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u/spacecraft99 · 3 pointsr/infp

Hmm there's a few ways to go about writing and publishing, and the way you choose is up to you.


I was always told the same thing about my creations, but decided I wanted to take it further, same thing with art. I see natural talent like having a knife, one that separates you from most people. But it's a dull knife, maybe it can take you to a certain point, but it can only cut so much, therefore limiting your potential. You need to sharpen and hone it through learning and practice, or it will be blunt forever. It's not easy or fast, but possible, as long as you have a genuine interest and vision. Cheap metaphor, but that's the concept I'm talking about. Take advantage of it, and you'll go far.


So you can begin by doing it "instinctually", by writing the way you would when at school for a teacher or assignment, by picking up a pencil and just going for it, relying on subconscious experience and inborn talent.


On the other hand, you can go about it more "intellectually" and make it more of a learning process through external sources, the way I prefer. I find this way is more tedious but also stimulating, more interesting, and fun. For example, if you wanted to write a short fiction story, you could begin with the basics of writing in general, then once you've absorbed that information, narrow down your interest.
When it comes to learning new skills, theories, or subjects, my general process is determine why I want to learn it/decide its importance to me -> determine how I will best learn it, (for example, I generally learn things best with reading and visuals) -> find where I can acquire resources, such as through the Internet or library -> begin with the basics -> practice -> go deeper in the subject -> practice more and more -> repeat the last two steps again and again.

When it comes to putting your stuff out there, it can be a complicated and long process, (I can't give any personal experience with that, as I've never considered sending my stuff for publishing or anything), and there's a ton of resources out there for that, books and articles.

Also, learning from the "masters" is important too, of course. Identify what inspires you, who inspires you, and go from there. A book that has helped me with this: http://www.amazon.com/Reading-Like-Writer-Guide-People/dp/0060777052


If you're looking for a more direct method (that costs money), a less common approach to book-selling is getting a booth at a local convention, like Comic Con, where you can sell your book(s). It will likely sell better if you have eye-catching visuals to go with it and maybe even illustrations by a commissioned artist. Also check out your local book store (not Barnes and Noble, a privately owned one), or public library, and see if you can put up cheap copies of your book in there. Not all libraries and businesses do the same thing, so I can't say if yours has this. But all that generally won't come until later, of course. If you're starting, getting feedback from as many people as possible, whether thru an Internet platform or people you know, practicing, and learning are the first steps. In terms of careers, there's editing, writing for comic books, writing for magazines or websites. These jobs will likely take a solid portfolio and education in writing/editing, etc. to get, though, if they're not independent companies.


Since you said not for the mainstream - I'm in my last year of high school, and with my best friend have a monthly printed chapbook (a little independent magazine type thing) that we send around our friend groups, and over time it has spread to many people and all over school. It contains various short stories students (myself included) have submitted. It also contains art from various talented artists in the school. It really is a great way to get many people's work out there to an audience. If you're at a uni or college, you could begin one of those with friends with mutual interests. You could also approach people who may be interested in submitting their work. All of that printing, writing, decision-making, and compiling will likely take your time and some money, but it's worth the gradual acknowledgement from an audience you will get if the magazine/chapbook is truly good and interesting. For example, it could contain student's poetry, short stories, recipes, local concerts, recommendations, reviews of books and films, photography, etc. It could also have a monthly theme that fellow writers and artists could submit their content for. I began the magazine because I wanted to take action, and was not going to just sit around dreaming all day that maybe someone will want to publish me - I can do it myself. Dreams and desires are cool, but I hate it when they just lay there stagnant in my mind. I stepped out of my comfort zone with it - I wasn't used to and don't enjoy initiating contact like that with so many people (whether it was offering them a copy, or asking a writer if they'd like their writing published in it) but I got used to it, and it's been worth it. And getting involved in a writing community, whether online (like /r/writingprompts for example) or writing forums, or in real life by taking a creative writing class, helps too, I think.


When it finally comes time to try and get published, the most unanimous advice authors have given is don't give up. I'm sure you've heard how many times prevalent writers such as J.K. Rowling (12 times) and Dr. Seuss (27 times) were rejected by publishing houses, but they didn't stop.


Also, writing competitions. Look them up, there's plenty of them. Sorry this was so long. I don't know how to write short responses for some topics, it's embarrassing.

u/Kingcob7 · 2 pointsr/infp

For more info on the process you can check out http://www.amazon.com/Unlocking-Emotional-Brain-Eliminating-Reconsolidation/dp/0415897173

Typically, I prefer Coherence therapy, but there are a slew of experiential based therapies if you'd like to get sessions to help practice and refine your own process. You can do it by yourself if so choose however or not do it at all! Freedom is nice ;)

If you find yourself looking for a therapy that is similar to this, you could look into Emotion Focused Therapy (not to be confused with the tapping one), Internal Family Systems, Focusing, Hakomi, and I believe Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy are ones that have a similar philosophy and approach. Anything experientially based.. To my knowledge they generally ascribe to the same non-judgemental, non-critical, non-shoulding, emotional retrieval from coherence therapy. It's a bit easier to find one of these therapists than a Coherence Therapist...which is actually surprisingly rare right now. Thus sorta my...advocacy and interest in it ;)

I'm in no way a therapist, so I can't really give you therapeutic advice but I can give you a few things I observe as an amateur. I'm going to be speculating a bit here, but want to be clear that the answers in your life are your own. And aren't going to come from someone else, certainly not some dude on reddit :P So these are thoughts that might help you out, but at heart the answers will be in yourself.

In general with my untrained philosophical / psychology thoughts.. I view shoulds and have to's as areas to be explored. They seem to be clear markers of feelings that aren't being explored. I think they are part of the standard method of relating that is possibly fueled by shame, and an alternative to that seems to be emotional curiosity. Rather than your husband saying "you should be less emotional", a curious statement might be something like "why are you so emotional?" With an implied sentiment of curiosity and compassion, and not the criticism that sentence might usually evoke. You both may discover completely valid and helpful things that come from your emotions. Or perhaps a compelling reason to be emotional even if it isn't "obviously" helpful. Often being "overly emotional" can be a shaming technique to someone who is genuinely unhappy. Being overly emotional isn't usually considered a bad thing if someone is happy all the time. Though...in a lot of childhoods that often is something that is punished. You may find compelling reasons to be so emotional, it might not be something you should stop doing at all or it could be your only way to express something else that remains unsaid or unfelt.

And in the same way you might ask him how it makes him feel when you're emotional. A lot of shoulds and have-tos come from an emotional place. It seems likely your being emotional might be making him uncomfortable in some manner, perhaps anxious, angry, sad or concerned. And often shoulds, have-to's etc. aimed at another person, are cognitive behavioral techniques designed to manage their own anxiety. He could have many valid emotional reasons that your expressions of feelings make him uncomfortable. It could be the example of people being emotional in his life were bad people, or people were punished for being emotional and in some way he's trying to protect you from that. It could be any number of deeply felt reasons that I can only speculate about that he holds inside him. Try to figure out why it is he thinks you should be less emotional. Maybe he's right in some ways, maybe he's wrong in some ways, but without more depth there is no real way to tell.

On your own have to's, when it gets down to sharing your voice. I noticed you said you should not be so afraid to share it. I'd consider again a more curious approach and say "hm, why am I afraid to share myself or my art with the world?" or "why am I afraid to express myself". You may find many completely valid emotional reasons to be afraid of sharing yourself. Sharing yourself and self-care both share very common roots in terms of self-protection and authenticity. There is a great trap in the world for sensitive people, being vulnerable to criticism, yet relishing authenticity. Finding a balance between those two can be really hard, and not something I think should be taken so lightly as if you're just being silly. Being hurt, criticized, or rejected when you share something you find profound, is reeealllly painful sometimes. And often we develop a desire to hide ourselves from painful experiences, it is a self-protective mechanism that is looking out for you the best it can. I wouldn't right off the bat assume you are wrong for protecting yourself. It may be frustrating and may look confusing as an adult, but on an emotional level there is likely a lot of wisdom for you.

If you feel trapped by your situation, I wouldn't consider it appropriate to practice experiencing not being trapped. I would say "hey trapped feeling, tell me all about it!" Without emotional awareness you really can't authentically make any shoulds or have tos for yourself. It could be that feeling of being trapped is extremely important in some way. It could feel accurate in some ways as well. And practicing to not feel that way, without understanding the hidden importance of the feeling, might serve to undercut some deeply compelling emotional truth in your life. Aim for curiosity around your feelings to find out what is going on. When you have all the information you can make assessments more clearly. I can think of many situations where feeling trapped is accurate and self-protective. I'd hate to see you try to fight that feeling in yourself only to find it was helping you in reality.

I think you might find something fruitful in the first statement about bonding over feeling misunderstood. It seems possible to me that both of you feel misunderstood by each other. And perhaps this is your most comfortable way of bonding? There could be an area to explore by yourself or even with a couples therapist. Feeling deeply understood by another person can involve a lot of intimacy, emotional expression, and vulnerability that is reealllly uncomfortable for a lot of people. I think often we desperately desire it, but fear it at that same time for quite a few valid reasons. Perhaps feeling misunderstood by eachother feels safe in some way. If they get to know what I'm really thinking or feeling, they might hurt me just like X did. If they don't understand me, they can't really hurt the real me. Maybe something like that.

I think you might find if you approach your inner life and discussions with your husband in a curious non-judgmental fashion, you may be better able to figure out exactly what is going on. Certainly therapists at times can be helpful with that if you're so inclined. I'd personally recommend it rather than asking folks like me who areeen't exactly trained :D It makes me a bit nervous to be helping in a situation that is so important to you when I really have little idea what I'm doing. I'm happy to help, but feel it might be the best help I could give is providing resources and suggesting someone who really knows what they are doing ;)

I wish you luck cushioncat :) Hopefully this helps you in some way :)

u/Soresmi · 2 pointsr/infp

Ok, you just piqued my Ne in a fairly vivid manner. Thank you for your kind words, ultimately I do rebel if I feel like I am just wasting time but as you say, it is cathartic. I honestly do not doubt I would make at least an average novelist, to be honest. As you can tell I feel utterly confident expressing what is mostly pretty mundane and I enjoy pulling words out of the butt of my intuition and being like, um, how does this apply and I look it up and it's exactly what I was trying to convey. This would be a byproduct of Si I feel.

I know I was all over claiming this mornng I was having the time of my life as if this was a major past time of myself. As it is. I feel I don't need to fake humbleness in being able to write effectively, even if I don't respect my Te enough to really proofread or spellcheck or all those things one can be anal about. Okay but I forgot to tell you why I could not be a novelist. I have serious issues coming up with creative things in a way I feel a novelist would be effective. Similarly with music I love new music with a passion, I have never in my life composed any form of original melody. The ideas I came up for novels in my teen years were so horrible even I realized fairly soon it was a lost cause.

A recurring theme for me the last few weeks for me has been validating how utterly on spot your phrase "uncontrollable extreme emotional state" really does apply to myself, personally. It is absolutely obvious to me that most of the time I am an INFP that really isn't letting Fi lead the charge. I'm not even saying it is hiding in the background. It is just letting one of the other three have their spastic form of fun, while sitting just barely in the background making everything more intense than it needs to be. You and I know how much this is essential, probably, I mean, I don't ever think to myself oh man my Fi is in control, it just is undeniably the most important layer in my mind.

But I learned a lot while reading this book which goes into functions effectively and it makes a point to point out the symtoms and consequences when all the other 3 types are taking the lead, as well as like several types of loops. And all of these unhealthy states are like an intimate mode of my brain functioning at least at times, often switching fairly rapidly, I even can understand now when I'm looping in ways not in this book. I can say with as much confidence as I can muster that if anything I have ever learned really applies to myself at all, I am an extraordinarily unhealthy INFP. I love myself to death and I'm great company for me. That being said chaos has been an undeniable point of pride, humiliation, anger, fulfillment, and sense of humor for like the entire time I have been conscious and sentient. I feel extremely frustrated knowing that all I have ever known is fundamentally, if not unhealthy, which I feel it is, pretty much at odds with the very concept of stability.

Ok I think today I don't need to get into another write until my cold tired fingers get tired of tapping out my memories....halfway sadness, dazzled by the new.

I have been wishing a novel I would enjoy would fall into my lap for a number of years now. Comparing my writing style to this guy you mention is a pretty effective strategy for gaining my curiosity, thank you. Like honestly around the year 2000 I pretty much forgot any authors but John Barnes existed and until like 2011 I just read his catalog over and over and over. But finally, I degenerated until while I probably read as much as I ever did but on reddit or whatever... I just feel kinda nostalgic about all the books I dearly loved.

Thank you for your conversation, I know my tendancy to never feel like I want to quit attempting to communicate even if it becomes exceedingly frustrating can alienate me from, probably most people I really don't want to alienate at least. I have a few great friends but loneliness sucks. Thank you.

u/Mark8931 · 2 pointsr/infp

I'm know I'm late to the party, but I'll share a brief story.

A few years ago I went on a weekend trip with some really close friends (we were 2 guys and 3 girls). We rented a cabin in a warm town, went to the pool,went for drinks, nice trip overall.

During a game (some dices with tasks to do to other players, just not the spicy ones), one of my friends got tasked with complimenting me. After a minute of thinking she told me I'm a nice guy. I wasn't sure why but I felt offended at that and it stuck in my head for a while.

After some thought and research, I found the book No More Mr Nice Guy (100% recommend it if you feel you are nice to people and don't get recognition for that).

Basically, sometimes when I thought I was been "nice", I was been manipulative from other's perspective. I expected others to return the favor and be nice to me without me making that clear; in my head there was a sort of contract between us after I did something for them, but only in my head. It seems like it should be common sense that I want others to be nice to me; but common sense is the least common of senses.

It's possible to be too nice. Offering help to people makes them feel indebted, which some don't like, and if I'm not clear what I expect in return, it can also make them uncomfortable. I used to go out of my way to find ways to help others, particularly if it was a girl I like, and didn't understand why they didn't like me back. I now know that being nice and feeling attracted to someone are not mutually inclusive; and people can resent you if you don't communicate properly what is it you want from them. Getting mad at other for not understanding doesn't help either.

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From the book I learned that being nice and trying to fix other people's live so they'd like me are very different things. You cannot make others happy, you can only make yourself happy and share your happiness with others. Tough in all honesty, it still takes some effort to put into practice. Pay more attention to becoming a happy person, you can attract more people into your life.

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I'm not sure if my situation is close or not to yours, but the lesson is you can still be nice while also paying less attention to being nice to others and instead being nice to yourself first.

u/jrg1610 · 1 pointr/infp

Granted it was written from a Christian/spiritual perspective, this book was very helpful to me and has great insights into how having boundaries in your life can protect/build your emotional wellness.

https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/0310247454/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1498238099&sr=8-1&keywords=boundaries

I still think that any person, regardless of their belief system, will be able to glean useful principles from what is written in it.

My thoughts and experiences

I discovered that I used to be overly compliant for fear of controlling unpleasant emotions in other people's lives (whether or not the emotion is directed at me or not). Although it appears charitable, being overly compliant is just as much a form of controlling people's emotions for things that they should be responsible for. A part of stopping the over-compliance is by being okay with seeing people suffer the consequences of their actions even though you are ideally able to alleviate their pain.

While having loose boundaries makes you effective at putting out short-term fires in other people's lives, what happens is that your emotional well-being smolders from being exposed to so many fires and you begin to get emotional "burns" over time. It is certain useful in the short-term, but damaging and unsustainable for an individual in the long-term.

As far as I know, this kind of behavior is difficult to troubleshoot for an INFP because their compliance is a natural emergent from the wonderful care an INFP can have for other human beings. It's basically learning to learn to turn off a part of you by realizing that standing up for yourself does not always spell the end of relationships, and it is necessary in the care of self. In fact, it works as a great filtering mechanism for keeping unwanted people out of your life because healthy people will still stick around and respect your differences and the manipulative people will leave when they realize they can't control you.

I think one of the most useful ways for an INFP to look at the conflicts that emerge from setting boundaries and limits on others is that conflict can be used as an opportunity for self-expression. It shows where one person ends and you begin, and an INFP should generally be excited for any opportunity for self-expression (lol!).

The personalityhacker podcast has recently had some interesting information on setting boundaries, an I'm sure most of the information I've shared has been from my experiences of considering the advice I've heard on that podcast and the book I linked before. I still have a lot more work to do, too.

This is the podcast:
http://www.personalityhacker.com/podcast-episode-0177-setting-healthy-boundaries-with-merja-sumiloff/

You seem to be an ENTJ who is doing a good job at being yourself—you understand the end-result of a behavior and that is a good enough reason for you to establish boundaries without a care otherwise. Your INFP friend, however, needs to have the reason for a change in their behavior build from the bottom-up, from an authentic place. It's not as effective of a process at yours is, but it'll bring a lot of health into other areas of their lives in processing it in the way an INFP needs to. So thank you for looking out for your friend and seeking out help on their behalf.

u/Ty505 · 2 pointsr/infp

I recommend the piano as a starting instrument. It is very flexible and dynamic. Guitar is good, but count on getting your fingers torn up and doing awkward shapes with your fretting hand. I play both instruments and create music.

I suggest you focus more on improvising and having fun with solid chord progressions and making songs out of them - experiment a lot. I recommend keeping it to one hand for starting out (it can be quite difficult to do two hands.)

A few ideas: Play fast, play slow, press all keys at the same time, or one at a time (arpeggio), only play part of the notes in a chord, and mix with others, etc.


Here are some good progressions:

Am-G-F-G

E-A-E-A

Em-C-G

I actually made a chart that can help you find really good progressions (tells you how to make key changes and everything - if you’re interested please feel free to message me)

There’s also some really useful apps that can help. UberChord for guitar, and AutoChord for Guitar and piano.

I also highly recommend having a “how-to-play” chord chart in front of you so you can easily find the chord quickly in case you forget: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000J6Z9EC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_8xNXDb7SXX1AC

Oh and get yourself some note labels to put on your keys (this will help to easily identify the notes):: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B019MF3VCC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_0zNXDbZ0TP417

u/PrettyCoolGuy · 1 pointr/infp
  1. Skinny does not mean healthy. It doesn't necessarily mean unhealthy, but bear in mind that many skinny people are just as unhealthy as obese people.

  2. IMO, a simple definition of "healthy" is rather hard to pinpoint. But I would suggest a baseline of being able to a mile in under 10 minutes, do 10 pushups and touch your toes when you bend over. If you can do those 3 things you are probably in decent shape. And you probably know enough about how your body works to pursue other fitness goals, like running a marathon. And that's something anyone can do, if they really feel like it.

  3. You don't need to run marathons, though. All you need is 30 to 60 minutes of moderate physical activity. This could be almost anything. A brisk walk. A bike ride. Swimming. Weight lifting. Hiking (bonus points if you carry a pack).

    When it comes to exercise, it doesn't really matter WHAT you did. It matters THAT you did.

  4. Figure out a way to get yourself on an exercise routine. Interested in running? Then check out the Couch to 5K. You could be running your first 5K race in 6 weeks! Hate running? Well, so does everyone else. But if you REALLY hate it, you could look into Starting Strength Or get a bike. Or go hiking.

    It really doesn't matter what you do. But it matters a lot if you do or if you don't.

  5. Learn to cook. I can help you with this. I'm a fabulous cook and nothing I make is "fancy". I just know how to cook really good, really healthy, really easy foods. Yesterday, I made a vegan cream of mushroom soup that would knock your socks off. It was fairly easy and it is very good.

    Cooking will save you money, promote good health and romantic partners LOVE it when you know how to cook.

    I know it sounds like a lot of big changes. But it is really a lot of small changes. Set yourself up for success! Don't try to do too much, too soon. If you make lots of small steps, you'll get there.

    "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step"
u/elementary_vision · 5 pointsr/infp

Obligatory Ira Glass quote if you haven't seen it

I'm gonna keep this as short as possible, but I know your struggle. In all likelihood if you're like me you have this spark or inspiration inside of you. But it's like being an infant that can't talk. It's frustrating because you want to create this vision of a beautiful piece of work that's in your head, but you feel like you don't how to proceed. You have to keep that spark alive, but also realize you may not have the skills or experience to actualize it. That's completely ok.

My biggest piece of advice is to let go of perfection. Look to your favorite artists for inspiration, but try to not to compare. What you hear from them is hours and hours of experience and it's unfair to compare yourself to that. I've been down that road, it leads to nothing but anxiety and procrastination. Instead here's what you should focus on. Just finish everything you start. No matter how shitty or imperfect. Let go of the idea of writing something good and just practice creating.

Also here's a book that you might like Also this one is pretty good too Though I'd recommend the mastering creative anxiety book first, it gives little lessons in the form of short stories and is more light hearted. Art and Fear gets a bit heavy at some points.

u/NoIgnoranceNoBliss7 · 2 pointsr/infp

Great reply! And of course I looked up the links you gave, which seem highly relevant and are provoking some productive thinking. Especially the Personality Hacker article.

Re sleep: Based on reading I've done (and it's probably obvious to anyone anyway), real (deep and sufficient) sleep is probably of foundational importance for an INFP. Given that high sensitivity (vulnerability to even "small" stresses and frustrations) is the INFP default setting, getting the body's hormones reset to normal each night is probably one the single best things one could do.

EDIT: The most enlightening book on how the body works -- well presented and an enjoyable read -- is "Lights Out: Sleep, Sugar, and Survival," by T.S. Wiley and Bent Formby. Major, interesting, and useful insights you don't hear from mainstream media/establishment gatekeepers, and backed by tons of respectable research (the last third of the book is footnotes to legit studies).

I like the idea of compatible, like-minded INFPs banding together to achieve success. For whatever particular goal and in whatever particular way they might see fit. Presumably, everyone's got skin in the game and no one person would have to shoulder every aspect of the enterprise. Cool idea.

OKCupid includes type testing indices? That's awesome. There's also a web site called TypeTango that specializes in MBTI type matching. Free, I think.

Re Living Situation: I know what you mean.

Re Mentor: The more I thought about this, the better it sounded. And all it would take is a simple web site to coordinate people and location. Younger INFPs able to tap the life experience of older ones ... Could be set up to cater to any or all the types as well, of course. Maybe even a small living could be made from such a matching service, especially if it also included other helpful offerings in the same place: facilitation of pen pals, local events/meetings, maybe dating, a bulletin board for people searching for potentially compatible roommates, ...

Thanks for your thoughts!

u/sarautu · 7 pointsr/infp

Yes, but I've learned techniques that help me get around it. (I'm old.)


One of the ways is to realize why you're procrastinating: It works.


But, despite it working, it is stressful. Some things to ponder:

  • They say it takes 95% of a project in the planning and 5% in the doing... this is especially true for a lot of course work. A lot of the time I was procrastinating I was actually working on a projects structure in the back of my mind, sometimes consciously, sometimes not. But once I realized this, that helped me realize it was one of the reasons I was procrastinating.
  • Also, working on stuff at the last minutes gives an amazing adrenaline rush... it's like you're working at peak efficiency. Realizing that I was liking those endorphins (sometimes a little too much) helped me.
  • Also, if you do things last minute, you "excuse" yourself for not being perfect. "I maybe could've done better, but I was crunched for time." If you realize you're putting things off so you have a built in excuse for not being perfect, you can work on being okay with not being perfect, and give yourself permission to do an equally slipshod job a bit earlier in your schedule.


    It may be part of our personality to procrastinate, but I've become more-often successful with getting things done a bit sooner. But when I don't, I don't put myself down. I just realize it's part of who I am.

    It is easier if you work it into your schedule, though, that you'll be spending the 12 hours before your 10 page paper is due writing said paper.



    It helps throughout life (and unpredictable deadlines) to make sure I'm not over-committed. I try to keep my life manageable, and leave plenty of time to day dream, because if I don't I'll day dream anyway, and sluff on my duties.

    Another things is to get a planner that works for how busy my schedule is. When I was in college, I used one of these. Mine was nature pictures. I carried it everywhere, to every class, to work, everywhere. The pictures helped keep me interested and also were a visual help of whether I was flipped open to the right week. I just listed all my projects/papers due on the calendar, as well as any odd scheduling issues I needed to track.

    Now that I'm out of college, I use a task list that is based on the bullet journal idea.

    tl;dr. Cut yourself some slack. There are tricks you can learn to make it work out okay in the long run.
u/francis2559 · 1 pointr/infp

Oh there are so many good ones.

Overcoming Shyness (not quite introvert, but good)

http://sarahcandersen.com/

http://floccinaucinihilipilificationa.tumblr.com/


Comics I've enjoyed a lot as an introvert but are slightly further away in theme are Nimona and Hemlock.

Nimona has finished and Hemlock is on a long break. Edit: the artist of Nimona, Gingerhaze, did this amazing piece.

Now completely unrelated, I think Unsounded is probably the best comic on the internet right now, with top writing, excellent characters with well developed internal worlds and motivations, great action, and hey, a regular update schedule!

I'm sure I'll think of more. Pouring through webcomics is one of my favorite things to do in alone time! :)

u/WhiteTigerZimri · 7 pointsr/infp

I do think INFPs and ISFPs can get stuck in the "nice guy (TM)" stereotype because they often are passive and don't ask women out. They tend to befriend women, drop lots of subtle hints over time, and hope for the best... then when they confess feelings, they get upset if the woman isn't into them.

My recommendation is - ask women out sooner rather than later, whenever possible. Tell them you like them early on, if there is some attraction there, so you don't spend months getting your hopes up for nothing. Also remember that your emotions and feelings are your responsibility, not anyone else's. If you can't manage your emotions effectively, do some reading about emotional regulation skills and consider seeing a therapist.

For more tips, I'd recommend Dr Nerdlove's blog as he has a lot of great advice about avoiding the "nice guy (TM)" behaviour. Models by Mark Manson and No More Mr Nice Guy are a great books if you want to get better at dating women and being more assertive.

u/Hubbletron · 2 pointsr/infp

That's amazing man! I have just recently discovered the song and I'm in love with it!

Interestingly enough I have also just ordered this shirt a few days ago lol: https://www.amazon.de/gp/product/B00K58W096/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_image_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Take care buddy!

u/iamstevetay · 5 pointsr/infp

I'm an INFP as well and have gone through a situation that was very similar to what you are describing. It sounds like you're emotionally exhausted.

Like any kind of exhaustion you need to rest. And if everyday you are exhausted, then you need to make time to rest each day.

I have found that it is necessary for me to have time alone, away from everybody, to recharge those "feeling" batteries. That plus ensuring I have a full restful night's sleep. Whenever I notice that I'm feeling sad, as an almost default emotion, there's a 99% chance I haven't been getting enough sleep, and/or I haven't had enough time to myself.

It's really important to make this resting time a priority. I know that's the hard part because INFP's instinctively want to help others. Sometimes we give too much and we feel selfish taking time for ourselves. We need to take time for ourselves so that we can recharge. Once we recharge we can give our attention to others, but if we give too much then we become exhausted.

I found this book, 'Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking' by Susan Cain (https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0307352153/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1497698234&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=quiet+the+power+of+introverts+in+a+world+that+can%27t+stop+talking&dpPl=1&dpID=517rtAtrHzL&ref=plSrch) very helpful.

I also found seeing a therapist helped me better understand myself. Maybe that would help you too.

I hope this helps.

u/pradeep23 · 2 pointsr/infp

Love your list. Ordinary life is a blessing. Really believe in law of attraction: me too. Do check Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender

u/mikneleh · 2 pointsr/infp

In addition to 16personalities, I also took tests at personalityhacker.com, truity.com, personalityperfect.com, personalitymax.com, and onlinepersonalitytests.org.

For books, I just started reading Late Bloomers and plan to read Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World and The Comprehensive INFP Survival Guide next.

I also find the blog posts at Introvert Dear and Psychology Junkie very helpful.

EDIT: fixed some of the links

u/abcdefg123abc123 · 1 pointr/infp

I’m guessing a good place to start is with attachment styles. I used to feel/be similar to you, and learning about how I attach to others helped me create healthy relationships and deal with the childhood abuse. Here’s a book to consider. Hugs... you are definitely not worthless.

u/MoodyMcSorley · 5 pointsr/infp

There is nothing noble in enabling irresponsibility in other people. Set boundaries with your friends and don't let them make their responsibilities yours.

Tell them to ask for their own damn napkins and keep yours to yourself.

btw, I like this book a lot. If you find this pattern with your friends, you might be dealing with lack of boundaries in other areas of your life, so I recommend giving this a read. (I'd suggest every human being read it, especially idealists like NFs)

https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/0310247454

u/popcorn_9 · 2 pointsr/infp

I generally use acrylic paint but I wanted to try the UV ones - I got these: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00CAXOUWO/ . The black light gave me a headache though. lol I might stick to regular acrylic paint

u/clipclopdontstop · 4 pointsr/infp

I'd say this isn't an INFP thing since I've never been this way and other INFPs I've known haven't either. I'd say it's an avoidant attachment style and would recommend this [book] (http://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139). If you're skeptical, this is based on decades of psych research, so it's not some self-help bs. I could be wrong, but I think it would be worth looking into...

u/zerthbound · 1 pointr/infp

I'm drinking the Starting Strength Kool-Aid. So far, so good.