(Part 2) Best products from r/AskMen
We found 97 comments on r/AskMen discussing the most recommended products. We ran sentiment analysis on each of these comments to determine how redditors feel about different products. We found 3,089 products and ranked them based on the amount of positive reactions they received. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.
21. Luxe Bidet Neo 120 - Self Cleaning Nozzle - Fresh Water Non-Electric Mechanical Bidet Toilet Attachment (blue and white)
- A LUXURIOUS LOOK AT AN EXCELLENT PRICE – With a sleek design and high-quality parts, our bidet attachment will give your bathroom a next-level look. Constructed with high-pressure valves with metal/ceramic cores and steel hoses instead of plastic.
- HYGIENIC NOZZLE GUARD GATE – Shields the nozzle for your ultimate sanitary experience. The nozzle automatically retracts behind the guard gate after each wash to ensure it is protected until your next use.
- HAVE FUN DOING IT YOURSELF - Includes ALL PARTS AND TOOLS to get your bidet up and running in minutes. Easily attaches to and detaches from any standard two-piece toilet.
- ENVIRONMENTALLY-FRIENDLY, WORTHWHILE INVESTMENT – Save money (and trees!) on toilet paper. Cleaning with our bidet is gentle on your skin and sustainable for the planet.
- NO KIDDING 18-MONTH WARRANTY – We are always here to make sure you are 100% satisfied, so anytime you have problems or concerns about the products, we are just one call away. Register your bidet online and get an extended warranty.
Features:
22. No More Mr. Nice Guy
- Language- English
- Comes with secure Packaging
- This product will be an excellent pick for you
Features:
23. Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find-and Keep-Love
Features:
24. Derby Extra Double Edge Razor Blades, 100 Count
- Made using stainless steel
- Fit all kinds of safety razor
- You don't need to split double edge razor blades any more
Features:
25. Panasonic ER-GN30-K Nose Ear Hair Trimmer
- Innovative dual edge blades: Panasonic nose hair trimmer for men comfortably removes nose, ear and unwanted facial hair plus details beards and eyebrows with dual edge blades
- Clean and precision trimming: Curved, hypoallergenic, stainless steel blades match the contour of your nostrils to trim the hair safely and precisely, without irritating skin or pulling hairs
- Wet/dry convenience: Fully waterproof men’s personal groomer is made for nose and ear trimming convenience, safely use dry anytime or in the shower
- Smart vortex cleaning system: Vortex cleaning system draws in faucet water from all sides and spins it through the nose hair clipper for easy cleaning in seconds
- Cordless and battery operated: Panasonic trimmer is fully powered by one AA size battery (not included); A protective nose clipper cap and cleaning brush are included
Features:
26. The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire
- Overall length: 10 3/4 inch
- Blade length: 6 inch
- Steel/material: sk-5 with black Tuff-Ex finish
Features:
27. The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance (Owner's and Instruction Manual)
- Quirk Books
Features:
28. White Noise Machine, AVANTEK Sound Machine for Sleeping, 20 Non-Looping Soothing Sounds with High Quality Speaker & Memory Function, 30 Levels of Volume and 7 Timer Settings
20 SOOTHING SOUNDS: Non-looping sound recordings of high quality; includes 6 types of white noise, 6 fan sounds and 8 nature sounds (ocean waves, rain, wind, stream, birds, campfire, cricket and clock); great sleep machine for babies, children and adultsEXCELLENT SOUND QUALITY: The speaker in this m...
29. What Women Want When They Test Men: How to Decode Female Behavior, Pass a Woman's Tests, and Attract Women Through Authenticity
31. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
- Simon Schuster
Features:
32. The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures
- Celestial Arts
Features:
33. The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know
- COMPLETE DRINKING SET: Our unique pistol decanter and glass set comes with 2 gun shaped decanters, 8 standard shot glasses, a sturdy aluminium carry case, 1 liquor pourer & 1 cool cowboy holster belt. Load up your holster with decanters and glasses and let the fun begin.
- GREAT GIFT: For that special person who’s serious about having fun. Are they always at the gun range or hunting? The perfect gift for police or serving military, husband, boyfriend or partner; or for Father’s Day. You will put a smile on their face when they unwrap this gift.
- AS COOL AS...: This SHOTSCLUB Kit is no ordinary whiskey decanter set. The spy themed briefcase is just the start. When you are in need of some Xtreme fun it’s time to bring out your SHOTSCLUB Kit, strap on your holster and load up those pistols. You can be the villain or the spy.
- NEED TO PARTY?: Why not host an ONLINE PARTY. Your SHOTSCLUB Kit is the perfect party accessory to FIRE UP any party. Having a quiet night at home? Why not break out your Kit, pour a few drinks and kick back with your partner.
- IMPROVED PACKAGING: has been introduced in 2020 to reduce breakages. BUY with confidence. If you do not 100% LOVE your purchase, we will REFUND 100% of your money. No questions asked :)
Features:
34. The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire
ISBN13: 9781591792574Notes: 100% Satisfaction Guarantee. Tracking provided on most orders. Buy with Confidence! Millions of books sold!
35. The Rational Male
- OTC's Front End Service Set Includes five popular tools
- Ideal set for servicing pitman arms, ball joints, and tie rods on most vehicles
- Includes two pitman arm pullers for large or small ball joint applications, two ball joint separators, and three different tie rod pullers
- Rugged construction materials and robust design ensures these powerful tools will get the job done for years to come
- Durable blow molded storage case keeps kit components organized and protected when not in use
Features:
36. Sennheiser HD 598 Cs Closed Back Headphone
- Premium, audiophile grade over ear, closed back headphones.Connectivity Technology: Wired
- Padded leatherette headband and luxurious fabric ear pads perfect for long listening sessions
- Compatible with virtually every Audio device including phones, tablets, computers and stereo components
- Frequency Response 10 to 28,000 Hz , Impedance 23 ohm
Features:
37. Audio-Technica ATH-M50x Professional Studio Monitor Headphones, Black, Professional Grade, Critically Acclaimed, With Detachable Cable
- Critically acclaimed sonic performance praised by top audio engineers and pro audio reviewers
- Proprietary 45 millimeter large aperture drivers with rare earth magnets and copper clad aluminum wire voice coils
- Exceptional clarity throughout an extended frequency range with deep accurate bass response
- Circumaural design contours around the ears for excellent sound isolation in loud environments
- 90 degree swiveling earcups for easy one ear monitoring and professional grade earpad and headband material delivers more durability and comfort
Features:
39. Philips SmartSleep HF3520/60 Wake-Up Light Therapy Alarm Clock with Colored Sunrise Simulation and Sunset Fading Night Light, White
- PERSONALIZATION: Simulated sunset and sunrise and choice of 5 different natural wake-up sounds
- SMART FEATURES: FM radio, tap snooze and automatic dimmable display
- MOOD AND ENERGY: proven to give you an easy and energetic wake-up and improve your mood in the morning
- Can be used as a bedside reading lamp with 10 brightness settings.
- SMART FEATURES: FM radio, tap snooze and automatic dimmable display
- Item Shape: Round
Features:
Other people here may think this is silly, but I don't.
I totally understand, as I have at one point in my life derived exactly that from sleeping around (never when I was in a relationship tho). It does make a big difference in this area.
There are, however, other ways to obtain self-confidence and self-esteem. This may also sound silly to a lot of people, but one of the things I did was buy a motorcycle, and let me tell you, there's very few things that make me feel like so much of a man as zipping past heavy traffic in the commuter lane, or splitting lanes, reducing my commute time by 50%. Sex does the same thing, especially when I'm being dominant. My current girlfriend likes and encourages me to be dominant in the bedroom, and let me tell you... nothing like finishing inside her (she's on the pill) after I've called all the shots, told her that she's my woman, and done everything I've wanted to do to her. It's extremely validating when, in the moments after, she cuddles up next to me, looking flushed and satisfied, and confident in me as a man. It is possible to obtain part (but not all) of your self-esteem and confidence from one woman alone--you just need to be able to express yourself fully and have her absolutely love it the way my girlfriend does.
Anyhow, it sounds to me like in your current relationship you might not feel comfortable expressing your yourself/your manliness, or may be you're just not comfortable with it at all, even outside of a relationship. It's possible that your girlfriend has issues with expression of yourself/manliness and so you are conditioned away from expressing it. Been there in a previous relationship so I know this can seriously effect your self-esteem and confidence. Talk to her about it--most women "secretly" (or not so secretly) want a partner who's manly and dominant in the bedroom and usually out of the bedroom too.
To save your relationship, you need to find a way to express your manliness in a non-sexual way--whatever way works best for you, be it a motorcycle, sports, power tools, martial arts, or whatever creative and unique way you come up with on your own.
I'd also recommend seeing if you can try being a bit more dominant in the bedroom too, or at least expressing yourself fully and passionately. Once you get comfortable with it, chances are she'll enjoy it too. I'm lucky to have a girlfriend that openly wants me to be dominant in the bedroom--she makes it clear that she wants it so I don't have to worry about offending her. (A lot of women these days..)
Finally you need to determine what being a man means to you... There are two books I'd recommend: Way of the Superior Man (a great book with a stupid title) and Real Men Don't Apologize. The former is somewhat spiritual in nature, the latter appeals to a wider audience. Get the audio books if you need to--I did. Some people may think these books are full of misogyny, but in fact, nothing could be further from the truth. They are more about finding your identity as a man, and part of that, both books emphasize, is respect for women and the light they can bring to our lives.
Addendum: I also wanted to clarify: you cannot get all of your confidence and self-esteem from sleeping with a lot of women. Do this too much and it'll become addictive and ultimately lead to a loss of confidence and self-esteem. (Been there, done that!) You need multiple sources of confidence and self-esteem, sex and feeling desired by other people can only be one of the ways you obtain these things. Otherwise, the pursuit is ultimately fruitless and empty. It seems great at first, but after a while, you'll end up hating yourself far more than you would have otherwise.
This is all advice from a 36 year old male who's never been married and has slept with a lot of women. Trust me, it's not all its cracked up to be.
I've experimented with this, but I've found it always leads me to a dark place unless I use the isolation for some other, beneficial purpose. I'm not going to tell you not to enter "hermit mode," because it might work for you, but you should do it with the intent to fix the problems you very clearly defined. Lucky for you, they are common problems and are very easy to work on.
1. Your mind has been super cluttered
Some degree of isolation may help this, but I think what you're really after is simplification. How many types of social media do you use regularly? How big is your social network? How many apps do you feel you have to check-in on every time you pick up your phone? How much time do you spend gaming?
A couple times in the past, I've done social media "purges," which I feel helped me a lot. I unfriended probably 4/5 of my Facebook friends, keeping only the people that I still see or speak to in real life, or the people I genuinely want to hear from on a regular basis. After that, my news feed slowed down quite a bit and it wasn't so cluttered with the life events of people I didn't really know or care about anymore. With that came less mental clutter as well.
Another thing you can do is take an inventory of all the things you spend time on. Write them all down, including how much of your time you think you spend doing them, then simply go through the list and put a check next to the ones that make you feel a sense of happiness, fulfillment, or self-improvement. You'll probably find that most of the stuff on the list doesn't actually make you feel good, but it's not enough to just stop doing those things. You need to replace them with things that do make you feel good. Hopefully you already have an idea of some things you can do to that effect. If not, I'd suggest exercising and reading.
TL;DR: Set some personal goals for yourself, then try to replace some unproductive activities with activities that will help you achieve your goals. In my experience, there are few things in life that can bring a more immediate sense of confidence and fulfillment.
2. You've been unhappy.
I think if you follow the advice above, you'll make some headway here. You also need to decide (or find out with help) if you're unhappy because you're clinically depressed. If not, then you're a lucky guy and your situation is really easy to fix. For those of us without clinical depression, happiness is a choice. Like anything else worth having in life, it's something you have to work at and practice. It takes discipline and mindfulness, and you will never be happy 100% of the time, but it's really easy to start being happy most of the time.
A ton of books have been written on this subject, and I don't want to pretend to be a happiness guru, but I will share something that helped me out a lot over the past 4-5 years. I stumbled on Stoic philosophy and read the book A Guide to the Good Life. I'd say a solid 30% of the book didn't really connect with me, but the parts that did changed my perspective pretty significantly, especially the idea of the Locus of Control. It's one of those things that you always knew your whole life, but didn't realize you knew it until someone else explained it to you.
The gist is this: Most things in life are outside of our ability to influence or control. Given that knowledge, there is zero reason to fret about those things. Instead, we should focus on the things we can control, and that's a very short but significant list of things. Mainly: We have complete control over the way we react to the things we can't control. Nothing in the world makes you unhappy or makes you feel like your mind is super cluttered. Feeling that way is up to you. If you can practice and master that kind of self-control over your emotional/mental state, your sense of happiness will improve by leaps and bounds.
Good luck OP!
Female here, but have been in the same boat. Grew up super isolated, so I spent a lot of my 20s on my own and really lonely. Now have several solid friendships, a lot of acquaintances and dating prospects. So, I see myself as a success story. A lot of people on here are saying they’ve given up or feel hopeless, but I’m here to tell you it can change.
That loneliness shit is universal/literally an epidemic at this point. It has a lot to do with how our modern society is structured; hyper-independence is lauded, but actually unnatural. It’s not a reflection on you and your likability or lack there of.
(read “Loneliness - Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection” for more info. It helped me see it wasn’t something inherently wrong with me, but just something everyone experiences. Some people moreso because of practical things like not socialized properly in childhood, lacking skills, etc. It also gives a lot of info of how to get out of the lonely headspace). https://www.amazon.ca/Loneliness-Human-Nature-Social-Connection/dp/0393335283
Also therapy, both individual and group, helped me learn social skills and build connections that got me healthier socially.
(Read “Attached” to learn more about how your style of relating to others may be unhealthy, with guidance on how to improve it.)
https://www.amazon.ca/Attached-Science-Attachment-Find-Keep/dp/1585429139
Basically, a quick recipe is:
Is it: a lack of social skills? You can learn those. Tons of psych articles out there.
A lack of confidence? Start building it through changing your thoughts about yourself (cbt, self-coaching, etc). And figure out things that make you happy and do more of them.
A lot of social (and normal) confidence comes from how others treat us, so if you’re not getting a lot of positive feedback from other humans, get a pet that loves the shit out of you, some online pals, or GET A THERAPIST. A good one will make you feel valued and respected and welcome. Those feelings and that long term connection will build our confidence subtly but naturally.
And then when in very socially-focussed environments, see if there’s anyone that YOU find interesting (instead of focusing on whether or not they’ll find you interesting) and go talk to them. Aim for having a good convo and maybe being fb friends. Take it from there.
You all got this, dude friends. There is legit hope/resources out there to change, both tour mindset and your situation. I believe in you!
Having gone through something similar I'd recommend a few things. First, recommit to your male friendships or make some new ones. Hang out with the guys regularly. There's something really grounding about good friendships without sexual tension.
Next, I'd read some books to help you figure out how you want to approach life and dating once you're ready for that. The most helpful for me were the following 3 books: No More Mr Nice Guy (This should be required reading for high school boys. It's fantastic.), Models (the ideas from No More Mr Nice Guy applied to dating without the sleaziness some "pick up" material can delve into), and The Way of the Superior Man (some don't like it because of its spiritual bent but the ideas really spoke to me).
I'd also like to applaud you for deciding not to date until the divorce is final. It's a very individual decision, but that's the same choice I made. It just felt right to me. My last piece of advice is a continuation of that idea: don't be in a rush to get back into the dating game even once you're divorce is final. Take some time for yourself. Do some of the things you wanted to do but couldn't while you were married. It may be travel, a particular hobby, or something like changing up your personal style/hair/facial hair (I grew a beastly beard after being clean shaven for years and something simple like that brought me immense joy). Do some things for yourself and get comfortable in your own skin as a single guy. That will not only help you heal but will actually make you more attractive once you're ready to date again.
Anyway, those are the things that I've personally found to be helpful. If you have any follow up questions please let me know. I feel for you and wish you the best of luck.
I need to adjust my exemptions, I've owed the last two years and probably will this year.
However, if I can give you some unsolicited advice, don't get Beats headphones. To be blunt, they're overpriced garbage. Sure, they sound good, but you're primarily paying for the brand, not quality. Personally, I'd rather pay for quality than the brand.
If you're looking for headphones, you can't do better than the AudioTechnica M50X headphones for the money. If you're looking for earbuds, I highly recommend the Shure SE215 earbuds. Both of them sound amazing, though if you really want to hear how good they sound, a headphone amp like the FiiO E07K "Andes" will really bring out what the headphones can do. Creative makes some great portable headphone amps as well, though I found that the FiiO (which is surprisingly hard to find now, was easy a year ago) gets digital audio from my iDevices, which is fantastic.
So, I looked over your posting history before making this list. It seems like you have a confident head on your shoulders and understand women reasonably well.
Whatever catches your interest. :D
The Way of the Superior Man
https://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-Spiritual-Challenges-ebook/dp/B004A8ZWM4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1502141443&sr=8-1&keywords=superior+man
>This book will offend and infuriate some, inspire and test others, but challenge virtually everybody. I found it wise, insightful, occasionally brilliant, and always resourceful. To transcend the body-mind means to transcend and include its sexuality, not transcend and evaporate it. Few are the books that discuss strong sexuality within strong spirituality, instead of tepid sexuality diluted by a mediocre spiritual stance. This book steps straightforwardly into the challenge. Love it or loathe it, it is a shout from the heart of one perspective of the eternal masculine."
Happy husband(28m) of a somewhat open relationship of 13 years here. Don't let all these negative comments scare you. The beautiful thing about your relationship is that it's yours, and you two(or more!) get to tailor it to whatever suits you.
What you're talking about is commonly described as a "Don't Ask Don't Tell" style of open relationship. While not impossible, it does seem to make it a bit harder for most to keep things civil. I can tell you from personal experience that when my wife and I started with this style of relationship, we weren't ready for the amount of communication that was required to make this work, and we faltered. Years later, we have the luxury of time and experience to guide us into what has become a great source of fun for us both, without all the drama we started with.
Before jumping in, I'd recommend grabbing a couple books on the subject. My favorite being The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy.
What you and your partner are talking of doing can be a very fun and rewarding experience! Just keep in mind that changing your views are monogamy is a bigger test for some more than others.
Long story short, you need to take his brain space away from his dick and onto other parts of the body.
Ejacutlation is psychosomatic, and there is a trap that's easy to fall into where you're concentrating on not ejaculating, but in so doing, you're bringing all your focus to your dick.
Does he like pain at all? Biting and scratching are a great way to put his mind elsewhere.
Asking him to keep kissing you or touching you can help a lot too.
Another approach is to suggest for him to practice endurance when he masturbates. Try bringing himself to the edge without going over, backing off and repeating for as long as he can. There is a specific muscle (pubocoxygeus) that controls ejactulation, and it can be strengthened in this way and others.
If you want to buy him a great book on controlling his ejaculation you could get him "The Mulitorgasmic man"
http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1370288881&sr=8-1&keywords=multiorgasmic+man
Edit- one last note is that depending on his anatomy, it can help to be a little rough with his dick (a really tight squeeze here and there with the hand) before you actually get in there and start playing nice. That will desensitize it a little bit. YMMV on that one, but i thought it was worth including.
Honestly it's hard to go wrong with any, but the one that I personally use everyday is the white Avantek which was around $36 (there are other brands that are cheaper): https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B072FS9MC8
I got this one because it had among the best reviews on Amazon and when I got it myself, I found it to be very high quality and I'm quite satisfied with it. It doesn't "loop" or have any jarring transitions like some other brands, and the selection of white noises are all pretty nice
Dad of 2 here (4 and 2)
​
​
Good luck, man. Congratulations!
http://www.westcoastshaving.com/Merkur-Futur-Safety-Razor-Matte-Chrome_p_51.html
Safety razor in the kind of matte finish. I haven't really used another safety razor, but I like it a lot. Nice weight to it.
I can't remember the brush but it was about $40 I think.
http://www.crabtree-evelyn.com/for-him/shave-soap-in-wooden-bowl/801410.html?cgid=for-him
http://www.crabtree-evelyn.com/for-him/after-shave-balm/80143.html?cgid=for-him
I like the Crabtree and Evelyn line called Moroccan Myrrh. It smells nice and I also have the same cologne. Used to be called Nomad, but they changed the name for whatever reason.
The razors are Derby:
https://www.amazon.com/Derby-Extra-Double-Razor-Blades/dp/B004SGKMA0
$8 for 100 of them.
It's like most things. Large initial investment with very minimal upkeep after that.
Wow, thank you for such a comprehensive response! I will give all of these a listen. And I totally second your statement on film/tv soundtracks carrying intense emotional weight, just listen to the soundtrack of Schindler's List (my favorite work of John Williams). I actually just ordered a pair of top-drawer headphones today, and I'm looking forward to experiencing music in a whole new way. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01JP436TS/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 here's the link if you're in the market for a new set of cans! I wish you well in the forthcoming holiday season.
Scissors or trimmers. Don't pluck, and don't ignore it. Ear hair is a little more benign, but long nose hair is something everyone will notice and no one will appreciate.
I am unlucky enough to be a very hairy individual. I've been dealing with nose hair since I was 16. I, unfortunately, also have a relatively sensitive nostril cavity, so when I first bought a trimmer it was a nightmare. The trimming sensation was somewhere between ticklish and waterboarding, and flinching only caused hair to get pulled out (see above about not plucking).
I started with mustache scissors--which work very well. The problem with scissors is that you can't get a close cut, so you are back in there weekly. They did help me with my sensitivity, however. After about a year I went back to the trimmer and had far fewer issues. Now I whip that baby out two or three times a month and have clean nostrils in 30 seconds or less.
The Panasonic ER-GN30 was the trimmer of choice when I did my research and I would strongly recommend it. Waterproof for easy cleaning and runs on a single (easy-to-find while travelling) AA battery.
The key to long-lasting trims is to get in the "pockets" of your nostril. There are two: both just inside the opening, one towards the tip of the nose and one towards your teeth. These are easy to miss and will become visible again within days if not trimmed well. Now I can feel when I need a trim as my nose feels "itchy" as hairs have crossed the Maginot line and have started interfering with each other.
I never took advantage of my university gym, but it was an awesome one. I really, really wish I did. You will regret it if you don't use it. There are several paths to take, head over to /r/fitness and check out the side bar. There are programs people have made to cater to entry-level lifts. The one I started on, still on pretty much, is Starting Strength - it's a fantastic book.
It's still irrelevant. You're better off getting a part time job and renting a room off campus than living under the thumb of your parents. I do live alone and have graduated with an undergrad and masters degree. I had a very difficult and painful time setting boundaries with my parents, but in the end it was worth it.
I strongly suggest reading The way of the superior man it is an excellent read and well worth the time and money.
I got one for my wife about 3 years ago, and she uses it religiously. Helps her wake up in the morning, but also helps her fall asleep at night. Theres a reverse function where it will also dim at night. We both like to read at night, so when we decide to go to bed, we will just put it on that feature and it will slightly dim over 20 minutes. Best purchase I ever made.
​
This is the one I got her:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0093162RM/ref=oh_aui_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
The Phillips HF320 is awesome: https://www.amazon.ca/Philips-HF3520-Wake-Up-Coloured-Simulation/dp/B0093162RM
It's super bright, and has different colours for the sunrise. Definitely a godsend in Winter. This + putting my phone across the room has helped me get out of bed most mornings. It's not like you'll be raring to jump out of bed every morning but it does make waking up easier.
I tried the HF310 which is way cheaper but it wasn't as bright or as nice, so I returned it and managed to get my 320 on facebook classifieds for $60.
Yeah I guess even though we try honesty and communication, it takes two people to be aware of themselves to have a good relationship. I feel like people who are actually considerate about these matters like you, or I or anyone else that views these matters with weight are in the minority.
Just because we are being honest doesn’t mean another person is nor do they know their attachment style. I did read this book, https://www.amazon.com/dp/1585429139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_t1_RQuEDbRPWEEQV
Attached, because I wanted to understand people better and avoid pitfalls, but again, not everyone can communicate. Maybe it’s an age thing, I’m 28 years old, and seems like my dating pool just isn’t quite “there” yet. Like another person here suggested, focus less on dating and instead on the self. Learn to move on from things and not let bad happenings traumatize too much. And most importantly, keep learning and maybe even get there some day. I see too many failed marriages. I want to get it right the first time.
I have Audio Technica ATH-M50x's and they're great. They're not active noise canceling but they do a great job and the audio quality is phenomenal. They're a little over a $100 but they are well worth that price.
> It's probably me being insecure, but I just don't want to feel like a third wheel in the relationship. I'm not sure how to feel about the whole thing, I really like this girl but it's a new situation for me and her.
One book that I'd like to recommend is The Ethical Slut.
Some subreddits for this lifestyle are:
/r/nonmonogamy and
/r/polyamory
As others have mentioned, if the non-exclusivity is something that makes you uncomfortable, you will end up breaking it off.
You can get a good one with multiple uses on Amazon for $15.
I got this one 4 months ago and love it! I use it to trim my nostril hairs and tighten up my eyebrows since I have pretty beastly ones.
+1 for safety razors
You want cheap? You want classy?
Get a nice double-edged safety razor. Pick up a box of 100 razor blades for < $8.
I don't have any erection problems but I've been getting into the whole Zen/Tao thing and found this book about multiple make orgasms about a year ago. Also check out prostate orgasms using a Aneros device. The book and the Aneros will change your life.
Most guys have no clue about prostate orgasms but after reading the book and working through it and using the Aneros for about a year I can have orgasm like pleasure for as long as I like. I also don't feel worn out at the end of a session, it's like I've been recharged.
>reading/speech on opposite sides of the brain
This is untrue. Speech is entirely located in the left hemisphere (Wernicke's and Broca's areas) and so is complex reading. The right hemisphere is only capable of reading 1 syllable words.
I know the study you're thinking of and I can't find it either (maybe it's this one, but it's behind a paywall), though I know it's discussed in Blink by Malcolm Gladwell. Here's a video that discusses the same type of phemonenon - called confabulation. Confabulation is the product of the "interpreter" module which is thought to reside in the left hemisphere.
Here's a good article that explains hemispheric differences as we understand them: link
Thank you for helping me study for my neuro final, kind stranger.
This may be an odd suggestion, but if you are in any way sexually active, you should read Come as You Are. Although obviously written from a female perspective, it's an extremely interesting read.
Also, Death of a Salesman because it's short yet filled with interesting, relevant themes.
I got given a book on self-esteem stuff once, but I never read it. :\
The only one I've read, and in the last year or so, was this one.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Rational-Male-Rollo-Tomassi/dp/1492777862/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1406549118&sr=8-1&keywords=the+rational+male
If you're interested in inter-gender dynamics, I'd recommend it.
Or you can visit his site. http://therationalmale.com/the-best-of-rational-male-year-one/
Get a battery powered nose hair trimmer I like the one with the round trimmer part vs the flat one. Conair and Wahl makes a good one and you can pick them up for $19 or less in CVS or Duane Reade or Walgreens. I tried one of those mechanical hair trimmers and thought I'd pee on myself every time I used it because it was so painful. [This looks like a good one] (https://www.amazon.com/Panasonic-ER-GN30-K-Nose-Hair-Trimmer/dp/B0049LUI9O/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=beauty&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1493174453&amp;sr=1-4&amp;keywords=nose+hair+trimmer) and [this is a toture device] (https://www.amazon.com/KEEPO-Portable-Stainless-Fingernail-Cleaning/dp/B01M69TSFH/ref=sr_1_7_s_it?s=beauty&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1493174453&amp;sr=1-7&amp;keywords=nose+hair+trimmer)
>Male orgasm feels a lot like a 3-second sneeze.
FTFY: Male EJACULATION feels a lot like a 3-second sneeze.
If you, however, learn to separate ejaculation from orgasm, you can have "dry orgasms" which can, at best, become full-body orgasms and be far more rewarding / nourishing / interesting / worth striving for rather than merely having a 3-5 second ejaculation.
P.s. Most men will never research this and will just laugh at it and go "fuck this, I wanna cum - none of that tantric newage mumbo-jumbo shit, this is how I roll, can't teach an old dog new tricks" -- and then fight about it.
p.p.s: http://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362
I used to suck at dating and interpersonal relationships in general, I'm still not the best at it but whatever. What helped me out a bunch was reading some books.
How to win friends and influence people
What every body is saying
Attached
This is the one I got two years ago, changed my life for the better. Would you clean poo of your arm with a piece of dry paper, or would you use water?
Luxe Bidet Neo 120 - Self Cleaning Nozzle - Fresh Water Non-Electric Mechanical Bidet Toilet Attachment (blue and white) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00A0RHSJO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_NTItDb8978CQ6
That's good (the therapy). I think the only thing you can do is to be patient, manage your expectations, respect her boundaries, maybe read Come as you are to get a better understanding of what you're possibly working with?
Need nice headphones? Sennheiser's HD598 Cs can be found for $100 (70 with your coupon, wow that's a deal).
Get Starting Strength
It's a really good book and lays out how to get started with the most important weight lifting exercises. Most of what makes the gym scary is being afraid of looking like a dumbass. You can even go late at night if you want, and almost no one will be there.
It's ok if you don't really do much your first couple of times. Just getting in the door will give you more courage for next time.
After going like 3-5 times, you start to want to go so that you can continue whatever weight lifting routine you decide on.
"Starting Strength" by Mark Rippetoe is the book that /r/fitness recommends to everyone. It's like the bible of lifting.
this is the one i’ve been looking at
pretty highly rated, good reviews. gonna be purchasing this one. hope this helps :)
Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. It may not be as accessible to teenagers, but your 18-19 year old's may benefit.
Oh, certainly. Without deviations from the norm, what fun would life be?
I'm glad you liked the link. I hope you'll continue reading material about this sort of thing; it really is fascinating.
The article itself isn't the very best available on the general topic, but sometimes in conversation the "best" info isn't always best. I certainly don't claim to have deep knowledge of these things, but I hope to occasionally spur someone onward to someone who does.
For biases, mental heuristics, and irrationality with a pop science-y feel, I recommend Blink, by Malcolm Gladwell, and Predictably Irrational, by Dan Ariely.
A bidet. I bought one after someone in a thread exactly like this suggested it, and it's as life-changing as they said it would be. https://www.amazon.com/Luxe-Bidet-Neo-120-Non-Electric/dp/B00A0RHSJO (Don't forget to use Amazon smile if you buy it.....doctors without borders could use the help)
It’s men who think being nice to a woman is the way into her pants. Typically, they are only nice to people they want something from. That’s why a lot of people view them as manipulative as well. This is usually due to the “nice guy” not wanting to sexualize the women, often in an effort to try to set themselves apart. Problem is, they forget women are sexual too and don’t necessarily disqualify someone for being insinuative. No sexual tension(I’m using the phrase loosely) means no attraction. They don’t realize this and because they were nice and expected sex in return, they lash out.
I think that’s what I’ve gathered over the years of hearing the term.
Edit: https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy-ebook/dp/B004C438CW
$60, This is my go-to funny yet functional birthday gift I've given a few friends. It does both hot/cold.
$36 cold water only version
Edit: My buddy sent me this SFW 13 second video of the $60 unit in action.
Yep! https://www.amazon.com/Luxe-Bidet-Neo-120-Non-Electric/dp/B00A0RHSJO
But when we replace this toilet were getting a true bidet toilet.
I've been using the Audio-Technica ATH-M50x headphones for the past 3 years daily at work and I love them.
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1594745978/ref=oh_aui_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1
Gifted this to a couple of new dads in my work group. It’s great.
Pictures. Lots of pictures. They change so fast yet it’s right in front of you, you don’t realize it.
\> but did she actually "orgasm"?
Probably. Women can experience orgasms differently, and it's not always just some monolithic bang. Sometimes it really is a "constant high" sort of feeling.
Ultimately though? She had fun and that's what matters most.
https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090
Luxe Bidet Neo 120 - Self Cleaning Nozzle - Fresh Water Non-Electric Mechanical Bidet Toilet Attachment (blue and white) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B00A0RHSJO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_5gyyCbHB0HQGD
This is the one I have, can't go back.
http://www.amazon.com/Merkur-Long-Handled-Safety-Razor/dp/B000NL0T1G/ref=sr_1_2?s=hpc&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1453125614&amp;sr=1-2&amp;keywords=merkur+safety+razor
http://www.amazon.com/Derby-Extra-Double-Razor-Blades/dp/B004SGKMA0/ref=pd_sim_194_31?ie=UTF8&amp;dpID=41z8d0dXyuL&amp;dpSrc=sims&amp;preST=_AC_UL160_SR160%2C160_&amp;refRID=1DGT8KR3R8EHQVEVE736
20 for the razor
20 for 2 100 ct blades
If you were to shave everyday and swtich out the blade. That set up will last you 200 days. If you were to shave every other day, that set up will last you 400 days.
Price wise you cannot beat DA shaving.
Read this book:
No More Mr. Nice Guy
No More Mr. Nice Guy
FYI: the deal is on!
Sennheiser HD 598 Cs for $99.95.
he's been raised without a positive male influence - its not your fault, but he needs a dose of truth. give him a copy of the rational male:
https://www.amazon.com/Rational-Male-Rollo-Tomassi/dp/1492777862
This is a safety razor. What you have is a cartridge razor, which are more expensive to maintain.
For example, I buy these blades, which cost me 0.09$ per blade.
There's a popular self-help book about it, apparently:
http://smile.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy-ebook/dp/B004C438CW/
EDIT: Hurr durr I'm lightning fast at posting this.
Read this book: https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139 . It'll help you in life in general.
$35 on Amazon and it took me like 20 minutes to install.
There is one book I would recommend: https://www.amazon.com/Baby-Owners-Manual-Instructions-Trouble-Shooting/dp/1594745978/ref=nodl_
It has everything you need to know
Lol "set it to jet" haha ! I like that. No, but seriously check this out, it's the one I have
Sure. But so can having the most commonly asked questions and misconceptions explicitly and simply written down.
Thousands and maybe even millions of people start the journey alone every year and they have even less information.
This book describes the important exercises and programming a beginner would need in detail.
Waxing nose hairs isn't a good idea - you need those hairs. Get a nose hair trimmer like this, only $13 - https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0049LUI9O/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1
it will change your life
This is the one
This will change your life
http://www.amazon.com/Luxe-Bidet-Neo-120-Non-Electric/dp/B00A0RHSJO
This motherfucker
http://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy-ebook/dp/B004C438CW/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;qid=1462131706&amp;sr=1-1
The Way Of The Supperior Man
Depends on whether they are an ethical slut or not.
Attached
Read "The Rational Male".
And more!
There are 2 types of bidets. There’s what you described but there are also super cheap add ons you can get to an existing toilet. I spend around $30 on mine and it only took probably 20 minutes to install, with zero damage to the toilet, floor, wall anything. No additional plumbing needed either.
I think it was this one: https://www.amazon.com/Luxe-Bidet-Neo-120-Non-Electric/dp/B00A0RHSJO/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1550391056&amp;sr=8-3&amp;pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&amp;keywords=bidet&amp;dpPl=1&amp;dpID=419LXSZM6YL&amp;ref=plSrch
I was actually looking at some of these alarm clocks a couple nights ago & found some different models: $131 and
$200.
No worries man, everyone starts somewhere. I was a swimmer, when I started lifting everything was outta whack for me too. I recommend reading Starting Strength if you're looking for info on muscle groups, proper exercise motions and stuff!
I’ll tell you what, if you stop ruining your plumbing you can have it for free.
https://www.amazon.com/Luxe-Bidet-Neo-120-Non-Electric/dp/B00A0RHSJO/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1526916104&amp;sr=8-3&amp;keywords=bidet+toilet+seats
It’s so cheap you’ll make your money back from those nasty things inside of a week.
My situation is similar to yours, OP.
This Parks and Rec. clip speaks to me.
Recently I bought this cheap "entry level" bidet on Amazon, and honestly... I sort of look forward to pooping because it's so much easier now. It's a maximum 10 minute install process that anyone can do, and then you're set.
You sit down and take your poop, then turn on the bidet, slowly increasing the pressure until it feels right, then wiggle your ass around a little bit. Turn off the bidet, wipe a couple times to clear the water off, and then move on with your day.
I'd advise against using wet wipes if you plan on flushing them. Even though the boxes say they're flushable, they really aren't. "Flushable" wet wipes cause so many clogged septic systems every year. Here's a quick 2 minute video from the BBC talking about what wet wipes do to the London sewer systems. It's much worse if you have a septic tank buried in your yard. Wet wipes can easily clog the hell out of your tank and then you need to get it pumped. Imagine coming home from work one hot summer day and your front lawn has become a literal puddle of shit and piss because your tank clogged and overflowed.