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I've been through these cycles of binge and purge so many times over the past twenty years, I can't even possibly imagine how many thousands of dollars of absolutely adorable clothes and accessories I've throw out in shame, only to regret it later. I think I'm finally past that, and while I can't necessarily help you get to that place, can't help you work through the associated cognitive dissonance and cultural pressures, I can maybe at least help you rebuild.

Panties are where I always start back off. Simple, plain, cotton panties. Fruit of the Loom, Hanes, whatever, something cotton and with a gusset. I've become partial to Fruit of the Loom Heathers, both in bikini and hipster varieties. I've tried all variety of novelty, skimpy, silky, frilly, and the tried and true panties that make me feel the most feminine, that I'm actually willing to wear day in and day out are simple and breathable. I've recently given Amazon Essentials a try, fully expecting the worst. I was prepared for them to be the sheisty garbage you'd get eBaying from China, poor stitching and loose threads and you wash it once and it falls apart. Not so! Though not as fantastic as Fruit of the Loom Heathers, I'm enjoying the Cotton Stretch Bikini and Cotton Stretch Thong varieties.

From there, no feminine boy is complete without a pair of shimapan! And naturally from there, you'll need to pair them with appropriate stockings!

Of course, one of my favorite things in the world after panties and stockings are skirts! I was just talking to somebody elsewhere on reddit today here, I'm currently wearing the shorter version of that specific skirt. Go long, go short, either way the material is thick and flowy, perfect for going spinny!

I'm also partial to spaghetti straps, and these are my daily drivers. The color set that I have isn't there anymore, but those are all great too!

The next part requires bravery. I have gone thrifting at Goodwill for skirts and tops exactly once, just a couple of months ago. And while I found a haul and was extremely proud of myself, it took all the psyching up in the world to be able to just go and do it. I got a few looks but nobody said anything to me and I powered through. I want to go again, I will go again, but wow that's going to be another brave journey to work up to.

Nail polish I pick up at Big Lots, usually for about $2 per bottle, nail polish remover too. I get all sorts of stuff there anyway so one or two feminine makeup items never raised any eyebrows. I've been shopping there for years so I figure most of the employees get who I am but not a one has ever given me a single bit of grief over it. You can tell from my personality, from how I walk and talk and present myself - it's not the biggest secret in the world, but holy fuck it's scary sometimes just being open with other people face to face. I'm not big on makeup outside of nail polish, that is to say I'm not very experienced, so the $1 and $2 brushes, mascara, eyeshadow, and eyeliner I pick up there do just fine for me. I imagine if I were more experienced or more than a basic bitch I'd be appalled at the quality therein, but I have the bliss of ignorance right now!

I wish I could be more helpful addressing the underlying problem, the shame and cognitive dissonance, the need to hide and the desire to do away with your secrets in order to feel safe and clean. It took me twenty+ years to be even a little ok with myself, to accept myself for who I am, to finally be past purging all my cute and feminine things, so I absolutely get it. Wishing you the best, the strength and resilience to be who you are, to not have to change to satisfy any outside ego structures, to enjoy what you do, and to recognize your inalienable right to look like on the outside how you feel like on the inside. It's a path, a journey, a long hard road that's tough to walk alone. The only thing you can ask of yourself is to do your best, to be the most genuine you that you can possibly be!

copy pasting this from the last thread:

I use Magic Shave Powder which works, for me at least, like nair, but better, and with less irritation. It's gotten rid of all the ingrowns and razor burn and the vitamin E/aloe formula doesn't irritate me at all unless I've been chafing..

If you do go with it, some advice:

1. A whole can of the stuff will easily get all the unwanted body hair off of me, someone who's 6'1" but not super hairy above the waist.
   
2. I have a 12 oz cup that I use to apply it. Dump the powder into a cup and slowly add water and mix until you reach a consistency a little thinner than pancake batter. Mixing water into the powder goes much better than mixing powder into water for stirring it up. Once you figure out the proportions for the consistency you like (around 1:1 by volume) you can put the water and powder in a lidded container and shake vigorously to make the whole thing go faster
   
3. I use a 2" paintbrush to apply it. Just brush it on, doesn't need to be super thick. It takes 5-7 minutes to work well so after I apply it everywhere I use the brush to agitate it anywhere hair is real thick to make sure it gets into the nooks and crannies, I don't know if this actually does anything but it gives me something to do.
   
4. Shower afterwards, not before you use it. It's not very irritating but it's a caustic product that dissolves your hair and your skin oils will protect you from it.
   
5. It's water activated, so you have to make sure it doesn't dry out after you applied it. You can do this with a little misting bottle full of hot water, by continuing to run the brush over spots that are drying out, or, my favorite, just running a hot shower to keep the whole place nice and steamy. This prevents you from getting patchy hair removal from spots you didn't notice were dried out.
   
6. After you've had it on for 5-7 minutes, hop in the shower and scrub yourself down. It's all drain and septic safe, and your hair will be broken down enough to easily go down any drain. Then wash, exfoliate, and moisturize
   
   Also: It smells, the stronger the stuff you buy, the worse it smells. Don't do it right before you invite a date over.
   
   as for avoiding bumps: exfoliate, exfoliate, exfoliate and moisturize, moisturize, moisturize. If you wear clothing that rubs against your body, you're drastically increasing the chances of developing red spots. You can tweeze or wax at where your pants sit on your waist to help there, but your upper thighs this is less feasible for that. My advice for the winter is to use clippers at a #1 or a #1.5 for your upper leg hair. The hair will still be there, but it'll be small, and there won't be nearly so much red bumps.

Hold onto those friends who love you, and they'll help with those feels. Also, it gets better, and you get better, as time goes on. Just make sure you have somebody to talk to.

Anyway, business time. Makeup. I think you'll find this helpful. Also, you might want to subscribe to /r/BeautyDiagrams and /r/MakeupAddiction. MUA goes hardcore and nobody can afford the shit they do, but you can learn general strategies from those fine ladies.

4 colors is a little fancy. You really only need two. But you can buy cool little compacts like these that coordinate the colors and tell you how to put them on. Just make sure you get one with instructions that matches your skin tone.

Eye liner. Brown and black are the basics. You can do a lot of subtle stuff. On your top lid, draw a really skinny line from the middle of your pupil to the end of your eyelashes. Stay as close to the eye lashes as you can. Once you perfect that, watch some youtube videos about eyeliner.

Foundation? It can really even out your skin tone, but it won't cover up stubble very well at all. You have to bring out the nukes for stubble. If you want clearer skin, then I like cream foundations (they're not powder, they come in a little compact with a sponge. I don't think anyone needs foundation, but you might like it.

For starting with underwear, I highly recommend these panties as they are relatively cheap and are made of good fabric. They're soft and stretchy so you really don't have to do much of anything, just put them on!

If you want to go a bit more fancy, I'd suggest xdress as they have some stuff that is quite nice and not overly expensive. They are also cut for the male body so easy to wear as well.

Personally, I love skirts and I bought most of mine off amazon. The ones with the elastic bands are great because you don't have to worry as much about getting a precise fit.

Best of luck shopping! \^_^

I'm gonna spam my own fashion sense, I hope you like some of what I like ;p

If you want dresses, I would recommend one size fits all dresses off Amazon. Then you don't have to worry about cups that are not filled by breasts. I really love Sakkas brand, which you can find on Amazon. I have this, for example, and the top part is stretchy so it's basically one size fits all: https://www.amazon.com/Sakkas-103141-Adara-Batik-Dress/dp/B00K1ML5JW/ref=sr_1_33?ie=UTF8&qid=1482827864&sr=8-33&keywords=sakkas+dress

Or any cheap $10-$15 dress from a place like Forever 21 is so poorly designed that it is effectively one size fits all.

Here are some cute colorful socks:

https://www.amazon.com/HSELL-Colorful-Rainbow-Argyle-Multicolors/dp/B01DSKGV92/ref=sr_1_33?ie=UTF8&qid=1482827534&sr=8-33&keywords=one+size+fits+all+dress

I know a lot of people here also love those cat thigh high socks, like these:

https://www.amazon.com/Kawaii-Cartoon-Animal-Tattoo-Stockings/dp/B0163422D4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1482827633&sr=8-1&keywords=cat+thigh+high

I bought this in the past and I think it's kinda androgynous

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00JKF0BNC/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o04_s02?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Cape coats are technically women's fashion but they're so obscure that I think a lot of people don't know how to gender them

https://www.amazon.com/Artka-Womens-Embroidery-Turn-down-Collar/dp/B00F8A0C5U/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1482827761&sr=8-1&keywords=cape+coats

I also really love Mordenmiss jackets (also off Amazon). They're really loose and kinda art smock-y.

I bought this pair of boots a while back and they're really, really nice!

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00KAI4GL6/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I've also bought these and I get tons of compliments on them

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00OMUIWD6/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I also have this Forever 21 dino sweatshirt and I can't walk 5 minutes without getting a compliment on it. Unfortunately it isn't sold in stores anymore, but this might help give more ideas of femme clothing.

https://cdnd.lystit.com/photos/2013/10/28/forever-21-blackgold-quirky-dinosaur-sweatshirt-product-1-14521999-527549268.jpeg

I think anything that is a "Women's [traditionally male clothing]" is bound to look fairly androgynous. Like women's button downs, women's sweatshirts and sweatpants, women's leather jackets, etc.

I've had great luck with Amazon. You don't have to buy undergarments or clothes made for women. There are plenty of male options to choose from that LOOK female. I wear only thongs, g-strings, and 'cheeky' briefs made of lace, silk, or nylon, with spandex blended in. Here are my favorites:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01MDQ8J6C/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

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https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B071KK69R9/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

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Both are semi-seethrough, blended with spandex and nylon or some other kind of non-fabric material. What I LOVE about these are that they are breathable, stretchy, and easy to care for: I hand-wash them in the shower with regular soap or body wash, and hang them to dry.

I'm also a big fan of silk blended with spandex, or satin blended with spandex.

There are 2 premium sites I highly recommend, although a bit more costly:

www.bodyaware.com

AND

www.xdress.com

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XDress.com is BodyAware's sister site, and they have more feminine stuff. Even lingerie, skirts bras and dresses

ok, i absolutely am loving these jeans

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01CHEALMS/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o06_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

also just copped these after finding 2 of my rubber plugs half melted

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