(Part 2) Best products from r/Tinder

>we're looking for a third

Couple dating together (super common in monogamous couples opening their relationship for the first time) is a huge red flag itself. Lots of couples set up elaborate systems of rules to help prevent jealousy, because that's the big fear for couples opening up. Typically (in a previously mono couple) this means the man has set rules for the woman. That "rules to avoid jealousy" mindset is a precursor for lots of conflict down the road, and is really, really difficult to manage, especially as a secondary partner, because it takes away your agency in your relationships.

For example, if I start dating a couple, and they have a rule that they only date two nights a month, and they only date together, I have to bend over backwards to make my schedule meet the two nights they have to give me. Or, more seriously, they have a rule that says (really, really common) they only have sex with the "third" together. Except I'm not really interested in sleeping with one of them; now I have to give up being with the one I want to be with, or submit to being with someone I don't want to be with. This happens all the time, especially with married couples that include a straight man and a bisexual woman, exclusively looking for another bisexual woman to join them. It's so common they have names, the couple are unicorn hunters, and the single, bisexual woman who can stay equally attracted to both of them and never threaten their relationship is called the unicorn... because they're about as common. I dunno if OP is a man or woman, but either way...

This is backed up by
>eventually I can see you alone after we get to know each other

So you're starting a relationship with someone whose involvement in that relationship is controlled by someone else. This is almost always a recipe for disaster. Couples like this almost always prioritize their relationship above the person they're inviting in. Anything that "threatens" that relationship (like one member of the couple feeling jealousy, which WILL happen) is treated as an antagonist, even if it's something as simple as the "third" setting boundaries for themselves.

Couples like this often also expect the relationship to be a closed triad, meaning the "third" is not free to date other people, or have a romantic life outside the couple, even though they are likely getting a much smaller piece of the couple's time and energy than the members of the couple are.

Even the use of the term "third" is a big red flag. Hierarchal poly people usually use terms like "secondary partner." Third feels like a value judgement.

I know I'm reading a lot into a few words, but there is a lot of information out there to back it up. Check out r/polyamory and you'll see that like every third post hits on something similar.

For more info, especially on how to navigate this stuff, I definitely recommend The Ethical Slut or checking out More Than Two.

I certainly don't want to give the impression that polyamory can't or doesn't work; I've been happily polyamorous for years and will probably never go back to monogamy. But this kind of toxicity is unfortunately very common and destructive.

Edited because I'm tired and markdown is hard, apparently.

This book might help you.
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Secular ideologies can be just as authoritarian as religious ideologies. re: communist china, the state is their "religion" and it will crush any potential challenger, including atheists. It is not a fair representation of a potential secular society. Secular humanism would be a far more ideal "state philosophy."

I'm not as well versed in Mughals or House of Baghdad. The Renaissance was inspired by humanism and was a break from the theocracy that came before, and further distanced itself with the enlightenment.

There's an argument that any cultural human achievement, especially those within theocratic societies, could have been just as good if not better if they occurred in a secular humanist society

Your love life seems pretty unfunny

>incel

• the girl complaining to the internet about how no guys want to date her
  
  Pot, nice to meet you. I'm Kettle.
  
  And tbh, I think we can see why you have trouble. Here's something to help your problem:
  
  https://www.amazon.com/31-Ways-Not-be-Douchebag-ebook/dp/B00EQ9P1UA

I just use a basic part, no product, maybe just water, and use a fine tooth comb. Good luck!

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https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B002IJ7X1A/

not a book, but good nonetheless.

This one should do the trick. Quite cheap but it'll definitely get the job done!

Cully, get thee to a bookstore (or Amazon, whatever) and pick up the Dark Tower series by Stephen King! You'll find phrases, sayings, and words like this all throughout the series (and plenty of them are actual words, they are just rarely heard or seen nowadays).

I REALLY suggest getting the revised editions that King released, especially with the first book, The Dark Tower I: The Gunslinger.

most openers that work are actually pretty bland

that being said, why not just educate her?

Dope-ass Cologne: Diptyque L'Eau de Neroli

Dope-ass Cologne on a budget: Nautica Voyage

Both get me TONS of compliments.

sweet gear bro https://www.amazon.com/Gonex-Paracord-Bracelet-Military-Parachute/dp/B00V5QJ4HS

now i can be military too

Could provide entertainment for kids birthdays.

https://www.amazon.com/Klutz-Book-Balloon-Twisting/dp/1591746744

this cutie

Make sure you are wearing appropriate attire

Well that would be a powerbank.

They also come with Wireless Charging https://www.amazon.com/Portable-HTGK-10000mAh-Wireless-Kickstand/dp/B07CQCV85R (just an example, I dont know if its any good)

Probably psychological. This book might help you understand and deal with performance anxiety

> Berries and Creme Starburst

lets talk, btw fancy a trip to australia ? ;)

This book tells you how self-esteem works. It's worth the read or the sample if you have a kindle.

Your posts are always fun to read - shockingly honest, even about decisions you seem to regret.

Opinion: Smart dude isn't going to be your guy. He's enjoying himself, but he doesn't see you as someone he's going to commit to beyond a regular fuck. He's going to avoid answering a question like that because he doesn't want to screw up what he's got going with you, and he only asks questions like that for validation. Pull the emergency brake on the feels train, or be ready to get hurt.

Keep doing you, but if you start to find that meaningless sex is starting to hollow you out don't hesitate to stop and re-evaluate/recharge.

If you haven't, read this: https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379