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So the goal is to amuse yourself, which will amuse others. The deal with comedy, is that there is a certain tension that builds if the person delivering the comedy doesn't laugh. I've learned the scientific reason for that but forgot it (I've internalized it but don't understand the meaning, the same way a natural will read RedPill and find out justifications for his actions that he always knows works but can't explain why)., but if I had to guess, not laughing at your own jokes places you at such a high status above everyone else. You're making a joke that everyone else enjoys, smiles & laughs at, but you're not laughing at it which builds a level of uncertainty and tension, and also paints you as someone "naturally" funny in the sense that such comedy comes easy to you. I would google around for an indepth explanation about why you shouldn't laugh at your own jokes, but if I had to take a guess, this would be close to it.

As with everything RedPill, there is a line to tow. You do most things to pleasure yourself (otherwise you'd be beta), but at the same time, laughing at your own jokes (at least aside from the really really hilarious ones) makes you look weak and insecure, and also reduces the impact of the joke because a joke's intrinsic nature is a surprise. Again I just know internally the way it is, you'll have to read up on it.

For me, I like to make completely ridiculous comments & jokes. The less I react to the joke, the more people will find it funny (part of the appeal is because I'm not laughing, a person doesn't know whether I'm being serious or not. This can bring on an emotional rollercoaster which if I had to guess is one of the foundations of comedy... ). I still find it funny, but I don't laugh crazily at it. I use slight intonation, cues to indicate sarcasm (maybe). Sometimes I might smirk depending, sometimes I might deliver something completely deadpan. Again, you'll pick up on this by just being around a lot of funny people, or exposing yourself to comedy via media or what have you. I'm sure there are texts / books on the art of comedy. Most of us know what's funny, but a lot of people have a hard time defining exactly what is the cookbook for funny. http://smile.amazon.com/Only-Joking-Whats-Making-People/dp/1592402356/ <-- I know this book has some information on it, but there might be an even better book that explains why things are funny. I'm actually going to try to see if there's a better book than this that exists... I'll probably do some research and pick out a good book... I think I'd like to know about humor from a more technical perspective as well.

But even look at this cheatsheet from RedPill legend Roissy (heartiste): https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2014/03/13/a-crib-sheet-of-game/ You'll clearly see on there: Don't laugh at your own jokes. I know that intrinsically but I can't really explain it too well, so basically say things you find funny but don't laugh at them... learn to take pleasure in humor without reacting... as far as explaining why that is, yeah try to look around for books and sources if you're interested why that is.

Before we talk about girls, let's talk about you. "Alpha" men don't exist, it's a mindset anyone can have.

"I get awkward as fuck in social gatherings and would rather just spend my time by myself." -- This indicates to me that this should be your area of focus. Force yourself into awkward situations until they aren't awkward anymore. Your emotional immune system is a muscle, you need to flex it. I argue that success is the 80/20 rule, 80% social skills, and 20% intelligence/knowledge in the field.

A book to help:
http://www.amazon.com/Never-Eat-Alone-Secrets-Relationship/dp/0385512058

Think of it has a game. You're awkward in social situations because either you're not turning it into a game and you don't know the rules, or you're too concerned about what people will think about what you say. If you're genuinely just really bad at talking to people, take the former perspective and start reading books on influencing people or becoming a good story teller: http://www.dangerandplay.com/2014/07/28/how-to-tell-interesting-stories/. Then start executing them in situations. Force yourself into meetups for things you like.

Also, RSDTyler has some really good videos recently about all of this. Check out his youtube channel.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCD4xqm6vJ3K4ntppsE1jL4g

Check out TRT too: http://www.dangerandplay.com/trt-testosterone-replacement-therapy/

Reminder: You have a need to be loved, for emotional connection, etc. You DON'T need this specific girl for this, but she can meet your needs IF YOU'RE SETTING EXPECTATIONS for the relationship.

Before I got into my current LTR with a really RP woman, I asked her where it was going. I expressed my needs, and got hers. I set expectations, but remained as confident as I could with "outcome independence" as some call it. This might be unattractive to some women, but REALLY attractive to some. I don't like people wasting my time, so I started doing this. I can get a random hookup if I want to get laid, I don't concern myself with what a girl thinks about how I set expectations for a LTR. They want it or they don't, period. "I'm the catch" mindset helps here.

See, love goes away. Once the initial rush of a relationship is gone, if you two cannot meet eachother's needs, than the relationship falls apart. Just like you couldn't meet your X's sexual needs while you were deployed. She had someone else meet that need.

It's hard, and you might risk losing this girl. She may say "I'm just looking for something for the next few years, then I'm planning on moving to X, etc" (filling her need for a fuck or emotional connection). Are you willing to move with her or not? Are you sure you'd like to follow and not lead? Is she willing to sacrifice her goals in life to settle down and have a family with you? If she can't meet your needs, why keep her around? There are PLENTY of other girls out there that can meet your needs.

I'd argue that girls don't realize that they aren't going to be happy pursuing their goals in life that aren't related to having kids and raising happy and healthy kids. Getting a nursing degree, sure, go for it babe. But at the end of the day, I'm going to want kids in the future and you better be ready to drop EVERYTHING for us to do that. Again, "love" is relative and meaningless in the long term. You can either show her over time by being a really confident leader (alpha), or find someone that wants to have kids and stuff right now and not waste your time. The former is in my opinion not the right option.

Write down a list of YOUR needs. Narrow them down to their root needs. For example, you don't have a need for X to love you, you have a need for LOVE (ignore the fact that love is subjective for this example). Or take it further and write you have a need for physical closeness or trust with someone instead of "love". That you consider that to be part of love as it makes you feel good. Regardless of length, get it down on paper or in Evernote. If you're not willing to confront this new girl with your list of needs and ask her for hers, than just observe her actions and figure out her needs on your own (this wastes time, and it seems like you've spent plenty of time already on girls). If she's not right, MOVE ON. It sucks, I totally get it. But at the end of the day you are still the "gorilla", just smarter and more motivated/clear with intent.

Summary: Focus on you, your needs, and stop looking for a magic pill or the right advice from other men. Figure out what YOU want in life, and be a man that sets expectations and leads the direction of his life.

I'm currently in Monk Mode myself. I'm probably only going for at most a 3mo. term at this (Started Dec. 1st). It sounds like you have a good plan. I'm focusing on the following things:

• Meditating: the best way to re-program your brain IMO ("Wherever you go there you are")
  
• Teaching myself Jazz piano
  
• Diet (Here's my diet)
  
• Fitness (Here's my fitness bible)
  
• Career Development (This)
  
• Productivity & Time Management (too many books to mention, OP PM me if you want this list)
  
• Not watching Porn & Masturbating less frequently (Highly recommended /r/NoFap)
  
• No Alcohol
  
  For learning to cook I highly recommend this book.
  
  For addressing approach anxiety I recommend The Rules of the Game.
  
  This is an excellent book on habit change. (OP this is how you start to break down those "masturbatory" habits)
  
  Also, Monk Mode is basically an exercise in stoicism. This book is awesome.
  
  
  Since you'll have plenty of time to read here are some other Books I recommend:
  "No More Mr. Nice Guy"
  "Models: Attracting Women Through Honesty"
  "The Talent Code"
  "Man's Search for Meaning"
  "Flow"
  
  Final thoughts OP. 6 months is definitely a worthy goal however studies show that 90 days is usually what it takes to create new habits and routines. You have to be consistent though. Just food for thought.
  
  
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15 isn't too young, but this community is a bit of 'blowtorch'. A lot of good, helpful resources and advice, a lot of shit, and a lot of angry/upset guys who are trying to redefine themselves.

A better alternative is maybe to show him some of the resources that TRP links to, not necessarily TRP itself.

The Rational Male is a really good resource; the 'best of' posts being a good place for him to start.

Mark Manson's 'Models' is a good book to start with, although I would pair that with 'The Rational Male' book (Manson is just a tad soft on the nature of women IMO, but to be fair he was going for a more mainstream audience). A really good resource, especially for someone as young as he is, is The Book of Pook, arguably the main foundational resource.

I would also tentatively recommend 'Bang' and 'Day Bang' by Roosh V. Now Roosh V is a fuckwit douchebag, but in terms of pickup (which is distinct from TRP) he knows his stuff.

Finally I would suggest Mark Rippetoe's 'Starting Strength' to start him building muscle, or, if he doesn't have access to a gym, a book on bodyweight fitness would be good (there's a subreddit which has recommendations).

Money: Watch this over and over, take notes and internalize the information. Read this. Live within your means.

Social Contacts: Fnordsnord covered it. Also read "How to Win Friends and Influence People." Actually take notes, practice what you read and reread. Read this blog post.

Women: You're already on redpill so you're probably pretty set on knowledge there. Read this, this, and this anyway. Internalize, practice, reread.

Life: Two suggestions, 1) Your first reaction to things isn't always the right reaction. 2) Prepare to fail. Skipped a gym visit or missed a lift? Chump = give up. Man = you were prepared for this it doesn't phase you. You're back at it tomorrow. Narrow your life to a few important things and work daily on them. Don't overdo it just plod along. All the greatest achievements in life are done with steady hard work. Read this

Career: Every two-four weeks or so update your resume (keep two versions of your resume, a super long form with absolutely every reference, accomplishments, phone number, address, date, etc and a super short form single page one with all the highlights, make it pretty) and glance for either a higher paying job within your field or a higher status job. Always secure a new job before leaving an old one. If you're still in college or decide to go back, pick a career field that will be in demand when you graduate. Start applying while you are still in school. Read this.

Organization: buy a simple small 2 drawer filing cabinet and manilla folders, put important docs in there. Digitize super important docs. Clean it out every once in a while. Watch this.

Study habits/learning habits: I don't really have time to go into this in any detail but go to everyclass. Take comprehensive notes, ask a shit ton of questions, bounce new things you're learning off people and discuss it as much as possible. Find people that know the material better than you and spend time with them. Take those notes you wrote and get a piece of paper. Draw three columns. Right column is most important info that might be on test/eval, center column is that same info in short hand, left column is a visual representation of the information that might help you daisy chain memorize it. This is my own technique so PM if you'd like more clarification. Turn every assignment in no matter how poor the quality. Last but not least one more time prepare to fail. Talk to your boss or professor if you're slipping; our first impulse is to turn inward and blame yourself and not seek others to help because it looks weak. Like I said your first reaction/feeling isn't always the right one. Prepare to fail. Be antifragile. Good luck; you don't need it if you apply yourself, plan, and work diligently.

Edit: One last thing. Statistically you will live a long time. Think with your future self in mind everyday.

> Any ideas?

Are you over/underweight? Your hormonal system is heavily impacted by your BMI. If your diet is subpar then it's very likely you are suffering from several nutritional deficiencies. If there's one thing you can do to help with that, I'd recommend at the very least making kale/broccoli and some form of legume/whole grain a regular staple. Be it brown rice, black beans, lentils, whatever one you prefer. It's good to cycle through them too.

It isn't too uncommon for omnivores to become B12 deficient. I'd really recommend ordering some B12, here's a 110 week supply for $8.48 on Amazon. Will help with energy a lot and keeps your brain sharp. Take one of those a week, you only need 2,500mcg/weekly. Look into getting yourself some Vitamin D3 as well, here is a two month supply of Lichen-based D3. Those should help quite substantially.

Lifestyle outside of diet matters too. If you feel unfulfilled and uninspired throughout your life, the biggest thing I can recommend is immersing yourself in nature more often and socializing frequently. I of course have no idea what your life is like but from my own experience that has helped tremendously.

And thanks for the offer man, I appreciate it.

Your question made me look up an article on perfectionism. It is worth having a look at. There's also a good book on self-talk here.

There seem to be positive and negative aspects to it, meaning that while you should strive towards perfectionism, being perfect should not be a goal.

You will make mistakes. How you frame those mistakes determines whether you have a positive or negative mindset.

Instead of saying, "man I suck!" when you make a mistake, it may be better to think, "man that thing I did was not good!"

Notice the difference, whereas the first statement diminishes your self-esteem, the second statement admits a particular course of action was not the best choice. You can then identify how to improve that course of action through better decision-making. As others have stated, get a calendar.

Within the context of your LTR, it shows you didn't completely breakdown due to a few mistakes, you're unshaken. And, that you have a positive, learners' mindset geared towards improvement.

Books that I highly recommend for improving social interactions:

The Magic of Rapport

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Interaction Ritual

If you are the daring kind, this is a really good read. It's packed with scientific studies. 33,000 to be exact.

https://www.amazon.com/Miraculous-Results-Extremely-Sunshine-Experiment/dp/1491243821

I tried it, and it worked for me. Everything it said would happen actually happened. I don't have anything to do with this book. So don't buy it. Don't follow its instructions and don't believe me. But if you like reading, this book might be a good read for anyone interested.

Disclosure: This book is bad for you. So are steroids, sex and video games.

You could join the Army. Not a short term thing though, haha

Striking (Boxing or Muay Thai) and Grappling (BJJ or Wrestling) will help you with toughness

Take up Stoicism. Read https://www.amazon.com/Guide-Good-Life-Ancient-Stoic-ebook/dp/B0040JHNQG

Do some masculine things, like hunting, fixing your car.

COMPETE in something, preferably athletic

That ones got mixed results but you are actually trying to raise it. You might be trying to hard and having too much outcome dependence. If people feel like you want something from them or detect insecurity then theyll avoid you. Try working on your life and mission and let your social circle grow on its own. It took me 3 months to get comfortable in my new city but its dope now.

For me, nofap puts my test through the roof. Also read this I think it should on the sidebar tbh. Best RP book in existence imo

I've got a book recommendation for you OP: F**k It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401945996/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_n7Eevb02S18T1

It'll help you out with this:

>You need to learn how to not give a fuck about other people's opinion on you.

But also many other things. Fun read too!

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Well, one way is to do it in baby steps, slowly exposing yourself to things that cause you anxiety. I can recommend Mark Manson's courses which rely on CBT (which has been proven clinically and used by psychologists) and his book Models. Compared to most of the published PUA literature, Mark is intelligent, insightful and his analysis is spot-on.

You can also try reading The Book of Pook (which is free), although it's long-ish and sometimes unclear, it basically echoes a lot of what Manson talks about -- about how changing your mindset and behavior will lead to less anxiety and more success with women (and other people in general).

/u/Red-Zen just commented with the links. I don't know if there are rules against linking within a thread so instead of linking you to the permalink of his comment, here're the links he provided.

Article: http://www.businessinsider.com/james-bond-style-guide-2014-12

Watch: http://www.amazon.com/SO-New-York-5001-1-Silver-Tone/dp/B00MH2HUHA/ref=sr_1_1

And thanks for pointing out tanning, that's a very good one.

Sober up, hit the gym, then reread remedial books on Game. Develop Outcome Independence. Get a good wingman. Find better things to talk about when you go out.

NMMNG is a good starting place, a gentle introduction.

Now you should move on and read the Book of Pook and Jack Donovan's The Way of Men. You should also be learning more TRP theory and applying it IRL. Lift, approach women, find your mission and pursue it, etc.

If you don't wanna fall backward, then it is incumbent that you keep moving forward.

https://www.amazon.com/TheraBand-Tendonitis-Strength-Resistance-Tendinitis/dp/B00067E4YU?ref_=fsclp_pl_dp_4

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Best thing I've ever purchased for tendinitis issues related to doing pullups.

Read the 48 Laws of Power.

This is your work place; you shouldn't be looking for plates there. Think how you can use this guy to accomplish your goals. Ask him for favors you don't really need. Get him bogged down with your busy work. And whatever you do, don't get angry.

http://www.amazon.com/Never-Eat-Alone-Secrets-Relationship/dp/0385512058

although I haven't read it, its on my booklist and its pretty highly recommended

Male 23 last year of university graduating in a Computer Engineering degree

http://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Man-Corey-Wayne/dp/1411673360
Its basically a cross between a basic book like "Bang" and "The way of men". PUA crossed with some more serious/relevant messages about masculinity and purusing goals
http://www.amazon.com/Way-Men-Jack-Donovan/dp/0985452307

I have been in only one serious LTR. Girl broke my heart. I spent 1 year without touching a woman and wallowing in my own pity because the LTR cheated. I had a serious health issue that kept my bedridden for a long time. Other than that, I am just getting started with TRP and realizing my value in the sexual marketplace. So in short; fairly inexperienced. Just getting started. Thats why I am posting this topic

Well I guess that means I should just keep spinning plates till I get someone valuable. And if not, fuck marraige

[The Manual] (https://www.amazon.com/Manual-What-Women-Want-Give/dp/1456494554) and [Models] (https://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty/dp/1463750358/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1467218700&sr=1-1&keywords=models) are way better. The Manual is my bible. Top inner game!

Fuck yes I do!

It's the only way to get mastery.

Read this book and become the best autodidact you know.

I'm reading an interesting book that seems to address your problem. Check it out, if you're interested:

http://www.amazon.ca/The-Obstacle-Is-Way-Timeless/dp/1591846358/ref=pd_rhf_dp_s_cp_4_676E?ie=UTF8&refRID=154Y90BKG9AY2R1JTESF

Ah, its on Amazon FWIW: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1980603154/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I'm not an expert on fitness, but most of what I read speaks to less is more. My personal experience has born this out as well. In my younger days I was chronically over-trained and sometimes injured. Beyond a certain point training more will hurt your gains not help them.

If you're strictly trying to bulk, check out The Four Hour Body by Tim Ferriss, in particular the chapter "From Geek to Freak." I was able to put on 10 pounds of muscle maintaining around 10-12% bf on the protocol in 6 weeks, only going to the gym once a week. No joke. The author achieved 3x that in 4 weeks lifting 2x/wk. The protocol is scientifically based and hyper effective.

48 Laws of Power. Or as I call it, "The Pedantic Sociopath." lol

Short version:
http://cgt411.tech.purdue.edu/covey/48_laws_of_power.htm

Full version:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197

I think this might be the full version in PDF, but I'm not sure:
https://archive.org/details/pdfy-5tT5K_Bq4yydcE4V

http://www.amazon.com/48-Laws-Power-Robert-Greene/dp/0140280197/

The Manual
https://www.amazon.com/Manual-What-Women-Want-Give/dp/1456494554/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1466689815&sr=8-3&keywords=the+manual
Models
https://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty/dp/1463750358/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1466689853&sr=1-1&keywords=models

1: Read the sidebar.

2: Lift.

3: Meditate. Use the app "Calm" in the Android market, or find another such guided meditation app.

Do this for three months. When you finish reading the sidebar and accompanying material such as suggested books, start over and read it all again. (In three months you should have time to read it all twice.)

At the end of that three months:

4: Start working on game. Read Day Bang by Roosh V.

Approach 140 girls in one week with the express intention of getting rejected when you ask for their number. Try to find creative ways to get shot down. (I once threw a pinecone at a girl and when she looked at me in shock I said, "Hey, can I have your phone number?") This will inoculate you to rejection.

Do these steps and you'll be surprised how your life turns around. PM me if you need help with any one of them.