Best products from r/asktransgender
We found 676 comments on r/asktransgender discussing the most recommended products. We ran sentiment analysis on each of these comments to determine how redditors feel about different products. We found 1,064 products and ranked them based on the amount of positive reactions they received. Here are the top 20.
1. Where's MY Book? A Guide for Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Youth, Their Parents, & Everyone Else
- Great product!
Features:
3. Transgender Teen: A Handbook for Parents and Professionals Supporting Transgender and Non-Binary Teens
- CLEIS
Features:
4. The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals
Transgender Child A Handbook for Families and Professionals
6. Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity
- Used Book in Good Condition
Features:
7. True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism--For Families, Friends, Coworkers, and Helping Professionals
True Selves Understanding Transsexualism For Families Friends Coworkers and Helping Professionals
11. My New Gender Workbook: A Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving World Peace Through Gender Anarchy and Sex Positivity
Routledge
12. Fucking Trans Women (FTW) (Volume 1)
- HEMP SEEDS ARE A PROTEIN-PACKED SUPERFOOD: With 10g of plant protein per serving, Hemp Hearts have two times more protein than chia, flax, or peas. These super seeds also offer 12g Omegas 3 & 6 and only 1g of carbs per serving
- ESSENTIAL VITAMINS & MINERALS: Hemp is a super seed packed with plant-based protein, healthy fats and other vital nutrients. Hemp Hearts are an excellent source of Iron, Niacin, Thiamine, Phosphorus, Magnesium, Manganese, Copper, and Zinc. Zinc contributes to the normal function of the immune system. Hemp Hearts are also a good source of Vitamin B6 and Folate.
- VERSATILE & TASTY: With a light, nutty flavor that complements almost any dish, Hemp Hearts are an easy and perfect boost to any meal. Sprinkle Hemp Hearts on salad, cereal, yogurt or blend them into smoothies - shelf-stable and ready to eat, hemp seeds are a must-have addition to any pantry.
- QUALITY FROM SEED TO SHELF: Manitoba Harvest Hemp Hearts takes only the freshest, highest quality hemp seeds from field to table. Since 1998, we’ve grown our portfolio of hemp products with a dedication to quality, sustainability, and consumer wellness as a global leader in hemp foods.
- A FIT FOR A VARIETY OF DIETS & LIFESTYLES: USDA Organic, Non-GMO Project Verified, Keto Certified, Paleo Certified, Gluten Free, Vegan, Whole 30 Approved and Kosher.
Features:
13. Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity
- Perseus Books Group
Features:
15. Emerita Pro-Gest Balancing Cream | The Original Progesterone Cream | for Optimal Balance at Midlife | 4 Ounce
Trusted Since 1978: Pro-Gest has been the #1-selling brand of balancing cream for more than 40 yearsPurely Powerful: Paraben-free formula contains 450mg of USP Progesterone per ounce (20mg per ¼ tsp)Get Comfortable: The most trusted Progesterone Cream for optimal balance at midlifeHighest Quality: ...
16. The Transgender Guidebook: Keys to a Successful Transition
- Bloomsbury Publishing PLC
Features:
I came out at 15. I just emailed my mother and told her that I was Transgender, and explained what it meant, and said that I was going to start living as a boy ASAP. She was not at all supportive, but she didn't get in my way either. I was already seeing a therapist, whom I came out to, and it was a year or two later that I switched to a Trans-savvy therapist. (My old therapist was supportive but clueless, and I wasn't getting my needs met with her.) I might've already transitioned socially by then; I can't quite remember. I transitioned socially at 16, the summer before my junior year of high school. Coming out to friends and at school was scary but pretty straightforward, and turned out to be completely anticlimactic. The school community rallied around me and I had an amazing experience there. While that may not be your experience, it's pretty common for people to surprise you.
My mother has since come round completely. What changed everything for her was talking to other parents. I cannot encourage this enough. It's as important for your parents to talk to other parents, if they're willing, as it is for you to talk to other Trans people. Initially you might just let them know that that's an option; later, once it's all percolated in their brains for a bit, you might push it a bit more. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/tyfa_talk/ is specifically for parents of Trans and gender-independent kids under 18, and it's outstanding. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transfamilyofcleve/ (open list) and http://groups.yahoo.com/group/transkidsfamily/ (parents-only list) are good as well, if they can handle being on multiple lists.
Coming out in a letter is a very good idea. It lets you work out what you want to say and be sure you're wording it the way you want, and you don't have to be there for their (likely emotional) initial reaction. When they're a bit calmer and ready to have an actual discussion, you can discuss it further with them.
http://dignityusa.org/ is specifically for LGBT Catholics. If they have religious-based arguments against you being yourself, Dignity can probably provide some resources to help combat that.
Check out http://imatyfa.org/ and http://camparanutiq.org/ too. It would be awesome if you could go to Camp Aranu'tiq next summer. :) I think you'd love it. Don't push that first thing though; bring it up later, after you've been out to them for a little while and some conversations have happened and they're a little more ready to hear about something like camp.
Since you're new, here, have a resource dump. :)
Talk to lots of Trans people! You're already starting to do that. We're not all cookie-cutter; for many of us, the only thing we have in common is that we're Trans. We cross every demographic group and have a lot of different perspectives to offer. Get as many perspectives on things as you can so you can make well-informed decisions.
Take your time with these links; getting through them is not a race, and going through them slowly is a better idea anyway. Go through them in whatever order you want; I've just listed them by URL length so they're easier to read. I put a few in bold that I think might be especially helpful for you.
Must-reads if you can get hold of them - you may be able to find them at your local library or through inter-library loan, or get a cheaper used copy online:
The Transgender Child, Trans Forming Families, and Our Trans Children would be ideal to pass on to your parents too. Never give or recommend anything that you haven't first read yourself, though!
(The books, aside from Trans Forming Families, can be ordered on Amazon or you can get the ISBNs from Amazon and bring them to any bookshop to order them. The DVD can be ordered on Amazon also, as you see from the link.)
Hey OP! Just wanted to touch on a couple of things that I don't think other people have mentioned.
First off, on the subject of therapists... Here's a bunch of lists of them in various US states, compiled by other trans folks: [New England](http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_in_New_England "CT, MA, ME, NH, RI, VT"), [Mid-Atlantic](http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_in_the_Mid-Atlantic_States "NJ, NY, PA"), [East North Central](http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_in_the_East_North_Central_States "IL, IN, MI, OH, WI"), [West North Central](http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_in_the_West_North_Central_States "IA, KS, MO, MN, ND, NE, SD"), [South Atlantic](http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_in_the_South_Atlantic_States "DC, DE, FL, GA, MD, NC, SC, VA, WV"), [East South Central](http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_in_the_East_South_Central_States "AL, KY, MS, TN"), [West South Central](http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_in_the_West_South_Central_States "AR, LA, OK, TX"), [Mountain](http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_in_the_Mountain_States "AZ, CO, ID, MT, NM, NV, UT, WY"), [Pacific](http://t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists_in_the_Pacific_States "AK, CA, HI, OR, WA")
Some therapists bill insurance, some work on a fee-for-service model, and some operate on a sliding scale based on your ability to pay. There are also some therapists that work online, like this one and this one - for some discussion of this, you can do a Google search for "gender therapist online", which for example brought up this thread.
As far as processing things goes, I have a standard list of thought experiments that I like to offer people, that I think can help to think about this stuff. Take these questions with a grain of salt, and consider them a tool, not anything ironclad or anything that needs to determine your fate (and remember that at the end of the day, what's most important is what you want or need to do). You can respond here if you feel like it, but you don't have to - just some things to think about. :)
Penultimate point: if you want some further reading, I hiiiiiiiighly recommend Julia Serano's book Whipping Girl.
Last point, relevant to that book and also any other lurking, talking, asking questions about other people's experiences, and whatever - I want to caution you that as easy as it is to get caught up in comparing yourself to other people, and to the Standard Trans Narrative ("I've always known, I've wanted to transition since I knew what that was, I hate hate hate everything about my body, I want SRS as soon as possible", etc. etc...) - you should know that there as many trans narratives as there are trans people, and to the extent that your story differs from the stories of others (and it will, since everyone else's differ too!), that does not invalidate anything about you or your needs or desires.
Oh! I lied. ONE MORE THING
As far as your relationship with your fiancée, my girlfriend sort of already told her this, but I want to emphasize it because I think it bears repeating: communicate. We went through a really, really rough period after I came out to her, in part because she reacted kind of negatively and so I pulled away, hiding everything from her and just not talking about stuff... finally one day in the midst of a fight of sorts she told me that a big part of the problem was that she didn't know what was going on in my head, didn't have any idea what I was thinking - and when I let her read the journal I'd been keeping, everything made a lot more sense to her and she felt a lot more comfortable about things. It sounds like your level of communication is way better than ours was, but I just want to reiterate that it's important to keep that up.
Anyway, good luck to you - I hope things continue to sort themselves out in your head, that your relationship stays on a pretty even keel, and that things go well for you overall. :)
Here's a bunch of stuff someone gave me. Enjoy!
The book The Transgender Teen by Stephanie Brill and Lisa Kenney is your new bible, seriously. Read it, then give it to your parents. There's also a new book out for Trans teens and their families, called Where's MY Book? by Linda Gromko, MD. I haven't read it yet, but it looks well worth a look.
Check out http://t-vox.org/ and http://camparanutiq.org/ . You'd love Camp Aranu'tiq.
Watch this great video too. It's about Trans kids and it's really good. (Ignore the line from one mom about how blockers are "brand new". They aren't. They've been used for decades. The books I mentioned above explain a lot more about all that.)
Your parents should run, not walk, to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/tyfa_talk/ and join it. It's a wonderful parents-only group specifically for parents of Trans and gender-questioning kids who are 18 and under. There's a lot more to it than "you should support your kid". There's lots for them there, even if they think they're already supportive. On Facebook, they can join these great groups for parents of Trans and gender-expansive kids: here and here. And here on Reddit, they can check out /r/cisparenttranskid.
Trans Youth Family Allies, Gender Spectrum (and their fantastic conference), and the Trans Health conference, among other resources, will help your whole family a lot.
To find a therapist who gets Trans issues (most don't, and are unhelpful at best and actively harmful at worst), see http://t-vox.org/medical and http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ . For the second link, enter your location and then select Transgender from the Issues list on the left.
The nice folks at the Gender Development clinic at Lurie Children's Hospital in Chicago, the Gender Management Services (GeMS) clinic at Boston Children's Hospital, The Center for Trans Youth Health and Development at Los Angeles Children's Hospital, the Genecis clinic at Children's Medical Center Dallas, the gender clinic at Seattle Children's Hospital, BC Children's Hospital in Vancouver, and/or the Trans youth clinic at SickKids in Toronto can help your family connect with more providers and support networks in your area for Trans children and their families, even if you're not near any of those clinics. They do a lot of networking with groups and providers across North America and around the world.