(Part 2) Best products from r/asianamerican

OP, if you are looking for a really incredible book by a korean-am author, i recommend nora okja keller's fox girl. it is INCREDIBLY dark but honest and gorgeous and terrifying. i loved and hated it when i read it for an asian american lit class and to this day almost 8 years later i can't stop thinking about it. (https://amzn.com/0142001961)


esme weijun wang - border of paradise (http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/26196482-the-border-of-paradise)
^^CANNOT recommend this enough. it is LIFE CHANGING. haunting beautiful devastating modern gothic, mixes language and culture like nothing i've read before.

celeste ng - everything i never told you (https://amzn.com/0143127551)

annie choi - happy birthday or whatever (https://amzn.com/0061132225)

andrew x. pham - catfish and mandala (https://amzn.com/0312267177)

lisa see - snow flower and the secret fan (https://amzn.com/0812980352)

Five Years on the Rock amazon link

There is a good amount of literature and work out there by Japanese Americans. Since they were the largest Asian American group in Hawaii, and the most well organized, there is some really compelling and awesome stuff. I would look into Japanese American experience stuff. I think around the time of Japanese internment, there was definitely some really interesting stuff written about the regional cultures during internment. If you want to know more, I can dig into it.

Good luck!

I've heard that The Making of Asian America: A History is a good book primer on the Asian American perspective (or history, at least).

For perspective, I'd recommend news publications like NBC Asian America and blogs like Reappropriate and Angry Asian Man.

There are definitely a few good ones that I'm forgetting (and other blogs that I'm ignoring because of their lower quality), but chances are, once you delve into the community, you'll find more and more resources, especially those that focus on specific Asian American communities. However, I do have to mention that these blogs are from a more liberal/left perspective.

Hopefully that helps as a starting point! Thank you for your patience and sincerity! :)

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• Much more commercial than I expected. The ability to turn every building into a mall is quite admirable, though the high end malls ended up seeming extremely samey after a while
  
• The urbanism of Central + Tsim Sha Tsui was awesome. I loved being able to walk around above and below ground level without ever having to step foot outside. The city certainly lived up to its promises
  
• The frequency of jewelry shops (Chow Tai Fook, Chow Sang Sang, Lukfook etc) was quite alarming. Why are there so many??
  
• Can we just transplant the MTR to NYC please? Other than the color scheme of the car interiors - white/bloodred/chrome seemed slightly apocalyptic in a way. (I still think the Taipei MRT is better though)
  
• dimmm summm mmmm
  
• Cantonese hospitality lives up to its reputation
  
• I should probably learn Canto - would've been helpful
  
• did not expect people to wait for the light to change at crosswalks
  
  
  Would I go back? Likely not in the foreseeable future apart from a short layover. It was a good trip but I suspect it might be more enjoyable if I go back I'm older and richer.
  

Suavecito here as well. I also wanted to add that I have the most success with blow drying first as opposed to putting product in with varying levels of wet hair. I then use this to put a light even misting of water then shape it.

Also as others have said the cut is extremely important. Don't know how true this is but my barber has always said that a doing a quality undercut is pretty difficult and the details will make or break it. In other words to OP, invest in a good barber. Your cut shouldn't be 100% dependent on product, it should be able to be presentable with zero product as well.

Also OP I poked around your post history and seems like you're in California (as I am) so it shouldn't be too difficult to find a good barber that has experience with Asian hair and doing an undercut since like 90% of young Asians have the same cut.

Well, here's the deal -- my background is in sociology and ethnic studies, so I was trained to look at things structurally. I think there's an interesting interplay between the structure and the individuals that make up that structure that I'm still trying to figure out.

But there's something terrible that happens when you get hung up on the structure and give up, just allow yourself and your actions to be controlled by it. Even when you decide that you are powerless in the face of statistics or history, you are making the choice to give up the agency that you know you have. Or else why would you struggle so?

I've found writings by Frantz Fanon (namely Black Skin, White Masks) and a really really surface level explanation of Sarte and existentialism to be immensely helpful in reorienting things for me. At the end of the day, we choose how we react to things, who we become. Our environment can influence us immensely, but we are never without choice.

I think you may be fixating too much on one trend, at the expense of recognizing many other things happening concurrently -- I feel like I challenged you to consider the many positive things associated with your identities, yet you seem to struggle with getting your mind off of that one thing that's eating away at you. I definitely think a culturally competent therapist will be able to provide you with better help than I can, but in the meantime -- try to stop and breathe and look at the world without letting this one thing control and color everything else.

Very interesting - thanks for that. I'd love to read that mentioned book. Here's the book on Amazon if anyone is interested: The Ethnic Restaurateur by Krishnendu Ray.

The new wave of Chinese immigrants from mainland China in the recent years definitely fall under a different class than the Chinese immigrants of earlier years.

Doesn't bother me in the least, but if you're going to do so, at least put enough care into it to get it right. Otherwise, I'm also okay with making fun of them.

I've seen books ridiculing the misuse of English in Asia, so in my view, what's good for the goose, is good for the gander.

Finished grad a month ago and in different stages of talks with 7 places. Original plan was to coast through summer freelancing before ramping up the search in August when the hiring cycle is stronger. Because of this, I've been mostly uninvested and cocky which has never worked out so well before =)

A book that I've been reading that is super helpful is The First 90 Days: Proven Strategies For Getting Up To Speed Faster And Smarter. More geared towards management jobs, but the frameworks for analyzing and digging into companies/departments/context is pretty helpful so far.

I came across this book last year: Asian American Psychology: Current Perspectives and I was able to review bits and pieces of it every so often, especially this past week--and it reminded me of the communities here. I think it's excellent to primer to synthesize all the issues we face on here on /r/asianamerican, in a unified, integrated, and comprehensive format. More importantly, it talks about Asian American masculinity in a clear-eyed and thought-out manner. Everything that we attempt to to articulate is discussed cohesively and coherently. I think anyone interested in refining their thoughts in this corner should pick-it-up as a personal read--it's written well to boot too.

There are knockoffs out there that are OK. I have this one and am really happy with it (I don't work for them, heh). In fact, there are knockoffs of this knockoff if you look around Amazon. BONUS: they're so cheap that if they break (or melt in your case), it's no big loss as opposed to a GoPro.

EDIT: BTW, thanks for your service for others

Oh no, Trump is not a dumb ass. Look, just one sentence, and the Asians are already fighting each other. Notice how he framed this sentences for maximum effect.

Whatever happens in Korea, it is the Koreans in both north and south and the bears its primary consequences, and people in China and Japan bear it secondary consequences. People in America, despite the ICBM hype, people here for the most part would just sit back and enjoy the show. (while it is impressive that NK was able to reverse engineer the R-29, something still used by the Russians but the NK version,it does not have the numbers or MIRV capability to actually threaten the United States). And perhaps, in the best case, the much fabled Asian Century would end before it even began, and the 5 centuries of dominance by European Civilizations will continue for another century.

I got into the stock market back in high school (simulation, of course) thanks to a teacher that was active in it and had a sort of unofficial club. Once I started working and having my own money, I started to dabble in it.

It really depends on your plans for the money (retirement, first house, etc) and your timeline/horizon. My money is for retirement so I have a very long outlook and can ride out stocks and their volatility. I also participate in my company stock purchase so every paycheck I'm picking up shares of AAPL without having to do anything plus avoiding broker fees.

My personal preference skews towards blue chips that pay dividends with some high risk/high reward stocks in the mix. For international, I'm not familiar enough so I have those in an international index fund.

EDIT: The book that I read in the beginning is called What Works On Wall Street and while it's always a volatile and changing market/trends, it's still a good read.

Matt has written extensively on the Asian American and Korean adoptee experience for publications as varied as The New York Times, NPR's Code Switch, and Salon. He's also written a best-selling novel starring a Korean American protagonist living in Prague.

He's a really great guy and it's heartbreaking to see the struggle his family's going through right now. If you have the means, please consider donating. If money is tight for you right now, it'd be great if you could share this around your social media.

Thanks all.

If you're interested in the history of Ivy League admissions specifically, there's a pretty comprehensive book on it called The Chosen. You can also check out The Price of Admissions which explains how the system's main purpose is protecting the class status of rich whites.

Have you seen his cartoon book on Hindu mythology? I loved it. The art is amazing and I wish someone'd do one for Chinese.

Well as I understand it, people buy those takeout containers in bulk. So yes, microwaving it once is probably what they're meant to handle and then throw away the container so you don't have to wash them later on. And then buy more. Before I've done it with reusable containers, all my containers were just scrubbed down from the restaurant containers that haven't warped or absorbed the smell of whatever was in it before. But in order to keep up with that, I'd have to eat out more often and take home more than I usually do.

You can certainly try it your way but then it becomes a question if you find it a hassle to clean two sets of containers every day.

For me this works out because I wanted to spend more in order to invest my time and convenience. So I use two sets of these https://amzn.com/B00MWBJRUO

They're microwavable, freezable, they can form a tight seal so nothing leaks out. You can use glass but they're probably more expensive and heavier and can certainly break if you're not careful.

You just have to weigh out the pros and cons of everything carefully.

In the 70's economist Thomas Shelling created a model of why neighborhood segregate to 'white' neighborhoods or 'black' neighborhoods when the citizens who move are not racists. Here's a video that explains the concept: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjfihtGefxk

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And for the nerds: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B002MB968C

Here's a more recent one:

https://www.amazon.com/Making-Asian-America-History/dp/1476739412