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I was your age when I had sex for the first time, and it was with my first love. While I felt some trepidation, having to get past the "script"about sex before marriage that my parents had always voiced....I felt comfortable and safe with my partner. Also I had enjoyed the excitement between us, when we'd kiss, or touch, or rub, and was physically ready for that to proceed.

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Go slow, the first time having penetrative sex may feel uncomfortable, but if it's hurting you, stop and try another position, or go back to touching and kissing for awhile. Communication is important, don't be ashamed to voice when something feels more good or less good, or uncomfortable.

Consider stimulating your clitoris before and during sex, or have him touch you/stimulate you there first. For many women it can make a difference, that building excitement and natural moisture makes their body ready for penetrative sex.

https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/vulvovaginal/

https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/manual-sex/

For my first time, intercourse didn't feel good at first and my partner could tell. I told him, "It's going to hurt anyways, lets just get it over with."...He stopped and gave me a huge cuddle, and told me "Sweetie, that's silly, we've got lots of time."

Maybe you are already aware of this, but in case you're not:

It's very exciting for men, if they haven't much experience looking and touching women so they may ejaculate quickly. If that happens, try to be sweet (don't act disappointed). If you want to continue because you're still excited, you can ask him to kiss & touch you (maybe give you oral sex if you're ready?), and he will likely be able to get hard again in 5-20 minutes, if you want to try again.

In general, orgasms are easy for men, they can finish quickly, and they are very visually oriented (visuals stimulate them). For women, sex is much more tied to emotions and thoughts, and while this varies per each women, having an orgasm from penetrative sex may not happen. It can still feel pleasurable, nice, exciting, just may not end with a "bang". And that's OK.

Feeling connected, loved, and excited by your partner is what's important. If the first time is awkward, you can both communicate and explore and develop your sexual relationship.

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If either of you are interested in "studying" about sexual techniques (NOT a requirement for your first time- just a suggestion for future)

https://www.amazon.ca/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260

https://www.amazon.ca/Joy-Sex-Ultimate-Revised/dp/0307587789

I feel you! I spent several years in my late twenties researching these things because I didn't value them/learn them earlier. Before I lived in dude's cargo camo shorts and t-shirts. It was a simpler time :)

I don't do makeup and clothes and hair and nails all the time, but I have gradually upped my normal level of presentation. Most of this was for work, but also to blend at social functions where I was way out of my element and felt terrible about sticking out. There is value in being ABLE to blend, even if you don't choose to do it all the time.

General tips: Take baby steps. Work on one thing at a time. Best place to start is making sure you are clean and neat. Clean, clip, and if needed file your nails. Put some clear polish on them. When you get more confident with your application, find a french tip nail pen (or white nail polish if you're more coordinated than I am :p) and do that. From there maybe you consider growing them out. If you jump into something like fake nails, that level of transition is going to feel uncomfortable and probably unsustainable.

Start cheap. You could spend a lot of money on different clothes, makeup, hair products, and nail stuff. Drug store brands, Elf makeup, nyx, and gently used clothes from thrift shops can let you experiment without breaking the bank. When you have a better idea of what you like, you can upgrade to spendier things of a high quality (if needed, I still love ELF!). This way you don't drop 20 bucks on a lipstick that you eventually realize is a color you love but not a shade that looks good on you. Or a sweater that after some reflection you realize you never wear because it rides up on your waist or doesn't look as nice as you hoped.

Try it out at home. Eventually you have to leave the house with it, but try things before you go out with them. Trying putting on makeup or doing something to my hair on a lazy weekend day helped me get used to the feeling, the look, and not feel hideously embarrassed if I did something that didn't look great. There will be those times.

I read the following books:

Drop Dead Brilliant (personal branding in the workplace, covers clothes, posture, voice, all sorts of stuff you wouldn't think about) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00104ZFXM/

The Lucky Shopping Manual (out of date, but a visual guide to putting together a cohesive wardrobe) https://www.amazon.com/Lucky-Shopping-Manual-Building-Improving/dp/B0073U347G/

Bobbi Brown Makeup Manual https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001FA0NZ6/

and a bunch of others but those were more work related. Can include if you're interested.

For youtube makeup, I have watched lots of do's/don't videos, and 'no makeup' tutorials to start. Avoid the personal/drama videos, it gets gross on youtube :/

Wayne Goss (important to consider when watching youtube videos!!!!) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z1lovMzixm0

Lisa Eldridge (5 minute tutorial, no makeup look, she's a professional makeup artist) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B_ZRjW1ZJLQ or https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGpLLWnO3XY

Ali Andreea (do's/don'ts, a little exaggerated) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ooxyFoBZrXM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0daIFQjLIc&t=549s

Tati Westbrook (do's/don'ts) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IXzMjOOsgNU

Jaime French is fun (makeup starts at 2:40) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JheyOBF71CU

Jackie Aina (back to school fresh faced) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A4SNFqnnJbM

Sailor J not serious. Just hilarious https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zJaaLXZwmsU

I wrote a version of this comment a couple of months ago, so here is a slightly updated version (still the same amount of cursing tho):

Okay, this is a novel but it's my journey with epilating and some things I've learned along the way. I am a total baby when it comes to pain but I managed to overcome it.

My friend epilates and convinced me to try it. I bought a cheap one on Amazon, tried it, hated it, sent it back, and bought the mack daddy Braun Silk Epil 9, and I have to tell you it was rough going at first but now I love it.

It really did hurt like everloving FUCK the first time. I have a lot of hair. A lot. Friend said it would hurt less as I go on, on which I called bullshit. It was so so so bad that I couldn't even do a full leg in one go. And forget above the knees, Jesus tap dancing Christ Almighty.

Why I love it now: friend was right, damn her. It really truly gets better the more you do it, and I mean almost immediately. The second time is like night and day compared to the first. The reason for this is that hair grows in cycles. All the hair on your legs didn't all start growing at the same time, so when you rip all that hair out, every hair isn't growing back at the same rate. I would say it's about 1/2 to 1/3 of the amount of hair that grows back long enough to epilate in about a week's time. The lower density of hair makes for a MUCH less painful experience, and for me to say that, well, you saw how much of a little bitch I was in the previous paragraph. It seriously doesn't even phase me now.

Also why I love it: when you shave hair you leave a blunt edge which can feel like the hair is thicker and makes stubble feel stubblier. When the hair is plucked, it grows back nice and tapered and is softer to the touch. Because the hairs are growing back in less density, it's less noticeable. I can go for a week without giving a fuck about the hair on my legs.

Also, shaving just fucking sucks for me. It tears up my skin, I get itchy, and then it grows back in like a day. Epilating 4 lyfe, man.

But it took some trial and error to get there, which wisdom I will now bestow upon you. Here is my routine:

1. Exfoliate. For the love of God, before and after. Exfoliating means less dead skin means less chance for ingrown hairs. My preferred way to so this is with a hammam glove like this one. Look up the Baiden Mitten, then buy a hammam mitt on amazon because they're way cheaper. But it basically sloughs off the dead skin in rolls and is super gross and super satisfying. I did this right before the last time I epilated and my legs are soooooo smoooooth I can't even.
   
   
2. Nothing on your skin, no lotion or whatever. The epilator tweezers might slip on the hair and break it. This leads to subparly smooth legs and ingrown hairs. So I wash in the shower with a soap that won't leave any residue, hammam it up, and then dry off and epilate.
   
   
3. Epilate! If you have a wet/dry epilator you can do it in the shower with really hot water. This truly does alleviate the pain, and this was how I did it every time when I first started. I have found though that when I do this, the time it takes me to do my lower legs means that the water has made the hair on my upper legs much softer and prone to breakage, so the epilating isn't as effective. I usually suck it up and do it dry now.
   
   
4. Exfoliate again! This time I do chemical exfoliation. I use Stridex pads, the kind that come in the red box. Red box is important because it's at the right pH to actually exfoliate.
   
   
5. Soothe and/or moisturize. I slap on some aloe gel for this. Then I take care to moisturize daily afterwards.
   
   Rinse and repeat! I find that going more than a week in between hair ripping sessions means the growth is just enough to start to be painful again. I do this about every 5 days because my hair grows fast, but I'm hoping to extend it to a week eventually (which coincidentally is the recommended time to go in between exfoliating seshes).
   
   With this routine, which takes less and less time every time I do it, I don't get any bumps and only the occasional ingrown hair, usually on my upper thighs. Your legs will be kind of red and splotches after, and there may even be angry red dots where the hair was ripped out, but this goes away very quickly, and by the next day they look completely normal. It's never going to be completely smooth like with shaving, but honestly the tradeoff to me is worth it because when I shave, my legs are never perfectly smooth anyway because of the damage the razor does to my skin. Epilating is way gentler on my skin and I love the results I get.
   
   My final piece of advice: if you can stand it, wax everything first. Then the first growth cycle you epilate will be much less painful than if you'd started with the epilator. I used these Veet wax strips and yes it hurt like a bitch but ripping a giant bandaid off your legs is way better than slowly moving an epilator up your legs knowing that the pain just isn't going to stop. I have also done this again when I waited too long in between epilating and I just couldn't face the pain again.
   
   If you don't want to wax, what I've also done (I told you this was an arduous journey) is shave first with the shaver attachment on my epilator, then epilate. There are very few hairs left behind that are long enough for it to grab, so you can get used to the sensation.
   
   I haven't been brave enough to do my underarms yet, because the couple times I tried I was actually yelping from the pain. I may try waxing those first which I'm sure will also be an experience....
   
   Good luck! And remember that Amazon had a generous return policy. ;)
   
   PS I should mention that I have sensitive skin in general and I'm prone to things like eczema, ingrown hairs and body acne, but epilating with this routine does not exacerbate this at all.

I read this book called Cunt for my gender and sexualities class last fall. There is a chapter in the book where the author describes her experience in naturally inducing a miscarriage, and it's a really great read. She talks about carefully picking herbal supplements and teas to drink and having her massage therapist friend come over a couple times a week to massage her stomach.

It ends with the miscarriage falling on the floor at her feet when she was in the bathroom and just being amazed by how cool the whole experience was. The rest of the information in the chapter is outdated and irrelevant in terms of contraception methods, but that one little section is great.

I think the method that the woman went about to induce the miscarriage sounded pretty safe and awesome. She was able to terminate her pregnancy at home surrounded by the encouragement and love of her friends who were helping her.

This is a life changer!! I love getting my nails done but it doesn’t really work well with being a broke university student. So, I bought a couple of things and did it at home myself! It did take a couple of hours (although I worked slowly and got distracted lots of times) and took some patience but it looks better shaped and painted than some salons I’ve tried in the past. Something for y’all to consider!!

Products I used/needed:

• Kiss Nail Glue Maximum Speed (Walmart)
  
• Clear coffin-shaped nails (Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B07HGYZW55/ref=ya_aw_od_pi?ie=UTF8&psc=1 )
  
• Nail file
  
• Nail clippers
  
• Nail buffer
  
• Gel nail polish (Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00SWP6RR0/ref=ya_aw_od_pi?ie=UTF8&psc=1 ... All drug stores sell gel polish too, I just liked these colors)
  
• LED lamp (Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B008FXFH6Q/ref=ya_aw_od_pi?ie=UTF8&psc=1 )
  
• Rubbing alcohol/cotton ball
  
  I started buffing my natural nail to make sure it was smooth. I then went on to fitting and gluing each nail on, then trimming and filing the nail to preference (I did mine a bit too long but oh well lol). Then I just painted away and dried with the LED lamp. After, since it’s a gel polish, you’ll want to take a cotton ball with rubbing alcohol and swipe it over each nail as the gel polish leaves a sticky residue at the end. Then you’re done! I hope you can enjoy this as much as I did! It’s work, but worth it to save money in the long run. :-)

You sound like me when I was a teenager. I felt like a very sex-positive person, thought people should be able to enjoy sex without shame, etc, but my upbringing made me feel intense guilt when it came to myself.

My best advice is to not sweat it. You will still feel shame for a while, but it will fade over time. Stay your sex positive self and you will grow with your experiences. I also recommend reading some good erotica to get a positive view of people enjoying sex and masturbation. I found Clitical to be helpful- it's got masturbation tips and erotic stories and the like that makes everything seem a lot more.... normal?

I also found this book to be really helpful. I don't agree with everything the author says but her relentless sex-positiveness helped me get over some of the guilt instilled by years of religious upbringing.

I hope this helps.

I've tried a few different things, and I epilate now. It definitely hurts more the first few times, but it gets a lot easier as time goes on. (Hair grows in a little thinner, doesn't hurt as much, etc.). Just look at skincare tips for exfoliating, moisturizing, etc., which people recommend whether you shave or epilate. I feel, in terms of pain, if you can wax, then you can epilate. One caveat with epilating - it's not the cleanest method, and you'll want to epilate more than you thought when you start, due to the hair regrowth cycle (they all don't come in at the same time).

I wanted to mention another option since you tried hair removal cream. I liked it, but ended up going with epilation because mixing this stuff up and using it while on a business trip is a little annoying.
Soft-sheen Carson magic shaving powder This is gentle hair removal. You mix some powder in a bowl with water to form a paste, put it on your legs, then wait a while and wash it away. It's never hurt, and it worked really well. I just had a couple friends who would ask me why I had a bowl and a spoon sitting in the bathroom. One friend started contemplating eating ice cream while in the bathroom, but that's off-topic.
Anyway, depending on how sensitive to pain you are, you may want to try this stuff. I just looked it up on Amazon and it was like $2 ($5 with shipping). I can't remember why, but back when I researched this one, everyone said the yellow can of powder worked better than the white one; that's the one I used, and I thought it was great.
http://www.amazon.com/health-personal-care/dp/B0048ZIFA0

I wanted to add one last thing. I still have a back-up razor that I have used very rarely (maybe once in the past couple years), because I wanted every last hair gone. The epilator takes longer, and does not work as cleanly. Also, the epilator I got was shower friendly, which is when I typically use mine. But it doesn't have a travel-safety switch, which basically makes sure you can't turn it on when it's in your suitcase. I've found that annoying, because I'll pack it for a trip, and get to a destination, and then need to plug it in to charge right away, because it accidentally turned on at some point.

Going for understated classy? I would stick with blacks, golds, and reds. For a more dressed down, festive event, mix in some deep, holly greens, or even a silly novelty holiday piece or two.

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Hair down; I would go simple up top. As simple as a black ribbon choker and stud earrings, then use bolder statement pieces on your wrists and hands.

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Hair up; I would still say black ribbon choker but add statement earrings or a hair piece. I'm not huge on sparkle, so I gravitate towards brushed metals and dyed textiles or leather, but there is absolutely no rule against those fabulous rhinestone numbers if you can pull them off. Or just stick a poinsettia in your hair. Clip it in though, otherwise it tends to be just precarious enough to irritate.

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(these are cursory ideas, I haven't researched any of these products outside of 'ooh pretty')

Earring ideas:

https://smile.amazon.com/Sterling-Earrings-created-Swarovski-Crystals/dp/B074V8DML9/ref=sr_1_107?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382610&sr=1-107&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=red+earrings

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https://smile.amazon.com/Rainbery-Pairs-Leather-Earrings-Teardrop/dp/B07B8K33X6/ref=sr_1_7?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382405&sr=1-7&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=red+earrings

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https://smile.amazon.com/EVER-FAITH-Austrian-Gorgeous-Gold-Tone/dp/B073J8N3K5/ref=sr_1_56?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382405&sr=1-56&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=red+earrings

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Hairpiece Ideas;

https://smile.amazon.com/AeraVida-Handmade-Genuine-Leather-Pinch/dp/B074FXN3KZ/ref=sr_1_25?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542383804&sr=1-25&nodeID=7192394011&psd=1&keywords=hair+clip.

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https://smile.amazon.com/AeraVida-Handmade-Genuine-Leather-Pinch/dp/B074FXN3KZ/ref=sr_1_142?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542384360&sr=1-142&nodeID=7147440011&psd=1&keywords=hair+clip

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https://smile.amazon.com/yueton-Fashion-Barrettes-Headwear-Headbands/dp/B014IQJQYC/ref=pd_sim_194_29?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B014IQJQYC&pd_rd_r=c21e095b-e9b9-11e8-a8c6-1b706237d91c&pd_rd_w=4n9Yx&pd_rd_wg=DSbB7&pf_rd_i=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=18bb0b78-4200-49b9-ac91-f141d61a1780&pf_rd_r=KSZJFPY9X5HKN469GGME&pf_rd_s=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_t=40701&psc=1&refRID=KSZJFPY9X5HKN469GGME.

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https://smile.amazon.com/justBe-Hair-Accessories/dp/B06XBD2ZGJ/ref=pd_sbs_197_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B075V12R5H&pd_rd_r=89ae8ef6-e9b9-11e8-a464-9d17b534f1da&pd_rd_w=xfExk&pd_rd_wg=XzI05&pf_rd_i=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=763ccc93-bfa2-47be-85ae-0cdd7e00b3da&pf_rd_r=R5G6ADZ4HSZEWC873J0V&pf_rd_s=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_t=40701&refRID=R5G6ADZ4HSZEWC873J0V&th=1

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Bracelet ideas;

https://smile.amazon.com/Lux-Accessories-Enamel-Bangle-Bracelet/dp/B00HQ39T3S/ref=sr_1_61?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382747&sr=1-61&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=red+bracelet

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https://smile.amazon.com/YISSION-Bracelet-Three-Dimensional-Irregular-Bracelets/dp/B074TF6TR5/ref=sr_1_9?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382663&sr=1-9&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=gold+bangles

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https://smile.amazon.com/Jenia-Bracelets-Wristband-Rhinestone-Handmade/dp/B078XJ8LYH/ref=sr_1_7?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382723&sr=1-7&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=red+bracelet

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https://smile.amazon.com/Carfeny-Bangles-Stackable-Bracelets-Birthday/dp/B01F6NU3XO/ref=sr_1_7?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382663&sr=1-7&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=gold+bangles.

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https://smile.amazon.com/LaRaso-Co-Bangle-Bracelets-Women/dp/B072C4DGN8/ref=pd_sbs_197_5?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B0104P73Y6&pd_rd_r=2d4b285d-e9b6-11e8-9729-43f65cfc73de&pd_rd_w=Upz0i&pd_rd_wg=sv1wz&pf_rd_i=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=763ccc93-bfa2-47be-85ae-0cdd7e00b3da&pf_rd_r=KDYHW4Q0M2TVD3STYV5N&pf_rd_s=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_t=40701&refRID=KDYHW4Q0M2TVD3STYV5N&th=1

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I hope that helps but again, this is just what appeals to me and what I would enjoy wearing. If I'm entirely off base, I'll be just as thrilled to help narrow down what you do want by finding out what you don't. Either way, I'd love to see the final results!

I also used to get UTIs pretty much every month for a 2-3 year period of my life. It was hell. My doctor kept prescribing me antibiotics, which I took so often I think the bacteria in my urethra became resistant. There was one time I was in so much pain for so long I took too much Nitrofurantoin (the antibiotic) that it wiped out the 'good bacteria' in my system and I gave myself a yeast infection... on top of my UTI :(.

I was taking concentrated cranberry pills and drinking my weight in water daily, but I was always on the verge of getting a UTI. I would get one any time I had sex with my partner or drank more than one alcoholic beverage in a day.

I was so frustrated and miserable and worried that this was going to be my reality for the rest of my life. It was my partner who actually dug deep on the internet and found D-mannose, which is a sugar that's used to promote a healthy urinary tract. I am not a homeopathic/alternative medicine person, but I was desperate and totally down to try a sugar pill or anything that might help. Apparently the way that the D-mannose sugar molecule is structured, it attracts and bonds really well with the kind of bacteria molecules that grow in your urinary tract and cause the UTI.

D-mannose has changed my life. I think I've gotten an actual UTI once in the last 4 years (and I was in Indonesia). I use it when I think I might feel one coming on, and also as a preventative when I know I'll be drinking a lot or when there will be an extended period of time when I'll be more at risk (e.g. camping). It's mind blowing to me that I suffered for so long and talked to my doctor every 3-4 months to try to figure this out and just kept getting prescribed antibiotics. It was a huge learning moment for me with medicine and doctors. I ask every doctor I see now if they know about D-mannose, and so far no one has.

I can't know if this works for everyone, but I try to share this story with any many women as possible, because D-mannose has helped me get my life back. It's also cheap, you don't need a prescription, and it's on Amazon Prime! (Also in Whole foods for double the price if you're not able to order online -- I haven't seen it anywhere other than health food stores, but hopefully one day). Here's the one that I order: https://smile.amazon.com/NOW-D-Mannose-500-120-Capsules/dp/B000JN4CR0/ref=sr_1_3?crid=3NH0N6SBH0MH1&keywords=d-mannose&qid=1556468711&s=gateway&sprefix=d-manno%2Caps%2C201&sr=8-3&th=1

If this helps just one person I'll be happy! Hope the meds you got cleared it up for you :)

You will have to find out what products are best for you! Cetaphil (very drying) broke me out horribly, but I recently found Cerave Foaming Face Wash and it is amazing! Moisturizer is also very important. I use Nivea Creme but a lot of people like Cerave in the tub. It breaks some people out (me) but a lot of people love it.

I use the flawless epilator from Finishing Touch. It is technically a shaver but it works well and it feels smooth. I have been using it for about a year and had no rough patches or anything like that. And I usually only need to do it like every three weeks or so, sometimes less. You can buy the product and the heads on amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Finishing-Touch-Flawless-Painless-Remover/dp/B071KW9GTT/ref=sr_1_7_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1538682326&sr=8-7&keywords=flawless%2Bepilator%2Bfor%2Bwomen&th=1

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And this one doesn't leave a shadow too. It is much easier than waxing or using products.

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Make sure when you buy replacement heads that you buy from the Finishing Touch seller on amazon as there are many copycat products that are not as good. They also sell one for your legs.

Attached. I don't believe that everyone fits into 'categories' like the authors claim, but there are some very good chapters in there with concrete advice about opening up to people and not pushing them away. You may be particularly interested in the chapters about 'avoidant attachment.' I don't know you and what walls you're tryna break down, but I think the book offers some great starting points.

re: shaving, I just saw travel razors in the store that have liquid in the handle to be able to shave anywhere, anytime. I thought it was an interesting idea so it stuck with me.

Here's an amazon link!
https://www.amazon.com/Waterless-Razor-Venus-Anytime-Without/dp/B07GJX1KKX

Re: skin feeling blah, I'm the type to have a long skincare routine, but lately I found a 'toner' type product that I love. I just throw it on after my shower and that's it for my routine now. I don't even wash my face in the pm.

Here's the amazon link if you'd like to try: https://www.amazon.com/FRUDIA-Citrus-Brightening-Toner-K-Beauty/dp/B07F3R4V42

Try Cetaphil as a cleanser, and Cera Ve as a moisturizer. This is what I've been using, and I adore them as a combo. If you use the Cetaphil it might make your skin a little drier than you want, which is why you'd want the Cera Ve with it.

I've always had combo skin (oily and dry at the same time) and used to break out quite a bit. After using this stuff I rarely get a single pimple. It's a little pricey, but it comes with quite a bit and you don't need to use much at all so it lasts a long time. The Cetaphil you just use a single pump and the Cera Ve you barely need to touch the stuff to get enough - a little goes a long way! Good luck!

Tony Moly also sells a version of this.

Be sure to soak your feet before using. Like, until they are wrinkly. It'll help your skin to actually soak up the solution.

Also, the basis of this is really just exfoliating. You can get similar results without having to do the full peel by simply manually exfoliating your feet. It sounds gross, but I find it works without having to go through the whole process of molting feet for a week.

While in the bath - once your feet are nice and soaked and the skin is softened, you can usually just use a pumice stone, an abrasive cloth (like Italy clothes from South Korea or exfoliating mitts that are made of fine viscose (I prefer these for full body rub downs as well as feet - easier to use), or just your finger nails. You can feel the dead skin coming off - finger nails are especially useful around the toes.

Studies also show that probiotics taken orally have minimal effect to correct flora imbalances vaginally. There are multiple studies that show probiotics placed directly into the vagina ARE an effective method to fix flora imbalances.

I recommend daily boric acid v-suppository every morning and probiotic v-suppository every evening (you can open the capsule, mix the probiotic powder with a safe substance such as water based lubricant, you can just a 5ml oral syringe to place the probiotic mixture inside yourself). I recommend doing this for 7 days initially, then for 2-3 days every month following your menstrual cycle (the time in which pH and flora imbalances are most prevalent).

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2662373/

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01M5BGAOO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_XWGazb3CZMZT2

The hormonal changes you go through when your period begins and ends can cause yeast infections. I now use these boric acid vaginal suppositories towards the end of my period to prevent it. If you already have one going on, they could help! I used them a few months ago to get rid of an infection I had which antibiotics from my doctor didn't help. I now just use these as a preventative measure every month at the end of my period and haven't had any more infections.

It also has the added bonus of helping me clear out the old dark blood at the end of my period quicker than if I just normally waited for all of that spotting to finish.

I used to have the same problem. I bought these scrubbing pads on amazon and they are AMAZING (also great for use on your face):
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004C8DR1U/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o07_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I use them every time I shower with this body was that has salicylic acid in it: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00R2X5ONQ/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

That has completely nipped it in the bud for me!

I was also raised by wolves with limited beauty knowledge, so no judgement.

Hand soap is probably causing some of your dry skin, so you should switch to something like Cetaphil for your face that's been mentioned by others. It's a great starting point since there isn't anything extra in it for acne, so it won't dry your skin out any more. Wash your face in the morning and evening, and put the moisturizer on after. Just put a pump of face wash in your hands, lather it up a little and then you're ready to wash.

It may seem a little pricey if you're new to skin care, but the container is so big it will last you a long time.

Also, here are the moisturizers I mentioned before
CeraVe AM
CeraVe PM
Using body moisturizer in your face can be a little risky since it's usually thicker than face moisturizer, so it may make you break out.

If you have UTI issues or sign of infection I would 100% recommend taking D-Mannose , a supplement that takes the bacteria in your bladder/urinary tract and flushes it out the next time you pee. It CHANGED MY LIFE. I’ve had lifelong chronic UTIs (since before I was sexually active) and this is legitimately the only thing I’ve ever taken that has helped (that’s not antibiotics). Just take a couple before bed for a few days and see if it helps! I only take it now if I feel burning when I urinate and it immediately clears it up. Good luck:)

I don't think anyone has mentioned it so far, but the book Attached was incredibly helpful to me. I would recommend reading it right away. link

Did you see these?! You could get a friend to help, maybe? https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07GJX1KKX/ref=ox_sc_act_title_3?smid=A2SZ0KPHYQVM2Q&psc=1

Ready Attached. It explains romantic attachment styles and one thing that really resonated with me that it's ok if you're the sort of person who is happier in a relationship than not in one. There is this pressure that it's unhealthy if you're not capable of being content being independent and that's kind of a myth.

Try a product called Magic Shaving Powder. It's not really for shaving, it dissolves the hairs but is much much milder than Nair. It also says it's "formulated for black men" but it works just as well for me as a white girl on my sensitive bits. You can find it here or in pretty much any pharmacy.

Ahhhhhhhh, that's probably the key then. I'm really impatient with applying fake tan haha. I just bought these because I read in another thread that they are supposedly better than the gloves :O I can't wait to be a smooth baby hahaha.

I had success with “Italy Towels” about once a week to scrub (a lot of) dead skin off after a soak in hot water. Also, using coconut oil after showering and especially after scrubbing did great for any raised bumps.

You mix it with water to make a paste that removes hair. It is designed for black men's face use, to remove coarse hairs and to prevent razor bumps so hopefully it is more delicate.

http://www.amazon.com/Magic-Shave-Shaving-Powder-Gold/dp/B0048ZIFA0


You can find this at wal-mart. I really can not recommend using a depilatory cream on your vulva, the area is extremely delicate. However, some people have a good experience using it.

Let me change your life!!! Hop on Amazon and search “Italy cloth”. $4.38 for an 8 pack of these miraculous exfoliating washcloths!

I’ve had KP since I was a kid and I tried everything. Since I found out about these the skin on my arms, thighs, and butt is so much smoother and even.

Shower with warm water, and after a few minutes start gently scrubbing your entire body and watch as your dead skin rolls off. Rinse well and cry about how smooth your body feels and embrace your new life as a baby dolphin.

Edit: here’s the link! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004C8DR1U/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_4v1XDb21R9B2T

I used to use depilatories, but now I use this It’s like an epilator but it doesn’t hurt at all! It literally feels like nothing and leaves my skin smooth

8 pcs Asian Exfoliating Bath Washcloth - Red & Green https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B004C8DR1U/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_X13XDb90M705M

http://www.amazon.com/pcs-Asian-Exfoliating-Bath-Washcloth/dp/B004C8DR1U

These things are amazing as far as exfoliating goes. I wouldn't recommend on your face (well I do very gently), but they use these at Korean spas, and Korean homes everywhere I'm sure. But after being in the shower for a bit, just exfoliate your whole body with this and all the dead skin will come off. There is no they cloth like it. The ones at the grocery store do not compare. I do it about once a week. And then use coconut oil right after the shower. I find non exfoliated skin just feels the worst.