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Hey buddy, thx for the tip about dictionaries, I'm glad you know how to use them.
But to try to burst my bubble (and maybe learn something about the concepts of ethnicity and/or ethnic groups), you should check out some of these other small books first:


-https://books.google.pt/books/about/Ethnicity.html?id=jYsYJSDXflYC&redir_esc=y


-https://www.amazon.co.uk/Race-Ethnicity-Basics-Peter-Kivisto/dp/0415773741


-https://www.amazon.com/Ethnicity-Oxford-Readers-John-Hutchinson/dp/0192892746


-https://books.google.pt/books/about/The_Ethnicity_Reader.html?id=9yBQtExDppkC&redir_esc=y



To jumpstart, and I'm not even kidding, just try to read the introduction to "ethnic groups and boundaries", by Frederick Barth: the text is from 1969, and it's absolutely seminal on nowadays' understanding of ethnic group formation and, above all, ethnic group persistence in time. (link to pdf: http://www.bylany.com/kvetina/kvetina_etnoarcheologie/literatura_eseje/2_literatura.pdf)


If you wanna go further down this road, check "ethnicity without groups", by Rogers Brubaker: the best modern critical thinking around ethnicity and group formation, IMO. (link to pdf: https://is.muni.cz/el/1423/podzim2015/SOC587/um/Brubaker_Ethnicity_without_Groups.pdf)



Now, lets move on to the next part of your comment. I did love the end of it. The part where you assume I have a bachelor's degree (IF I even managed to graduate yet, ofc - 'cause I'm so dumb) is nice.

But the best part is that amazing scientific lesson you gave us all: "Since the beginning of life animals have had hunting grounds they fought for, later evolved to humans with specific racial, social traits with country borders."


Seriously, I am thinking about printing this and framing it.
Thx a bunch, bud. I should start making calls, because entire academic fields will disappear and universities will close down: you just solved social science AND evolutionary science in a single sentence!


Finally, I just want to clear this up for ya, buddy: I do not have any spanish comments, and the fact that you think that I'm mexican (and that what I wrote in my reddit's history is spanish) says a lot more about your ignorance than it says about me.


Cheers

Good news! Just called Webster and they said it doesn’t matter what you think sounds right and doesn’t sound right. There’re gonna keep the dictionary as is! Turns out they think it would be pretty irresponsible to let someone that doesn’t fully understand the English language be in charge of something like that. They recommended you learn an easier language, like Chinese. Until then, maybe find a job that isn’t correcting people’s word usage online. You aren’t very good at it. Good luck friend :)

Josh McDowell's book "More Than a Carpenter" documents all the archeological evidence he found when he researched in Europe. Chapter 10 is dedicated to proving that the Resurrection happened, although I recommend reading all the other chapters before it, otherwise some things in Chapter 10 won't make sense.

You can get a used copy of that book for as little as five bucks on amazon.com: https://www.amazon.com/gp/offer-listing/1414326270/ref=tmm_pap_used_olp_0?ie=UTF8&condition=used&qid=&sr=

To wet your appetite, here's the prologue of that book in PDF format: https://files.tyndale.com/thpdata/firstChapters/978-1-4143-2627-6.pdf

Pages 15-17 state in pertinent part...

> I knew that if I could uncover indisputable evidence that the Bible is an unreliable record, the whole of Christianity would crumble... I spent months in research. I even dropped out of school for a time to study in the historically rich libraries of Europe. And I found evidence. Evidence in abundance. Evidence I would not have believed had I not seen it with my own eyes. Finally I could come to only one conclusion: If I were to remain intellectually honest, I had to admit that the Old and New Testament documents were some of the most reliable writings in all of antiquity... I want to share with you the core of what I learned in my months of research so that you, too, may see that Christianity is not a myth, not the fantasy of wishful dreamers, not a hoax played on the simpleminded. It is rock-solid truth.

>Face looks very similar to Jim Crow type caricature.

"Very similar"? Sounds like you've precisely defined what a "Jim Crow type caricature" is like. In which case, you can discuss it with us, especially given that it seems like an important issue for you. Please, share your knowledge with us.

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In my memory there are "black face" style cartoons. But those are very different from this drawing.

So, I am curious: which ones are you referring to?

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Could you please explain to us the ways in which this is "very similar" to a "Jim Crow type caricature"?

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For example:

• What specific qualities have you identified, which relates it to a high degree to"Jim Crow type caricatures"?
  
• What constitutes a "Jim Crow type caricature"? I am only asking because I am curious about the parallels you've drawn between this cartoon and the ones you're referring to. Perhaps you can provide a link?
  
  I ask because I see ZERO similarity in the caricature techniques.
  
  Serena's caricature is very accurate.
  
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  Here are examples of Jim Crow style caricatures:
  
  https://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Jim-Crow-Memorabilia-Tolerance/dp/1629631140
  
  https://ferris.edu/HTMLS/news/jimcrow/mammies/more/mammy-image-gallery-02.htm

Some people are saying fake, but it's worth noting that it was common for people to send absurd submissions to companies back then in hopes for a funny response. It was sort of trolling before Internet trolling.

Check out Letters from a Nut for a lot of examples if you ever find it at a library. Really funny collection of a comedian's letters and responses to different companies through the 90s. He would send a ridiculous letter and a lot would respond with letters like this one here.

Edit: This one could actually be a joke letter people copied and sent each other back then. Here's an old page with mostly the same text, but has a real name instead of the joke name.

I only eat plant based foods, I haven't bought takeout at all this entire school year. I'll upload my food receipts for next weeks Kroger trip and show you, but in the mean time here's a picture of my receipt just getting some touch up items: https://www.imgur.com/g61zhv0

5 oranges = $5

5 Apples = $7

It's not hard to imagine how quickly you can spend $125-150/week on food for one person, which equates to $500-600/month. $12 is about 10% of $125/week, and that was just for a miniscule amount of basic fruit that will last 3 days at most. That also doesn't include all the other types of fruit. You can't just eat apples and oranges to get an appropriate amount of vitamins and minearls, you need much more variety than that to target them all. So yes, if you want to eat a healthy diet, it easily can exceed $500-600/month to meet the caloric needs healthily for one adult male who regularly exercises everyday.

OR I can spend a little amount of money a week on processed food and candy. 5,720 calories for $9....not bad. https://www.amazon.com/REESES-Peanut-Butter-Chocolate-Miniatures/dp/B001UUEWIA/ref=pd_lpo_vtph_325_bs_lp_t_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=5NZF5EST030F2D676TAH

Point is yes, it does cost a lot to eat like a human being is supposed to. Look at America's obesity epedimic, now look at the proprotion of obesity between classes. There's a reason the poorest Americans are the most obese. Sure you could blame education, but it's pretty much common sense on what's healthy for you and whats not. Poor americans can't afford to eat right, period.

Yes. Women perpetuate patriarchy and gender norms. Women police each other. It’s not new. Just because women can be as toxic in perpetuating these norms doesn’t mean men don’t benefit from it...

Edit: typo

Edit 2: hey! My first silver! Thank you, kind stranger!

I know these comments are always fairly controversial and spark a lot of conversation. It’s a complicated subject and though I tried I feel it’s hard to respond without either being overly simplistic or falling into lengthy responses (not fun on mobile!) or both.

Suffice it to say I likely won’t be responding to most of any—but I’m reading all the comments (good bad and the ugly) and appreciate those polite responses.

Regarding feminism/patriarchy and such there’s a lot of great resources. So if you have genuine curiosity to learn more, here are a couple sources that were helpful for me:

Video Lecture: Masculinity and Male Socialization

Book: Women, Race and Class, by Angela Davis

There are a few of them actually!

• "What you are seeing and reading is not what's happening." - Donald Trump, PoTUS
  
  
• "Alternate facts" - Kellyanne Conway (not super clear what she actually does, technically an "aide" but she's on TV a lot)
  
  There are probably a lot more, those are just off the top of my head. The Trump administration loves presenting "different versions of the truth" as if reality is subjective.

Good for you. You must feel real smart.
Maybe start with this:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-End-Autism-Epidemic-Revealing/dp/1603588248
Or maybe don't? Sup to you. Good luck, peace.

I'm not sure where you got that. According to Harold Holzer (who literally wrote a book on the speech we're talking about):

A synopsis of the book by the Chicago Tribune:

>Finally, he rallied Republicans with a call to be true conservatives by holding firm to what he saw as the anti-slavery heritage of the American republic and standing strong against Southerners who were trying to expand human bondage. " 'Let us have faith that right makes might, and in that faith, let us, to the end, dare to do our duty as we understand it,' " he admonished Republicans.

Here's the book:

https://www.amazon.com/Lincoln-Cooper-Union-President-Schuster/dp/0743299647

As I understand the speech, Lincoln was seen as a radical. This speech was written to establish himself and his party as conservative, to demonstrate such so that he could be elected.

Now, I think what's confusing the issue is that the act was progressive, right? No doubt slavery was an established part of US culture at the time of the speech. But the TONE of the speech is conservative, and Lincoln is making a very good argument that the increase in slavery in the US was in fact the "progressive" movement, and that going back to the original intention of the country was the truly conservative path.

Now, you can cry foul and say that Lincoln overstepped, but there are some problems:

1. you're disagreeing with Lincoln, and he was a pretty damn smart dude
   
2. he was re-elected, so apparently his message rang true for people of the time, it's hard to say what connections they had to the constitution since some states were rebuking it at the time.
   
   even if you are ok with those points, Lincoln pulling one over by claiming to be conservative while making progressive moves, it doesn't change the fact that the republican party was a conservative party, led by a conservative identifying person.

The idea that the middle ages were "the dark ages" is a modern myth. The middle ages were a period of scientific and artistic progress, and their was no great revolution caused by the enlightenment. It was a continuation of midieval thought. The roots of modern science lie in the middle ages

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Read Rodney Stark, James Hannam, or edward grant

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There is a lot of scholarship about the progress of Europe during the middle ages, so this wikipedia article is a nice summary of why it's a misleading conception of the era

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dark_Ages_(historiography)

https://www.amazon.com/Reason-Middle-Ages-Edward-Grant/dp/0521003377

yeah, he had numerous collections of reviews, i would read page after page, not focusing on a particular movie. I worked at a video store so had lots of time to read
these are two that i remember:

home companion

https://www.amazon.com/Roger-Eberts-Book-Film-Tarantino/dp/0393040003/ref=sr_1_90?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1537107121&sr=1-90&refinements=p_27%3ARoger+Ebert


he also turned me on to Pauline Kael.

Also i remember once he lost his voice, he started writing about more than films on his blog. I didnt read much i just remember that he had some really good essays that were not about films and i liked pretty much every point he had made (cant remember what they were about now)

> Sorry, I depend on science and facts

You should read The magical thinking of guys who love logic. "Science" is not the be-all and end-all of human knowledge.

There is no existing "science" which will accurately predict what the 327 million people of the United States are going to do politically and socially over the next few years, so if your standard for taking action is to wait for the science, you're going to sit around like a useless lump while the United States travels a very dark path.

> Especially when the op actually claims science supports such statements with at least one model and analysis.

That's not what they claimed. They described a "consensus among scholars and survivors." There are plenty of scholars who are not scientists, as you'll see below. What op is referring to is presumably the many warnings that have indeed been raised by scholars and survivors, of which the OP post is one. I'll list just a few of the more prominent ones, but if you search, you'll find many more.

• Timothy Snyder, professor of history at Yale, in his book The Road to Unfreedom: Russia, Europe, America
  
• Jason Stanley, professor of philosophy at Yale, How Fascism Works
  
• Cass R. Sunstein, professor at Harvard Law School and director of the Program on Behavioral Economics and Public Policy, who is "by far the most cited law professor in the United States," in his book Can It Happen Here?: Authoritarianism in America
  
• Madeline Albright, previously Ambassador to the UN and Secretary of State, in her book Fascism: A Warning
  
• Holocaust survivor Stephen B. Jacobs: https://www.newsweek.com/im-holocaust-survivor-trumps-america-feels-germany-nazis-took-over-876965. There are many more warnings from survivors also, if you look for them.
  
  I'll also point out that it takes effort to produce such a list, so if you take the fact that people you're arguing with just don't bother, perhaps because they perceive you as not worth the effort, you're going to find yourself wallowing in ignorance while at the same time thinking you know it all. Which is precisely the problem that gets us into situations like the current one. If you want to be part of the solution, you have to take responsibility for educating yourself better.

You do realize that they make belts that are fully adjustable, right? You don't have to be a slave to little belt holes.

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being able to only afford potatoes is now called "the potatoe hack diet". Living in a trailer park is now "urban densification tiny house district". Branding is important, have some pride in eating taters!