(Part 2) Best products from r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide

I was also an early bloomer, and grew pubic and underarm hair around her age, although didn’t menstruate until 11 or 12. I was especially sensitive and embarrassed about it, since my 2 closest friends were years behind that. Three things come to mind:

• I’m sure it’s only a little bit of hair and will be that way for a while, so there shouldn’t be any issues with bikini lines this summer, or maybe next summer, but keep an eye out for it. My mom bought me full coverage boy short bikini bottoms, which were popular at the time, and it covered everything. For gymnastics and swim team, my mom helped me use Nair a few times since I wasn’t shaving my legs yet and wasn’t comfortable with a razor. Luckily it takes a few years for it to grow into your bikini line though.
  
  
• Underarm hair will be arriving soon, if not already. I was especially fortunate to have black underarm hair even though I was blonde everywhere else. It was even hard to hide in winter because of gymnastics so I switched to long sleeve leotards. For the summer months, my mother would cut it using small cuticle scissors in the bathroom. Then I used nair until I was ready to shave. Body odor sticks to hair so make sure she’s aware of that.
  
  
• Start thinking about switching to a female pediatrician if you don’t already have one. I was much more comfortable talking with my doctor when I switched from an old man to a younger female doctor.
  
  Writing this, I’m realizing how well my mom handled this situation. At that age I was very sensitive and my biggest fear was that I was growing up and leaving my friends behind. I felt left out of being a kid. “Why me,” kind of questions. My mom said everything was secret between her and I and she wouldn’t tell anyone -even my aunts, my dad, or my brother.
  
  The book, The Care and Keeping of You is great. I liked to be able to have a book to look through and learn without being embarrassed. This was before internet.
  
  Lastly, one thing that helped me embrace my changing body was a skincare routine. I loved having all my products. It was just face wash and moisturizer, but it made me feel super cool. Try something gentle like Cetaphil or Cerave, and nothing that says “acne” if she doesn’t need it.
  
  
  

Looks like you've already gotten some good advice, but I have a little more to add on a few of your items.

Sugar Scrub recipes? / How to remove dry skin? / How to eliminate the Red Bump Syndrome after shaving? Just get a Salux cloth and exfoliate with that (plus a little body wash) in the shower. It is MAGIC for exfoliation! I used to get the red bumps pretty bad but now I just exfoliate before shaving and I have no problems. Also, replace the blades in your razor when they start to get dull.

Ways to cure acne? This varies from person to person, but /r/SkincareAddiction is AMAZING. I wash with Cerave foaming cleanser, use their PM moisturizer (plus sunscreen during the day), make sure to wash my face AFTER brushing my teeth, and avoid touching my face much. This prevents a lot of zits for me. The ones I do get are poked with a clean lancet after washing my face and then covered with a hydrocolloid bandage.

How to whiten my smile? / bleach my hair? I saw you mention you have issues with pool chlorine--as a chemist, I feel I should inform you that commercial teeth whitening strips contain carbamate peroxide as the whitening agent and not chlorine bleach (NaClO). Similarly, bleach meant for hair is also peroxide-based. Big difference! Might want to see if they work for you, since they don't contain the chemical that was causing you problems.

Nail Care Tips THESE VITAMINS ARE MAGIC. My nails get pretty long without breaking now, and I'm really rough on my hands. They taste like candy, too. Should also be good for hair and skin!

Exercise routines...? Go learn how to lift heavy things properly. Seriously. New Rules of Lifting for Women is not a bad starting point for a total beginner. Heavy lifting has given me loads of confidence, kickass thighs, an awesome butt, and even visible abs at one point. Lifting will build muscle, which provides a nice frame even if you have extra bodyfat...how much bodyfat you carry also depends on your diet, which /r/xxfitness can help you figure out. Once you figure out what works for you, sustainably, diet and activity-wise, you actually have a great deal of control over how your body looks. (It turns out I like chocolate more than I like seeing my abs most of the time, but if I miss them and I want them visible for a while, I now know that about 1800-2000 cal/day with a high training volume will do that.) Endless cardio is not necessary if you are like me and you hate running...I only do naked cardio :D Do find an activity you love and will stick with, and make sure you get enough sleep. Don't cut calories to 1200/day and run yourself to death, it will screw up your metabolism for years and make it way harder to lean out.

Good ways to stop Cramps, or at least help make them lighter and less painful. If they're debilitating, see your gynecologist--a medical condition could be the problem. As an endometriosis sufferer, I'm on a Pill that's designed to give only four periods a year, but I take it continuously, so I don't have periods at all. That's not for everyone, but it does help a lot to start taking ibuprofen a week before your period and continue taking it (at the recommended interval, something like every 6 hours I think) until the cramping stops. Also, invest in a good heating pad. They work very, very well.

Oh man, I love when people ask stuff like this on Reddit. I bootblack, and have worked on countless leather boots! Frye boots are lovely.

First off, what kind finish do your Melissa Buttons have, or did they have when you got them? For instance, looking at the current line, Antiqued/Polished can take polish, Rugged should not be polished, and Suede will have an entirely different cleaning/care routine from the other two. I'll assume it's closer to the first two for the following.

For any leather that's not suede or nubuck, the first step is cleaning. You can pick up some saddle soap (Kiwi exists in your local drug store or grocery store and is totally fine) or use just about any mild soap - I regularly use diluted Dr. Bronners. You want to create a lather and scrub that into the leather, and then wipe the boot down with a damp, not wet, rag. Be sure to get all the suds off the boot, but don't soak it either. If it's really dirty, feel free to repeat this step!

Then, I would choose a conditioner. I'd actually stay away from an animal-based oil like neatsfoot oil or mink oil, as well as less-stable oils like olive oil, since those could go rancid with too much humidity. I'm a big fan of Obenauf's, which gives good deep conditioning with just a bit of product (seriously, a little goes a long way) and has a pretty neutral scent. Frye actually sells a conditioning cream of their own, which I imagine would also be fine. Pretty much anything with a beeswax base is also good. Apply with your fingers so you can really rub it into the leather - the heat from your hands will help work it in.

Finally, if your boot is the sort that would look better with some shine, I would wait a day or two to let the conditioner soak in and then apply a bit of cream polish - this will give your boots some shine, but it won't be like, patent-leather mirror shiny, which I feel would be the wrong style for Frye boots. Kiwi also sells these, but Meltonian is my go-to. With cream polish, you apply a light coat and then buff the boot with a shoe brush in light, fast strokes. You can use your fingers to apply the polish, but it'll dye your fingertips, so either wear gloves or use a rag or a polish brush. Buff the boot until it's shiny to your liking!

Don't worry too much, it's pretty hard to ruin a good pair of boots while taking care of them. They'll definitely be happier with a bit of TLC!

Oh man! Yeah, you may be one of those lucky girls who automatically get a yeast infection when she's placed on antibiotics. The antibiotics disrupt our "environment" and while they solve one issue, they cause another! For a long time when my doctor prescribed me an antibiotic, I went ahead and got her to write the script for Diflucan.

Since this is your first, then you may not need to go this route, but if you find you are one of the lucky ones to get recurring infections, then (as someone else suggested) definitely use boric acid suppositories to prevent/treat. I pretty much lived with infections for my entire 20s until I got a new GYN that was more open to non-Western/pharma options and she introduced me to boric acid AND essential oils. If you feel like the OTC cream isn't giving you relief, maybe check out this essential oil blend. It smells mostly like lemons, which honestly I'm not the biggest fan of, but it has a nice cooling, soothing effect. And since it's oil, it's not as messy as those creams.

Hope you get better soon!

Going for understated classy? I would stick with blacks, golds, and reds. For a more dressed down, festive event, mix in some deep, holly greens, or even a silly novelty holiday piece or two.

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Hair down; I would go simple up top. As simple as a black ribbon choker and stud earrings, then use bolder statement pieces on your wrists and hands.

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Hair up; I would still say black ribbon choker but add statement earrings or a hair piece. I'm not huge on sparkle, so I gravitate towards brushed metals and dyed textiles or leather, but there is absolutely no rule against those fabulous rhinestone numbers if you can pull them off. Or just stick a poinsettia in your hair. Clip it in though, otherwise it tends to be just precarious enough to irritate.

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(these are cursory ideas, I haven't researched any of these products outside of 'ooh pretty')

Earring ideas:

https://smile.amazon.com/Sterling-Earrings-created-Swarovski-Crystals/dp/B074V8DML9/ref=sr_1_107?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382610&sr=1-107&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=red+earrings

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https://smile.amazon.com/Rainbery-Pairs-Leather-Earrings-Teardrop/dp/B07B8K33X6/ref=sr_1_7?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382405&sr=1-7&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=red+earrings

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https://smile.amazon.com/EVER-FAITH-Austrian-Gorgeous-Gold-Tone/dp/B073J8N3K5/ref=sr_1_56?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382405&sr=1-56&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=red+earrings

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Hairpiece Ideas;

https://smile.amazon.com/AeraVida-Handmade-Genuine-Leather-Pinch/dp/B074FXN3KZ/ref=sr_1_25?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542383804&sr=1-25&nodeID=7192394011&psd=1&keywords=hair+clip.

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https://smile.amazon.com/AeraVida-Handmade-Genuine-Leather-Pinch/dp/B074FXN3KZ/ref=sr_1_142?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542384360&sr=1-142&nodeID=7147440011&psd=1&keywords=hair+clip

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https://smile.amazon.com/yueton-Fashion-Barrettes-Headwear-Headbands/dp/B014IQJQYC/ref=pd_sim_194_29?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B014IQJQYC&pd_rd_r=c21e095b-e9b9-11e8-a8c6-1b706237d91c&pd_rd_w=4n9Yx&pd_rd_wg=DSbB7&pf_rd_i=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=18bb0b78-4200-49b9-ac91-f141d61a1780&pf_rd_r=KSZJFPY9X5HKN469GGME&pf_rd_s=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_t=40701&psc=1&refRID=KSZJFPY9X5HKN469GGME.

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https://smile.amazon.com/justBe-Hair-Accessories/dp/B06XBD2ZGJ/ref=pd_sbs_197_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B075V12R5H&pd_rd_r=89ae8ef6-e9b9-11e8-a464-9d17b534f1da&pd_rd_w=xfExk&pd_rd_wg=XzI05&pf_rd_i=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=763ccc93-bfa2-47be-85ae-0cdd7e00b3da&pf_rd_r=R5G6ADZ4HSZEWC873J0V&pf_rd_s=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_t=40701&refRID=R5G6ADZ4HSZEWC873J0V&th=1

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Bracelet ideas;

https://smile.amazon.com/Lux-Accessories-Enamel-Bangle-Bracelet/dp/B00HQ39T3S/ref=sr_1_61?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382747&sr=1-61&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=red+bracelet

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https://smile.amazon.com/YISSION-Bracelet-Three-Dimensional-Irregular-Bracelets/dp/B074TF6TR5/ref=sr_1_9?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382663&sr=1-9&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=gold+bangles

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https://smile.amazon.com/Jenia-Bracelets-Wristband-Rhinestone-Handmade/dp/B078XJ8LYH/ref=sr_1_7?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382723&sr=1-7&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=red+bracelet

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https://smile.amazon.com/Carfeny-Bangles-Stackable-Bracelets-Birthday/dp/B01F6NU3XO/ref=sr_1_7?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1542382663&sr=1-7&nodeID=7141123011&psd=1&keywords=gold+bangles.

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https://smile.amazon.com/LaRaso-Co-Bangle-Bracelets-Women/dp/B072C4DGN8/ref=pd_sbs_197_5?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B0104P73Y6&pd_rd_r=2d4b285d-e9b6-11e8-9729-43f65cfc73de&pd_rd_w=Upz0i&pd_rd_wg=sv1wz&pf_rd_i=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=763ccc93-bfa2-47be-85ae-0cdd7e00b3da&pf_rd_r=KDYHW4Q0M2TVD3STYV5N&pf_rd_s=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_t=40701&refRID=KDYHW4Q0M2TVD3STYV5N&th=1

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I hope that helps but again, this is just what appeals to me and what I would enjoy wearing. If I'm entirely off base, I'll be just as thrilled to help narrow down what you do want by finding out what you don't. Either way, I'd love to see the final results!

I honestly think it would be appropriate. It doesn't say black tie or even black tie optional. I agree, the sleeves skew a little informal to me. But accessories, hair, and makeup will always make or break it. So does how it fits on you- a less formal dress that suits and fits you always looks better then a fancy dress that is too tight/short/loose/etc.

I agree that a bridesmaid dress would give you the best indication, but so does locale. Can you look up the venue and see how ritz it looks- maybe check the knot or wedding wire? I think you can wear it if you style it right. Put on some glam earrings or necklace, a great bag, go all out on your hair and makeup. Regardless, I would be surprised if you felt under dressed in that dress. If you are feeling like it might not work and have the time/Amazon prime, maybe try a few other wrap dresses/best sellers? These have saved my ass before, and as long as you can get a sense of the material often loo quite nice. Always peep for pics of real people in the reviews to get a true sense, I pass on anything that doesn't have user photos.

https://www.amazon.com/GRAPENT-Womens-Length-Sleeve-Surplice/dp/B07K1XN6G9/ref=sr_1_fkmr2_2?keywords=GRAPENT+Women%27s+Lace+3%2F4+Sleeves+Midi+Business+Cocktail+Short+Formal+Wrap+Dress&qid=1568747625&s=apparel&sr=1-2-fkmr2

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07JZ94Q4H/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1

https://www.amazon.com/Milumia-Womens-Floral-Chiffon-Green-1/dp/B07GFBJXP2/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=formal+wrap+dress&qid=1568747938&s=gateway&sr=8-4

https://www.amazon.com/stores/node/9103814011?_encoding=UTF8&field-lbr_brands_browse-bin=KOH%20KOH&ref_=w_bl_sl_l_ap_ap_web_9103814011

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07HP63V8W/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&th=1&psc=1

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01J46SEL2?creativeASIN=B01J46SEL2&linkCode=w61&imprToken=-qV5e.q2idWkyLaMrizZWw&slotNum=12&tag=bfemma-20&ascsubtag=4852773%2C10%2C38%2Cd%2C0%2C0%2Cbf%2C0%3A0

https://www.amazon.com/Best-Sellers-Womens-Formal-Dresses/zgbs/fashion/11006704011/ref=zg_bs_nav_4_1045024

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B079DN6H1F?creativeASIN=B079DPR2GV&linkCode=w61&imprToken=jKho74rF95-FO2TUXs5u8Q&slotNum=88&tag=bfabby-20&ascsubtag=5067581%2C18%2C48%2Cd%2C0%2C0%2Cgoogle.com%2C0%3A0&th=1

https://www.buzzfeed.com/katyherman/dresses-from-amazon-i-cant-believe-you-dont-have-yet

THESE are amazing. I used them for my engagement photoshoot, and I still had a few curls the next day! They were pretty big (wide) curls, but still very pretty. Curls still fell out a bit, but it was still pretty curly and pretty.

I washed my hair. Blow dried dry, used a TINY bit of Paul Mitchell's The Cream, then I put these rollers in all over and left them in until they had completely cooled. (I've noticed that when using an iron, the hair curls but uncurls as it cools from the weight of itself pulling down.) So I bought this to try, and I don't take the curler out until it's completely cool, and the curls stay in really well. After taking the curlers out, I shook my hair and hair sprayed, and I actually had curls!!

Hey so along with all the great advice in here, there's this really incredible book called The Care and Keeping of You, it's by the American Girl brand which I think most christians support pretty well. It goes over everything and is intended to be read by girls your age, so it shouldn't be that confusing or vague. It's a really popular book and is still accurate today, so I'd highly recommend seeing if you can get your hands on it!

Here's a link to it on amazon: The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls, Revised Edition (American Girl Library) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1609580834/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i6xVBbXR7JS5P

I've been using (and making my own) natural and organic deodorants for about a decade. I've pretty much tried them all (or close to it). Hands down the best natural deodorant I have ever used (and still use every day) is by ORGANIC 101. They are USDA certified Organic (so you can actually trust the ingredients), they use zero baking soda (so no rashes), no aluminum (or "alum" which is used to to fool customers), it wont stain clothing, and works all day for me, unless its over 100 degrees or I work out at the gym (to be expected though). I cannot recommend it enough. All their scents are legit but lately Ive been using the Lemon Haze and I love it. . If interested maybe check it out.

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They also offer a 30 day money back guarantee:

https://www.amazon.com/ORGANIC-101-Certified-Extra-Strength-Deodorant/dp/B01N0ZYGXP/ref=sr_1_40_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1495663797&sr=1-40&keywords=natural+deodorant

I wouldn't be worried about "overdosing" on the cream but actually, if isn't showing signs of any improvement, then I'd def head to the GYN for diflucan. I messed with Monistat and all that OTC stuff for years but have had a lot more success going the natural route. Something to check out even if you do go to the doctor since it's pretty good at "maintaining" things and preventing infections from starting.