(Part 2) Best products from r/asktransgender

We found 70 comments on r/asktransgender discussing the most recommended products. We ran sentiment analysis on each of these comments to determine how redditors feel about different products. We found 1,064 products and ranked them based on the amount of positive reactions they received. Here are the products ranked 21-40. You can also go back to the previous section.

Top comments mentioning products on r/asktransgender:

u/MADmaroi · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

Ok i'm back now,

I treated myself to this for being a good girl ;)
https://www.edwinjagger.co.uk/edwin-jagger-pearl-effect-pink-de-razor.html

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https://www.edwinjagger.co.uk/edwin-jagger-lady-s-shaving-brush-pink.html

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https://www.edwinjagger.co.uk/edwin-jagger-aloe-vera-shaving-soap-65g.html

Went a little fancy here but you can get the same results with a similar setup.
These work wonders if you need to do the face.

The thing i like about this is i can through blades and it won't cost me much, as in i bought 100 blades for $10USD off amazon* which is cheap compared to conventional cartridge razors. This means that since i will be going through them quite quickly if i do large things like legs kinda frequently, i can use a new blade each time if i like. However i try to use them a few times to truly get my moneys worth.

The shaving soap will last forever like years, well a very long time and so will the Brush as well as the DE razor itself. The soap is nice and natural but can be a little tricky to lather up into a big heap quickly so that's why there is shaving cream. E.g https://www.edwinjagger.co.uk/edwin-jagger-aloe-vera-shaving-cream-100ml.html
I might get one like this in the future but will try out my free testpot of the stuff that i got with the rest of the items before i lash out and buy the tub.

I use a rectangular bowl to swish out the razor once i have passed it a couple of times over the area being shaved. I also have a nice 900ml baking bowl to create the lather in.

I just now did my first waxing of my underarms because shaving was not doing a very good job as in i could still see the follicles under the skin. I can tell you that waxing my underarms may have just been the most satisfying thing i have ever done and the sharp then warm pain was.... nice too ah the squealing ;) not like the horrible epilator, omg.
I just used some disposable wax strips that i got on sale like 1/3 the price of all the stuff in the grocery stores work pretty good might have to use them on some other areas that epilating is out of the question atm. I plan on stocking up on these as well. Don't use them on the face tho.

My first shaver like a year ago was one of the Schick Hydro ones and i didn't really know what i was doing and obviously didn't know that they get blunt (silly me) it was snagging on the hair and hurt like hell but i thought that this was how it was. lol

I always recommend shaving in the shower. You can even use hair conditioner as a substitute for creams or soaps or even as a pre shave to soften up the hairs just apply wait rinse then apply what ever cream or soap then shave. I would recommend using a bath glove/exfoliating glove to cleanse the skin before shaving. You may also want to look at some form of antiseptic like tea tree oil or aloe vera as well as a good moisturiser to apply right after shaving.


u/strawbrey · 1 pointr/asktransgender

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with all this! ive been down the same road (hell, im probably not even halfway to figuring everything out). I was like an uber christian before figuring out my gender, now I’m still a christian but a lot of my values have changed. it was VERY scary when that happened because i questioned like everything i believed, because my beliefs prior mirrored my parents beliefs (super conservative, christian. i was also extremely sheltered). So if you want to talk, I can relate haha.

As for your friend, I’m so sorry, I have a falling out with my previous best friend who is very transphobic. I am most likely going to lose him, but not sure yet. (we’re going to “talk” in the next couple days, but it’s a long story hehe). So relatable there too.

You have friends here okay? You’ll get through this ❤️

as for your battling with God, r/TransChristianity is a good resource, also the book Understanding Gender Dysphoria by Mark Yarhouse is an excellent book to read, and can be a very powerful information source to give to Christian friends who want to understand. I also found it extremely helpful for sorting stuff out with God for myself.

Also feel free to PM me and rant or vent, whatever you need. All the love and hugs ❤️❤️❤️😊

u/wolfknight42 · 1 pointr/asktransgender

Hey there. I hope I can help. I'm kinda a nerd about sex toys. First I have a great site for you to check out for toys. It's my favorite to check reviews and such. It's Smitten Kitten. It is a woman owned, feminist sex store. All their products are safe for the body, and they have all kinds of things. As far as prostrate massages go I would try this. It's a toy from Aneros designed just for the prostrate. That should help with working on the "hands free" orgasm. I would also look into getting a dildo as well. This is the one I'm looking at. Yes it is expensive, but it is really fun and really well made. As far as the Magic Wand goes, as some have said it is amazing, and I agree. For me, I do use it on my penis, but like it is a very awesome clit. It is really fun. I would approach it from that direction because of your dysphoria. Also as ImKira recommends, having panties on could help with the dysphoria, but it will also cut the intensity back. One of the main compalaints of the Magic Wand is that it has two settings, "Oh my god" and "Time to take a wall out." A inline dimmer switch can help with that. I love that on Amazon that the dimmer is listed as bought together with the Magic Wand. Again I hope this helps.

u/RonnieJamesDevo · 31 pointsr/asktransgender

“I liked you better when we weren’t speaking, Mom” 😑

Sorry, I know burning bridges is not always what people want/need, but wow you really nailed so much tone/script here. And people who say these things know that the things they say to us have more impact, negative or positive, because of their role in our lives is trusted and close (or it was) but they choose to use it to manipulate instead of support.

Try to remove yourself a step or three from the situation and think about what it would take for someone who loves you and wants you safe and well, to say things like this. What would it take for you to say things like this to someone you love? Even if you think they made a bad choice, ‘I liked you better the other way’ is a ridiculously self centered and petulant approach.

You should be able to expect better, but this person, for whatever reason, has some kind of deficit in their capacity. Their emotional intelligence is at a deficit. I really don’t know how much of that is a choice, or it’s just how some people are wired. Either way, you keep exposing yourself to harm if you keep being vulnerable to someone like this, though. You’ll be safer if you can say ‘well they aren’t capable of being the person I need; I need to manage my expectations of them, because I can’t trust them to be thoughtful.”

I can’t help but recommend this book - Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, if this is coming from a parent. It would probably still be helpful if it’s not a parent.

You were not born to be the prettiest figurine on this person’s knickknack shelf. Don’t feel obligated to do so, or guilty for not doing so. It’s not an expectation a reasonable person would set.

(Hmm I think you hit a nerve or three ;)

u/Squishy_Cat · 1 pointr/asktransgender

I totally understand. I know it's easier said that done, but I just want you to try not to worry too much, especially because you've only been on HRT for a couple months and breasts can take 2-5 years to fully develop. After that, there are always augmentation surgeries that you can look into if you feel it's necessary (and not necessarily even implants, but "corrective" stuff that can change their appearance to something you're more comfortable with.)

Have you started wearing bras at all? They'll help a lot, especially when you're out in public. They'll sort of pull everything into alignment, for lack of a better term. You don't need to buy expensive underwire ones either (in fact it would probably be kind of a waste of money at this point anyway), but there are plenty of bralettes and "lounge" bras that are cheap, comfortable and would help your situation. They also tend to come in pretty flexible sizes (ie, small/medium/large, rather than fitted sizes), so you don't need to have exact measurements and they'll still work for a while as your breasts grow. I have a few of these, which I quite like and find very comfortable, and I find that they're pretty true-to-size (you'll still want to measure yourself just to get a close estimation.) If you go this route, make sure you're ordering from either Amazon themselves, or a seller that is "Fulfilled By Amazon": this way you get free returns if something doesn't fit and it's really a no-risk purchase.

u/JainaPyro · 3 pointsr/asktransgender

Certainly!

PREFIX / DISCLAIMER: Well, our therapy sessions are openly "Bible-based" which means there is a very minor slight religious base to it, but only very rarely does religion come into the session. But they are extremely liberal sessions where no concerning thing mentioned is even an issue. My therapist says, "You could say you punched a random person and I would not flinch." When I told my therapist about my crossdressing her first immediate question was "What kind of female clothing do you like?" I love my therapist.

With that said: she would not present a book that was remotely against anything we bring up in therapy. (Our therapist has 2 beloved transgendered siblings in her immediate family, if that means anything.)

THE BOOK: With all of that said, the book she handed us seems to be (based on description and reviews) a Christian perspective of how the reader can understand and support and love someone going through transition. It's very PRO-Transgender, and the author seems to offer even Biblical support for accepting and embracing transgender. Here is the book has good reviews

There are soooooo many non-religious Transgender books on Amazon as well. I am having a hard time picking one to read first!

u/amadeoamante · 3 pointsr/asktransgender

If you can suggest this book to him (I know it says mothers, but really it would be good for any parent with a trans child), it contains a lot of information that introduces concepts to parents and lets them know that things are going to be all right, and how to support you: http://www.amazon.com/Transitions-Heart-Struggle-Acceptance-Transgender/dp/1573447889

I gave it to my mom and she said it was really helpful to her.

I would try to explain how religious based therapy isn't going to make you not transgender, but that if you can find a counselor or therapist who is respectful you're happy to try to go see them, but that you're worried they won't be okay with seeing a transgender person. If you phrase it that way he might 'get' it a little easier, and it makes you sound open to trying things. If you can find a therapist to talk to you can work with them on other things, like schoolwork, anxiety, etc. even if you never discuss trans issues. Of course, you might luck out and get someone willing to learn; you never know.

I'm glad to hear your dad was so accepting. Definite language fail with that last one, but give him some time and try not to take it personally when he screws things up. It's hard to make your brain change when it's been thinking of things one way for so long, and he's bound to screw up occasionally. I've noticed it's harder for older people; my boss at work is in his 60s and has definitely taken longer to consistently use the right pronouns than anyone else there. It's not for lack of trying either, because he always apologizes when he does it, and he's otherwise a great guy and always trying to help me out with things.

u/toreadtheleaves · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

It's kind of come out okay, with all things considered.

I've been dealing with a lot of emotional exhaustion, mostly stemming from my misadventures in securing PTSD treatment and my mum slowly disintegrating as dementia continues to do its' thing. The bonus being that none of my older siblings want to take responsibility for her as they would rather abuse painkillers or alcohol, so despite my own stresses it falls to me as the only sibling in the family who has it together. :x

I'm being stubborn about it all, though, so I'm trying to keep my head up and keep going through doctors until I can get the care I need. A good friend referred me to a doctor in the area who understands breast dysphoria and will treat me like a human being, so I'm hoping that I'll finally be able to tick that off of my list of things to resolve after so many stupid years.

The nice thing is that I've been able to get my potato juice habit under control, so I'm hoping that I'll be able to finally quit it again when I can get proper (ie, not ethanol based..) PTSD treatment. Also, I found a book - Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay Gibson, PsyD - which has been a huge help in putting myself back together, given the home life I grew up in. So that's kind of nice, too.

Also, happy birthday!

hugs

u/fourdots · 1 pointr/asktransgender

Mango Sage Tea shaving soap (like a cream, but takes a bit more effort). The moisturizer is actually a hydrating cleanser, I just think of it as a moisturizer. Not really sure why.

For the sake of completeness (and at the risk of sounding like a corporate shill) the cartridge razors I use are Dorco Pace 4 (you can get them in bulk from Amazon, or rebranded from various sites) and the razor blades I use for my safety razor are Astra Superior Platinum. Razor blades are pretty specific to your skin, though, I went through a few different types before finding ones that work well.

EDIT: I also wash my face with a warm damp washcloth both before and after, and keep the razor blades wet as much as possible by briefly running them under warm water. The second one especially really seems to help.

u/SecondWind · 23 pointsr/asktransgender

If you come to these boards often, you know that our first response is going to be to get a good therapist. You have also already heard advice to listen to yourself, confront your inner shame, take small steps, yadda yadda.

It's all very true, and it's the most important advice. But to you (and all the other lurkers out there) I want to address something you mention only in passing:

> every time I come to these boards I always feel like such a sham.

You are gender variant, you belong here.
I can't say that enough, because I felt exactly as you did for years. Heck, I was almost a year into HRT, had basically finished electrolysis and had more or less been living 90% full-time for months, and I still felt overpoweringly apprehensive about posting to a board or forum for advice or empathy. There were real trans people there! I was so alone for so long, and stayed away from exactly those who would be able to understand.

Read Serano, Bornstein, Greene, Bergman & Stryker. Even those you don't identify with will bring you closer to the community. Respect the genderfuckers; by distorting normativity they stretch comfort zones to fit us with room to spare. Love and respect trans men; they will defend you with the aggressive passion denied to us by our own insecurity and systemic transmisogyny. Be fucking proud to associate with some of the strongest and most amazing people you will ever meet (virtually or in person) in your life.

But for God's sake don't pull away because you don't think you belong. No matter where you end up going or who you end up being, we consider you a part of our community regardless, and you'll always be welcome.

(I usually throw in a lot of caveats that I don't speak for everyone, that my posts are just one woman's opinion and YMMV. In this case though, I do speak for all of us, and I'll call out anyone who disagrees.)

u/william_k_s · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

As far as the parents things goes; are they willing to listen? If so, then there are a couple of books about being the parent of a trans kid that they might find helpful. This book in particular I’ve read and enjoyed, my mum eventually read it too and I think it helped It’s this book .
They could also reach out to any local PFLAG groups as many have parents of trans kids, and even some have specific groups just for parents. Often being able to talk to other parents can really help.
I would also start looking into a gender therapist. They would be able to help you, they would be able to help your parents, and in the future if you do want to start HRT, having a gender therapist will be very beneficial, especially if you’re going to start underaged.
Good luck!

u/poesii · 11 pointsr/asktransgender

Good on you for coming here for advice; you sound like a great parent and you'll do just fine! Get yourself to your local PFLAG chapter if you're in the US ASAP, because you need support too and they will be an invaluable resource to help you do what's best for your son! They'll also be able to help you find therapists and doctors and deal with schools. They have some booklets that are great resources too. My mom also swears by this book. If you're not in the US, try local LGBT centers/organizations.

Also swing by r/ftm any time for additional, FTM-specific support and resources. Our Wiki is great for information on everything from clothes and haircuts to hormones and surgeries.

On the subject of hormones, you should ask your son if he's interested in puberty blockers and look into those ASAP. They'll stop his periods if he has them, which are likely a source of distress to him, and will prevent him from developing any more than he already has. This will give him more time
to decide if he wants to start T without worrying about his body becoming more feminine, and will also give you more time to get comfortable with the idea. The only major concern with blockers is that they can cause bone density issues if used long term, but long term means a few years and he likely will not be on them for that long as he can probably start T at 15 if he wants to. Aside from that, blockers are essentially a pause button that will buy him some stress free time to think. If he decides he's not trans or just doesn't want to be on hormones, he can stop taking them and puberty will pick up right where it left off, no harm done.

I'm also happy to chat with you any time if you want to message someone. I came out to my mom at 14/15 (over 6 years ago!) and it's been a bumpy road, but we have a great relationship now. She works with PFLAG, runs a parent support group through them, and does trainings at schools around our county. I frequently give her advice when she doesn't know how exactly to handle a situation, and we talk about what she does and how other parents are struggling very frequently, so I have a lot of perspective on what you're going through if you need to talk!

u/NGPlus · 3 pointsr/asktransgender

I want to say something, but you seem to have so much already worked out that I'm unsure as to what exactly I should.

First of all, don't worry. All of us here totally have your back. I think you'll be surprised by how many people can relate to your feelings (a double edged sword really. Yay, I belong; Aww, I'm not special ^_^ ). If you want to put a label to yourself (and by all means, feel free not to), I suggest starting somewhere around here. If you'd like to read about other people's theories and experiences then Bornstein and Bergman are right up your alley.

You're already starting to explore, so I don't really know what else to tell you. Just remember that you are doing this for you. You don't have to conform to anyone's notion of trans any more than you have to conform to anyone's notion of female. Do whatever makes you happy.

u/patienceinbee · 5 pointsr/asktransgender

The Clarke/CAMH are an obsolete holdover before the emerging contemporary era of medicine by informed consent.

Its gender programme is still headed by two men (originally with a third person who is now retired) who have argued vociferously that some trans people can be "cured" into just being cis gay people. They subject people to become "candidates" who wait to see if they're "meriting" enough for treatment under their oversight. These two men advocate for keeping trans people classified as "mentally ill" on basis of being trans people per the next edition of the desk reference for mental health, the DSM-V (both sit on the committee overseeing that section of the guide).

Anecdotally, people I've known who enter the Clarke were fundamentally moulded and shaped into a shadow of themselves — that is, a shadow of their vivacity and personality. Transition, done right, does not change your core character. It changes your body. That people are changed (that is, changed beyond their body) after CAMH points to something disquieting about their approach to treatment.

This isn't to say that some people's experiences have been atypically good relative to this. But while The Clarke does green light genital surgery through OHIP coverage (restored in recent years), its methodology for therapy, the self-designed hoops of "legitimacy" they use to vet people, and their legitimization process overall — as well as absurd concepts like calling trans women "male transsexuals" and the like — are emblematic of a rapidly dying era whose research mandate has little to no footing in their arenas of sexology and sexual psychology. Further, it is very difficult to become one of their candidates, of which they only accept a few each year.

The present and the future of care for trans people are in approaching trans experiences from a cornerstone of applied neuroscience and for people who are the age of majority to consider an informed consent approach of reviewing the risks, ramifications, and expected long-term outcome of, principally, the way exogenous endocrine intervention will affect their body.

For minors, the increasingly acknowledged routine of care is a thorough consulting with the parents and, if all in general agreement, a provisional regimen of endogenous hormone blockers before hitting, say, age 16 — after which time the kid can decide whether to continue with exogenous hormones or not.

What the informed consent model does it remove the presumption that to be trans is a mental illness requiring mental health therapy. Trans people aren't mentally ill. Their neurological sex and their morphological sex are congenitally not on the same side. The Clarke/CAMH would like to have us believe otherwise.

If you are interested to read more someday, I highly recommend Viviane Namaste's research on The Clarke in her dissertation-cum-book, Invisible Lives.

tl;dr: The Clarke/CAMH is a dinosaur (hence, the "Jurassic Clarke").

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      I don't know if there is an omnibus way to find trans people. We exist in many places, through many circles, and we all have different paths and experiences and world views. You will also find that a lot of trans people do not identify themselves in mixed company for many reasons — among them, safety. Just bounce around and find people along the way, really.
u/ekv44 · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

After I came out, my dad (conservative, Catholic, watches Fox News) bought this book, and he said it helped him:

http://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Gender-Dysphoria-Transgender-Psychological/dp/0830828591/

I also bought him a copy of True Selves as a general trans reference, and gave him a two-page letter to read. (I came out to him over the phone.)

I'd thought my dad would be the person I'd most likely lose in this, but he accepted me without hesitation (later texting me, "we love you no matter what"). I wish you similar good fortune when you come out! :)

u/Harlick · 1 pointr/asktransgender

Hitachi wands became famous because it's basically the strongest vibrator on the market. Some women (both cis and trans) need that power, but many can't handle it. It took us a bit of trial and error to find a vibe that worked well for my wife. We finally landed on the We-Vibe, but it doesn't really work for those of us with outies.

If you can't afford to go toy shopping, start by grabbing a wand speed controller (or if that's still too expensive, try a dimmer switch). This will let you slow the wand down so it's more rhythmic than hammering.

If you CAN afford to go toy shopping, Oh Joy Sex Toy is every girls best friend.

u/CollabTherapyCA · 6 pointsr/asktransgender

First of all - the courage and resilience your daughter had to face in the fear of rejection and discrimination to be open and comfortable who she really is. *Touches my heart*

I have worked with both transmasculine/feminine youth (under 21) for years and found this book to be very helpful for both the youth and the parents in psychoeducation and opening a dialogue with questions that may arise: https://www.amazon.com/Queer-Transgender-Resilience-Workbook-Orientation/dp/1626259461/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=lgbtq+trans+resilience&qid=1571163905&s=books&sr=1-1

Love wins. And the world needs more moms like you...

u/ceogoku · 3 pointsr/asktransgender

The best resource is Sexing the Body by Anne Fausto-Sterling. It presents a recolection of scientific papers, research, experiments since 1800 to the present in sexuality and gender and where we are now and her own take on the subject. It presents critisism to the androgen developmental path (the idea that we are "female" and testosterone makes us male), it introduces the concept of an estrogenic developmental path, it challenges the idea of gender and sex as two distinct characteristics, and joins them in a moebius band, both being part of a more complex structure than a binary pole.

The first half of the book is a very well written recolection of these ideas, the second half is basically for supporting the first half with scientific data. I loved it.

u/Maelyn-M · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

For my money, this might be the best deal on them in general: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00DG740RI/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

it has a ton of attachments, and it works really well. The cheap-ass epilators are going to give you exactly what you pay for.

Also, read these instructions on how best to use it: http://www.epilatorcentral.com/epilator-tips-how-to-use-an-epilator/

Also: It IS going to hurt, especially the first few times. And it might cause some irritation - my legs felt sunburned for the first day. It DOES get better. I promise. :)

u/leaonas · 1 pointr/asktransgender

I found the one that I was considering but $20 for 8 oz had originally deterred me. After the ingrown hair epic I think it may have been $20 well spent if the product works. The product is Tend Skin which has great reviews. The active ingredients are: Isopropyl Alcohol, Water, Propylene Glycol, Acetylsalicylic Acid, Cyclomethicone, Glycerin

u/sofia-miranda · 9 pointsr/asktransgender

Keep being awesome.

She sounds like me. In which case, be aware that she well may come to want to transition eventually. She will reach that conclusion in her own time if so, though checking in and reassuring it will be OK every now and then like this is good.

I didn't think I was dysphoric because for me it was all shunted into anxiety and obsession and dissociation. I just thought that was what I/life was like. I was wrong.

Also she should read this book: https://www.amazon.com/Yes-You-Are-Trans-Enough/dp/1785923153

u/BundleOfShae · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

Every attempt i make just breaks my body hair at the skin level, leaving me with ingrowns, its terrible. I am hoping with continue used this will happen less. I also bought some stuff that helps immensely after hair removal and before. Waxing I like better, all though the last time I went, a different woman did it and i had terrible results, just like epilating.


The general sentiment though seems to be that people love them with continued use.

u/javatimes · 1 pointr/asktransgender

The binary sex system was socially constructed by cissexed (or cissexual) humans. It has no place for transsexual or intersexed people. I think more people are realizing how limiting it is towards intersex people, but it's just as limiting towards transsexual people.

It's not like I ever got a choice whether I agreed or not with this cis system of binary sex. I don't agree with it. Therefore, discussing it is a little tough, because every discussion of it assumes that trans people "must" accept "the truth". It's not the truth. My existence disproves it.
I've generally had this discussion with cis folks, and those that seem to be trying a little to accept trans people do seem to want to put us in some "female men" and "male women" categories--but if we can think of gender as socially constructed, it's hard to see why we can't see the sexes as such. We generally assign sex based on appearance of genitals at birth. For the vast majority of people that works out fine.
But not for all people. And being one of the people it doesn't work out for, I'm not likely to accept cis explanations for how I'm wrong.

And it's not like there hasn't been scholarly research on this topic. I'm thinking of Anne Fausto Sterling:
http://www.amazon.com/Sexing-Body-Politics-Construction-Sexuality/dp/0465077145
as one example.

In college I took a "History of Gender" (gender being used to mean both sex and gender) course and at the very end, the professor asked us for our conclusions--what we had learned. I knew this was going to be hard for the cis people in the room to accept, but I said "there's a lot of documentation of the fact that sex is just as socially constructed as gender--I had no idea" (I was 23 at the time and pre physical transition.)
The prof absolutely lit up at my response and said, exactly. It gave me a lot of hope and it was one of the things that encouraged me to transition rather than just accepting the common knowledge of my body as my identity.

u/oleka_myriam · 7 pointsr/asktransgender

To my trans sisters is probably the best place to start. You are trans enough is a logical second, and Trans like me is good too.

u/ProbablyAmyy · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

I see a speech therapist currently, and almost everything we do is covered in this book! You can get it on Amazon (UK or US) "The Voice Book for Trans and Non-Binary People: A Practical Guide to Creating and Sustaining Authentic Voice and Communication" if the links don't work.

It is HELLA helpful. I struggled with youtube guides (The comparative nature of them made me feel poo), but this book was incredible, I could just sit quietly by myself and work through it.

When I went to my first speech therapy session, she said I made several months worth of progress in a sentence (jumping from in-toning to full on sentences with female mannerisms), so it really showed!

u/Scry_K · 1 pointr/asktransgender

Sounds like there's only one option left! You can grab a good safety razor from amazon for about $20, and one hundred platinum-coated blades for under $10.

u/SakuraSky912 · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

It's the same way for me, honestly. My doctor thinks it's a combination of the ssri and dysphoria. I have been on various SSRIs for years without issue though, so I don't know, I think a lot of it is mental for me. In my case the dimmer helps a lot. I found one pretty cheap on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0000BYEF6/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_JhDDub1BHQ664

u/evendeathmaydie · -1 pointsr/asktransgender

>How do cis people view trans men?

As females who think and act like females, but are only putting on a "male" act. You view us as females who look like males, or as women who think we're men. You might say "socialized female" but the result is exactly the same.

You make assumptions about our personality based on our genitalia ("trans men are more sensitive because AFAB!"), you make rude and invasive comments about our bodies, reference our genitalia in apropos of nothing, you're generally clueless about our experiences and mostly don't care to really learn.

Moreover, you don't read our narratives and are totally uninterested in our political needs. Honestly, that's almost a good thing, because in my experience trans women don't really handle trans male problems with that much sensitivity or tact.

How many trans women have read Whipping Girl but have never even heard of The Last Time I Wore A Dress or Becoming a Visible Man? It really is like we do not belong to the same community at all.

u/SillySillyGirl · 3 pointsr/asktransgender

I use Now Cream. It's cheap and works great. Once mine got to full size they stayed that way except the cream will cause my breasts to swell about a half cup size if I have not used it for a while. Progesterone is important so I do still use it but sometimes I'll run out or get out of the habit. But I've quit for months and never lost much size. Oh... you're welcome!

u/viviphilia · 3 pointsr/asktransgender

One other thing, I've been reading Jamison Green's book "Becoming a Visible Man" and I highly recommend it. He's a trans guy and a great role model for all trans people.

http://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Visible-Man-Jamison-Green/dp/082651457X

u/genderblender · 1 pointr/asktransgender

I used to have this problem when I first started shaving my legs. I found that a very warm bath first and using a new razor like the Gillette fusion helped a lot. Also using Tend Skin helps.

u/ZestyChinchilla · 1 pointr/asktransgender

I think I ordered my first ones when I was about 3 months in. Things were just obvious enough that I figured I probably should, at least to keep things a little less...pointy-looking.

In fact, i still have those bras and still wear them. They're very comfy, and my only real complaint is that I wish they had a little padding, mostly to prevent them from bunching up a little on occasion. But they're still great options for you first bras, because they're "flexible" sizing (S/M/L instead of fitted sizes). They're the Hanes Convertible Seamless Wire-Free bras.

u/BoremUT · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

Yes, as other posters have already said, you can do exercises to lower your voice w/o T. Here is a book on the subject you can check out if you're interested.

u/crystal-image · 5 pointsr/asktransgender

hiya, I'm a trans woman philosophy student who's primarily interested in current goings on in materialist philosophy, mostly continental. I'm in love with Hegel, Marx, and Lacan. I really don't like Judith Butler, and I really don't like Kate Bornstein.

aaaaanyway, you might be interested in reading Catherine Malabou's Changing Difference. there are only a handful of very brief references to being trans, but it does explore the idea of gender in a way that attempts to go beyond either essentialism or constructionism, something that seems very worthwhile. usually when I notice any reference to trans-related issues in anything I read, though, it's a quick dismissal based on the association of transgenderism -- not entirely unfairly, in my opinion at least -- with the sort of post-structuralist/postmodern constructionist thought to which the authors are generally directly opposed. also, here is a pretty cool blog post that looks at some of the seemingly reactionary stuff Badiou and Žižek have said about trans peeps, altho idk how interesting you'll find that if you're not already familiar with those two. that blog has giant assholes tiled as the background, tho, so it's a bit NSFW.

some other neato trans-related books I like, although some of these have some stuff that would generally be considered offensive and negative by most trans folks:

-Horsexe: Essay on Transsexuality by Catherine Millot

-Assuming a Body: Transgender and Rhetorics of Materiality by Gayle Salamon

-Please Select Your Gender: From the Invention of Hysteria to the Democratizing of Transgenderism by Patricia Gherovici

-Invisible Lives: The Erasure of Transsexual and Transgendered People by Viviane Namaste

u/Atorm587 · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

Have you tried something like this? https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001ECQ7G4/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s02?ie=UTF8&th=1

I combine that with a traditional brush, traditional shaving cream and a DE safety razor. I don't have as much irritation as I used to.

u/mousegal · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

Its your choice, not your dads but hiding is a bitch. Better to know where they stand and be open than avoid them and hide.

Plus, they may come around. Your dad's predictions may be wrong. I certainly predicted my dad would not be supportive but he was supportive but was the first other than my wife and kids I felt comfortable presenting around.

If they're not supportive, welll... that sucks but at least you won't hide. You can then work on resilience skills and stick up for yourself in a nice but firm way.

Your dad has issues with having to deal with them. He needs help with resilience too. If you want to work with him on practicing what to say when conversations become uncomfortable including ways to change the subject or stand up for oneself, maybe consider doing that before coming out.

Here's a good book for practicing resilience:

https://www.amazon.com/Queer-Transgender-Resilience-Workbook-Orientation/dp/1626259461

u/ISayUntoThee · 1 pointr/asktransgender

Don't forget to get a dimmer switch extension cord so you can control the power and sound coming from it, it can be quite loud.

u/anxious-pigeon · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

transmasc here -- I wore/wear this one all the time when I needed to not feel my chest. It's very thin and lightweight, good for smaller chests but if you've got particularly noticeable nips it might not hide them with a thin shirt (like those clingy super thin women's shirts). If that's an issue for you I'd look for a stretchy bralette with light padded inserts. TBH I fucking hated underwire and any scratchy material (lace, too many ribbons, etc).

Sports bras as hailed as they are for comfort actually aren't that comfortable when thing are sensitive :(

u/Qwaiii · 1 pointr/asktransgender

Having similar issue, be wearing some sports bra's and thought I need something less tight and one wearing now came in today. Fits fairly nice, I don't have much for breast, just keeping my nipples from rubbing.

https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B00L5YLSQU/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s01?ie=UTF8&th=1

Also got a Calvin Klein Cotton Bralette, but have not worn that for more than a couple minutes, so can't vouch for it yet. (But the Calvin probably won't do too much to hide nipples if that's a concern as it seems thin, but the bra I linked In thin, but thick enough to hide nips.)

u/hcline11 · 2 pointsr/asktransgender

You should be able to as long as the Australia Amazon carries it. Also you don't need a prescription for progesterone cream.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0013OXGNU/ref=nav_signin?ie=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B0013OXGNU&pd_rd_r=S606JBAN8PD6ZRZERE4V&pd_rd_w=89Qpk&pd_rd_wg=0gpJ1&psc=1&refRID=S606JBAN8PD6ZRZERE4V&

This is what I get all the time. It pre-dispenses a set amount and I use it once a day. It keeps my moodiness in check and helps with depression among other things.

If you want to go the prescription route that is totally up to you.

My endo refused to put me on progesterone so I went and got the cream. I'm so glad I did because it's helped my breast development greatly.