the point, a gay man is very likely to have been told at some point in their life that their sexual activities are wrong and sinful. So it may be more difficult for them to talk about due to the shame they feel.

You need to know about butt problems that are both common to everyone and common to gay people. Straight men get hemorrhoids and so do gay men. But the gay man is more likely to assume that the hemorrhoids are a result of his sexual activities even though it isn't. Then there are things that gay men get that straight men don't get. Like rectal STDs.

And lastly, I can't recommend a book called "The ins and outs of gay sex" enough, though it's pretty dated. https://www.amazon.com/dp/0440508460/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_J.bvDbYHP4QZ0