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The trick is to go through the irritating rigamarole of trying on a million suits that don't fit correctly until you find one that does. Then note the brand and always go right for that brand. For me it's calvin klein and kenneth cole. I've got a slim boyish figure and these work for me. For you I'd try some of the suit styles that market to Asian men, who tend to be shorter and slimmer. Some of the ones on amazon are even pretty affordable: MOGU Mens One Button Suits 3 Piece Suit US Size 30(Tag Asian Size S) Light Gray https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01EL3KDW6/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_FZlFzbWVM21XA

When buying a suit the most important fit is the shoulders. You want a jacket that fits your shoulders. Everything else can easily be tailored. Waist of the jacket, length of sleeves and trousers, etc. It's a big outlay of funds in the beginning for a trans guy to buy a suit, and that sucks, but it's worth it to get one every other year or so IMHO. And sometimes you get lucky and find sales or the perfect thing at a second hand store. Macy's does a BOGO suit sale every year. I love suit shopping at Macy's even though it does tend to be spendy. Maybe try going in at like 10am on a Tuesday or something and telling the sales associate you are trying to figure out how to find a good fit. There are a few guys at my local Macy's who know I'm trans and love geeking out about suits with me. It's worth it to find those guys at whatever store you choose and find out when they're on shift to go shopping.

Anyway, for a starter suit I recommend looking into Asian brands on Amazon and checking out suit separates at H&M. When you're ready to upgrade to something really nice, hit your local Macys at a nonbusy time and forge an alliance with the sales people and they will get you hooked up :)

(And if you live in the Maryland area, let's go suit shopping!)

I transitioned while working a warehouse job in a smallish midwestern town. I'm happy to say I had zero problems at work, other than a few missed pronouns followed by profuse appologies afterward. After all the fretting I did in the weeks and months prior, it was kind of anticlimactic, really. Haha.

I waited until I'd started T and was starting to get "Do you have a cold?" from my co-workers, thanks to voice changes. Then I went to our HR representitive with a copy of Jillian T Weiss's Transgender Workplace Diversity and we used that as a template for handling the coming out process, while making a few changes here and there as we both felt was appropriate. The thing I like about that particular book is that the author writes from the perspective of "how supporting your employee's transition benefits your business". It keeps things professional and straight-forward.

We told management first, and I was lucky enough to have one of the managers who was particularly liked and respected volunteer to make the general announcement. Then the supervisors were told, and it was made clear that they were expected to have my back. Then there were announcements made at each of the two main shifts. The HR rep hung about the warehouse for a couple hours and made herself available for any questions or concerns people had. By far the most common question was, "Can we call you Gned, or do you prefer GnedTheGnome?"

Feel free to PM me if you have any specific questions.

I know this is an older post, but I wanted to recommend you check out the book "It's not carpal tunnel syndrome". It's aimed at people who work on computers all day, but includes exercises and stretches to do.

Basically, take breaks when you're doing repetitive work; do wrist, arm, and shoulder stretches (like the aforementioned nerve glides); do wrist, arm, and shoulder strengthening exercises. More muscle helps keep nerves from getting compressed. Yoga is a good all-around preventative.

Those really common wrist braces don't do anything and doctors can't/won't help unless your hand is basically falling off (source: I've been to several hand specialists about my own tingly hands). Maybe a physical therapist would be able to help.

You can figure out where in your arm the nerve is getting compressed based on which portion/s of your hand go numb/tingly. It's not necessarily from binding, either. Excessive computer or phone use, or particularly weak wrist/arm muscles could also be to blame.

Have you ever read Changing Ones? Although it's specific to Native American cultures, I think it's reasonable to assume it was not uncommon in other pre-Christian cultures as well.

People transitioned socially even though there was no way to transition medically. In some cultures they held a special place - a third gender - and in others they took on the roles and social status of the gender not assigned at birth. It's a great read for anyone interested in anthropology or archaeology, or just trans history.

KT tape comes in a variety of forms. The brand KT has wide, stretch, extra strength, etc, so just avoid the stretch.

Here's what I buy: Therapist's Choice® Kinesiology Tape, 2"x105' PRE-CUT Bulk Roll (BEIGE), PRE-CUT into easy-to-apply 10 inch strips. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DSST6W4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_9fZyDbYSRVP5T

If your desk has something like a name plate, maybe you could put a small pronoun sticker on it (if allowed)? Or if you don't have a name plate maybe you could get a custom one made (like this) with your pronouns at the bottom.