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One of the contributing factors to women being paid less than men is that they generally are less likely to negotiate salary. I'm sorry that your friend has found herself in this sort of situation.


When you negotiate it is important to remember that you are looking for a complete compensation package which may include vacation (more accrual or more to start), signing bonus, relocation expenses, retirement contributions, etc, in addition to the salary. Some of these may only be available to executives though.

When I was applying for jobs after graduate school I went to a counselor and we spent an entire hour on negotiation techniques. I spent $60 and used what I learned to increase my starting salary from $73K to $88K, with a grade increase to boot. The core of the conversation was


Me: "Thanks for seeing me [I went to negotiate face to face], and for the offer, but I was looking for something in the low 90s"

HR: "That would be for a level 4, and this offer is for a level 3"

Me: "So maybe I need to be a level 4"

That was over a decade ago, so I'm at over a $150K return (not including the percentage increases during the raises) on a $60 investment.

The key is to be respectful but straight forward. The company almost always has room to adjust, especially if they have someone that they want to hire. They don't want to go to the expense of screening and interviewing more candidates, checking references, making offers, losing working getting done, etc for another few thousand a year.

I put the material from my time with the counselor here and it has some information that applies to your questions. In short:

1. Bring up compensation only after they have figured out that they want to hire you. See the graph in material.
   
   
2. Keep the complete compensation package thought in mind. Maybe they can't do much on salary, but how about a signing bonus or extra vacation?
   
   
3. The first person to mention a salary number is at a disadvantage. Polite questions that seek clarification are good and always appropriate.
   
   
4. Make the employer say the number first. Your friend should then be polite, but non committal. See the material for examples. Your friend could then say "I was expecting something in the XXX range".
   
   
5. See the material. Also, search for salary threads in /r/jobs.
   
   Good luck!

The Game is just a story, though it does include some tips and examples of the techniques they use. It's more entertainment than educational.

Instead, he should read the actual handbook written by Neil Strauss and Eric von Markovik (Style and Mystery).

Disclaimer: It should go without saying that this material is somewhat controversial. I read The Game and the handbook back in college, and it did wonders for my confidence and romantic life, but I often get funny looks when I recommend these books. He also shouldn't expect changes overnight. Real confidence takes months or even years to build. By that time he may grow out of the desire for meaningless hookups and might find himself more interested in something more permanent. Either way, boosted confidence won't hurt.

Your friend sounds really independent. Tell her that if she honestly wants to do this, she will need:

• Her Birth Certificate.
  
  
• Her Social Security Number Card.
  
  
• At least $500 USD in the form of Prepaid Visa Cards. They function just like credit cards, except you pay for them with cash and have to activate them online.
  
  
• A Heavy-Duty Bike. Having a bike more than doubles your range of activity, allows you to commute, grants fast-travel, and most importantly keeps you active and healthy.
  
  
• A smartphone w/h detachable SIM card. This is IMPORTANT. Having a means of communication is essential if they're going to be on there own for any length of time. It enable you to have a job, call for help, etc.
  
  
• A laptop. This is REALLY IMPORTANT. Having a computer increases your standard of living exponentially. It lets you assess the internet, and unlike the phone, gives you a larger platform with which to organize.
  
  
• A means to defend themselves. This is REALLY REALLY IMPORTANT. Your friend is only 17, and there are numerous threats if they're alone. You don't have to dual-wield Desert Eagles, a stun gun will suffice.
  
  TL;DR: SSN,VISA,BMX,GSM,STUN GUN
  
  EDIT: I like how everyone else is criticizing the life choices of a person they know nothing about.

He may perceive that others will like him more for doing favors. He may believe that he is valuable because of the services he renders. Whatever the reason(s), your friend has the capability to say no, he just chooses to say yes.

There are lots of self-help books on the topic. "Your Perfect Right" and "The Power of a Positive No" are both geared towards men.

The psychology behind difficulty saying no is complex and rather irrelevant. Your friend does not have to understand a behavior in order to correct it.

Having his/her own hops is a great start, but their next step should be to learn a little about the fundamentals of the brewing process and fermentation science. For beginners just trying to make a brew, the very very basics will work fine. No need to get complicated just yet.

Have them check out Papazian's The Joy of Home Brewing or Palmer's How to Brew. Or if they want, Palmer has an online edition.

Next they'll need equipment and ingredients. Check out these vendors or search for a local brew shop:

Northern Brewer
Midwest Brewing
Austin Homebrew Supply
William's Brewing

Cheers.

Your options depend on how much you're willing to spend, and how much you're willing to trust other people.

Sure you could pay someone, how much? No clue, but let's try some napkin math. It's roughly 1500 miles or about 42 hours (normal driving, uhauls are slow as shit so it'll likely be way longer than that) according to google. An hourly driver makes on average 20 bucks an hour, or 840 bucks, plus food, plus lodging plus flight back to texas (you don't expect them to drive through the night right?

But hourly for a job like this doesn't really work, per mile makes more sense. Truck drivers make .28-.40/mile (or there abouts) so you're looking at 420 to 600, plus lodging and meals and a flight back to texas.

Regardless of pay, you're trusting someone with all of your personal belongings and a car, over 1500 miles, and multiple days to not just take off with you stuff or some how bamboozle you. Hiring someone for something like this that isn't a close friend is something I could completely avoid

Shipping a car cost 750-1500ish (it really, really depends) and that price includes all the drivers costs. This also allows you and your SO to then drive the uhaul and towed car together while your other car makes it way too the east coast on a rig.

I haven't moved across the country in a long time, but renting a uhaul and a tow trailer for a trip like that is not cheap, which I'm sure you've already seen the quotes for, so hiring someone or shipping your car might put you out of your budget.

If you don't have a friend that will help for just airfare home, meals, and lodging (no pay for driving) then your most cost effective (and lowest risk) option to it to just suck it up and drive separately. Get a pair of two way radios These tend to have pretty good range as long as you mostly stay line of sight, plus you'll have your phones incase you get too far apart.

Set a route with checkpoints that if you're not in contact with each other, you stop until the other one arrives. Use some type of phone app to also monitor each other's location, this give redundancy incase you're out of cell service or a checkpoint gets missed. Have your nightly stops planned as well.

I might have some suggestions, but a lot of it comes down to why you don't want to drive apart, some reasons you can work around (like I did above) but others (medical issues, etc) might mean you need to plan more or up your moving budget.

Hope this gives you some ideas.

I worked at an adult store for 5 years and after trying out many different lubes, this is by far the best I’ve ever used.

But as others have said, coconut oil is awesome. Just be sure to wash your dick off really well after using it.

Your friend needs one of these:

Alvantor Bed Canopy Bed Tents

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07GH2FRND/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_p4I4CbQK5NX04

EDIT: I’m not sure there really is a “normal”, but I’m sure your friend wouldn’t be the only person to talk about night fears with their therapist. That’s what they’re there for, may as well get their money’s worth out of their sessions.

The closest thing I can think of like what you're describing is a magic milk pitcher magic trick. Something like this. If you pour the liquid into just the outer cavity it takes only a few cups of liquid to make the pitcher look completely full (from a decent distance away of course). You could "chug" a "full pitcher" of water in a matter of seconds but only if you're not under close scrutiny. It's also not very portable.

Best solution I can come up with that is mobile would be to get one of those infusion water bottles and freeze an ice pack or reusable ice cubes into the infusion section. That way it takes up a ton of room in the bottle that would otherwise hold water. You'd probably get close to only 50% as much water per fill.

The simplest solution though seems like it would be to just get one of those giant hydroflasks that are opaque and pretend to fill it all the way up but really just put a little bit of water in there. Then if needed just mime the act of drinking it.

I like what /u/ThenWhatDidYouExpect wrote.


There are several books that I think have merit.

I really liked this one
http://www.amazon.com/Hell-Back-Maurice-Rawlings/dp/0840767587

A product like this can be pretty nice if you're not good with knots. You usually have to buy the cuffs separately though.

YFSK that life is full of risks: for us as individuals, for anyone in our families, for any of our friends. These risks include an infinity of terrible things that can happen during conception, during pregnancy, during childhood and during adulthood. Tell her that while we can be mindful of the potential catastrophes that can befall us and our loved ones, we shouldn't allow our fear of these things to prevent us from fulfilling our goals, whether we aspire to cross the street (and face the risk of being hit by a bus, notwithstanding the pleasures awaiting us on the other side) or start a family (and face the risk of any number of misfortunes, notwithstanding the spectacular pleasure and fulfillment associated with bringing a new and unique being into the world, regardless of its abilities or limitations).

See also A Guide to the Good Life, by Bill Irvine.

tl/dr: feel the fear and do it anyway

https://www.amazon.com/Encyclopedia-Psychoactive-Plants-Ethnopharmacology-Applications/dp/0892819782

There a lots of books, not sure if this is what you’re after but I’ve heard great things about it.

Tell him to procure and softly play a VHS copy of NBA Superstars to inspire himself to greatness.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy has helped me a ton. Your friend might consider something non-medicinal if he doesn't like the side-effects. This book has been especially helpful for me.

I found this

I don't know, but my gut tells me you can't do it unless it's shown to be safe with a Certificate of Measured Radiation.

A deodorant that is designed to STOP sweating has worked for me in the past, and I have the same problem as you - whatever I do, I sweat within hours of being clean. I use https://www.amazon.com/Driclor-Antiperspirant-Roll-on-75ml/dp/B001TU1EPU

Smelly penis? Try putting shower gel on it whilst it's dry, just for a minute or so before you shower. Seems to make it cleaner in my experience.

Shower in the morning! Showering at night means you've then got 8 hours of smell buildup as you get hot and bothered in bed before you see anyone.

Also shower every day... Seriously, you're in the minority if you don't bathe every day? You're not ill, or a lazy teenager so..?

Good luck!

I'd recommend taking the hard drive out to see what size it is and then ordering a SATA to USB connector lead online. You can then plug the hard drive into any computer. That way you can have a look for yourself to see if there is anything 'dodgy' on there, and if you don't find anything, you could put back the hard drive and get it computer fixed with out worrying about it.
I picked up this SATA to USB lead recently off of Amazon for $12 and it works great: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00HJZJI84