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I don't know a whole lot but I do know that you should reduce triggers (which you have by controlling your dog), stimulate them to help them release energy (because some cats release energy through aggression; you could spend some time playing with the cat if it will tolerate your presence), and not touching the cat when it's angry and instead redirecting its attention with a toy or noise by like shaking a jar of pennies. Another thing that sometimes works is giving the cat scratching posts and places to perch. My cats were not aggressive but they were definitely too energetic so I made them a cardboard house with three stories and got a window hammock (like this: https://www.amazon.com/Window-Suction-Hammock-Resting-Shelves/dp/B01M260Q0M/ref=sr_1_3_sspa?s=pet-supplies&ie=UTF8&qid=1519850830&sr=1-3-spons&keywords=cat+hammock&psc=1). Once they had places to jump that they felt were their dominion they calmed down a lot. Maybe the aggressive cat wants a place to be his and a window hammock is a cheap way to give him a safe space. And also, if you give him lots of treats when he is being nice that can help reward good behavior.

Over the course of the last year I have had 3 morbid examples of bad living situations. I think the universe is telling me something.... like clean up your credit and apply for the IT job you are avoiding because you don't like working with IT guys.... yes I have a degree and the employment background which is why I am avoiding getting back to that career path.

I am considering writing a small saga of bad living situations.

After leaving my mother's house (she had major surgery, recovered, went back to work, then as I was just starting a job) she took her boyfriend's advice to "tinker" with the electrical wiring in the kitchen and massively injured herself ended up in rehab after 2 weeks recovering from burns/being electrocuted and the house had to be partially rebuilt. Mind you this is the second time she has done this.

So I move into a friend's place I have known for 5 years. He's an open-minded free spirited and spiritual air line pilot. He's into shamanic drumming, reiki and what I didn't understand what it actually was "orgasmic massage". I kid you not.

https://www.amazon.com/Mindfuckers-Fascism-Including-Material-Followers/dp/0879320389

One of the main cult leaders chronicaled in the book is Victor Baranco, he taught the 4 hour extended female orgasm to Nicole Deadone. She in turn knew this friend of mine in the 80s when he was stationed in Hawaii as an airforce pilot. Search "Clit cult" on gawker.com

Naturally the friend of mine who is a pilot spent 5 of 7 months pressuring me to move to Sanfrancisco to live at the "One Taste" commune so he can visit regularly. I think he's banned from the place. Needless to say I haven't spoke to him again except to inform him I am blocking his number and to not contact me again.

Next was a house owned by a woman who claimed to be a social worker, a licensed social worker with a bachelors degree.

Neither which was true, she didn't actually live in the house and renting out rooms when she doesn't live there is illegal. I also checked with 8 states if she was licensed as a social worker, then the university she claims to attend isn't offering a masters degree in the field she claimed, so its obvious she is working on her undergrad degree. She mostly rented to people in substance abuse rehab on social security and was looking to get away from that.

Problem was the guy she left in charge of the place was on parole from federal prison who regularly relapses from meth. Methodone by the way is a hell of a drug to help people get their meth addiction under control. It makes them psychotic, and their bowel movements smell like a 4 month old rotting corpse. My bedroom was next to the bathroom and shared a vent. I nearly died from the stench.

The meth head threatened to make my life miserable living there, I recorded it sent it to the landlord and she told me it wasn't legal to record. Well this is a single party consent state, its legal. The meth head also hated the landlord yet wanted to fuck her. The meth head hated all women. Yet the landlord defended the meth head because he was in a large rehab and she volunteered there, hoping that if this guy 13 years into 15 years of parole turned himself around she'd get the credit thus an actual job within the state. Landlord worked in a different stated because she had looked for work for almost 2 years in this state, thus had to actually take any work she could.

I didn't mention there was a Nigerian living there as well who was an investment sales person who wanted me to believe he was the most buff, handsome and richest person I could know. Yet he took public transit like me and rented a room in a house just like me. I know the work he did, its pure commission and that's why his girlfriend and brother was paying his bills.

At least at the last house the landlord demanded neither roommate speak to me because she didn't want to risk me recording more audio of threats.

Now this place. I won't describe it in detail but its all audio recorded and I have photos of the immense shitload of mess the DANCOroommates made all summer long.

I also have court in 2 weeks because the girlfriend of the DANCOroommate is contesting the HRO I have against her. And some fucker applied for a discover card in my former married name (I got a divorce a decade ago) with the current address I live at.

The DANCOroommate had this nuts idea that my ex husband would testify against me at the HRO hearing so they are trying to find him.

Its pretty obvious both of the DANCOroommates are using skip tracing and applying for credit cards in my former married name to commit identity theft/bank fraud (which is the very first criminal conviction for the guy) to ruin me and to find out everything about me.

Not going into detail about the roommate/landlord who is running around bitching at me, because he's just a spoiled brat who won't pay child support even if he has told his father he needs more money to pay that child support, and he gets the money. It just never makes it to the county. I've tried to certified mail my rent payments to him, he won't pick up the certified mail (possibly because he's afraid it might be related to his child support case) and in the last couple days that certified mail was supposed to be returned to me at the house.... The certified mail with the rent hasn't shown up. I think the landlord took it. He has bizarre idea that money orders are like german barabonds and that they cannot be traced nor proven when the money order was purchased/made. So that's going to make him look crazy when I take him to small claims court.

I think I am at the point in my life that it can't get much worse. My divorce was bittersweet, this is absurd.

after I get a my own apartment, change jobs, clean up credit (possibly freeze my credit for a while), I will work on getting a federal job and move out of the mid west entirely. I've been told by a friend who is an attorney from DC (he travels for work, non-profit legal advocacy) that most of what have been through this last few months would be swiftly taken care of by law enforcement and courts. That either one of them would be in jail right now because enforcement is so much better outside of this Midwest hell hole.

The state I live in has to get better about providing affordable housing and enforcing laws. And yeah I am writing a book on this. Fuck it enough of its audio recorded.

On a positive note. I have good friends. I have repaired my relationship with my ex husband, my first fiancée (he's a shrink in the prison system, yeah he's had a good laugh at this), I am ready to move forward do some growing up and take steps careerwise and financially. Eventhough I am very good at my job, it doesn't pay well and its been rocky business as my bosses close an unproductive side venture; I was very angry at my bosses for their unfulfilled promises. It drained me, now that I have so much other stuff to be angry with my focus is much more in front of me, not fighting to make right on promises broken. I am much more able to leave things behind me.

I'm usually a side/stomach sleeper as I have sleep apnea, and here's the link. It looks like they increased the price since then, but it's still far cheaper than most mattress stores. I found the best method for shopping online for a mattress is to try some out in a store and find a style and type you like. The one in the link has each of the coils individually wrapped, and my wife and I could get up without waking the other up. I never had any pain with it whatsoever.

These are the ones I use: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00IL9MRK8/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

How are you putting yours in? There is a trick to help them fit well and stay in. You roll the end of the plug between your fingers until it is pretty much a pin. Tilt your head to the opposite side and pull up your ear. (tilt head to left and pull right ear towards opposite side. Then insert the earplug and press it into your ear for a few seconds and then let it expand back up.

This is another variation of that lock that I have used on every apartment I've lived in. The advantage over the addalock is you can lock it when you leave the house. It's simple to install and looks like a regular chain lock. In my state Landlords are supposed to give 24 hours notice before entering your apartment and we all know they don't always follow the law. This keeps everyone honest and if say there is an emergency, I am sure a big strong guy can bust the door down from the outside if necessary.

https://www.amazon.com/Defender-Security-11093-Diecast-Nickel/dp/B01AY0JPT2/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_60_t_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=EQ34PGMTBJTSK99YY7KF

https://www.amazon.com/Jssmst-Small-Cash-Combination-Lock/dp/B0776NGX9Z

$13.95. A 4 number would be better because the aunt would probably have the time and determination to get the 3 number eventually. But OP could just change it pretty frequently.

I use this in my kitchen to watch my roommates. It's a bit expensive, but I love it. It has audio, a microphone to talk through, and night vision. First 3 hours and I caught one of the roommates eating my food. (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XTNXTV1/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_icMGzbBPX5MH2)

I'm excited to tell you what worked for me. I bought this

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0742H2XBR/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

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Which is like a door soundproof/weather proof insulator thing. And I got a small fan. Use both, and the sound will be gone. It has been working wonderful for me. My roommate plays her gangsta rap music super loud and talks on the phone like no tomorrow, but this rly helped me!

Oh my God that is beyond disgusting! I work in healthcare so blood remaining anywhere is like the devil. I would flip out on her for sure. Plus, how in the hell did it get on the freaking wall?! That reminds me of the bathroom scene in Daddy Day Care with the kid being potty trained that simply 'missed'. As for removing the stain, you can try a baking soda/water paste mixture and gently rub it over the stain, or spray peroxide on it.

If you are worried about any sort of bloodborne pathogens (I would be) you can look into getting some healthcare grade disinfecting wipes. Clorox has ones called germicidal wipes that are hospital grade. After taking medical courses for several years (I went through the EMT program and am studying to become a nurse practitioner) I look at all human goo like it's contaminated with Hepatitis, HIV or AIDS. Also if you do end up cleaning it make sure you wear gloves, especially if you get the clorox wipes as they could dry out your hands. Hope this helps a little bit and I'm sorry your roommate is a beast.

Here's a link to them on our trusty Amazon lol:

Clorox Healthcare Bleach Germicidal Wipes

Have you tried talking to her about it? That would be the best place to start. If you live in a college dorm, your RA should be able to do something about this. If they can't, file a noise complaint with campus/local police. This is in their jurisdiction, and you are probably not the only one annoyed by her singing. You could also be passive-aggressive and buy her a book on learning to sing. If you have taken the calm conventional routes, multiple times, and it hasn't stopped, I suggest you get creative:

Record her singing. Post it to social media where she has an account. Tag her. Write a complaint about her in the accompanying text post.

OR

You could start a war of attrition. Play your music at what you think is an appropriate level, ideally when her music isn't playing. If she complains, turn up the volume. If she puts on her music, drown it out. If this doesn't break her, find music that you still like but that she would find more obnoxious and repeat the steps. If this still doesn't work, you might consider the nuclear option. I found this loop particularly annoying, but you know her better. You mentioned she likes Disney music. This is good, as it means she likely has several fandoms she loves, but more importantly, it means she has several fandoms that she hates. Find a 10 hour loop from one of them. Blast it at full volume whenever she blares her music. You could also go the route of blasting the most obnoxious, awkward porn you can find.

Still failing this, you could always move out as a last resort, but it would be pretty shitty to have to move out because of a bad roommate's easily fixable behavior.

Let us know how it goes, and good luck! 👍

Honeywell CG510A Thermostat Guard, Small https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007EJA7VC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_ixmwCbVSDTJRN

Well if $16 is too much for you to get heat again, I’m sorry for your life situation then. hope things get better!

Get a little lock box with a combination lock off Amazon. That’s what I did with my medications. Vaultz is a really good brand and cheap!


Something like this: https://www.amazon.com/Vaultz-Locking-Personal-Security-VZ00102-2/dp/B004Q86PNI/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=combination+lock+storage+box&qid=1572362658&s=office-products&sr=1-3

I hope you didn't actually throw it out. It looks like a zojirushi rice cooker like my brother has. Basically an older model to this: http://www.amazon.com/Zojirushi-NS-ZCC10-Uncooked-Cooker-Premium/dp/B00007J5U7/ref=br_lf_m_1000220711_1_1_ttl?ie=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&s=kitchen&pf_rd_p=385185701&pf_rd_s=center-2&pf_rd_t=1401&pf_rd_i=1000220711&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=11QWDENE298PSQEB51VE They start at $165. Anyway my brother and I made some chicken and rice and put the chicken in there to keep it all warm (they're SO nice like that even when off). Well, whoever never showed and we forgot. By the time we found it it was moldy and we closed the lid and didn't really know what to do. Well, dumb as it sounds we left it, unsure of how to salvage the cooker. I thought of buying a new bowl for it but couldn't find one. Fast forward maybe 6-8 weeks after the dinner and it's really moldy and nasty, smells when opened, etc. My cousin one day, bless her soul, finds it and cleans it out. It looks awful but that mess should just slide out with little resistance. I was amazed seeing how easy the clean up was. Then the nonstick surface can be cleaned and it's fine. He's been using it for the last 6 years with no issues. It's funny, when you buy quality the mess you found is cleanable and the cooker will continue to work. There's no contamination to your food if you wipe the lid and bowl holder. It's just food mold, not black mold. Not as safe as Bleu cheese but it's not gonna kill you. And when cleaned with dish soap it should work fine for years to come. If that sounds crazy you can mail it to me and I'll prove it.

There is a wierd thing "ZEM"or "Zwislocki Ear Muffler".

Compared with ear plugs:
It is non-intrusive and hygienic, quick to put on and take off.
It is easy to use properly, to consistently get the maximum protection.

What else do i know?

Soundproofing. The most cost/efficient is a isolating tape. Whe I lived in a Slavic Dorm I bought
Foam Tape for noisy windows. That was great and only for ~$10.

I guess there are a lot of other products and gadgets I dont remember.

I have that happen too on occassion when my roommate needs to study or games late at night. So I got one of these draft guards for the door. Stops the light from getting in like a charm. You also don't have to remove them since they slide over the floor quite well.

Sleep mask.

You can buy these things at Walmart for five bucks.

Also, I think you should become a Trekkie. It will then be super important for you to watch every single episode of all five shows, and all the movies.

Cheaper even than a locking cabinet (if you can replace the door knobs) would be to just get a locking door knob and put it on your bedroom door. They're pretty easy to install too, usually just 3-4 screws and some assembling.

Have you tried a sleeping eye mask? Bonus points if you get one that expresses yourself.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0732X8PD8/ref=sspa_mw_detail_1?ie=UTF8&psc=1&th=1

Without knowing what the flags is, I have no opinion. The cleaning sounds like they want you to do all of it. So just stop cleaning up other people's messes.

Would they be agreeable to a kennel like this? Dog Kennel
If not, maybe you can use it in your room as a bedside table.

I'm a fit of petty, I researched lock boxes for control of the electronics. It locks the cord then you have to use a PIN to log into your allotted time. The master sets the time limits for all users. In my very limited free time I want to watch my shows. The responsible adults in the house are only home for 7 hours between our 12-16 hour shifts. There is NO REASON for her to waste our precious time with YouTube.

https://www.amazon.com/BOB-Screen-Manager-Manage-Video/dp/B000GU78UY