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u/tossawwwy · 1 pointr/AskRedditAfterDark

Yeah man. and I think for me what's even more important than sex is learning how to give and receive emotional intimacy and communication. If you can be honest with yourself and others, even if that honesty includes fear and uncertainty, or whether it's confidence or closeness, those things will take you very far in having real interactions with people.

There are some things that I've read and listened to that have helped me to learn more what healthy relationships look like such as this book which is basically meant to be used when trying to mend a broken relationship, but that means it has so many good ideas about communication, and what it takes to make yourself, and by extension your relationships happy.

Basically take care of yourself. Make your life full, doing all the things you need and love to do and other things will flow naturally. be honest with yourself about your feelings too. (Frustration, elation, etc.) because ignoring them will only further disconnect you from yourself. You want to be a whole person and you are right now. There are things that whole you would like to do, yet you are not dependent on them or them on you.

Check out this post by /u/bombjoke about mindfulness meditation.

Check out this thread started by /u/bombjoke /r/theXeffect which has some great motivating tools for your life that may be helpful

This audio program is dope. I have it ripped to my computer and if you want I can send you the files in .rar form.

If you try even one of these things you'll be far ahead of the game.

Hope you have a good life man.

Peace.

u/dykexdaddy · 4 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

Okay so I'm not a dude but I've basically made a life out of putting stuff in people's butts so I'm going to chime in like holy hell, haha. This is assuming you're a rank beginner -- if there's anything specific you're interested in, I can't promise I know everything but I do know a fair bit!

I wouldn't normally say this, but because you're young and I've heard so many horror stories from my male friends from your age range: please don't put anything in your butt that doesn't have a wide enough base to make sure you can get it back out again. Fingers are a great place to start, natch, but depending on how you're built, that might not be the easiest thing logistically. No carrots, no zucchini, no sharpies, no egg/bullet vibes even on a (very-easy-to-break) cord, no cheap cancer-causing jelly dildos that you bought on Groupon (these are all actual things that my male friends have admitted to having put in their asses and deep sigh don't do it). I've literally bought people sex toys before because they were too embarrassed because I don't give a shit, I just don't want them to get hurt. Good sex toys aren't cheap, but if it's going inside your body? Worth it.

Use a shitton of lube. Look for the ones marketed at gay men -- they tend to be the most useful. If you can use a silicone lube (because it's a steel plug or whatever), Gun Oil. If you're using a silicone toy on its own, Boy Butter or coconut oil. If you need water-based, Maximus or Hello Sailor have both worked well for me in the past (I abhor water-based lubes, personally, but sometimes you gotta), or the Sliquid Naturals hybrid is also good. Some folks swear by the powdered stuff (I think it's called J-lube?) but I used it a few times with a previous partner and had a heinous time getting the texture right and it didn't last.

If you're squicky or worried about mess and don't have ready access to laundry, gloves are your friend, as are chux/puppy pads (they're cheap, easy to buy, and then you just throw them away when you're done). Putting condoms on your toys also helps, but also, again, buy good silicone toys and then you can boil them, bleach them, or put them in the dishwasher (assuming you have one, and that doing so will not traumatize anyone you live with, haha).

you don't have to do a full enema every time you do anal play and in fact that can be really harmful in the long term. If you don't actively feel like you have to shit, aren't doing super-deep penetration and/or don't mind getting a little messy (it's an ass, these things happen), you'll be fine like 95% of the time.

Personally, my favorite plugs come from njoy (steel) and holy shit have I bought my share of those for people haha. Most people, I've found, have a preference between plugs and dildos -- you'll have to experiment some to figure out what does it for you. (Like... some people just want to be filled and left alone, hence the plugs, that's what feels good. Some folks love the sensation of being stretched open, so they're more into fucking -- I've had positive reports about the Tantus Silk line, which is designed specifically for beginners -- I own literally all of them and they're super smooth and don't have a defined head and it's great) If you have trouble getting things in there at first but it doesn't hurt, it just feels like you can't do it, then you might have better luck lowering yourself onto the toy instead of trying to push it inside yourself.

Just take your time and know that your body has an anatomical limit that's determined by a lot of factors, and very very few people can do the giant Bad Dragon shit that seems to be everywhere (I say this because I know a lot of men who are size queens and end up being horribly disappointed that they can "only" get up to a certain size of toy or a certain number of fingers). So if you get to a point where you just can't take anymore because it straight-up won't work, that's extremely normal and don't stress about it.

There's a book called Anal Pleasure and Health that I found extremely helpful when first doing butt stuff with other people.

u/freeshavocadew · 1 pointr/AskRedditAfterDark

I can't exactly recommend to another dude what is going to be the best experience out of any. I had to Google what "Nix and Lily" were, and I see they're Bad Dragon masturbatory things. Neither comes with any movement/vibration stimulation and Nix apparently has a stumpy tail to make it more difficult to fuck or something. These toys are $95 as well.

I don't know your budget, but it may be worth trying a couple of things out if you can afford to. Different stimulation may lead to different orgasms.

For straight thrusting and east of cleaning, I use this Fleshlight Quickshot. I bought the clear version and find it's one of the easiest to use I've ever had. Was less weird to clean than a regular Fleshlight and the like, plus easier to conceal if I want, it's close to the size of a coke can. Use water-based lube.

I have also found that I can cum from using vibrations on my dick, and I use a Hitachi Magic Wand and occasionally an accessory, placing it behind my head and flexing my prostate (imagine trying to flex/move your dick or stop peeing). The first time I did this, it surprised the fuck out of me and I came HARD. Ever since I've been chasing that dragon lol. I will add that due to my size, that accessory that goes all the way thru is difficult to fit into. I'm only a little over 6 inches long and taper from my base some, kind of thick there. With a lot of patience and lube, I can just barely fit into the sleeve, it doesn't have much give. You, based on what you mention in your post and most guys probably will be able to comfortably fit into it. The vibrations are no joke, though. I went from using my hand, having the occasional partner but not one at the time, to this and it was a whole other level. I couldn't use a cock ring like I do regularly, I'd only barely be able to get my head into that sleeve and almost cry due to those bumps inside the sleeve. If you can, try it out though. You should fit and it may fuck your whole deal up. No one's going to see you for like 2 days.

I might also suggest getting some cock rings. If you've never used any before, go with silicone to start. Wood and metal are great, but not recommended for beginners. Silicone ones will stretch and wont get stuck. I recommend staying away from any that say "jelly" in the title, those are terrible and will break before long in most cases. I use the brand name Tom of Finland which was recommended by a gay friend. Definitely not exclusive to gay men, it's just a well made set of rings. I have found most of those cheap ones with the little bullet sized vibes on them break easily. The lasso-style may work as well, there's more adjust-ability at the cost of possibly pinching initially. A little practice and it gets easier. If you want to give metal ones a try, I recommend these as a set of 3. I find the smallest one is nice to use just behind my head. It can slide off easier, so don't have sex with one just behind your head!

If you occasionally like conversation, back rubs, bonding, and challenges - you can always try to find someone willing to play with your dick for you. Some prefer that, others can prefer masturbation.

u/HeHootsHeWhores · 2 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

We also got this little wand from Amazon and it’s super awesome for the price. Flexible head, super strong vibe, and is great for her to use on her own as well as when we’re together!

Shibari Mini Halo 20X Multi-Speed...

u/Unloadonme · 2 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

I bought a Cal Exotics Power Stroke which is essentially different from a Fleshlight, but at the time I needed something 'hands off' due to recent surgery. This device gave me countless hours of fantastic pleasure at a time when I needed it most. The price is right, and the performance is fantastic.

I can't recommend this highly enough. Honestly, if I'd discovered this thing 20 years, I might not have even gotten married.

u/ufront · 5 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

You can become really good at pleasuring your partner. That's the main thing you can do. If you're giving your partners mind-blowing orgasms you'll be fine.

From what I 've been told by the women I've been with, most men are really not very good at getting women off. They're also not good at paying attention to if their partner is really enjoying herself.

Your fingers are much more dexterous than your tongue even though there is a lot of eroticism around oral sex. I know a guy who says his wife fell in love with him because of his fingers, and his wife laughs and nods in agreement.

You need to be able to find her clitoris and know how to stoke it. You also need to know how to communicate with your parter well. Ask her what she wants. If she's not sure, give her options "Would you like me to stroke you with more pressure or less pressure?" Move around so you don't overstimulate one area. Tease her a bit.

Here's a suggestion for a book and a suggestion for an organization that gives courses on sensuality and relationships. (The org's sensual teaching are partially based on the book but they have other aspects of their teaching that's unrelated.)

Extended Massive Orgasm by Bodansky and Bodansky

https://www.amazon.com/Extended-Massive-Orgasm-Updated-Illustrated/dp/0897936450

These people give courses in sensuality and relationships: www.erwandavonteachings.com. One of the things they teach is how to give extended orgasms and how to have them. The main guy taught the woman who founded One Taste (I can't recommend One Taste. I know people who do recommend it, but there's some sketchiness there and never felt like a good fit to me.)

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u/wheresmyjam · 1 pointr/AskRedditAfterDark



I bought This to use with my gf and it's amazing. It's not to big and heavy like a Hitachi wand but just as good... And it's wireless!! Have fun! haha

u/demons8mybaby · 3 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

As a guy I highly recommend TengaEggs but I've found they're far more fun when used by a partner.

For women, my go-to recommendation is the Hitachi Magic Wand, you just can't go wrong with this thing. I've even supplied these to a number of women, mostly found here on Reddit. I kinda like being the Hitachi Fairy ;)

u/FeelMeRawr · 7 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

pasting same answer as last time this asked.....love this one!

dreamgirl bandage teddy. inexpensive and straps tear after a few hard sessions but is favorite of my clients. order a new one every couple months but is worth it. lol

u/MrBunqle · 5 pointsr/AskRedditAfterDark

The Ethical Slut

https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379&ved=0ahUKEwiuley00ebXAhXCQt8KHVE_BywQ5OUBCGYwDA&usg=AOvVaw0C0biNX9E1HSS_DxjO55e4

Helped me get some perspective on a life altering path I knew I was heading down without the vocabulary to really discuss it properly. It's not the BEST book on ethical non monogamy, but it's a really good starting point...

u/Stealth_Cow · 1 pointr/AskRedditAfterDark

You do you. Be honest with your partners, and open with your preferences. Make choices, and surround yourself with people that reinforce the person you want to be.

Otherwise, maybe some suggested reading?