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u/bludswettiers · 1 pointr/helpme



Did you know that in Korea, people are recording themselves while having dinner? And people are actually paying to watch these videos! Is this another sign of loneliness creeping up on all of us?

According to a study of more than 170,000 people published at the Psychology Bulletin in 2013, the average adult’s network of friends and colleagues have shrunk over the past 3 decades. It’s no wonder many people feel lonelier than ever.

Feeling lonely, however, is not a direct cause of being alone. It’s possible to feel lonely in a crowd.

Loneliness, in fact, is more dangerous than isolation because it increases a person’s mortality rate, according to John Cacioppo, co-author of Loneliness: Human Nature and the Needs for Social Connection.

If it’s so dangerous, how do we fight loneliness then?

Wondering What to Do When You Feel Lonely? Here Are 25 Tried and Tested Tips

1. Just Show Up

Familiarity breeds attraction. A study published at the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that same-sex strangers felt increasing affinity towards each other, after each conversation they had. The same goes for online chat conversations. Don’t be hesitant to talk to people, even if you feel awkward or don’t like them at first. If you’re genuinely interested or curious about others, they’re more likely to reciprocate those feelings.

2. Go On A Solo Date

You know the problem with group and couples dates? The annoying “So what do we do?” and “Where do we eat?” questions. When you go on a date with yourself, you’re sure to go somewhere you actually like and you don’t have to wait around for others to decide.

3. Know The Difference Between Loneliness and Isolation

Loneliness is an emotion, mostly triggered by a sad memory. Unfortunately the brain loves to overanalyze things, so even momentary loneliness can escalate to longer spells because of thoughts like “Why do I feel so alone?” and “Am I a loser no one loves?” When this happens, just acknowledge the feeling and don’t overreact.

5. Watch A Movie

Watch a movie alone or call some friends to go with you—it doesn’t matter. What’s important is you immerse yourself in an interesting story that’ll erase your gloomy thoughts. Watch a chick-flick, or a super hero movie—anything but a tear jerker, really —and grab lots of candy and popcorn.

6. Volunteer

Focusing on the needs of others steers your mind away from sad thoughts. It’s impossible to feel lonely when you’re feeding the homeless, reading to kids at an orphanage, or dancing with grandmas at a salsa class. Helping the less fortunate will also fill you with immense gratitude.

7. Adopt A Cute Pet

A furry cat or dog will cheer you up. The playfulness of pets, plus the troubles (and fun) you’ll experience while training them will make you forget about your troubles. Even a goldfish or pretty parrot can do wonders for your mood.

8. Identify The Cause Of Your Loneliness

“What to do when you feel lonely?”

I can’t imagine how many people have Googled that phrase when they felt the pangs of loneliness. Unfortunately, it’s not the best question to ask. Would you ask a doctor for a prescription before they check your symptoms?

Instead of trying things randomly, hoping one solution will do the trick—losing hope and feeling worse when it doesn’t—it’s better to identify the cause of your loneliness first. If you were previously happy in your own company, what could’ve caused you to feel lonely this time?

Do your friends make you feel lonely? Is it your work or surroundings, perhaps? The cause of your loneliness will clue you in on the appropriate solution.

9. Read Fiction

Please don’t pick a Dummies book on how to stop feeling lonely. Reading self-help when you’re feeling miserable will make just you feel worse. Read a good novel instead. Losing yourself in a good story or identifying with a powerful character will boost your confidence and fill you with a sense of adventure.

10. Take A Bath

Where do good ideas come from? In the shower, right? Taking a nice, long, and relaxing bath is a great way to be bask in your alone time, instead of drowning in self-pity. Ladies, prepare a glass of red, chocolates and magazines. Gents, take a bubble bath ala Chandler by taking a manly boat with you!

11. Take A Random Bus, Train or Flight Off to Anywhere

Taking public transportation to a random location forces you to do two things—be in the company of strangers, and change your environment. Doing this will ward off loneliness and cure your wanderlust as well.

12. Dance (Naked)

Sometimes, we feel lonely because we’re actually alone. So take this chance to do the things you can only do when you’re alone, like dancing naked or jumping on the bed with your shoes on. Doing crazy stuff alone will give you a good laugh.

14. Watch Friends

Okay, it’s now obvious that I love this show! I’ve watched it 5x now and it still makes me laugh. Watch “The One with the Unagi” and “The One With the Embryos” if you’re feeling lonely and need a good laugh.

15. Get Coffee

Go to a coffee shop far from your apartment or office. Then order coffee and sit on the bar, or that big table on the center where you can talk to people. Compliment someone on their tie, shoes or bag. Start a conversation. Don’t worry if you’re bad at small talk, because chances are you won’t see that person again.

18. Look Through Old photos

Prepare some snacks or some tea and canapés ala afternoon high-tea, if you’re feeling fancy. Reminisce the good old days with a friend, your mom or sis. Remembering your crazy antics, and most embarrassing moments caught on camera will fill you with nostalgic memories and drive away loneliness.

19. Get A Camera

Get a camera, then go out and start taking beautiful pictures of things around you. A sunset, a barking dog, or a laughing baby—filling your life with beautiful things can take your mind off of loneliness.

20. Attend Classes For A Fun New Exercise Like Air Yoga, Pole Dancing, Or Trampoline Jumping

The exact exercise doesn’t matter. The point is to get yourself moving, while trying something new in the supportive environment of a group class.

21. Start A 5-Minute Gratitude Journal

It’s hard to feel down when you know that you have a lot to be thankful for. When you don’t know what to be thankful for, just write what you feel. Sometimes, it can help you identify why you feel lonely in the first place.

23. Plan A holiday

Nothing beats loneliness and overwhelm like planning a great holiday vacation. Looking up flights, hotel deals and stuff to do on a random faraway location will boost your spirits and steer your mind off your negative thoughts. You don’t really need to book a trip, sometimes the act of planning for one is enough.

24. Create Something New

Wondering how to not feel lonely, when you actually prefer to be alone? Getting bored is a prerequisite of feeling lonely. And what’s one of the main causes of getting bored? Having nothing to do. So keep yourself occupied! Try a new recipe. Create a scrapbook. Finish that DIY project you’ve been postponing for so long.

25. Do Something Craaazy

Dress up like a tourist, and do all the cheesy touristy things in your city. Eat the local delicacy, tour the crowded tourist spots and explore new locations you’ve never heard of.

u/Axolotlable · 2 pointsr/helpme

Third everything this guy said. A lot of this reply is mainly reiterating his words; because they are important! Also thrown at the end is random little things that help me through bad days.
This might be a little rushed because I have to take off; but I'll edit it in a bit. Hopefully it's not a garbage post, I've never commented on anything like this.

I went through a similar stage. I'm 25, I took off several years from school before finally going back for electrical engineering. I had to start everything from scratch (because I really didn't care until I was 21). I'm still exhausted and burnt out, and everyday has been challenging to drag myself through. But now I'm a senior and I am truly confident for the first time ever that the future is bright.

Do whatever you think is best for you; but realize (and remind yourself daily) that you are in a good spot!
Just by being here and addressing how you feel, you're taking a step in the direction that is best for you.

If being a teacher is something you really want, you're closer than you think. Power through. You're doing a good thing.

To reiterate what TrynaBeFunny said; drop the excessive alcohol abuse, and drop the pot. In my experience it depressed me, and I know very few people function well on it.

As for the exercise. Do it, but do something fun for you; whatever it is. If lifting and an elliptical isn't for you, it wont work. Find something that constantly challenges you and makes you happy. Rock climbing and cardio lend a lot of clarity to my life; find your thing.

Lastly, if you have any time; read. If you dont have time, try to read anyway.

Here's a great link that really changes your outlook on life.
https://www.reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/comments/1q96b5/i_just_dont_care_about_myself/cdah4af/

This is a link to a yoga book. The intro is fantastic and really helped me.
https://www.amazon.com/Light-Yoga-Bible-Modern/dp/0805210318

An Aesop Rock that makes me feel like I'm doing the right things in life.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sClhmDN5Fcs

Anyway, sorry for ranting. Hang in there reddit person

u/Blu2thYT · 3 pointsr/helpme

Sounds to me like you're depressed. Sometimes people who are don't even realize it. I'm in this state and I'm trying to get better. Recently I've been looking at self help books and they all the same thing: add something or subtract something. It's all about materialistic things. But I came across a couple of resources.

The first one is a TedX video, its only about 11 minutes long. Logan Laplante has a video about being happy and his unorthodox education.

There is also a book I recommend called Designing Your Life written by two Stanford Professors. They talk about designing your life and building your life step by step. Essentially they talk about instead of starting where you want to be, they have you start where you are.

It's been an eye opening couple of days for me, and I hope that these resources also help you.

u/TheDesertHobo · 1 pointr/helpme

I felt like this about a year and half ago, then a friend gave me this book https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01JNM8ADY/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 and I saw things differently, I want to try to do the same thing with you. You don't have to be spiritual to get anything in the book, you can even ignore that part of it if you really want to. Take it like you said this post was, an experiment, it seems you want to help yourself and thats the first step to becoming someone else -someone better- than who you are right now.

u/EmeraldShark · 1 pointr/helpme

Hi, I am a holistic doctor, I know the best treatment for depression/suicidal thoughts/voices. There was a story where firefighters in a fire station began to hear voices, have depression, and could not sleep after a cell tower was placed on their firehouse. Once they had the cell tower removed, the health problems went away. I believe your problems are caused by the same thing, microwave radiation. Source: Firefighters Living Next to Cell Towers Suffer Neurological Damage

Young children are more susceptible to microwave radiation. Here is what you should do:

  1. Put your cellphone on airplane mode or turn off completely.
  2. At home, turn your wifi off.
  3. Ask your parents to buy a RF Acoustimeter on Amazon.com
  4. Ask your parents to watch this: TED Talk - Wireless Wake Up Call
  5. Take 1/4 max dose of Amyloban 3399. This is a supplement extracted from a common food: Lion's Mane. Lion's Mane is a mushroom common in oriental food. Both these contain NGF (Nerve Growth Factor) which is extremely unique in that it promotes growth of new neurons in the brain, activating stem cells! No wonder asians are so smart, right? It also contains brain correcting properties and effectively treats hearing voices.
  6. Take 500-2000mg Cat's Claw. This herb is anti-inflammatory in case of inflammation in the brain. It also turns off the nitric oxide which is most certainly on in your body. Lastly it strongly supports DNA repair.

    It's extremely difficult to get better without an incredible amount of support that acknowledges the link between microwave radiation and health problems. I am so sorry you have to deal with this at such a young age. Please reply if you want more information.

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u/fyrie · 1 pointr/helpme

Rugs and tapestries. Bright or light colored. Also get yourself a happy lamp. I have one and it keeps my mood up during dark and rainy days.

Example: http://www.amazon.com/Verilux-HappyLight-Energy-Lamp-5000/dp/B002Q2H2JC/ref=sr_1_7_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1464659020&sr=8-7&keywords=happy+lamp

u/alzimba85 · 2 pointsr/helpme

Though I can't talk from experience in this respect, I did have issues with biting my nails, and although they're not too dissimilar, they're obviously different things, so not sure of this'd help..

And actually I've looked it up, and yes, it may help.
There's this nail varnish that; "discourages nail biting and thumb sucking for children AND ADULTS"..

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mavala-Stop-Discourages-Sucking-Children/dp/B00336WT3O/ref=asc_df_B00336WT3O/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=310509396915&hvpos=1o2&hvnetw=g&hvrand=7852064523560561618&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1007325&hvtargid=pla-523088092229&psc=1&th=1&psc=1

And don't worry, it seems you're not alone with this; hence the 'and adults' pre-fix..

Hope this helps.

u/stefioan · 1 pointr/helpme

You sound like you need this book.

And because Reddit is Reddit; I am not affiliate in any way with this book or the author.