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Religion is important to many people growing up, but then there are religious people and even sometimes whole religions that go against some orientations. The GLABTQIA+ community has been persecuted or scapegoated instead of loved by some religious people who are phobic and warp scripture to their own bigoted agenda instead of practicing a deeper reading of scripture. Religious bigots selectively pick scripture sections and use them to cudgel others instead of following the greater way of love.

I'm really curious how people see religion, because for some LGBT+ people, it may be a place of love and acceptance that is particularly needed. I know some about Christianity and Judaism from my own upbringing and much more now about the so-called "anti-gay" Bible verses from watching the delightfully good "Fish Out Of Water" movie; SPOILER: the Bible is being taken out of context. I am also curious if anybody has experiences with Islam and orientation.

I have joined a church welcoming of all people and am loving it.

Hope others find peace, regardless of whether they are religious or not.
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Don't ask the general population about something so specific. Try reading about it for yourself and then talking to people in the subs that actually participate in it. The best source that I found was Opening Up. It really helped my husband and I delve into nonmonogamy first and then navigate a poly relationship.

Polyamory is hard work and takes a lot of trust with an established mono partner, but if you both put the work in it can be the most beautiful experience. It has given me a safe and loving environment to explore my bisexuality and has added more loving relationships to my life. I need other loving relationships in order to be happy, I need that extra connection and intimacy.

It isn't for everyone and that's totally cool, but please don't discount it because askreddit, of all places, puts it down.

:-) So happy to hear that. Sounds like he's lucky to have a friend as good as you.

If you or he want more information at any time, please don't hesitate to PM me.

(Also, for those who have the patience for it, Shiri Eisner's rather dense book Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution is absolutely fantastic.)

Good luck, and thank you so much for being a good friend. I wish I had someone like you when I was wrestling with the feelings he is wrestling with right now. Take care!

I've been struggling with the same thing (M17-going-on-18) and I'm afraid I don't know a way to do it as discreetly as you would probably like, although I have some ideas. I'm planning on getting this pin and wearing it all the time. I already wanted to make my bisexuality publicly known in all my circles, but the main point of the pin is that anyone who meets me to know I'm into guys too, without me having to tell each person or hope they'll ask or all tell each other or something. For more discreetness, you could wear the pin only sometimes, or put it on a bag or somewhere where only people really paying attention would notice it, like in a locker or inside a jacket and you can casually flash it when needed. If you are comfortable lying you could tell non-allies that it means you love cool weather or something, or that a character on a show you like wears a pin like it.

Not sure if this shirt from Amazon is available in Germany or not, but I loved it! It's a cat wearing sunglasses, and the sunglass lenses are the bi pride flag colors. It's very subtle, but I love it!

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CKXPTL4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_r29NBbM8DHZ9P

Good luck in your searches!! :)

Yep! I'm with you! I've dealt with these same types of feelings. I am 5ft tall, very petite, and girly-looking; however, I always feel very masculine around my very feminine friends. And when you used the term "inferior", I can relate. You don't feel like less of a person, but less than a ...woman??
After I married a man six years ago, I had a real identity crisis in regards to my bisexuality. (We are exclusive and I no longer have romantic relationships with women.) A few books really helped me understand and embrace my bisexuality better. Maybe they'd help you out?

http://www.amazon.com/Bi-Any-Other-Name-Bisexual/dp/1555831745

http://www.amazon.com/Look-Both-Ways-Bisexual-Politics/dp/0374531080/ref=pd_sim_b_9

I wish you the best! You're not alone!

I'm a 35 year old bi man who's been married to a woman for the last 12 years. I know how tough this can be. A few things, someone's initial reaction isn't always their final reaction. You've had the benefit of thinking about your sexuality for a long time. Your spouse hasn't and will need time to process this information. That doesn't mean that it will get better. It just means that it can.

I highly recommend watching this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oa6AnOCQD50

Also, I would read Getting Bi by Robyn Ochs: https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Bi-Voices-Bisexuals-Around/dp/0965388158

Both of these really helped me understand bisexuality and what it means to me. It also give me some tools to use to speak to my wife about bisexuality. Here's a good definition to use if someone asks.

“I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.”

Being bi also doesn't impact your ability to be monogamous. Humans feel attractions all the time, but there's a big difference between feeling something and acting on it. There are plenty of married bi folk in this subreddit. We've all gone through something like this and are here to support you.

Here's a Captain Holt pep talk to hopefully raise your spirits: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rk7wb59dJUc

https://www.amazon.com/Wrestling-God-Men-Homosexuality-Tradition/dp/0299190943

Here's the description of the book. It's a reflection on the jewish faith and same-sex love. I'm not jewish, but my best friend is, and she thought the passage was sweet so she sent me that image. Idk wether she has read the entire thing or if she found this bit online, though, so I can't really give you context for now

So, if you want to open the relationship to the possibility of sex and love with another person, and you believe you have the capacity to love and honor both of them, I would like to encourage you to read a book or two before you move forward with your boyfriend.

(it's not just for girls)
https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Girls-Guide-Polyamory-Relationships/dp/1510712089

(a little more rules based than I prefer but still good)
https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X

You might also try posing your question in r/polyamory. Those folks have good advice on this stuff and lots of good experience to draw from. And they're totally bi-friendly.

Well, I will suggest you read Straight Science? for one argument about how homosexuality can lead to reproductive success and increase the fitness a human social band and as a species. Since we know there is genetics involved in sexuality, the central argument is that having the "gay genes" expressed in some capacity may increase reproductive success.

This leads me to an important point most people gloss over when discussing sexuality: As Kinsey and the legendary scale points out, and current understandings of sexuality also make clear, sexuality is fluid and rarely absolute. When I say absolute, I mean those that are 100%/exclusively hetero/homosexual. I find this important because means we have to consider identity and how identity is created. As Michel Foucault and other cultural studies scholars have pointed out, identities involve social construction, and the "homosexual" identity is a relatively new one. When thinking about the adaptive advantage of homosexuality, homosexuality in this case is a set of behaviors that are coded for on a genetic level and not as an identity that is only partially informed by the genetic level (the other part being environemtnal/cultural).

Other hypotheses have been discussed such as kin selection/Gay Uncle hypothesis and population control (which I think is dubious). Less competition, more cooperation? This is an actual puzzle human behavioral biologists are currently tackling because we know it exisits on a genetic level, ergo, it involves evolution in some capacity.

no clue if this one delivers to the UK, but they look nice

here are the same ones as above, on ebay

same ones again but on Ebay UK

You could maybe do something like this if you buy laces in 2 different colors, those are easier to find than multicolored ones

this one's not bi pride specifically, it's from Amazon UK and has a rainbow option that was too pretty to not share

edit: pale pink and blue oval shoelaces, Amazon UK

I don't own any, cuz money + still sorting stuff out, but absolutely love these ones:

Shirts: 1 -- 2 -- 3 -- 4 -- 5

Hoodies: 1 -- 2

Other: 1 -- 2 -- 3 -- 4 -- 5 -- 6 -- 7 -- 8

Thank you! I found them on Amazon. Sof Sole Flat Laces, Rainbow Pink/Purple/Blue, 45"
They have held up for three months so far. I love them with the shoes, Van's I scored at a thrift shop for $3.00. I LOVE them.

Living in a Southern state, I find it difficult when the LGBT section of the library or the bookstore, when there is one, is two shelves of porn and one shelf of lifestyle subject matter. I can expect 1/3rd to 1/2 of what's not porn to be devoted to gay men and coming out, or just coming out stories.

While that is important, it's frustrating because I rarely find books supporting bi, trans, or genderqueer people. I may get lucky and find a history book of the lgbt rights movement. I was amazed when I found a book about Bi men for sale; just about everything else about our culture seems to imply that bi men just don't exist.

But one of the most aggravating problems about being lgbt in the South, and there are many, is the complete lack of resources for religious lgbt people. For many, coming out also means completely rejecting their faith since it will not support them; and this makes it harder to come out in heavily-religious areas. We just don't find books and resources to show that faith and lgbt life can function hand-in-hand. Instead we have families that kick their children to the street because they're "goin' to the Devil."

Soulforce.org has a really useful campaign where they address some of these religious issues and they have several pamphlets for coming out in very religious households; they have arguments backed up with Biblical passages explaining what the Bible actually has to say about homosexuality.

Some interesting books include:

• Bi Men: Coming Out Every Which Way by Ron Jackson Suresha and Pete Chvany
  
• The Bisexual's Guide to the Universe by Nicole Kristal and Mike Szymanski
  
• Hidden From History: Reclaiming the Gay and Lesbian Past
  
• Trans-Gendered: Theology, Ministry, and Communities of Faith by Justin Edward Tanis
  
• Becoming Two-Spirit: Gay Identity and Social Acceptance in Indian Country by Brian Joseph Gilley
  
• Two-Spirit People: Native American Gender Identity, Sexuality, and Spirituality by Sue-Ellen Jacobs, Wesley Thomas and Sabine Lang
  
  Sorry if my book list is a little dated; if anyone has any more books to suggest, I would be interested in reading them.

It's available now! It does have a more Western slant, but a lot of the concepts (like respect and empathy) are international, as well as several of the websites discussed.

I bought a heart-shaped pin with the bisexual pride colors on Amazon. It was posted here by another redditor, and I love it so much!

I'm getting a necklace pendant ( https://www.amazon.com/dp/B015UF1JOK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_5SWPAbB3XDD48 ) and my parents have no idea I'm bi as well ( I'm only 14 ) so I picked up a gift card and bought one, just hope they don't get to it first.

Someone posted on here a few weeks ago - this is a really cool pin :)
https://www.amazon.com/Bisexual-Pride-Enamel-Lapel-Brooch/dp/B0716ZFZ2J/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1522024111&sr=8-5&keywords=bisexual+pin

These are what I have.

I'm wearing them at PAX South this weekend in San Antonio, TX. I'm not out to a lot of people, but if somebody sees them on my feet, they'll know in a nice subtle way.

He means actually helpful in terms of them wanting to embrace the perspective and life of a sexual minority and thus enable society to be less hetero-typical. That's my interpretation anyway. This book is being published soon about how sexuality may be one aspect of humanity that could be subject to change. His argument is it's better to talk about it now and harness it for liberation: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Drugs-Chemical-Future-Relationships/dp/0804798192

This is the best I could do. The Factory Connection website doesn’t have them so sorry.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GPVT3C4/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_5mHsDb5XKW1YH

On Amazon there's a seller who makes cool LGBT jewelry using elements of chainmail. It's called Tattooed and Chained Chainmaille, at https://www.amazon.com/pride-pendant-chainmail-bisexual-jewelry/dp/B015UF1JOK?ref=hnd_adp_ap_1

I am a bi lady, in a long term same-sex relationship, and have been navigating missing male intimacy with my VERY lesbian/gender queer partner. I totally understand the juxtaposition of a happy relationship mixed with other sexual intimacy struggles, partner jealousy and all that. We've been discussing an open/poly relationship for over a year now and this book Opening Up has helped guide our discussions immensely. Unfortunately, we haven't actually opened the relationship yet, but that is due to other life challenges.

Also, if you're looking for Bi or LGBT resources in your area, Meetup is a always good option, but depending on your area there may not be any groups. Most semi-large communities will have some sort of LGBT resource, you can always try googling 'City Name' LGBT center, etc. Many LGBT agencies have discussion groups, group 'therapy' and/or other social groups organized for LGBT folk.

I would suggest you read this book. It might help you wrap you head around how you feel.

Here's a small list to help, just some quick suggestions based on a quick google search

Getting Bi - Robyn Ochs, Amazon Page

Bi Any Other Name, Amazon Page

Little & Lion, Amazon Page

The Gentleman's Guide to Vice and Virtue, Amazon Page

There are a few books that are considered standard reading for poly people

• The Ethical Slut by Easton & Hardy
  
• Opening Up by Tristan Taormino
  
• More Than One by Veaux, et al
  
  For me I would also urge anyone who cares about relationships of any configuration to read Nonviolent Communication by Rosenberg.
  
  Edit: Formatting.

This thing is beautiful and smaller than you think so it's not very gaudy or loud, but I still get complemented on it a lot
https://www.amazon.com/pride-pendant-chainmail-bisexual-jewelry/dp/B015UF1JOK

i have those too! Amazon FTW

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Here it is! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0716ZFZ2J/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apip_ZIo5iYZWTkAYT

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1555831745/ref=redir_mdp_mobile

IMO this one is more 'must read' than the one you linked to. It's a much wider, and much less agenda-fueled a book which collects short essays from over 200 bisexuals from across cultures and nations around the world.

Don't get me wrong, 'Bi - Notes for a bisexual revolution' is an interesting book with some nice ideas in it, but I read it, and it made me extremely uncomfortable to see my sexuality used that way, politicised to push the author's agenda, which at times becomes quite over the top and separatist. I am as against bisexual erasure as anyone else, but when authors start seeding internal resentment in the LGBT community, that's where I draw the line.

The book I linked to - 'Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals Around the World' [2009] is an anthology worthy of following in the footsteps of THE book when it comes to bisexuality ['Bi any other name' - 1991]. And in my opinion, it ['Getting Bi'], rather than the one you linked to, is the one big 'must read' book for bisexuals.

Edit- Just for a point of reference, look at this excerpt from 'Getting Bi'. 'Getting Bi' is a book actually about bisexuality. 'Bi - notes for a bisexual revolution' is mostly just a book about social justice, which uses bisexuality as its weapon. I wouldn't recommend the latter book to anyone still questioning their sexuality, because it will either just wrap their view of it, or scare them away.