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u/bunnyfurcoat · 7 pointsr/LesbianActually

I’ve edited my first post to reflect how I feel about these replies (yours also resonated with me because of your mentioning intimacy of sex; cognitive dissonance as a lesbian helps me personally but I see where you’re coming from and I feel you on that), but I just wanted to specifically address here you said

> I want to be proud of my partners occupation and there’s no framing way sex work could be a topic of conversation at my family Xmas party

I mean. Yeah. I feel you on that. I do volunteer work in my community with my local homeless population 3 days a week (I’m able to commit so much time because I’m a sex worker and I only work two days a week) and I tell my extended family and my sweetie’s family that’s my “real” job. But I do that for free while sex work pays my bills and helps me get out of my serious medical bill debt. A lot of sex workers are proud of what we do. And we should be because we are all awesome and strong and brave. I can work two days a week, support myself, maintain a long term autoimmune illness that prevents me from maintaining a “normal”/vanilla job, and it helps me meet dope ass women from all over who want to remove the stigma from what we do. But I know my sweetie is proud of me because I make money and am able to use the rest of my time to dedicate to what I love and believe in (my volunteer work, my education to become a translator, the love I give to my pets). My mother (who is the only family member who knows what I do) won’t brag to her friends about it, but she will tell them about my other accomplishments outside of work. She also appreciates that because of the money I make I’m able to help make sure my grandmother gets the hospice care she needs but would not be able to afford otherwise.

Sex work is a very low barrier job for people who don’t have options or are limited in their choices for employment because of education limits, health limitations, caregiver obligations, or other reasons. You should be proud of what sex workers do because we are, at our core, strong and brave and weird and cool fucking people. We don’t need you to be proud of us but if you were, we’d really appreciate your support. I really recommend reading the Justice Hustlers books for a fictionalized but fantastic account that normalizes sex work and touches on a lot of our normal lives, as well as getting in touch with your local SWOP (Sex Workers Outreach Project) events to learn more about sex workers and who we are.

Also, feel free to PM me if you have more questions (same for anyone reading this! as long as you’re respectful, I want to answer questions and help clear up the stigma that keeps us in the shadows).

Thank you for replying to my question. I appreciate you and I really look forward to hearing from you if you have any more input.

ETA: Hey, thanks for downvoting me whoever you are! Please PM me with your dissonance or reply to me here and show yourself. By all means. I won’t judge you if you’re honest about how you feel, but I do judge you for being a coward, you fuck. @ u/Phyllotreta hmu if you have questions. I trust that you would actually respond.

u/princessluna3000 · 9 pointsr/LesbianActually

> Her argument was based around women having greater sexual fluidity because of evolution. Supposedly it decreases stress among the wives in a polygamous relationship if they start having sex with one another.

First, what time period is your co-worker talking about with this statement right here? Because I can tell you right now, most women who were in poly-amorous relationships(prior to the 21st century and before western and modern civilization) were there without their consent. They formed relations with other women because those other women were also there without their consent; they were slaves-they were property so of course they're going to be stressed, and so of course they're going to form close relationships with other victims who just so happen to be female.

Second, women couldn't even get divorced from their husbands until the twentieth century. Women couldn't even open a bank account until 1919 or get a credit card until the 1970's. Women had to be married to do a lot of things. So in the United States of America, before the 1970's, a woman couldn't really be independent without a man( father, husband, brother, etc) present; was it impossible, no, but it was more difficult. So I'm gonna go ahead and use my common sense to say many lesbians had to marry men just so they could live comfortably. Also let's not forget, homosexual acts were pretty much outlawed in almost every state. Women who lived with other women often went by the term "roommates". Also, women who lived in rural, or small towns often times, and even now don't really have a lot of options. So prior to the 1970's or really 1980's, if a woman didn't live in the city, and if she didn't come from a upper class family, and if she was a lesbian, it was going to be really difficult for her to get out and form a relationship with a woman. There are numerous biographies on Amazon about women who are in their 40s-70s still coming out, and trying to form that relationship they want with a woman.

Third, most female animals live in female only, and/or female matriarchy social structures. Primates are the few exception; female primates will join one male/several female family units for protection in numbers, and because of social dependence not because they love that male primate-no, fool, they want protection from more aggressive gorillas and predators.

> She also stated that many women will make out with their friends just for fun and women's sexual orientations tend to change a lot throughout their life. I have noticed that girls have a tendency to make out with each other even if they're straight,

Women who do this often do this because they're seeking attention; why they're choosing to express this through sexual displays usually boils down to lack of confidence, and low self esteem especially when it comes to the opposite sex. Also when one has too many drinks, their actions become questionable at best, and not to be taken seriously besides for "this person needs help".

> and have witnessed quite a few women go from gay to straight

Don't generalize a whole group due to a select few. Also why did these women turn straight, as you say? How close are you to their families, how religious, and liberal are their families? Did they go through a traumatic experience, or did they just so happen to fall for a dude? Were they really lesbians or were they just being gay because it was cool? Or were they bisexual and was just in denial; in other words, there's a reason for everything.

> especially later in life when they want kids/family

Okay, so now these women who turned straight sound like they come from a conservative, religious up bringing which I can relate to.

> She claimed these "pure lesbian" women just never met the right man (or had the looks to attract one), and if they did, would have been turned.

You don't need looks to attract a man; if that was the case then the prostitution industry wouldn't be a multi-billion dollar industry. If that was the case, social workers, wouldn't be rescuing a primate from a brothel. Craigslist would be out of business too. If you're a woman and if you walk out your house, you can attract the attention of a man...even if you don't want to.

> Neither of us are particularly attractive

Is she angry that women don't find her attractive because that's what it sounds like?

The reason why this argument comes up often in regards to female sexuality and fluidity is because women, we can express our sexuality more freely in the U.S than men. If two women kiss on the street wherever they may be, they will more than likely be gawked at and whistled at. If two men kiss on the street, they need to be careful where they do because there's a good chance they'll get their ass harassed or beat. I've seen numerous women hold hands with one another in public; I don't think I've ever seen men do it unless it was Gay Pride.

Love is not sex and sex is not love, there are numerous straight men who go to the glory hole to get their dicks sucked. Most times on the other side is a dude doing the sucking...are those guys straight, bi, or gay? When a woman who only loves women is forced to marry a man due to social and religious constructs, she endures having sex with him, is she gay, bi, or straight? Yes, sexuality can be fluid but it can also be stagnate.

u/theFlipside619 · 3 pointsr/LesbianActually

I'm a mild coffee snob. So what is key: filtered water, temperature and grinding the beans the moment you make it. Straight tap is okay but check your municipality on how they process the water. If they put add weird stuff to reprocess... don't use. I can taste that stuff and then it makes my coffee taste sad, lol. So if not filtered at home then store bought.

I also use a french press. To get the full taste of coffee you don't want to use a coffee filter. The filter pulls some of the nom nom oils from the coffee. Also, more oils means more caffeine in your system. :)

But I had one of those master baristas tell me that they only keep their coffee (once bag is opened) for a week. Gawh! If I tossed out my coffee every week...nope I don't drink coffee that fast and not gonna waste money like that.

I prefer mostly dark roasts. But the most memorable cup of coffee I made for myself was one I bought from a local store and it was an Organic Italian Dark roast. OMG, that was just superb! So I recommend supporting your local stores.

Therefore, get a hand grinder and french press. Also, this may seem like a lot of work but it's a five to seven minute process and really I love it. Once I did it, I gave away my Breville Coffee maker and have never purchased another one since.

I love coffee!

u/jrphoenix342 · 6 pointsr/LesbianActually

I highly recommend reading the book, “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. It’s extremely useful to all relationships with loved ones whether they are partners, children, siblings, friends, etc.

Here’s the Amazon link:
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

And, no, I’m not affiliated with the author or
publisher in any way; I’ve just found the book very helpful.

u/quercus613 · 1 pointr/LesbianActually

Well, you've come to the right thread, friend! :D

What kinds of books/movies/TV do you normally tend to enjoy?

A brief scan of your reddit history seems to suggest you like Star Wars. There are a lot of new Star Wars comics out, many of which have gotten pretty good reviews. A new one starring a lesbian/bi woman, Doctor Aphra, just started. She was also featured in the latest Darth Vader comic (which I haven't read yet, but have heard good things from the people on this sub and in general!).

For another space fantasy type thing, I would also recommend checking out Saga, which is one of the most popular titles right now and features some LGBTQ characters in its supporting cast.

u/LetThemDrinkCoffee · 2 pointsr/LesbianActually

Ha, thanks! It makes me sound like I have my shit together more than I do - but I guess that's what makes it ideal haha

And this makes waking up delightful when I have it.

u/Lil_Miss_Sunshiner · 1 pointr/LesbianActually

This is a pretty cute keychain that's rainbow:
Lotus Flower Aum Om Stone Bead Chakra Reiki Spiritual Keychain Lobster Claw https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07F6TC9ZD/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_k.07Cb9AGJS92


Or this pin that's lesbian specific:
Compoco Lesbian Pride Pin Flag LGBTQ Gay Heart Flag Lapel Pin https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0713WSY1B/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_Je17CbA8BMG2D


Hope this helps!

u/quoththeraven929 · 5 pointsr/LesbianActually

Some people are just more prone to them than others. That said, peeing after sex is always a good idea, especially if you guys are doing oral sex, as that's introducing more bacteria to the area. Wash your hands before fingering her, and try to touch your fingers just to the vagina and clit, not near the urethra if you can help it. She should also be drinking more water anyway, but staying hydrated can help prevent UTIs! If she feels one coming on, tell her to chug massive amounts of water and flush it out of her system.

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You should also 100% be washing your strap too. Is your strap able to be separated from the toy? If not, you may want to upgrade to a strap that is separate from toys, like this one: link. That way you can wash the strap too - this one is machine washable, which is nice!

u/acetanilide · 1 pointr/LesbianActually

I bought some subtle pride earrings on Amazon recently. Specifically for work (I work in a conservative place).

Commenting so I can find this again while I go get the link (on mobile)

Edit: here is the necklace I bought. They have stuff for bisexual, transgender, and nonbinary people as well as some patriotic stuff (US based). The artist seems to accept requests as well (she made me earrings to match the necklace) so if you have an idea for something you can just ask :)

u/pavacado-21 · 3 pointsr/LesbianActually

Girl, I got you! I had the same problem until a friend bought me these. They are super comfortable and are worth it!

Nike Flow Victory Pant

u/ohnobananapeeeeeels · 2 pointsr/LesbianActually

currently using a gillette tech, pictured here. i like to collect vintage gillettes, so i also have some adjustables and non-adjustable twist-to-opens laying around. for whatever reason, the tech just does it for me even though it's a way older model.

big fan of personna blades too!!

i wax and wane when it comes to using the traditional soap puck and brush. right now i'll either use arko or cremo. my skin is pretty tolerant when it comes to shaving, so i'm happy with the basics.

u/Tangurena · 2 pointsr/LesbianActually

Here are some books that may help:
Living Two Lives,
Dear John, I love Jane and
Late Bloomers.



You are not alone. You are not the first woman in this situation. You will not be the last.

u/Dark0ra · 2 pointsr/LesbianActually

Of course, ill link the makeup I used for this look in the order i put it on lol, not all of it is super necessary, this isnt all of my makeup but the ones for this look specifically.

Primer

Eyeshadow Primer

Eyeshadow

Eyeliner

Mascara

Foundation

Concealer

Blush

Lipstick

Highlighter


hopefully im not forgetting anything