(Part 2) Best products from r/crossdressing

Since most of the breast forms on Amazon are pretty much standalone and limited in color options, it’s tough to show off cleavage when you have two cakes on your chest that don’t match your skin tone. However, hiding them completely under a bra or clothing can still allow for some space to create cleavage in a v-neck/other low-cut top or dress, but you’ll want to probably either use a makeup, taping, or some other way to create the actual cleavage while your forms are there for curves alone.

To show off boobage, it’s probably most likely that you’ll be going for a breastplate of some sort, a vest generally worn around your neck that covers your chest. They’re going to be more expensive and hard to color match, but are probably your best bet for exhibitionism. I’ve done plenty of dreaming and have some recommendations for more realistic options:

Boobsshop : These consistently look good, although color matching may be harder with ~10 total options. Price range is about $250-$350, and ships from Russia. See Jeanne Lazareva’s social media and YouTube for more examples. I think that in terms of feel and shapeliness for bigger cup sizes, these are easily one of the best options. The texture looks relatively matte as well.

AliExpress : Since these are produced by Chinese makers for a Chinese market, I’ve seen many Asian CDs use these to great effect. The main shops I see on AliExpress selling these are Eyung and IVITA, the first of which I linked and has great customer support (run by Kevin Hu; see Facebook and Youtube), but there’s recently been some crazy price increases (breastplates used to start at $100!). Expect to pay between $150-$250. They will customize each order to requested color if you ask. I don’t know as much about the second shop, but their styles are slightly different, and quality should be expected to be similar. Look around this site for other stuff too, like human hair wigs and cheap yet good makeup. And always do your research, since all of this stuff is cheaply made in China.

And last, but certainly not least, eBay probably has the widest selection at the lowest price. Sure — you won’t be getting the best of the best, but you can get breast form vests for ~$40 here that still look decent. Whether or not you can make decent cleavage out of these is another question. Check out listings like this. This same product is offered from different sellers, so I’m not too sure how to navigate that. I’ve seen CDs use these and they look quite good, if a little too pink for realism. This could be a good starting point.

Otherwise, there are plenty of methods to create cleavage with your own skin. One popular method is to stack two or more of these and these look the most realistic in my opinion, given you have enough skin and fat there. I mentioned makeup earlier. You can also create a semblance of cleavage by using contour and darker tones on your skin to draw curves, and there are so many tutorials on YouTube teaching this. Duct taping skin together is another alternative to pressing pecs together to form fake cleavage.

Even stacking padded bras can be enough to fake curves. Personally, I use cheap $30 forms that I stuff my bra with. I bought C cup forms, and with a 32 inch chest (with the tape measure stretched tight), adding ~4 inches means I wear a 36C bra. This has been working decently for me so far, but I never show cleavage, so I’m not too qualified for that 🤷‍♀️

So, wrapping up, it depends on the look of the cleavage and what you’re wearing that’ll determine what works best for you. Look around at what others did, figure out what they did that might work for you, and check out tutorials of all the methods to decide what’s best. I think cleavage is a great thing to achieve cheaply with some tricks that don’t require forms. With forms, getting a breastplate is the convenient solution, but has a relatively high cost, can get hot and uncomfortable over time, and might not totally match your skin tone. Getting a pair of forms like I did allows for the formation of curves, but not so much cleavage, since I pretty much have to hide them if I want any degree of realism.

Good luck! 👀

Your face is a canvas and the make-up is like paint. Think about painting in layers if that helps.

That being said, here's my recommendation. You skin is your canvas so you gotta take care of it. Pay attention to your body/skin, everyone is different so use what is working for you. Exfoliate regularly, exfoliating helps clear up pores and scrub away dead skin. I do it daily, again do as much as your own skin needs to. My pores tend to clog easily so I try my best to keep it clean. I use something like this, just a slightly rougher bath sponge, squeeze a little face wash on it and lightly scrub - again this is what I do, your mileage may vary.

Regardless of how oily your skin is, moisturize it. If you have naturally oilier skin like me, use a lighter moisturizer (it feels lighter on your skin not as thick or creamy). conversely, use a heavier moisturizer if you tend to have dry skin. It doesn't necessarily have to be a "face moisturizer" product, lotions work also i've noticed. The point of all this is you want a clean and hydrated skin, it looks younger and healthier. I use, Aveeno's Men's After Shave Lotion. It get's two birds with one stone for me, aftershave plus helps keep my skin hydrated and is on the lighter side (won't feel greasy when it dries.)

The next layer in the painting would be concealer and foundation. Concealers are more pigmented "cover up" work. Using me again, i have slight rosatia/pinkness, concealers help neutralize out the redness to a more even skin tone. Foundation is a less pigmented but does the same thing essentially. Go to a Walgreen's or any drugstore and just look at the color samples. You'll want to color match to your neck so that your general face color blends in with your neck. Taking care of you skin takes time to get but when you get there you shouldn't need much concealer or foundation to even out your face. I like BB Cream No. 23, Natural Biege, matches my color fairly well.

You can pick either of those up or an equivalent product at any drugstore. People won't give you any grief, it's not too common but some males do buy coverup/concealers for acne breakouts so it shouldn't cause too much fuss to buy in person.

As far as applying blush, eyeshadow, liner brows ... the works, it's hard to type out and is best if shown to you. Beating a dead horse, watch the you tube videos and practice putting them on. You WILL get better. I did a quick look through amazon, this Shany Set seems like an okay kit. It has a various color pots to play/practice with. (color pot, the little containers that the actual make up sits in.) Your small round pots are your eyeshadows and the large round ones are your blushes. It looks like it comes with the applicators too, the fancy q-tip looking things are for eyeshadows and the bristle brush for blush. It also has the standard black and brown pencil eye liner, a pencil lip liner, lipstick and some nailpolish.

When it's all said and done, you've read all that you can or watched all the videos you've cared to watch. My best advice I can give you is take care of your skin and practice. Keep putting it on, get a feel for it and learn how certain things get applied. Eyeliner for example, you need to get used to the fact that there's something that close to your eye when you're trying to put it on. With time and practice it gets easier, your hand gets steadier and your eyes don't flinch as much.

Not my best nor my worst, but here's where i'm at on a typical day. http://i.imgur.com/C1vPsxg.jpg

Lastly, baby wipes or makeup remover wipes is good for taking it all off and these on a cotton swab is good to remove eyeliner without any trace.

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Thanks! I think I like that one a little more too, but I really wanted to show off my dress/shoes. It took me forever to find a pair of heels that met all the requirements I had in mind.

Yeah, all the guys I've seen IRL wearing polish have done the black with goth look which is pretty accepted as part of that look. It'd be awesome if it became a norm for guys to wear whatever color polish they like though.

I might have played it a little too safe when I was starting off. This was my first polish. It gives off a beautiful light grey color. I did tend to stick with the more "masculine colors" at the beginning such as this one which is a perfect TARDIS blue and this gorgeous dark green. As you can tell, I really like china glaze. They have basically every color you could want, and they're an above average polish. I think the most "feminine color" I went with after a couple months of wearing polish was this lilac indigo from sephora.

I'll probably get some more of the brighter colors now, but it'll depend on the outfits I create in my head and what I think goes with them. For the past few months, I've been into designs instead of just plain polish here's a couple of those.

I can say that you're completely justifed in feeling worried - it's a new thing for you. Communication and discussion are very important in many issues and here they are important too. Talking about your concerns and fears with your bf might help and I do hope you two can discuss it and come to compromise that doesn't dissmiss your worries and puts all blame on you. Yes it is hard for him, but don't let that diminish your issues and make them insignificat.

I've read a number of books on kindle and I'd like to recommend you some that I think could be relevant:

1. [Something to Confess by Karen Adler.] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B008BI8GQS?redirect=true&ref_=kinw_myk_ro_title)
Written from perspective of a crossdressers wife is about her dealing with her husband telling her and his crossdressing. I really like it as a good example of open communication between two adult people.

2. The Cross Dresser's Wife - Our Secret Lives by Dee A. Levy, B. Sheffield Hunt

3. Men in Bras, Panties and Dresses: The Secret Truths About Transvestites (European Medical Journal)
A medical study results conducted in UK. Could be interesting read and comparing your bf to different ppl that took part in that study and seeing how different crossdressers can be.

4. Out & About - The Emancipated Crossdresser by Lacey Leigh

*5. 7 Secrets of Successful Crossdressers by Lacey Leigh

Two books by Lacey Leigh. I really like her approach to crossdressing and dealing with society. She also talks about how she made it work for their family.

First two books might be more relevant then other 3 and I do hope they help.
Girlfriends and wifes of crossdressers (they could be named significant others) have a number of support groups and forums. You can google them and read or join.

I'm a crossdresser myself and I can try to answer your questions if you have any. Just rememeber that every person (and crossdresser) is different and my answers could be different from what your bf thinks or feels.

No, there's no laws about wearing clothes as long as you're decent. The only laws I can think about would involve a man walking into a women's restroom... Some places may not care, but other places will put you in serious trouble if you even try, so plan ahead.

As for what to wear, wear something women would actually wear in public. When most of us start crossdressing, we all go through the "It's sexy and I want it!" phase where we wear corsets and other bedroom-fun-time attire, but women in nightclubs or even on the poles wouldn't wear half that stuff.

A nice dress or a cute Cami+Blouse combo with some jeans may do well. Keep it classy. I only have one full-on outfit right now which includes everything on this wishlist. I've never gone out in public with it yet, mainly because I haven't even started doing makeup, I can't do my hair, I'm worried about voice, and I don't want to go it alone, but I'm fairly confident that that outfit would be well-received.

If you want something a little more feminine, like a dress, just keep looking until you find something you like - but be warned... "The perfect dress" is just as hard to find as girls make it seem. It's harder for Crossdressers too, because we have to decide how much cleavage to show, if it matches our manly body types, etc. If you're ordering online, I'd start with Amazon. They have thousands of dresses but it's still pretty fucking hard to find "The one."

Also, before you order, visit the website from the supplier you're about to order from and make sure you're ordering the right size. Example: This dress is from Anna Klein on Amazon... Visit AnnaKlein.com and find the size chart and do the measurements to figure out your dress size. Do this for any article of clothing you ever order online through a place like Amazon... Amazon's default size chart can be very different from the store you're ordering from.

If you need more ideas for outfits, just watch TV for awhile and observe what any of the lady-like characters wear. Or find an Actress that you like, google them, and see what they're wearing. My celebrity crush is Daniela Ruah (Kensi Blye - NCIS:LA)... No matter what she's wearing or how she has her hair styled, she's beautiful... pictures don't do her justice. They put her in a lot of different outfits that often cover a lot of skin, not a bad quality for a crossdresser. The only thing I don't like is that they hardly ever put her in heels, but you can only ask for so much...

It is a lace front :) I got it off amazon, I would definitely recommend it. Here is the link

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B014KQDCE0/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o04_s01?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I want shorts like this
https://www.amazon.com/HOLYSNOW-Women-Bottoms-Pretection-Shorts-x/dp/B01JUDO2Y2/ref=mp_s_a_1_9?ie=UTF8&qid=1549898741&sr=8-9&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=swim+shorts+with+panty&dpPl=1&dpID=51xQVkBl5AL&ref=plSrch#


With attached bottoms like this
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B017QIHDQM/ref=cts_ap_1_cts?ie=UTF8&pi=SL110&dpPl=1&dpID=419gyX3O3DL#

Not the mesh like
https://www.amazon.com/HOLYSNOW-Women-Bottoms-Pretection-Shorts-x/dp/B01JUDO2Y2/ref=mp_s_a_1_9?ie=UTF8&qid=1549898741&sr=8-9&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=swim+shorts+with+panty&dpPl=1&dpID=51xQVkBl5AL&ref=plSrch#

Darn.

People always tell me I walk in heels really well. "Dude you're confusing me". One lady friend said I did so better than them. "Daintily walking over puddles and through crowds"
Here's my tallest heels, me being 5' 11" makes things quite a bit taller.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01LETQRPW

Amazon! Here