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Thanks for sharing. I can understand what you said about looking in the mirror and seeing no hips. It's caused dysphoria for me as well. Your shape is divine.

Is standing for long periods of time an option or do you need to be laying face down? I was thinking of those stand-up desks, if they are an option? How else could someone work?

I wonder if a massage table would allow you to be more comfortable during the day. This one would let you read. I'm sure a table could be setup below to support laptop, etc.

You said you have to wear the compression garment for 2 months. Does that mean you can't sit for 2 months also?

Best of luck.

Four months since I came out to myself. I've told my wife and my best friend, and medical and other professionals. That's it. Starting HRT next month. Will come out to friends this summer because it's impossible to hide a sports bra under a tank top while running outside. Work and family will be later... much later.

Agree with Jessica that this varies a lot for the individual, and that you are the best judge. Talk to your wife and therapist as well. There are books like this one that might help you in different areas of your life (getting it from the library sometime this week).

Not knowing anything about how you and your wife are/have been navigating your transition - - as someone married to a person currently transitioning MtF, can I leave you with a quote from the book She's Not the Man I Married by Helen Boyd? It that might speak to some of the conflict your wife is in.

> I've felt convinced that at the root of it all is sexuality, that my unwillingness to love a woman is about facing unfamiliar genitals and wondering who is supposed to be on top. I couldn't figure out why loving a woman should seem so unimaginable when loving that same person in a male body was so fantastic. Since I was already comfortable with flexible gender roles, it didn't make any sense why some part of me was dragging its heels and saying no. But in the 21st century, in which the primary ethic is to do whatever you need to do to be yourself, fulfilled, and happy, it's hard not to notice that I'm stuck between a paradox and a dilemma: Either I'd have to change my sexual orientation to accommodate my husband's transition - and do so in an era when gay men have stopped pretending they can change theirs - or my husband would need to find a way to feel female without changing sex. It seems almost laughable, even to me. One voice in my head tells me we're screwed, while another unapologetically suggests I simply haven't tried hard enough.
(pp 36-37)

I pretty much get everything from Amazon these days. Makes it easier to find things I like that actually fit.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01FH9C0PG/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o06_s01?ie=UTF8&psc=1

...i ordered this from Amazon and it fits nice and snug with very flattening results when needed...mostly only use for when I'm at work now...but it's excellent quality for a great price...also very smooth seams so it doesnt show through very easily...
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01ES471CI/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

https://www.amazon.com/Patchwork-Girl-Oz-Illustrated-ebook/dp/B0088DZTQG/ref=pd_sim_351_4/137-0162433-0393714?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B0088DZTQG&pd_rd_r=ef799386-50f8-4bf2-974c-43cffbc5c58e&pd_rd_w=LzxZU&pd_rd_wg=3o1Ud&pf_rd_p=5abf8658-0b5f-405c-b880-a6d1b558d4ea&pf_rd_r=8S6T3Z294W28YGBKVZCR&psc=1&refRID=8S6T3Z294W28YGBKVZCR

I just ordered the Patchwork Girl. The illustration sure looks like me, he he. I just told an old friend, who has always been very into the Oz saga about these additional books.

Sure. Here's the link on Amazon.