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It's a good question - a lot of people just assume they can't ever be rich.

No you don't need to get a degree. You don't need to get a high-paying job. You don't need to be Elon Musk unless we're talking billionaire rich.

Making money is about delivering value at scale. Either deliver a little bit of value to a lot of people, or deliver a lot of value to a few people. Or do both to rake it in - but this is usually harder.

The most accessible way to deliver value at scale is by building a business.

You also need to figure out why you want to be rich and what kind of rich. Do you want to build a massive empire and make hundreds of millions or does making a couple of million a year and getting to travel whenever you want sound better?

The basic steps are pretty simple. You've got to start by reprogramming your brain a fair bit. Rich people - especially entrepreneurs, don't think about the world in the same way as most people do. More on how to do this later.

After that you'll want to start exploring the opportunities open to you at the moment. There are lots of business models you can replicate and do really well with - you don't need to start completely from scratch and build something the world has never seen before. You would not believe the ridiculously niched business models people make stupid money from. Example - I know a guy who built an online health and safety testing form for oil rig workers that was making $20,000 a month.

When you're starting out it's a good idea to keep things simple and use it as a way to build your skills. You don't want to be trying to build the next Facebook while trying to learn the basics of business. You're probably not as smart as Mark Zuckerberg.

The point is you have to keep learning and learning and learning. You know the business section of the book store you've probably never looked at? Pick the right books and you can pretty much learn anything.

You've been fed a lot of bullshit your whole life - so you need to read:

BOOKS FOR REPROGRAMMING YOUR HEAD

• The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss
  It's pretty incredible how many successful people I've spoken to in the last few years have said something along the lines of "well it all started when I read the 4-Hour Work Week...". This is a great book that will give you a huge mindset adjustment and also a bunch of practical ideas and case studies of what you can do.
  
  
• The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ Demarco Yeah the book title sucks. But it's gold. MJ has quite a different approach to Tim Ferriss - so that's why I put it here. It's good to get multiple perspectives. The first hundred or so pages rip traditional thinking on wealth as well as guru advice to pieces - it's pretty funny.
  
  
• The Richest Man in Babylon by George S. Clason This is a quick and easy read but it's got some great core lessons.
  
  Those will give you a good start. Once you've picked something to work on, you'll want to start reading up on learning sales, mindset, strategy, mindset, business management, mindset and some more mindset. If you jump in you'll quickly find the hardest thing about business is usually dealing with yourself.
  
  Hit me up if you take action on this and I'll be happy to recommend where to go next :)
  
  

>You gripe all the time about the things you don't like, but I never, if ever, see you give due praise.

You deserve some praise for an admirable work ethic, as it seems you have looked into research literature without external pressure, and for your desire to help your community.

However, IMHO, /u/Azdahak's criticisms are also quite apt.

Your advice, if it was presented as tidbits or food for thought -- as suggested by a few studies in the literature -- would not be so much of a problem.

What is a problem, from a "scientific" point of view if you will, is your asserting that you have anything amounting to "proof," or that you are sharing "facts." Even researchers in the hard sciences are hesitant to describe anything as a fact. (Part of the reason being that in any science, you can never prove anything correct -- you can only disprove things. The failure to disprove something despite energetic and motivated attempts to disprove it is pretty much the closest we get to "fact.") In psychology, largely fraught with the inability to directly assess variables of interest (such as happiness, motivation, attention), the amount of caution required is several orders of magnitude larger.

There is nothing wrong with sharing a few research-informed tidbits that you drew from the research literature on goal setting. However, if you are coming away thinking your account is a complete and factual one, you are considerably underestimating the complexity and variety of research within the related fields you're reviewing.

Consider that entire textbooks are devoted to the topics of Emotion and Motivation (with this textbook being a particularly interesting read). You can see different excerpts through Amazon and Google books, but just to illustrate the point, the textbook includes multipronged advice on goal-setting, diagrams presenting why these strategies should work, supported by literature reviews in the text, acknowledgment of complexity and contextual effects in determining whether a strategy is good or bad, which is then summarized and reiterated.

So consider your typical advice to never ever tell anyone your intentions. You have presented this as a "fact" with such tiny exceptions that the rule can essentially stand in almost all situations. However, these excerpts from two different chapters of this text raise situations where telling someone may not have harm (provided it leads to some of these other enhancing factors). For instance, if you tell someone and they help you make the goal more specific and create if-then implementation intentions, and/or offer performance feedback, that could certainly make it worthwhile. Or if you had a prevention mindset and wanted to avoid being shamed, telling someone (in order to make that a salient threat) might be an effective way of motivating yourself, even if it might not work for those with a promotion-mindset (for whom the gain in esteem among their peers may be success enough).

Please understand, I am not trying to shit on you or your efforts. I honestly believe you are well-meaning. I am guessing people have been unpleasant and rejecting towards you before, and I can see how that would make you understandably sensitive to criticism, and prone to feeling like critical feedback is a personal attack. I am not trying to attack you, I am simply trying to illustrate why saying you have "proof" or "facts" draws such ire. And while I know that some of your self-portrayal as ENTP Messiah is probably a little tongue-in-cheek, it is still frustrating to see legitimately interesting, albeit blunt tidbits of advice getting advertised as factual summaries of entire fields of psychology.

This isn't an attempt to rob your legitimate qualities which deserve praise -- again, that you even have looked into the literature as much as you have is admirable. It is great that you aren't just citing pop psych magazine articles. It is an attempt to provide some feedback on how you communicate your findings (so that they can be maximally informative, and minimally misleading). All I would ask is that you are a bit more upfront and careful (both internally and externally) about knowing and stating the limitations of your own research (as all research has limitations). That is the mark of good science, and it actually makes you more credible, not less.

I'm reading a very interesting and pretty relevant to this book called The Underground Girls of Kabul. It's about a phenomenon in Afghanistan where if a family has no sons, they sometimes decide to dress a daughter up as a boy and pretend she is a boy (this is called "bacha posh"). This is because in the culture of the country women are effectively seen as having no value unless they are able to bear sons, and therefore there is a lot of pressure on the family to have sons to present to the world. It's a practice that is in a lot of ways tacitly accepted, even though it seems to go against the strict gender roles of the society.



Through the author's research she found that girls who dressed up as boys during their young childhood but changed back before puberty seemed to adapt to womanhood just fine. However, women who for whatever reason went through puberty while remaining a boy, and only "changed back" to being women at say, age 20, it seemed they could never fully adapt to being "natural women." They reported "feeling like a man" on the inside even when older. Of course Afghanistan is a culture with VERY strict separation of men's and women's roles, and women are even discouraged from, say, walking on the street alone, so it is a huge shift in behavior.



One of the women argues in the book that even sets of habits we think are set in stone, like gender, have all just come out of the habits we've formed and the environments we are raised in. This woman grew up learning to blend in as a boy, and then suddenly had to change that and learn to blend in as a woman. But she doesn't think she was actually predisposed to either behavior set, that it was all based on context. And there is a good amount of research to support that nurture can almost "create" nature, that habits that seem natural to us are actually just formed.



Anyways, this is why I agree with the above post--you shouldn't label yourself "the kind of person that does X" because being "that kind of person" is likely very strongly a result of your environment and culture. Even in terms of something as strong as gender, and definitely in terms of habits like your fitness level. We are all more fluid than we think... we shouldn't be afraid to try removing ourselves from all context whenever we can (this is why I like long-term travel!)

So the post was actually about existential loneliness. I don't suffer from a lack of people in my life.

tldr version: I want people to know me as I often feel I know them. I want people to predict my thoughts and jump from them to new places.

Here's the depressing shit I sent to OP, with a minor edit:

Hey thanks for the posting re: loneliness. I mostly deleted it out of the realization that the kind of loneliness I often feel is likely intrinsic to the human condition. If you've not read it I highly recommend http://www.amazon.com/Unbearable-Lightness-Being-Milan-Kundera/dp/0060932139

And in case you haven't there is, as I recall, a short chapter specifically about this melancholy. That as we age and grow as people the more we grow the further we grow from others. That as we grow in complexity the more difficult it becomes to speak the same language as other people. For a simplified example: when I say "balloon" that word is tied to a thousand thoughts which are in turn tied to a thousand more each. It would be impossible to take another person on that journey with me. To pull them into the simulated reality of my mind and let them smell the air, feel the hum, watch the reflections dance and so on. The best that I can hope for is to approximate. It feels like describing color to a blind person most of the time.

That said, with some few people I am able to share parts of my neural net and for fleeting moments it feels as though they can see through my eyes. Their responses not only show that they perfectly understand my perspective on what we are discussing, but that they have new thoughts to add. Those moments are like the best drug.

And I feel as though I have devoted a great portion of my life to chasing that dragon. It gets harder and harder to find those rushes.

I do work in one of the smartest cities on the planet, and I am certainly not the most intelligent person here.

Yet where I find intellect I so very often find a soul which has been sheltered from the world. I can discuss science, or food, or history and really enjoy it! But there are those darker parts of life which, for those who have experienced them, can be so integral to who you are as a person. The darker parts of life are like pillars that the web weaves around and through. Adversity truly does define us in many ways and often not for the worse.

Finally where there is a cultivated intellect there is also usually a paucity of general real world experience. So very often the erudite among us haven't even so much as waited tables or ever worried if they would be able to eat. I suppose I'm again speaking of adversity, but also glorious exposure to the 99% of the world that struggles and rages and suffers in cages. The salt.

I feel like an expat everywhere I go.

I know exactly how you feel. I love being around people but I have mild social anxiety so unless there's some liquid courage involved I tend to be uncharacteristically shy/reserved with strangers. I get very self conscious about this too, which only makes it worse and upsets me later on.

This book really helped me out. The exercises in it are based on cognitive behavioral therapy so if you don't have the money to shell out for psych appointments, it's an excellent self-help guide.

I used to think I could combat my anxiety little by little on my own but when I did that and experienced a setback it was hard to pick myself back up from it. The book was really helpful when it came to opening up to my friends and family about my problems, and it helps a ton just to know I have their support.

Before I never told anyone about my problems because it was too hard explain that even though I was so open and social with them, I couldn't behave that way around everyone. I felt stupid for having this problem, but the more I educated myself about social anxiety, the easier it became to talk about it and confront it.

Now that I'm more able to be myself around strangers I've been feeling a lot happier and more fulfilled. I still experience anxiety sometimes of course but I'm better at coping with it and not letting it hinder me. Feels awesome.

I hope you're able to overcome your fears as well. Good luck!

Maybe the doctor bag can be from Goodwill?

Ok for creativity:
maybe a blank canvas? what about an old typewriter so he can write letters to clients and his customers for his screen buisness, as well as his other stuff? I know it's kinda big and heavy, but maybe just maybe one on craigslist or something? This was pretty cool my SO got me funny cig eject button

For a night out I'm thinking why reinvent the wheel, if he likes to smoke get him a monthly supply of RAW joints cheaper than retail too,

For the day in , here's a organic face mask... and my Dear Lady friend, DO NOT GET THE FLESHLIGHT. YOU ARE HIS FLESH LIGHT!~ we value authentic stuff, authentic personalities and people who are real to themselves. No silicone will replace your beauty <3

My life has changed dramatically over the past several months. Big upheavals in relationship, family, job-- everything, really. It's been very uneven, but I feel like I'm finally in a good place mentally.

Strangely, thanks to some desperation and marijuana, I started doing several things that I'd later find are very much part of meditation/mindfulness. I'm reading this book right now, and I've never read a "self help" book before in my life, because frankly they're nauseating to me.

This one still makes me roll my eyes, and I feel like it's talking to me like I'm a 5 year old, but I guess that's kind of the point. I'm only on "week 1" right now, but I already see how some of the things I've been doing are part of this.

For example, I decided I wanted to eat my food "mindfully" before I read the book, as well as make physical fitness part of my daily routine no matter what. I've lost 30 lbs in the last few months, and last night I did a ropes course that I never thought I'd be able to do, both because of the exercise and frankly the ability to "be in the moment" and not freak out.

Also, yesterday, I was doing a job that was low paying, but one of the perks was getting to drive a convertible BMW around town, and it was GORGEOUS weather. Normally, I'd be all bummed that I had to go back to driving my PT cruiser, but I was able to actually enjoy the moment, shut out all the racing thoughts, and I just started giggling.

Now excuse me while I go meditate. That's actually what I was planning on doing after having my coffee and browsing reddit.. Weird timing.

Pushing someone away is about having an insecure attachment style, not about type. My ENTP ex did it to me all the time. The push and pull thing is characteristic of an anxious attachment style which can be resolved with a good therapist. There’s also a great book on the topic called Attached.

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love https://www.amazon.com/dp/1585429139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_tai_pcPWAb7QFHK79

Here is a good quiz to help you know your own:

https://www.idrlabs.com/attachment-style/test.php

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01 Three things helped me over time.

Search for awareness wheel and read about that.

This book also helped me tremendously: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-All-About-Techniques-ebook/dp/B0060YIBLK . Its only 90 pages so try to finish it haha.

I also watched the mystery method when I was 18 and although it is cringe as fuck, the "methods" actually closely links to the book above. Successfully picking up girls boosted my confidence and that also made a huge impact.

02 Struggled until around 18. Started going out and talked to random people in bars, picked up girls etc. And eventually just figured it out. Got more mature from there using the the awareness wheel and the methods in the book.

03 I actively listen to what they are saying rather than think of what I want to say next.

04 As I gained confidence, this sorted itself out.

05 Ask people questions and let them talk about themselves. See book in number 1.

06 Ask people questions and let them talk about themselves. See book in number 1.

So the CBT resource I use is called MoodGym: https://moodgym.com.au/home

You have to adapt the messaging to the behaviors that you are targeting, but it does provide a lot of tools in self assessment quizzes and techniques that you can apply. I have also been listening to a number of audio books. One that has been on point (but frankly I hadn't listened to it originally in the context of self deception) is called "Rewire" (https://www.audible.com/pd/Rewire-Audiobook/B00M0RC2EI). I found this very insightful and I need to listen to the first couple chapters again with this new insight into my self deceptive behavior. Finally, I would highly recommend "The Presence Process" (https://www.amazon.com/Presence-Process-Journey-Present-Awareness-ebook/dp/B005MRAT2K/ref=sr_1_1). This is a more of a meditation and Presence guidebook, but again, I'm finding it very significant in helping me detach from my embedded thought processes, and view my behavior more objectively... that is extract the self from the "I".

Thank you for the feedback. I'm going to use the "Am I deceiving myself now?" question to help trigger more awareness.

I drink 2 sugar free redbulls a day, every day. Usually one Acai flavored and 1 Lime flavored. Each have 114mg of Caffeine that 228mg of Caffeine a day plus usually a diet soda at the end of the day for another 80mg so thats about 300-350mg a day. (About 4-5 cups of coffee a day)

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It definitely helps me be up and active when i first get to work and it used to be absolutely essential to pull me through the post lunch food coma (Or that 2pm feeling) but ever since i started doing Keto (down 30lbs since April) i find i dont need them for energy, but i do need them to fight off the caffeine withdrawal headaches which can be brutal.

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Also they taste fcking delicious, I order them by the case from Amazon and the whole office knows that Sugar free Redbulls mean that I am near by. For 15 calories a can i literally can't think of a better thing to keep me going through the day.

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Yep, it is the Frizz. That's all we need - problem solved. Close the comments.

You know what the world needs, we need to be redirecting the R&D of humanity toward developing the Magic School Bus IRL. Then our race will have truely transcended.

Would it have to run on a giant supercomputer that could calculate the rearangement of space-time itself so we could manipulate the scales of all mass? - likely. But that would be the kind of world I would want to live in.

Also, I would hazard a guess that the Frizz her self is a genius, so we ought to start on some eugenic explorations of breeding super ENTP-Matriarchs to head the project of the supercomputer Magic School Bus. So we might have to accept cloning and some other eugenic practice into the zietgeist. I think Ill start seeding Ideas now.

Related Reading:https://www.amazon.ca/Sea-Full-Stars-Jack-Chalker/dp/0345394860/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=The+Sea+is+Full+of+Stars&qid=1555859804&s=books&sr=1-1-catcorr

The Frizz is our last hope to shore up humanity against the oncoming reign and swarm of envitable Ruling Class AI. We need to pull together on this.

An upvote for me is an Upvote for Generation FRIZZLE (AKA GenFrizz)