(Part 3) Best products from r/college

The candle warmer is just white, so I'm guessing you meant the wall/fragrance plug. There are plenty of others that don't have "Live, Laugh, Love" or phrases on them. That was just the first one I found for an example. If I knew what color or style you were looking for, I might be able to find some better ones. Here are some others that don't have sayings on them...

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• Candle Warmers Etc. Pluggable Fragrance Warmer, Toffee Fleur De Lis

1. How many credits are these courses worth? The average credits per semester is 15, I had 17 my first semester and found it draining to have 5 straight hours of classes.
   
   
2. I don't know about their program, but I had to take a 1 credit class that was just a bunch of bullshit trying to get people to look at their interests and then join groups related to them, and we even spent time going over TED talks. Our "required" reading was The Element. The class was a waste of time.
   
   
3. It might be a good idea to think of a backup school now, because different places have different requirements, and some do not accept credit for certain things. Once you have one picked, look into which classes will not be a waste of time regardless of whether or not you transfer and take those until you know. Your advisor can be a great help for this.
   
   
4. On the subject of generic freshmen things to know, relax. Everybody else is or was in the same position as you. Put yourself out there and meet people, who you meet during college is important because those people can help you during and after. This isn't high-school, you will probably be able to make friends with almost everybody, and how long you've been there doesn't make much of a difference in this aspect. Work hard, but don't forget to have fun too, it will help clear your mind and you will be able to focus more easily when you need to. Don't over-study and know when staring at paper is less beneficial than sleeping or relaxing.
   
   Good luck!

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that I don't think anyone ever taught him how to properly take care of his own body. It sounds like he knows why he smells, he showers twice a day thinking that's what other people do when they smell; they shower!, and he's not understanding why he still smells despite "doing what everyone else does". It's my take on this that no one ever taught him how to properly bathe and clean his body. I don't really know how to approach this. I'm female, and when I was starting puberty I would shower... let the water pour on top of me, but I didn't actually wash my hair or body. I don't know why but I didn't. I started to smell. My Mom noticed, obviously, and bought me a book called The Care and Keeping of You. It was an American Girl book and it really helped me understand how I needed to take care of my body. I was unsure of how to ask for help because I was embarrsed and for a while just chose to live with this. Maybe you could find a male-equivalent of the book my mom got me. Buy some products and stash them in your bathroom. Tell roommate you got some stuff that he's welcome to check out and use. Leave the book on the back of the toilet as poop reading material. He might pick it up when he has privacy and might gain some info he was too afraid to pursue on his own. I know the male version exists. I'll look for the title for you.
Other things you can do to help him and not alienate him:

1. Invite him to do laundry with you. Whether it's down the hall, or at a Laundromat, offer to do it at the same time. Observe how he does this on his own and maybe you'll be able to offer him some info about detergents, water temps, sorting colors etc. Some people go to college never having touched a washing machine and are very intimidated and just need a lesson or two.
   
2. Set up a chore chart to be rotated among roommates. Everyone is involved and has a role, each week your role rotates so no one is doing the same chore every week. If someone doesn't do their share, come up with a consequence and uphold it. Maybe a rule is dishes have to be washed within 24 hours of use. If they linger into a second or third day, initiate the consequence. This is something you all agree on ahead of time, maybe even sign an agreement together. It could be something mild like the dishes get moved to the culprit's bed (dish shaming!) or maybe something as harsh as an embarrassing photo is emailed to a crush. I don't know. Get creative and hold the consequence up if the person drops the ball. Whether its smelly roommate or yourself, everyone has to play by the rules you came up with together.
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   EDIT: This seems like the closest to the Care and Keeping of You I had, but for boys but based on reading through some reviews, I think "What's Happening to my Body?" might be the best book to leave somewhere roomie can find and look through in private. If some jackass down the hall comes into your room making fun of it, just say someones mom brought it up to the dorm and you guys like to laugh at it. But keep it in the bathroom so that it can be looked at when smelly roomie is alone. He knows he smells, and I'm sure he wants to know how not to smell despite what he says. It sounds like deflection because he is shameful, but hides behind pride.

Honest question. Not intended to offend you.

Do you have a learning impairment of some kind?
Or are you just lazy?

If you have some kind of an issue that makes it difficult for you to grasp and embrace somewhat advanced academic topics, but you really want a college degree to help you go somewhere in life, then we can help you.

But I keep reading your responses in the thread and you come across as unmotivated, disinterested and, well, lazy.

I ain't yer daddy. I'm not here to fuss at you. Actually, I'm willing to help find you an answer to your question if I can.

But my approach to trying to help will depend on your response to my question.

Before you respond though, I have a second question.

You don't seem to have the slightest idea what you want to do with your life, but you seem fairly interested in doing it with some assistance from the military.

Please permit me to offer you a suggestion that might help you stall for time before you have to answer these questions.

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The ROTC program has strict standards and some fairly lofty requirements. The military cannot tolerate junior leaders that do not have their act together.

Junior leaders are in fantastic positions with excellent opportunities to get a lot of people killed or injured in seconds.

For a good example of good v/s not-good leadership I emphatically encourage you to consume this entire mini-series Generation Kill. It's on HBO and I think Netflix. Or just get the book from the library Generation Kill or something.

Lieutenant Fick (the real person) attended Dartmouth and later wrote the book One Bullet Away: The Making of a Marine Officer. This is what a good officer looks like.
Captain America is what a bad officer looks like. He isn't completely bad. He didn't get any of his men killed directly, but it came close from time to time.

I AM NOT suggesting you might be a bad officer. I am trying to explain why ROTC and Officer Candidate School is as tough as it is.
They are working very hard to weed out and otherwise discover good v/s bad officers.

There is another path. A path with fewer risks, that might enable you to observe personal growth and self-discovery at a different pace.

The enlisted path.

Take the SAT. Take the ACT. Keep those scores in your permanent CollegeBoard profile. But take the ASVAB and enlist in the service of your choosing. Pick a job that helps provide you some useful skills. Go see the world. Go meet some new people. Then let your GI Bill pay for college after you've had 4 years of active duty service to figure out what you want to do for a living.

The Army, Navy and Air Force will all guarantee you a specific job of your choosing in a written contract.
The Marines will guarantee only that you WILL be personally challenged by your experiences. They will assign you whatever job they want you to have.

I joined the Marines back in 1989, when I was 17 years old. My parents had to co-sign my enlistment papers since I wasn't 18 yet.
I learned a lot about myself, and I had a completely new and vastly more focused view of the world when I got out.

The GI Bill will pay for 36 months of university (which covers 4 full educational years) including room & board in most cases.
The GI Bill grants you in-state consideration for all public universities in the nation. So you can attend any school anywhere you want to go to, assuming you have the academic record to be accepted.


...Just an alternate approach to your situation for you to think about.