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Do it! Some of the experts in /r/chastity might have more advice, but I'll tell you what I can.

I'm self-locked. Partnered, but he recognizes that being locked is my turn-on, so it works well. The ring is loose enough that I can pull out if I'm soft (though I don't) -- this maybe isn't how everyone chooses to do it, but this way I can clean off in the shower and re-lubricate (which is really important for comfort, especially when it comes to sleeping).

I don't do anal a lot, mostly just prostate stimulation when I get really frustrated, and even that's not really release, just feels like more teasing.

Here's the device I have -- not sure why it's so expensive now, it was about $20 when I bought it a couple years ago. If you want an equivalent, just search for CB6000S -- they carry them on ebay and DHGate and I'm sure other sites. If you're just starting out, a cheap device is what most people recommend just to see what works and what doesn't for you. I had to go through a few different devices, including a larger metal one and a larger silicone one, before I found that a smaller CB device is actually really comfortable and doesn't make too much of a bulge down there. This is another one I have and like a lot. People in /r/chastity can probably give you some more advice about measuring for fit -- what I can say is I'm about 7" when fully erect and the CB6000S fits me well (probably better than the longer version of the CB -- it's counterintuitive, but smaller cages tend to be more comfortable, and here's why: if a cage fits you snugly when you're soft, there's not as much room to slide around in it when soft and have bits of skin or the head catching here and there, which makes it hurt when you get hard). I also like to be able to piss standing up, and using the shorter CB makes that a lot easier -- once you're locked, you'll see what I mean. As for ring size, ideally what you want is something secure but not too constrictive when you're hard (if you have discoloration or numbness, it's probably too tight).

Hangers with clips (Either alone or on the hanger). On the hanger is fun because you can usually slide them towards or away from each other, and the tension will hold them a bit in place.

Vice grips - the weight can be really satisfying

Binder clips - even better are the ones with the magnet on the end!

Alligator cilps

Jumper cables, but probably need some heavy padding.

Chopsticks and tight (small) rubber bands.

Almost anything with "clip" or "clamp" in the name. So, for instance, if you have those heavy-duty clamps that get used to hold down a tablecloth at an outdoor picnic, that can be fun. Or woodworking clamps.

There are also things you can do to up the intensity even with gentle things. Ex: after the clothespins have been on a while, turn them 90 degrees. Or go more for the edge of the nipple rather than the base. Or get a spatula/paddle and slap your nipples to get them tender first.

You can really have fun with anything that squeezes. I remember as a kid using two clipboards. It was tough to get the nipple in, but was a fun sensation.

Hope that gives you some ideas!

For anal play, I'd suggest these two toys:

This is the best price/performance dildo I've found. It's a great size, it's silicone, and not too expensive. It also comes in purple.

This is a great butt plug. Medium size, feels amazing to walk around in, glass, cheap. Popular on tumblr :)

It's a bounce stool. Love it, if you have something to mount a dildo to it's super win and could be used in couple play.

Also for those who are curious the dildo it's the Mr.hankey xxxlexcalibur XL.

I’ve actually gotten a LOT of stuff from amazon lol. Got a surprisingly cheap bondage kit where all the things in it were high quality (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01MXLJ0N4?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf). It was a Christmas gift for my bf and he uses the stuff pretty liberally on me and it’s still going strong- the cuffs are kinda weak but just use rope lol. The flogger and the paddle are A+, the nipple clamps are great, the collar is hot af, the ball gag is also hot, and the blindfold/mask, well you can’t really go wrong there lol.

Amazon has a lot of good starter options. I’d get a kit with different sized rings to try. Briefs or boxer briefs will help keep the cage from sliding down which would make erections uncomfortable. this one is a knockoff of the holy trainer cage which is pretty ergonomic. The original is super expensive.

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Pics?!!? Please?!

Seriously, what a great post. I took a look at your Tumblr - you really go have a great eye for filthy stuff - fans self I know I'm going to be reposting some of that later. And let me say horray for chubs! They get too shunned in our kink community (and have terrible trouble getting kink gear to fit them - it's terrible we don't accommodate more body sizes).

Definitely try e-stim. Buttplug will make you experience anal orgasm in a completely new way.

OoOoO..... I've been wanting to try a knotting Bad Dragon for, oh say, forever. I'm jealous! Do you know if any of the knotting ones are made for fucking versus being a buttplug?

I've had recent gain in getting things deeper in me by making two changes. First, I squirt lube deep up in my ass so there's lot of it, using something like this. Having enough lube is a must, and it's just hard to get lube deep up there using fingers, and when you coat a toy, pushing it up in your ass squeegees off half of it. The other change I made was to the lube. I started using J-Lube. Mixing instructions are here. A lot of people use it for fisting, but I think it's great for fucking and toys. It really sticks to what you put it on, so more lube will travel in to that deep place. Plus, it's stringy and slimey - really hot to play with. And one bottle of powder can make over six gallons of lube!

Check out this book. It's a series of interviews with guys in 16 different master/slave relationships. Some work better than others; I'm friends with one of the couples, and their relationship works beautifully.

Here's what I've ordered a couple of weeks ago off of Amazon & very pleased with it so far (need to post a pic of my boy in it at some point):

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07WDFWGF4/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o08_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

BUT the padlock is for display (can be removed with a small screw driver) SO I paired with this:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07FQ4M7RX/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s01?ie=UTF8&psc=1