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if you use one of the metal ones like I have:

https://www.amazon.com/Master-Captus-Stainless-Locking-Chastity/dp/B00DE5HEH0/

https://www.amazon.com/Raycity-Male-Chastity-Cage-Device/dp/B01FFAEMEE/

then you can touch/play with him in it and he gets to feel everything but can't get hard, because the holes are so large it really maximizes the feeling he will get in it. when I have mine on and my wife starts playing with me the feeling is incredible. Very intense and focused, I really love it.

Bonus: with one of this style he can pee a lot easier and cleaning is super easy as well.

We bought this one on Amazon a while back and it's perfect. It has a great weight to it, like it doesn't feel cheap or heavy. It has the perfect amount of thud and sting to it. I'd give it 5 stars and buy the same one if something happened to it.

Heart 2 Heart Whip Leather Strap, Black, 20" https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0026P3KDG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_4nnQDbCKJFX4F

1. This is the one we got after initially using a cheaper one. I would really, really, really recommend not getting a cheaper one like you linked. The more expensive one is 100% worth the money. It's a ton of fun and very reliable. Cheaper collars turn off automatically after a bit, which defeats the instant correction idea. The pain is also much less consistent and starts higher than I am personally comfortable with as a minimum. The one I linked, you can't even feel it until 8 or so (but you can DEFINITELY feel the higher numbers!) so you can really fine tune exactly what you want your sub to feel.
   
   
2. I had my sub wear it with his holy trainer and it was too much bulk around his junk to go about his day. But if it was around the thigh that'd work.
   
   
3. I talked about my own a bit in 1, but I love it! He's an obedient boy but he immediately steps into line when that collar comes on. We've also had some fun games with it too.
   
   
4. Don't let it near the heart. I have read mixed things about the neck, so maybe err on the side of caution for that.
   
   
5. You could have "vibrate" mean "come here". I played a game with my pet to test his tolerance of the higher levels... he laid on his back in bed with a hitachi sleeve around his cock, and the shock collar around his cock and balls. We have a dimmer switch for the hitachi, so can adjust the intensity of the vibrations. He LOVES when I sit on his face so he can lick my ass, so that's where I went. I started him off with some low level shocks, brought the vibrations up a bit, and let him lick my ass. Then I'd raise myself up and lower the vibrations and wait for him to say "More please, Miss!!". Then I sit back down, turn up the vibes, and increase the shock collar a level. I'd shock him intermittently, and a bit heavier when it looked like he was close to cumming. Basically repeat until I let him cum or he won't ask for more (that never happened, but we also have only gotten into the 20s).

This is your fantasy. You need to sell her on it. Day one suggest that she pick a room or a task. She comes home from work, and you have obviously been working all day, dinner is on the table, you are dressed nicely. You have a pleasant dinner, talk about her day, your day etc. After dinner ask if she wants to take a bath or relax while you clear the table and do the dishes. Then you focus on her. Foot and/or back massage, snuggling, sit at her feet, going down on her, etc.

This is not a one night thing. You have 3-4 weeks to perfect this. She will figure out what she wants from you. When you get to that point, then begin to introduce the kinky stuff. I guess that part depends on you.

You mention punishment so maybe present her with a wooden paddle (https://www.amazon.com/Yonor-Painted-Wooden-Paddle-Airflow/dp/B07JN9BL39) inscribe "She Rules" on it and hang it in the living room. Then burn her dinner one night and see what happens.

The point is show her the positives first, let her get used to them, and then present your needs in a way holistic with the rest of it. Don't make it be all about you.

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Love the idea. Good luck!

Yeah definitely! I alternate between getting stiletto nails done and using some nice ones like this

5 Brass Nail Armour Rings, Cosplay Accessories, Short Sharp Nail Claws, Stiletto Nail Rings, Vampire Nails, Costume Nails, Dragon Nails https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MXISE4Z/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_LCkYBbFB57PZ0

Finding Love Through Female Domination is a great read.

All of the excerpts I've shared here are part of my VR Gender Swap (Virtnet Chronicles) series by Alyson Belle, and both Book 1 and Book 2 are free this weekend (Saturday and Sunday only). Enjoy!

Sharyn Ferns is a dominant woman who runs the blog Domme Chronicles; she's also written a book called "Domme Chronicles: Erotic tales of love, passion, & domination", which I found particularly refreshing because it was written from the dominant woman's perspective.

Yeah, you're running into Fins and Pros. If you're looking for something online only, that's going to happen a lot. Just politely decline and move on.

Your best bet is to go to a few local munches and make contacts that way. Lifestyle and bedroom only Dominants tend to maintain a pretty low profile online. /u/Ferns_ recently wrote a short guide book on it.

you do have to pay for it though

https://www.amazon.com/Wilds-Edge-Amazonian-FemDom-Amazons-ebook/dp/B01BMU9HYQ/ref=la_B01BODVSPC_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1525335706&sr=1-1

I liked this. Focuses on the woman subjugating the man for her own pleasure.

Here are a couple books I recommend:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Mistress-Manual-Female-Dominance/dp/1890159190/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1372375981&sr=8-1&keywords=the+mistress+manual

http://www.amazon.com/The-Art-Sensual-Female-Dominance/dp/0806520892/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1372375995&sr=8-3&keywords=the+mistress+manual

http://www.amazon.com/New-Topping-Book-Dossie-Easton/dp/B001TJV5DW/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1372376019&sr=1-1&keywords=topping+book

Last, my favorite introductory resource to BDSM: http://www.amazon.com/101-Realistic-Introduction-Jay-Wiseman/dp/0963976389/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1372376048&sr=1-1&keywords=sm+101

Thanks all--- with the tips from here, we were able to find one on Amazon for $8--- 49" Synthetic Leather Metal Chain Strap Handbag Chains Purse Straps Shoulder ... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07P17WPSM/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_8dP3CbDY9ZD91 --- Buyer beware, it's definitely an aggressive toy. The metal in the strap makes is a little rough on the mouth. Still fucking hot, but be gentle(-ish).

Not sure why someone downvoted this -- humblers are pretty fun....

for the uninitiated: https://www.amazon.com/Master-Extreme-Enforcer-Humbler-Restraints/dp/B06WP79QJH