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1. Taking Charge of Your Fertility, 10th Anniversary Edition: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health
- Used Book in Good Condition
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2. ORGANIC 101 Lemon Haze USDA Certified, All Natural, Extra-Strength Deodorant No Aluminum, Parabens, Other Toxic Chemicals, Stay Clean, Smell Fresh (3.25oz, Satin Gold)
✅ USDA Certified Organic Advanced Skincare, 100% Natural, Gluten Free, & Made in the USA 🇺🇸✅ NO Baking Soda = NO Rashes and NO Skin Irritation✅ WILL NOT Stain Clothing✅ Absolutely NO HARMFUL CHEMICALS such as aluminum, talc, parabens, propylene glycol, triclosan, or other toxic chemica...

3. The Care and Keeping of You 2: The Body Book for Older Girls
American Girl Publishing Inc

4. Thayers Facial Toner, Witch Hazel with Aloe Vera, Rose Petal, 12 Fl Oz
- Soft rose fragrance, Soothing Rose Toner made with rose-petal water and proprietary Witch Hazel extract
- Un-distilled witch hazel cleanses and moisturizes, Certified organic aloe vera
- Free of alcohol, parabens and propylene glycol
- Packaging may vary
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5. Curly Girl: The Handbook
- Workman publishing
- Binding: paperback
- Language: english
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6. Luxe Bidet Neo 120 - Self Cleaning Nozzle - Fresh Water Non-Electric Mechanical Bidet Toilet Attachment (blue and white)
- A LUXURIOUS LOOK AT AN EXCELLENT PRICE – With a sleek design and high-quality parts, our bidet attachment will give your bathroom a next-level look. Constructed with high-pressure valves with metal/ceramic cores and steel hoses instead of plastic.
- HYGIENIC NOZZLE GUARD GATE – Shields the nozzle for your ultimate sanitary experience. The nozzle automatically retracts behind the guard gate after each wash to ensure it is protected until your next use.
- HAVE FUN DOING IT YOURSELF - Includes ALL PARTS AND TOOLS to get your bidet up and running in minutes. Easily attaches to and detaches from any standard two-piece toilet.
- ENVIRONMENTALLY-FRIENDLY, WORTHWHILE INVESTMENT – Save money (and trees!) on toilet paper. Cleaning with our bidet is gentle on your skin and sustainable for the planet.
- NO KIDDING 18-MONTH WARRANTY – We are always here to make sure you are 100% satisfied, so anytime you have problems or concerns about the products, we are just one call away. Register your bidet online and get an extended warranty.
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7. Finishing Touch Flawless Women's Painless Hair Remover , White/Rose Gold
- 18-Karat gold plated
- Safe on all skin types and tones
- Dermatologist Approved. It is hypoallergenic, suitable for all women
- No more cuts from razors
- No more redness and irritation
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8. The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
- Divided into five parts, the book offers a frank and friendly discussion of consciousness and how we can develop it. In part one, he examines the notion of self and the inner dialogue that all of us live with.
- Part two examines the experience of energy as it flows through us and works to show readers how to open their hearts to the energy of experience that permeates their lives. Ways to overcome tendencies to close down to the rest of the world are the subject of part three. Enlightenment and the embrace of universal consciousness are the subject of part four. And finally, in part five, Singer returns to daily life and the pursuit of "unconditional happiness."
- Throughout, the book maintains a light and engaging tone, free from heavy dogma and prescriptive religious references. The easy exercises that figure in each chapter help readers experience the ideas that Singer presents.
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10. The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls, Revised Edition (American Girl Library)
- Our best-selling body book for girls just got even better! With all-new illustrations and updated content for girls ages 8 and up, it features tips, how-tos, and facts from the experts.
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12. Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns)
- Three Rivers Press CA
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13. BIC Cristal For Her Ball Pen, 1.0mm, Black, 16ct (MSLP16-Blk)
- Elegant design - just for her!
- Thin barrel to fit a woman's hand
- Medium 1.0 mm point, Black ink
- Medium 1.0 mm point
- Black ink
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14. Staedtler Triplus Fineliner Pens, .3mm, Metal Clad Tip, 20-Pack, Assorted (334SB20BK)
- Assembly Required: No, Ink Color: Assorted, Tip: 0.3mm Fine , Tip Size: 0.3mm
- Features: Acid-free Ink
- Sold as 1 pack
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15. RoC Retinol Correxion Deep Wrinkle Anti-Aging Retinol Night Cream, 1 Ounce
- DEEP WRINKLE NIGHT CREAM: This anti-aging hydrating cream with glycerin works through the night when skin is believed to be most receptive. Wake up to revitalized skin for a smoother, more radiant appearance.
- FOR DAILY USE: Powered by Retinol & our exclusive mineral complex, this non-greasy, non-comedogenic formula helps reduce the appearance of deep wrinkles by up to 50% while lifting & firming skin*. Made for dramatic results but gentle enough for daily use by men and women.
- ANTI-AGING FORMULAS: Whether you're looking for a solution for deep wrinkles, fine lines, dark circles, crow's feet, uneven skin tone or dry skin, we have an anti-aging formula that's right for you.
- SCIENCE & BEAUTY: We produce a wide array of skin care products & treatments including daily moisturizers with SPF, hyaluronic and niacinamide acids, facial cleansers, vitamin C serums, retinol skin tone & wrinkle regimens & creams for under eyes, neck firming, decollete & much more.
- SKIN CARE INNOVATION: Our products are recognized by beauty industry leaders & dermatologists for their best-in-class effectiveness. We continue to research & innovate new formulas for healthier skin. *Based on an eight week clinical study.
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16. Beauty without Cruelty Renewal Moisturizer Vitamin C with coq10, 2oz
- Premium Aromatherapy.
- Benefits for all skin types.
- 100% Suitable for Vegans, No Animal Ingredients.
- Powerful plant humectants replenish vital moisture to smooth and soften your skin
- BWC vitamin c premium facial renewal cream with CoQ10 moisturizers, revitalizes, and restores your complexion
- Active forms of vitamin C and CoQ10 combined with green tea extract and anit-oxidant vitamins neutralize sun and environmental damage and promote youthful skin
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17. Germ Guardian True HEPA Filter Air Purifier with UV Light Sanitizer, Eliminates Germs, Filters Allergies, Pollen, Smoke, Dust Pet Dander, Mold Odors, Quiet 22 inch 4-in-1 Air Purifier for Home AC4825E
- 3-IN-1 AIR PURIFIER FOR HOME - True HEPA air filter reduces up to 99.97% of harmful germs, dust, pollen, pet dander, mold spores, and other allergens as small as .3 microns from the air
- KILLS GERMS - UV-C light helps kill airborne viruses such as influenza, staph, rhinovirus, and works with Titanium Dioxide to reduce volatile organic compounds
- TRAPS ALLERGENS - Pre-filter traps dust, pet hair, and other large particles while extending the life of the HEPA filter
- REDUCES ODORS - Activated charcoal filter helps to reduce unwanted odors from pets, smoke, cooking fumes, and more
- QUIET OPERATION - The lowest setting can be used as gentle white noise at night for a quiet, restful sleep
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18. Shiseido Fitit Perfect Whip Cleansing Foam 4.2 Ounce (Pack of 1)
- Shiseido's most popular facial cleanser!
- Suitable for all skin types, Perfect Whip facial wash cleans pores gently and removes makeup thoroughly.
- Lather in hands and apply onto face. Wash off with water, and follow up with toner, lotion and/or cream.
- Use a foaming net for a superfine, rich lather and deeper cleansing experience!
- Net Wt. 120g/4.23oz
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19. Schick Quattro For Women Trimstyle Razor & Bikini Trimmer (Color Mat Vary)
- First all in one shaver and bikini trimmer
- The new Schick Quattro for Women TrimStyle lets you shave, trim and transform yourself with just the flip of a handle
- It is the only razor with 4 ultra thin blades for long lasting smooth skin and a built in waterproof bikini trimmer in one
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20. Astor Bidet Fresh Water Spray Non-Electric Mechanical Bidet Toilet Seat Attachment CB-1000
- DITCH THE SCRATCHY TOILET PAPER AND UNSANITARY WET WIPES: The Astor Bidet is the sanitary, Earth-friendly solion that leaves you feeling cleaner than conventional paper and wet wipes.
- INSTALLS IN 10 MINUTES WITH ONLY A SCREWDRIVER: The premium quality bidet sprayer attaches to your existing toilet seat and doesn't use electricity or require special parts - everything you need is included in the box - making it a great value.
- AFFORDABLE UPGRADE TURNS YOUR TOILET INTO A LUXURIOUS BIDET: Using water pressure alone, the Astor Bidet provides a more comfortable, hygienic experience - you'll never want to go back to coarse toilet paper.
- ADJUST THE FRESH WATER SPRAY TO YOUR PREFERENCE: Your comfort is our priority - the custom dial lets you control the water sprayer pressure for the most enjoyable clean possible.
- ECO-WISE DESIGN: Besides saving toilet paper, the premium Astor bidet also works just as well when the lights go out. No batteries or electricity required: our engineering works purely on the pressure already existing in your water pipes.
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Check out http://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-You-Older-Girls/dp/1609580427/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1395121650&sr=1-2&keywords=american+girl+body+book . I haven't seen this one yet, but the one for younger girls was pretty good. Also, this is a good resource http://kidshealth.org/parent/growth/sexual_health/development.html. There's tons of information online about normal sexual development, and it's good to teach your girls about "good" touch and "bad" touch - especially since a bunch of idiots have had sex ed removed from schools. You need to get your wife on board with these things - she'll be at least as big of an influence as you are in terms of comfort with their bodies and development. Your job is mainly to treat your wife well, be respectful towards other women and to not freak out when they start dating. The not freaking out part will be hard since you know how teenage boys think and you know damn well they will go as far with your daughters as they can and half of them will run if things get rough. Teach your daughters that they should never go farther than they want, that they should not always be pleasing others and that they need birth control and condoms when they start having sex. And also teach them that sex is an intimate act that is beautiful but will also leave them vulnerable (at least in the beginning). It should be enjoyable but shouldn't be shared with everyone.
Kids are exposed to things much earlier than they were in the past. And way before their emotional development is ready for it. So watch for signs that your daughters are asking questions or learning things from other kids. Have private talks with them to give them information when this happens because you don't want them learning about sex from the wrong people. Put secure settings on your computer so that they don't see porn because a lot of it can get rough and violent, and they will never be able to un-see it. Girls are not empowered by looking sexy. They are empowered by being strong and confident and being loved as whole people - not sexual objects. If your girls are valued for who they are, they will be comfortable and confident and they will grow into their sexuality on their own.
I'm copying these ideas from another post I made on the thread for a Secret Santa but I think they still apply
I've read and loved almost all of the recommendations already here (TAMORA PIERCE). But to add some that haven't been mentioned (and trying really hard to not overload you with 20 books at once), I read and reread Robin McKinley's The Hero and the Crown and its prequel so. many. TIMES. Maybe even more than I reread Tamora Pierce. Patricia McKillip, Maria Snyder, Patricia C. Wrede (Dealing with Dragons quartet), Althea Kontis, Francesca Lia Block, Libba Bray and Susan Fletcher (Dragon Chronicles) are similar authors to check out for awesome female-driven fantasy, with varying degrees of lightheartedness. Wrede, Fletcher, Snyder and Kontis all wrote books that lean a little less epic/serious, Block writes a lot in prose that's also a very quick (but more intense) read, McKillip tends to be more wordy but beautifully so, and Bray can kind of go either way depending on the series.
For more contemporary fiction, RACHEL COHN (of "Nick & Norah's Infinite Playlist"). Her Gingerbread series has content a good deal more mature than Angus, Thongs, etc., but her style is similarly irreverent and witty and really fun. Seriously, check her out. Sharon Creech's Walk Two Moons is like a much younger version of Cohn, still zingy and sweet. For a quieter modern-day read, Garret Freymann-Weyr writes realistic (more mature) young adult relationships, and introduced me to the idea of bisexuality in a sort of roundabout way.
Julia Alvarez relates stories about the Latina-American experience incredibly well, although I think the first book I read by her takes place solely in the Dominican Republic. According to my reading list, I guess young me got sick of reading about other white people, so I'll add Marjane Satrapi's hilarious graphic novel Persepolis and the more sedate Shabanu series by Suzanne Fisher Staples.
I'd also strongly second comments for Gail Carson Levine, E.L. Konigsberg, and did I mention Tamora Pierce?
(I tried to link a lot of authors to my faves from their work, but I won't be mad if you never look at any of them. Is your reading list long enough now? Also, I know you didn't ask for a ton of fantasy/historical fiction recs, but I think a lot of us defined our teenagerhood by and identified more strongly with one of those series or another.)
tl;dr my top three recs that haven't been mentioned yet are Rachel Cohn, Julia Alvarez, and that one duo by Robin McKinley.
I’m not the person you replied to, but I strongly recommend The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer.
I personally find the book to be a little more spiritual than I prefer, but if you feel the same, I urge you to try to stick with it anyway. I think about the lessons from the book almost daily. He really guides you through practical steps you can take to observe your own emotions and common scenarios that cause people to get overwhelmed (and then how to help resolve them).
Meditation practice is also a great way to practice mindfulness. If you’re interested in guided sessions that teach how to meditate in a mindful, observant way, I recommend trying the Insight Timer app. There are lots of free classes and guided lessons that can teach you how to be still and observe your surroundings, your body, your emotional state and mind.
Happy to help! What's your budget? I'm on mobile - let me see if I can grab links to what I would recommend based on what you want to spend
Edit: these are the markers I have and I love them. A bit pricy but worth it if it's in your budget: http://www.amazon.com/STD334SB20A6-Staedtler-Triplus-Fineliner-Pens/dp/B0007OEE7E
(There is actually a bigger set you can get from JetPens.com I think)
For a coloring book, I have a couple I like:
This one (and the other ones by this author/artist) is great: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1780671067/ref=pd_aw_fbt_229_img_3?ie=UTF8&refRID=0C8DWW0SZ6WKWXY2EX4N
This one also looks nice. I don't have it but one of my friends does: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1941325122/ref=pd_aw_sim_14_2?ie=UTF8&dpID=61DETogR%2BIL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL100_SR100%2C100_&refRID=1NJH3VAEG30BFHGYWTF4
I can't help with makeup. I don't wear any. At all. Unless I'm going on a job interview.
It took me about 15 years to figure out how to deal with hot, humid weather, and curly hair. Here are all my secrets.
These secrets only work of course if you are willing to embrace your curly hair and work with it, instead of trying to attain perfectly flat-ironed hair that only exists in magazines and on people who naturally have absolutely no body in their hair. If you're trying to get straight hair in this weather and your hair naturally curls or waves, well, good luck with that. If you're still struggling with your curly girl identity, I suggest you read this book. It was the only thing that convinced me that curly hair is beautiful too.
My parents gave me two books called The Care and Keeping of You and The Care and Keeping of Me pre-puberty. They were very helpful, and written a level little me (9 year old, maybe?) understood.
I just looked, and it seems they've revised the two books into one for younger girls, and one for older girls. I haven't read these, but they're probably still great. They answered a lot of questions I didn't even know I had, and prepared me for stuff I would have been scared of. In fact, I was so well prepared I was excited for my first period, not freaked out at all. I'd highly recommend getting one for your daughter.
The Care and Keeping of You for Younger Girls
The Care and Keeping of You for Older Girls
Agree with the rest of the peeps who suggested seeing a doctor/therapy. Also, this is the second time I recommend this book today, but it's really that good: Feeling Good by David D. Burns. It has a great section on very spesific anger/conflict management strategies, in addition to being an all-around godsend when it comes to emotional health and cognitive skills for handling life in general.
Sure, I responded to another poster, but I'll paste it here too!
For the face, I don't spend much more than 10-15 minutes a day on it, but I stick to this regimen daily for the most part. Here's what I do (YMMV):
Morning:
Night (5 minutes):
Here are some of my favorite products:
Oh, I also use a Vitamin E oil I get from Trader Joe's, and I mostly use it on my chest and neck to keep that skin looking moisturized. I don't do it religiously, but I keep some in my bathroom.
Baking soda ingredient in natural deodorants typically cause itching and rashes. Try to use natural deodorants without baking soda. Organic 101 on Amazon has some great natural deodorants without baking soda and are also Usda organic so you can actually trust the ingredients.
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if interested here is their amazon link. They have a 30 day money back guarantee as well if you dont like it:
https://www.amazon.com/ORGANIC-101-Certified-Extra-Strength-Deodorant/dp/B01N0ZYGXP/ref=sr_1_183_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1541107602&sr=1-183&keywords=natural%2Bdeodorant&th=1
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I have very oily sensitive skin which can be hard to deal with since you need some pretty intense astringent to deal with my oil problems. I found this on amazon and it has changed my damn life. It's suuuper nice for sensitive skin and helpful for oily skin. I also use this from Lush, I know it's expensive but it is what helps me the best.
Good luck!
I work at American Girl and they have this book called "The Care and Keeping of You 2: The Body Book for Older Girls"
Also on Amazon for a lot cheaper... http://www.amazon.com/The-Care-Keeping-You-Older/dp/1609580427
One of the most popular books that we sell, and it's really helpful all around. 5 stars on amazon, even read the reviews! Awesome book, for a great price.
It's a horrible trade-off to make!
Here is the air purifier and I highly recommend getting both the suggested filter and pre-filter. The pre-filters get all of the pet hair and are cheaper so that you only replace those every so often instead of the entire filter. Once the pre-filter gets gray I replace it, about every month, but the actual filter only needs to be replaced a couple times a year in my experience. It depends on how much dust and other things are actually making it through.
Life has been much better with this and if you just need a dog-free space like the bedroom, it'll be even more effective because the space is smaller. :)
Edit: Also, I've had it since December of 2015 and it still works very well!
The Staedtler Triplus Fineliner is my all time favorite. I'm all about porous point pens because they don't smear and for whatever reason make my handwriting infinitely better than any other pen. I followed a bunch of study blogs on tumblr when I was in school and all the people that had the best handwriting and cutest notes swore by these pens. I especially love how many colors they have and the convenient carry case that turns into a stand.
Dealing with Dragons by Patricia Wrede. It's technically a young adult book, but I've loved it all my life and still do. The characters are AMAZING and you will laugh out loud reading it.
I think it would be much more like a regular bioshock game.
I don't think women were behind this product, read the reviews
People who game want good challenges, hopefully good story, great art, impressive physics
Toners are used to minimize the appearance of pores, and are usually of made from super harsh ingredients like alcohol. The witch hazel tightens the pores and smooths the skin without being harsh and drying. It is a natural toner. The rose petal ingredient moisturizes, and the aloe soothes/decreases redness. This is what I use, if you're interested in it. It is my favorite part of my routine! :) It smells great too
Victorinox 8 Inch Fibrox Pro Chef’s Knife which I got for my husband, we needed a better kitchen knife and this one was rated pretty well by america's test kitchen
Chooka rain boots I have thick calves and these rain boots are fantastic, they're a bit wide too so I can wear wooly socks with them.
My Asus laptop
This cat lounger my cats love, especially my chunky one
And my air purifier
Cool then I think you'll get these! If you don't know them already.
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is the most famous one. I read it over and over. He also has tons of videos on YouTube.
The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer is the same principles but in much plainer English.
The Work by Byron Katie is an actual exercise you can do to challenge your thoughts. You ask four questions, and it helps deconstruct your thoughts and show you how untrue they are. And once you know they're not true, they lose their power. She also has lots of videos on YouTube.
Check out the reviews or vids and see if any speak to you. Books saved my life, it's amazing how something that costs $2 (I get them used) can change so much.
Not affiliated with the amazon link, but Shisheido Perfect Whip.
I have dry skin and it is strong enough to get sunscreen off while at the same time not tearing up my skin. I buy it in bulk.
You only have to use a pea sized amount so a tube lasts me four or five months with twice daily use. It is just the right mix of gentle/gets my face clean.
Yo I use the Flawless hair remover by Finishing Touch & it's great! It's an electric hair remover. I've never had any issues with it. I use it on my lip, unibrow area, etc. I use it every day & I love it.
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https://www.amazon.com/Finishing-Touch-Flawless-Painless-Remover/dp/B071KW9GTT/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?keywords=flawless+hair+remover&qid=1562637785&s=gateway&sprefix=flawless&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1 (sorry I'm on mobile so I couldn't blend it in to words like the other reddit wizards)
I actually have one that I ordered on amazon (this, or something like it, for anyone who's interested) and it's pretty great. It attaches to the same water that fills the toilet tank, so it's a pretty easy install, less than an hour. But it can't travel with me!!
These marker/pens are really nice and much cheaper on Amazon than in a store
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0007OEE7E?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf
Also I got a silk pillowcase, it's fantastic
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LWWTACZ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_bC3knUz3X1ttx
And these boots are pretty nice
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MSJYJ75?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf
Bic Pens for HER (they're normal pens)
"BIC Cristal For Her has an elegant design - just for Her! It features a thin barrel designed to fit a women's hand. It has a diamond engraved barrel for an elegant and unique feminine style. "
Read the reviews, they are hysterical.
https://www.amazon.com/BIC-Cristal-1-0mm-Black-MSLP16-Blk/dp/B004F9QBE6/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8
I use this and love it! I would always break out after getting my lip waxed so I would put it off as long as possible. I discovered this product about a year ago and LOVE it. I've gotten one for my mother, sister, and grandmother and they all love it as well.
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https://www.amazon.com/Finishing-Touch-Flawless-Painless-Remover/dp/B071KW9GTT/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1542732716&sr=1-4&keywords=facial+hair+removal+for+women
I remember my friend had a book called the "Girl Book" or something. It went into details about what a normal, healthy body looked like, with illustrations, including discharge in your underwear, pubic hair differences, etc. My mother could never talk to me about those things, and that book was INSANELY helpful. Before that book, I thought discharge meant I was pregnant because it started around the time I was being molested. Children's minds have no rhyme or reason sometime haha. I also had no idea how to clean properly, again something my mother never talked to me about. She basically pretended I didn't have a vagina. You may consider books like these: http://www.amazon.com/The-Care-Keeping-You-Younger/dp/1609580834
For real. I have an ex that commented on a FB post I put up of a really entertaining listicle of the "masculinity so fragile" variety. And he got all butthurt like "isn't this just generalizing about men? wouldn't this be offensive if it was about women?" And I'm like no, dude, it's about toxic masculinity. Men should find it funny too. Just like, as a woman, I find it funny when people mock pens for women. Not everything is about you.
I found [this book] (http://www.amazon.com/Curly-Girl-Handbook-Michele-Bender/dp/076115678X) to be helpful. I have very curly hair myself. I follow most of the advice from this book (and have a hairdresser who really knows what she's doing), and my hair usually looks pretty good. I get compliments all the time.
Professional help is a game changer. Please, if you can, get professional help. If you can't because you can't afford it, I would recommend books.
https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380810336/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1503273693&sr=8-1&keywords=feeling+good
https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Trap-Struggling-Start-Living/dp/1590305841/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1503273704&sr=1-1&keywords=the+happiness+trap
These two books helped me very much. But I also read them while doing talk therapy.
I think that your BF has a great idea. Condoms are wonderful as both birth control and STI prevention. For BBT and charting, there's an amazing book - Taking Charge of Your Fertility, by Toni Weschler. In fact, I think all uterus owners should read this book.
As for me, I don't use BC with some partners, but condoms with others. I have struggled with infertility for about 6 years and since I'm not TTC, I'm totally cool with it. But at other points in my life, condoms worked well, as did charting all by itself.
Join /r/waiting_to_try and start lurking at /r/TryingForABaby.
I'm 34 and I was on the pill for almost 16 years - I came off it in January to give my cycle a few months to sort itself out before we started trying at the end of April.
Everyone at TFAB will recommend reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility - it's like the TTC bible!
I also recommend reading The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant. She looks at the scientific research behind most common TTC things and tells you whether they're worthwhile or not.
Shiseido Perfect Whip. A tube goes a long way and cleans super thoroughly.
Or you could get this amazing bidet! I actually bought this after another redditor posted it on a thread years back. Changed my life. Plus it's less than $30 and it was super easy for my husband to set up.
http://www.amazon.com/Astor-Non-Electric-Mechanical-Attachment-CB-1000/dp/B003TPGPUW/ref=sr_1_1?s=kitchen-bath&ie=UTF8&qid=1453479944&sr=1-1&keywords=bidet
When I was around that age my mom had gotten me a book that had lots of stuff about periods, how to use tampons, and other puberty/changing body/general health stuff. It was great because I felt so awkward about talking about it, so I could just read it in private. There may be something better out there but I believe it was some version of this: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1609580427/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_dp_ss_2?pf_rd_p=1944687662&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=1562476661&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=1WNWA8PSZM2G3FR8VAKQ
Also if she is worried about bothering her aunt/female relative or embarrassed to talk about it, maybe you could help set up a time for them to just hang out or get lunch or something? Like, not framing it as a time for her to ask questions or anything, just to spend time together, and then she might feel more comfortable as a resource.
I recommend the Schick Quattro bikini trimmer. You can adjust the blades to trim at several different lengths, it's easy to use (just press a button to turn on!), and works quite well.
From my parents/family: A new coat, already purchased. Since we're living in my in-laws' attic with 4 cats, a HEPA filter. We could always use Petco, Target, or Amazon giftcards too - litter and food for 4 cats is a big part of our budget.
From fiance: wireless Bluetooth speaker for our attic room. Also, for my birthday (11/29) and Xmas gift, he's paying for our winter photoshoot :)
You need to read this book. Your problem is you are freaking your own self out - like this:
>So whenever I feel that a girl is attracted to me, my mind races through what would happen if I went for it (first date, start hanging out a lot, become comfortable with each other, sex) and I get uncomfortable.
The book will tell you how to get more control over your thoughts so that you can learn how to respond in a way that is in line with your own best interests. I learned about it on reddit. It's basically CBT - cognitive behavioral therapy.
I got this for trimming about two years ago and never looked back. I usually take off the extender thingy and do a very close trim. It's perfect for all the tiny places down there.
Oh and it's much better than shaving because I never get those ingrown hairs anymore.
Feeling Good, the New Mood Therapy, a popular CBT book that is useful for a variety of problems. if you're in a rough spot financially, it's an older one so should be easy to find in libraries and other ways
not a book but very helpful, Wait But Why's breakdown of procrastination. if you like this post you'll also love the TED talk.
if you're a person who struggles with being attracted (to an unhealthy degree) to men that never return your interest, especially in the context of an abusive past or co-dependence, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl
I use Shiseido's Perfect Whip foaming cleanser (it's like slapping marshmallow whip on your face, the foam is so thick) and I use Queen Helene's Mint Julep Mask.
I hit puberty at 11 and my mom gave me "The Care and Keeping of You." It was just the right amount of stuff at that age and I memorized that book within a few days. I highly recommend that you pick up a copy and read it for yourself first, then pass it off to them in a couple years.
You've prompted me to check these out:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00A0RHSJO/ref=s9_acsd_al_bw_c_x_2_w
I think I will get this. One review reported using 1/3 less t.p. and I know my septic system would appreciate this, plus the other obvious benefit.
Shouldn't you be asking this in /r/parenting. The majority of women here are childfree.
That being said how can anyone tell if someone is masturbating?
Evidence. Sticky sheets, sticky socks, lots of kleenex in the trash bin, lots of locking oneself in a room, extended periods of time in the bathroom, a request for more privacy, etc.
It's safe to assume that your child may be masturbating as early as 10 years old, sometimes younger and sometimes later.
There are books 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, you can buy your child or yourself about growing up and give it to them and if they have any questions they can ask you. (There are more than I suggested).
Finishing Touch Flawless Women's Painless Hair Remover https://www.amazon.com/dp/B071KW9GTT/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_xqFMBbTJMYSA7
http://www.amazon.com/Astor-Non-Electric-Mechanical-Toilet-Attachment/dp/B003TPGPUW/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1415847602&sr=8-1&keywords=bidet
OMG I love you!
Aw, I'm so sorry you have to deal with all that :(
It's weird that some people react just fine to hormonal methods, while the rest of us suffer tremendously.
I found that spermicide + cycle-tracking was pretty effective for me, but not all women are able to successfully use that method. This book was my bible for a couple years.
Check out the curly girl line of products they really helped me and there is a book http://www.amazon.com/Curly-Girl-Handbook-Michele-Bender/dp/076115678X that actually teaches you how to wash and style your hair to bring out the best side of your curls.
All of these are fabulous!
I would also add Patricia C. Wrede's Enchanted Forest Chronicles. It begins with Dealing with Dragons, wherein Princess Cimorene decides that she's terribly bored with all this royal business and runs away to live with a dragon (sort of as an apprentice). I remember it being a lot of fun!
The Untethered Soul
This book was life changing for me. It teaches happiness through the art of letting go...
you can actually get a really cheap bidet attachment for your toilet on amazon, it is also very simple to install, here are the two types I've seen:
Well I only have the one and it was like $40, not sure what your budget is exactly. But here's a link!
Fertility awareness and withdrawal.
Withdrawal, when used properly, is nearly as effective as condoms.
For fertility awareness, pick up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility.
this will help, the trimmer can trim back what's there to make it easier to shave. Go slow if you are worried and take your time.
Attachable bidets are a good alternative.
I use a Schick Quattro Bikini Trimmer. It gets crazy close, I love it.
this is the book she got me. I also use Paul Mitchell Smoothing Gloss Drops to keep the frizz down. Two pumps works wonders. Other than that, it's just important to learn that an oily complex isn't always bad for curly hair, and how to handle your particular curl type.
Offhand, the Amazon reviews for those are amazing though.
Edit: Make sure to look at all the five-star reviews. Seriously. I was in stitches the first time I read those.
I wish I had the hot water/ seat heater/ air dryer one but I only have the basic one
$27 with Prime.
BIC Cristal Pens, for her. Dur.
The BIC Cristal For Her Ball Pen
^just ^kidding, ^I'll ^use ^any ^old ^pen, ^but ^I ^love ^those ^reviews.
They are! Just see the reviews!
Why not just get one now? Just attach this one to your toilet.
This is the one we have (in US), not sure how plumbing differs where you're at but it attaches externally to the water line on the toliet. Bidet
I'm just saying there's no need for womens pens. Example
Rose petal witch hazel as a post-facewash toner. I have sworn by witch hazel for years and will never buy the 'regular' stuff again after having used the rose petal kind.
I had ParaGard for 8 months, two years ago. It was fucking awful from day one. My uterus was measured and everything. I wasn't too "small" and the placement was perfect (checked via ultrasound).
But goddamn, that thing was pure hell. The drugs given for insertion mimic labor contractions and make you shit non-stop. Then the insertion nearly made me pass out. After that, the cramping was horrific for a solid two weeks. Then it let up. BUT I had the heaviest periods imaginable with the most intense cramps I've ever felt. I couldn't move. Couldn't eat. Couldn't sleep. Couldn't work! I passed out on the job, sitting behind my computer. I was taking RX pain pills to manage and they weren't enough.
So after 8 months of pain, tears, and blood, I had the fucking thing pull out. Oh and btw, my insurance didn't cover it at the time. So I paid $800 out of pocket. Then about the time I had it pulled I got a $600 check in the mail from the insurance company for the device.
The day I had it pulled, the pain and hell was over. It was amazing.
Anyways, I employ the pull out method. Not the safest, but I'm married and don't care if kids happen. I also understand my cycles and can track my fertility. "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" is the female bible and EVERY woman should read it.
http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Fertility-Anniversary-Edition/dp/0060881909