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1. I drink a large glass of metamucil every morning and night. It makes cleaning out incredibly easier. Also, I never eat foods that I know will throw me off... (chili, buffalo chicken, anything remotely spicy doesn't work well for me)
   
   
2. One trick that I've found, which I still find hard to abide by (because I'm so anal about making sure I'm spotless) is that often, less is more. I've found the best way to guarantee its going to take FOREVER to get clean is to get TOO much water up there. You definitely want to get a thorough cleansing, or atleast I do, so I can relax and enjoy getting fucked, but if you get lots of excess water up in your guts, it can be nigh impossible to get it all out before sex.
   
   
3. Use a toy. I always use a toy the approximate size of my partner as a last check. I get warmed up and then use it on myself pretty uh, well. Enough to simulate what its going to be like getting fucked later. Do this a bit, if you come out clean its about as good of a guarantee as you can get that your ready. If it doesn't... you'll be glad you've done this in the privacy of your shower instead of in the bedroom.
   
   
4. This one I guess is preference, but I use a shower douche, it basically is a little hose with a nice nozzle at the end that fits up your bum. It's much easier to hop in the shower and clean out then to repeatedly fill a douche, use it, expel, refill, etc... Link to example: http://amzn.to/10sMhGQ - This is what I've had the most success with over the years.
   
   I'm only 23, but I've been the bottom in a relationship for the past 5 years and I've not once had an 'accident' following this advice. Of course, there have been many nights I don't have anal sex if I am not 100% sure I'm going to be clean. Practice lots and you'll get a good feel for your body (what are good/ bad things to eat, how long after cleaning will you remain clean etc.)
   
   I have lots more advice, but I think these are the most important pieces of advice I have to offer. I hope this helps! The struggle to be a hygienic bottom is real.
   
   

I started with this one as well as these plugs. The dildo is large but not huge and sufficiently big enough to stretch you out. The plugs are good size and I foudn that after some sessions just keeping the largest one in for a couple of hours before a session post cleanup makes things easy. Plus its a huge amount of fun stimulating your prostate and getting used to that feeling of being invaded and released. I can't keep more toys around (don't live alone) but if you do I would graduate as quickly as I felt comfortable to more varied ones. Take your time and if you've got the money shop around. A warning about the plugs they have a strong plastic smell. It's not dangerous just be aware that if you end up wanting to get rimmed you need to sort of rescent the area with some soap so it doesn't smell wierd. Use a towel when playing and keep the lube going!!!

First, clean yourself up. Wash your booty. For extra credit, clean inside your booty too! As with all aspects of life, shit sometimes happens. That's okay! The body has this great feature where if you get it dirty you can wash it and be good to go! 😁

Next, it is time to get acquainted with your ass. Since you say you have never had even a finger up there, start with a finger. Use the pad of one finger or two and rub the outside of your hole. Keep track of how it feels. Notice how your body clenches up or relaxes. Try to focus on relaxing and seeing how relaxed your hole can get. This "training" helps your body to prepare to have a toy or a "friend" come knocking on your back door. If you have never had someone solicit you at your door before, it can be startling when someone tries to barge into your home like they own the place. Same for your ass. It will clench up if you don't take the time to get to know it. Tensing up can lead to pain.

Next, make sure your nails on your fingers are cut and rounded off! You do not want to scratch your ass, inside or out! It hurts!

Now, let's take it up a notch. Grab some lube. Put some on your finger and start again with rubbing outside of your ass. Once you feel you are relaxed try using a bit of pressure on your hole. You aren't trying to plunge wrist deep (yet), you are trying to test to see how much resistance your body is giving you at this juncture. Does your entire bum clench up? Does it let your finger in a little? Does it hurt? Feel good? Take note and adjust what you are doing accordingly.

With practice you will be able to take a finger, then two, then three. Once you feel ready, they have anal training kits (the link I just gave states this vendor is out of stock, but this brand and kit are a good item to search for) with several sized butt plugs to help you "size up". When you are comfortable with the middle one in this set you can begin exploring purchasing a dildo, or even tag a partner in to the fun!

Hope this was able to help!

How have you started having sex but haven’t topped or bottomed?

Planned parenthood does free std testing

Every 3 months is the usual if your extremely active.

If you plan on being that active I suggest getting on Prep, talk to a doctor about it. Also never go bareback unless you trust the person and have their recent std tests. Even then it’s a risk and based on you already needing your mind out at ease without even having sex, id suggest just not doing BB at all unless you have a monogamous partner. Purely for mental health

Bulbs can be bought at legit any store that sells health stuff. Even Walmart. Although I’d suggest a shower Enema kit eventually because it’s healthier in the long run

Shaving or waxing is the best bet for hair

If you have a desire to bottom, I highly recommend you practice at home prior to try with another person. Bottoming for first time could be a terrible and awful experince if the person did not prepare accordingly. I suggest you have some beer at your house and practice with a toy before you involve with someone.

Too you need for practicing and preparing for bottoming:

1. an renema tool! , or anything that will squirt water inside the butt to clean the rectum. There are many type of tools you can buy. I know of some who uses a turkey baster.
   
2. really good lube (personally I hate water based lube because skin absorbs water and it will make it sticky) silicon based is my favorite.
   
3. poppers! holly shit one sniff will shift the feeling from being dis comfortable to feeling soo fucking good!
   
4. Anal Trainer Set. Start easy then go big!
   
5. a lot of pictures to share with us! lol
   
   After you finish the training and you are able to comfortable take the anal trainer kit. Then get you a hot guy and let him bang you for three hours! :-) enjoy.. it will be an amazing experience.. I can't believe that people die without trying to explore that! haha

Everyone saying that daily fiber supplements will help you is correct, but some methods/types are much more effective than others. Capsules and powders (i.e. Metamucil) will help, but they do NOT work nearly as well as just taking a tablespoon of plain whole-husk psyllium fiber once or twice a day. I recommend this brand

I find that actual whole-husk psyllium fiber is not really of a consistency to be able to effectively "mix" it in with water/juice etc., so I usually like to mix mine in with yogurt or oatmeal. Coconut yogurt is my favorite to use, because the texture of the fiber makes it seem like shredded coconut flakes.

Two years ago I had surgery because anal cancer is a thing. Post surgery I had a ton of scar tissue that made so I couldn’t take a pinky without blinding pain. The only real solution was to break up the scar tissue and prevent more from forming by manually dilating.

Using my fingers was only moderately successful and I ended up cramped. Regular butt plugs were only wide enough at one section and the tapered part was way to thin.

I finally found what worked. This anal dilator set fixed new. I slowly worked up sixes and used a bit of lidocaine ointment when necessary. Now I am able to take the third biggest and I have a little difficulty bottoming for my boyfriend when in the mood. And he is pretty big. I honestly thought I would never bottom again last year. I do still get tight easily, so I really need to prep.

Keep in mind you have to dilate frequently. I now am okay with about once a week. And initially you may need to take some time off to let the area scarred over heal a bit. The the healing process is actually very long, taking two to four years. So if you stop scar tissue can form.

Another tip is to use aquaphor. The more moisturized the tissue is, the better it will heal over time. Just clean with a soapy finger before hand.

Good luck!

https://www.amazon.com/Pipedream-Basix-Dong-Suction-Flesh/dp/B004HCEV2A

It’s just your garden-variety smelly silicone dildo. It was kinda an impulse buy for me, and I got it at a local sex shop. I also paid a lot more than Amazon sold it for, but that’s ok.

It was a little bit of a size step-up for me, and I wanted to try out a couple sizes before I shell out $100 for a truly quality dildo.

This one is a nice size and felt fucking amazing, but I’m probably going to go slightly bigger for my next one. I used some smaller toys to work up to this one, but I was going at it like an old pro before long!

no problem. Just do your homework first! Not sure where in the world you are but in the US the supplement industry is unregulated (their lobby is pretty powerful) and there are a lot of scams and a lot of expensive junk sold out there so you really have to do your homework.

I did my research first on this site because I wanted bigger loads (the stack there does work, although I prefer L-Citruline to L-Argenine because the latter gave me heartburn). Then I did some more homework and found out about horny goat weed. The brand I buy is from Vitamin Shoppe. I also bought this brand of tongkat ali at Vitamin Shoppe. Tongkat ali is also called longjack.

This is also another site I used to do my homework, although you might want to take it with a grain of salt. Still, the research links were useful.

I got my maca at GNC.

there's all kinds of stuff out there, much of it junk but some of it good, although there's nothing better than testosterone replacement therapy I hear.

Just do your homework before you go throwing money at it! :) Good luck man!

I take the recommended dose every morning. But I would start out with 1 tablespoon to a good pint of water or juice. Do that for a week and then kick up to 2 tablespoons.

From time to time I won't take it for about a week or two just to let everything go back to normal.

These images should give you and idea of what it's about.

I order it from Amazon. But word from the wise, don't waste your time or money with the pills or anything else. Brand is your own choosing, but always make sure it is "Whole Husk". There are also other supplements that I have heard people having better success with as well.

Butt plugs. It really is about butt plugs.

If you fall asleep, it should stay in all night. If it keeps popping out -- and you really are into playing -- then get a butt plug harness like in the link below. That will definitely help.

Oh, and if you are -really- into it, get the butt plug / harness and have him put several loads into you during a weekend, inserting the butt plug in after each load. If you can make it a day or so like this, you'll be ready to take a load in the morning and carry it all day at work. :-)



https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007YUWCIM/?coliid=I3TIR98HMRE9QJ&colid=IYZJQTV7EP6Q&psc=1&ref_=lv_ov_lig_dp_it

Get the Doc Johnson "mood naughty" set - there are three of different sizes and also different shapes - the basic shape will satisfy your basic needs for a while.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07BHWT1QX/

After much experience, I've found that this is my personal favorite

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BW6INWS/

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Have fun!

If you're new to douching you should probably start with an enema bulb

Now this is just going to work for your standard, run of the mill fucking. Very deep or rigorous fucking and you may still have a mess. But for the average dick the bulb will do a fine job.

It doesn't have to be this exact one, but they're all basically the same, a compressible chamber that you will with water that attaches to a nozzle that you put into your ass. Squeeze, evacuate, repeat.

This was the one I started with. The chamber has a wide mouth so filling can be pretty easy if you take the nozzle off (course then you're touching a lubey mess of a nozzle). This one, like all bulb enema syringes, are going to leak slightly where the nozzle inserts into the chamber. This is just the way it is. There are ways to manage this, typically involve how much force you compress the chamber with.

The biggest downside is the nozzle itself can be difficult to clean (and you want to clean it). But they're mostly all going to be like that, so it's just the cost of doing business.

You are better off getting a shower shot.