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First off: gender is a continuum, not a dimorphism. It's very important to remember that, or you may and up vacillating wildly between two extremes unwilling to find a comfortable expression somewhere in the middle.

Beyond that though, I don't think anyone can tell you where you fall on the spectrum. Almost everyone's experiences, and ways of coping, differ.

My best advice is to really open your mind to the options you have to express and embody your own personal gender, and then read a lot. Read blogs, watch videos, get some good books (I recommend Hello Cruel World or Gender Outlaw, Whipping Girl (a big heavy, but hey, you're on reddit!), and most importantly force yourself to think about it. Really think about it, without shame or fear, and see what feels right.

Find people who you can talk to, in real life or online, about it. The experience of having to explain your feelings to someone who doesn't share them is a really effective way to figure it out for yourself. A therapist would obviously be great for this of course, but if you're not in a position to find one a close and non-judgmental friend is great too.

Also, consider writing a diary, journal, blog or letter to share how you feel with a theoretical friend/confidant. Again, the process is much more important than the result.

Experiment! Try presenting as female, in big ways or small. Try imagining how everyday life would feel different as a girl. Is it "more normal" or exciting and transgressive?

It's not an easy thing to figure out, and there really don't seem to be any shortcuts. But the comfort of understanding yourself is well worth it.

I guess I mostly figured Nomi would be there because he was already such a weird and wonderful character when he was alive.

I missed Woodring when he came to a signing in Norway (Norwegian here) not too long ago. I didn't find out about it until a week or so later. I was rather annoyed after that. You're lucky you got to draw with him! That he even manages to draw with that large of a pen is insane. Oh and your op art pic is very nice. It's also really making my head hurt. Very Escher like in that sense.

And it's funny you should say you don't get lost in books like you used to; Murakami is usually my go-to solution when I need some delicious escapism that still manages to provoke some thoughts. This was the book that got me into him to begin with. A strange and curious journey centered around an even curiouser metaphysical farm animal!

And at least sf cover art is usually at least slightly more tasteful than fantasy covers. I still remember hiding Wheel Of Time covers on the bus because they looked more like kiosk romance novel covers starring Fabio than anything else. Urgh. Rockets and space tentacleoids are helvetica in comparison to Darrel K. Sweets atrocious comic sans.

I looked at the tarot deck, and it looks very intriguing. The cards are very beautiful. Is it an actual actual standard tarot deck you can use for readings and whatnot? Although I have a pathological lack of belief in anything supernatural I still find the artistry and aesthetics behind tarot decks quite fascinating.

Oh and lastly, you really do seem to be as cool as I previously suspected. Wanna be friends? :D

Me too. Remember to do your best to be safe:

-Keep your car filled with gas

-Keep ani-freeze & oil in your trunk

-Run flat tires are great

-Park in well lighted areas

-Keep your phone charged

-Keep a cigarette lighter adapter USB charger & phone cable in your car

-Keep your phone password protected, screen dim, and phone in your hand when alone at night

-Let a friend know your location, use Find My Friends

-Take a selfie Defense class

-I keep a credit card knife in your purse

-Listen, look, and feel your surroundings

Definitely get connected with http://imatyfa.org/ and read The Transgender Child by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper if you can get your hands on a copy. Stay strong. Come chat at http://ftmichael.transboys.info/yayforqueers.html and connect with other Trans kids at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/njkidst-net/ . :) And spend a lot of time with the links below. http://transgender.livejournal.com/ and http://forum.trueselves.com/ are particularly excellent places to connect with folks who've been there.

While transitioning medically while you're younger will make things a bit easier for you in terms of passing, don't take what people are saying the wrong way. If you wait until you're 16 or 18 or 45 or 80, it will not be 'too late'. There is no such thing as too late, and plenty of people who transition when they're past their teens still pass well, are beautiful, etc. Not that I recommend you hold off until you're 45, but don't convince yourself that you're doomed if you have to wait a few years to get on blockers and/or hormones. You'll be fine. :)

Take your time with these links; getting through them is not a race, and going through them slowly is a better idea anyway.

• http://imatyfa.org/
  
• http://transfamily.com/
  
• http://trans-health.org/
  
• http://transbucket.com/
  
• http://forum.trueselves.com/
  
• http://transkidspurplerainbow.org/
  
• http://transgender.livejournal.com/tag/
  
• http://t-vox.org/ - resource/info central
  
• http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=266
  
• http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Online_Support
  
• http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Category:Youth
  
• http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Support_groups
  
• http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_by_region
  
• http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=List_of_transfeminine_people
  
• http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/Evelyn/Evelyn.html
  
• http://ftmichael.transboys.info/yayforqueers.html - come chat!
  
• http://groups.yahoo.com/group/njkidst-net/ - for Trans folks 18 and under
  
• http://youtube.com/genderqueerchat - keep checking back because new ones are added regularly
  
• http://youtube.com/trannystargalactica - keep checking back because new ones are added regularly
  
  Must-reads if you can get hold of them - you may be able to find them at your local library or through inter-library loan, or get a cheaper used copy online:
  
  
• Luna by Julie Anne Peters (YA fiction)
  
• Parrotfish by Ellen Wittlinger (YA fiction)
  
• She's Not There by Jennifer Finney Boylan
  
• The Transgender Child by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper
  
• Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation, edited by S. Bear Bergman and Kate Bornstein
  
• Trans Forming Families, edited by Mary Boenke (third edition, 2008) - available from PFLAG's Transgender Network for $10 US
  
• The Our Trans Children leaflet (sixth edition) - available from PFLAG's Transgender Network for $2 US, or you can save and print it yourself for free. The booklet is their only source of revenue, so if you can pay for it, please do!
  
• TransGeneration (Ignore what Lucas says in the first episode about hormones being "very dangerous" - they're not, not if you get them through a competent doctor and have regular - which usually means annual - bloodwork, and that was irresponsible of him to say.)
  
  (The books, aside from Trans Forming Families, can be ordered on Amazon or you can get the ISBNs from Amazon and bring them to any bookstore to order them. The DVD can be ordered on Amazon also, as you see from the link.)

I knew as I wrote the post that my words would be unconvincing to someone who devotes a lot of energy to atheism. I would explain my appeal to popular opinion in the same terms: the original thesis is "whatever is popular must be correct", the antithesis is "that is a logical fallacy, many people believing a thing to be true has no bearing on whether or not it is true." The synthesis is this: after too much analysis, we no longer look at things with fresh eyes, and sometimes miss what is right in front of us, that every child sees. In this way, popular opinion can sometimes remind us of the plain experiences that we no longer return to look at.

Putting aside these ideas and methods that you surely disagree with, I presume you've read Whipping Girl? She arrives at the same conclusion about femininity that I present, and explains the need to go beyond on what I have here called the antithesis. A great deal of the book is devoted to this point: that some aspects of femininity are natural, and that women are more likely to be inclined to femininity.

What the heck are you talking about? How do you go from clothing to trans people?

You like books? Cool, me too. Read Leslie Feinberg's excellent book transgender warriors, as well as the ubiquitous and obligatory Whipping Girl by Julia Serano, and you'll be able to see pretty clearly that transphobia is rooted in oppositional sexism, which in turn supports the traditional Western patrikyriarchy.

Read Whipping Girl, it's an awesome book.

Regarding this, the author suggests that it's often used as a way to say that transgender feelings aren't legitimate, by classifying the trans-feminine impulses as either 1) repressed homoerotic urges (when it's a trans-feminine person who's attracted to guys), or 2) autogynephilia (when it's a trans-feminine person who's attracted to women). I think she even goes so far as to suggest that some outsiders use this as a way to say that no trans-feminine person is legitimately transgender.

I don't think it's quite that pernicious -- I know someone who openly identifies as autogynephiliac, and they have lots of experience exploring themselves. But it does seem to be an overly convoluted explanation, that you trick yourself into becoming what you're attracted to. Since there aren't a lot of people who, after a lot of contemplation, identify this way (and many end up deciding that's not the best explanation), it seems like Occam's Razor is enough to say that those urges aren't so convoluted, that you really just want to become the way you honestly see yourself.

Good question :)

I haven't read the book yet, but from an excerpt on Amazon it seems non-gender specific, also identifying transgender men in the opening questions.

If it isn't broad enough to include half the potential audience, i don't know how the publisher would have let that omission get through the process.

peace

Here is a link:

https://www.amazon.com/Everything-Wanted-about-Trans-Afraid-ebook/dp/B07JW51RXW/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Everything+You+Wanted+to+Know+About+Trans+*+But+Were+Afraid+to+Ask&qid=1567094189&s=gateway&sr=8-1#reader_B07JW51RXW

This comic is by Katie Diamond and Johnny Blazes, taken from the anthology Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation. I highly recommend the book to anybody who likes this piece - it is full of everything from prose to poetry to graphic art that captures a cross-section of trans/genderqueer identities from my generation.

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Check it out on Amazon and decide for yourself. I think you'll like it.
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http://www.amazon.com/Pilot-HD/dp/B00I3MPZUW/ref=sr_1_1?s=instant-video&ie=UTF8&qid=1405645688&sr=1-1&keywords=transparent

This article is nice. It's very cursory and easy to understand. For some more extended reading on the subject

You've got me interested. But the article (and the other 2 I just looked at) don't seem to have a link to buy, download or read. They just talk about it more.

Edit: For those interested. I had to change my wording but I found it on Amazon.
https://www.amazon.com/Pervert-Michelle-Perez/dp/1534307419

Ironically, trans men are often counted as women before trans women. Take, for example, Michigan Womyn's Music Festival, which will let people on the FtM spectrum attend, but not people on the MtF spectrum, because they "aren't womyn-born womyn" (trans men apparently are).

For those wondering: Yes, I did just finish reading Whipping Girl.

The pilot is free:

http://smile.amazon.com/Pilot-HD/dp/B00I3MNF6S

The creator of this also just published a book that came out like last week.

http://www.amazon.com/Rise-Videogame-Zinesters-Drop-outs-Housewives/dp/1609803728

Thank you for checking out the project. Trans is a new project I'm working on. I have shot several Trans Men in my Genderqueer: And other Gender Identities Series. Check out the webpage here: http://davenaz.org/genderqueer/
There will be a book out in Oct 2014 and I am still interviewing people for this.
http://www.amazon.com/Genderqueer-Gender-Identities-Dave-Naz/dp/1940207266/ref=la_B00458F0G2_1_8?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1396384763&sr=1-8