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Yes this is true but if you think about it the way the system is set up affects these outcomes. Bullying in schools for example is affected by wealth inequality. Why? Because people's status is either implicitly or explicitly related to their level of wealth. When I was growing up I felt marginalized, spent a lot of my time playing video games, and as I grew older it was difficult to make up for the necessary social skills and how to talk to women I hadn't developed as well as more extroverted peers as a result.

More people would have all of those things if the society we lived in wasn't so massively imbalanced. As wealth equality gets better within society, so does every other indicator of happiness, including in relationships. That's why places like Denmark is considered one of the happiest places on earth along with Sweden.

It's true that someone will always lose - but how much do they lose by and by how much is dependent on how the society is stratified. In a hyper competitive capitalist society the "winner" however you define that is the one with the most wealth period - and the way to win the game is not always about providing what people need in a system, merely what is profitable. And if you're a "winner" you'll have an enormous piece of the pie while someone who is arguably nearly as skilled but lacking in opportunities statistically ends up with far far less.

https://www.amazon.com/Success-Luck-Good-Fortune-Meritocracy/dp/0691167400

The individualistic language of "self care" makes a broader societal and social issue your fault:

https://thebaffler.com/war-of-nerves/laurie-penny-self-care

This applies to all aspects of life, and certainly in relationships. In more egalitarian counties, gender roles are more balanced for men and women and studies show this leads to more happiness:

http://www.economywatch.com/economy-business-and-finance-news/gender-equality-key-to-wealth-and-happiness-in-nordic-countries.27-03.html

In a hyper capitalist society, incentives are more skewed by monetary gain. So the one who makes the most money attracts a much larger share of attractive or or otherwise desirable women. In other words, it's like a pyramid shape -- dating also becomes much more competitive than it actually need be, and this leads to a lot of misery as people are more lonely.

Then the solution people tell you is well stop focusing on it so much and focus on this instead -- but that's just a slogan. It's not reality -- people have real human needs. But in terms of strategy being able to train oneself to be more social is what helps a ton. It's a skill like any other -- and it's true that those of us who began life as introverts may have a certain ceiling we can hit relative to others but ultimately socializing is a skill and can be vastly improved with practice.

Bit of a rant I went on there but I'm kinda high hahaha

I used to be a nice guy, who thought I was screwed just by being a decent person. Last summer, I was a completely different person than I am now. I have changed tremendously.

Some of that was because I read a book from amazon called "Models: Attract Women Through Honesty". It's a great book, but it taught me that women aren't attracted to men who value someone else's opinions more than their own. Women are attracted to a man who knows what he wants.

I used to obsess over everyone's opinion of me. Everyone had to like me. Now, I do what makes me happy. That's all that matters to me. If I'm happy, then what else could I want. That said, I still get told frequently that I am always nice. Nice because I am polite to people who treat me with respect. You respect me, I respect you. That simple.

Nice guys maintain this delusion because they think if they show everyone how nice they can be, that will get everyone to like them. But no one will have respect for a man that doesn't respect himself just because a few people don't respect him.

It's of course exaggerated here, but the central idea in this pic, that many things are viewed as unappealing when the person is unattractive but are viewed as appealing when they are attractive, is correct. Attractiveness dramatically changes how you are treated and viewed, and changes how things that you do are treated and viewed.

Your attractiveness can even drastically affect your employment and earnings potential. There's a good book on that topic titled "Beauty Pays: Why Attractive People Are More Successful." It's amazing how our physical appearance can so radically shape our lives.

Anyways, the important thing to note is that treating and viewing others differently based on their attractiveness goes both ways. Men to women, and women to men.

A man could easily see a fat and ugly woman who likes a lot of nerdy stuff and think "man, what a socially awkward weirdo" but then see an attractive woman who likes a lot of nerdy stuff and think "that's so cool that she likes those sorts of things, I love nerdy gamer girls!"

I didn't think about it either until I read the book Factory Girls, which is about all the women in China who are leaving the countryside to work in factories in the city. One of the effects of this is that women are choosing to get married later. They enjoy having their own independence and money. And since many of them are sending money home to support their families, they now have a lot of power in the family dynamic that they didn't have before because they were female. It's a really interesting book.

I was thinking that the same thing has happened here too. More women are choosing to have careers and financial independence. I didn't get married until I was 33. And like you, I worked full time and owned a home. I didn't have to rely on a man to support me. I really didn't expect to get married either. But I had the freedom to marry or not marry based on my career and my financial situation.

You could grow your own. As an alternative, you could get some that's already prepared. There's just no excuse to be without eggplant - heck, even your dog should have one! Oh, and be sure your hair is cut, styled, and colored nicely.

Once you've lured m'lady home, be sure to have the right kitchen accessories and the right sheets on your bed (you might want to fortify yourself before any "bedtime activities", though!).

I hope this comment hasn't stressed you out a lot. As you can see, it's pretty easy to get all the eggplant you might need to impress any m'lady out there!

I looked for the book on Amazon and "The Continuum (2014)" was written not by Matthew, but by Levi Grandt.

Was anyone else bothered by the italics? Did he think it made it romantic? Well, either way, the ball is in your court, reddit. Good bye my loves.

Start off small in my opinion. If you're hoping to one day be a different person, that won't happen. The thought becomes overwhelming in my opinion. But you can do small things for self improvement. A new hairstyle for example. That's a big confidence booster. Try reading some books to, like No More Mr Nice Guy.

oh jesus, he's one of those PLS RESPOND losers. I love/hate those.

this one is legit creepy though. he's outright stalking you. jesus christ. you need to get pepper gel. it's like pepper spray, but better. they sell it on amazon for like 5-10 bucks or something. saber is a good brand.

I've relied on that one for years and it's never let me down.

ACTIVE sonar is sending out a ping and mapping the return.

PASSIVE sonar is the hydrophone array - specifically matching heard radiated sound against a database to ID a vessel.

Dig out some Tom Clancy.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Submarine-Nuclear-Warship-Military-Referenc/dp/0425183009

It acts as a reference sourcebook alongside Hunt for Red October.

One of the BEST descriptions of the AN-BQQ1000 array on the 688-class hunter-killer nuclear subs...

If you remember in HFRO and Crimson Tide - once a sub is detected, the array listens to propeller sounds and other noise signature to match the vessel type.

In dating/seduction - the guy has to pattern-match inbound IOIs. But when having to do that consciously - he needs to know what to look for...

They're probably referring to No More Mr Nice Guy, which is based around correcting Nice Guy tendencies. It looks like this meetup is actually related to this book as well.

There's a book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy" which I recommend to all the nice guys (like I used to be) out there.

And for Rick & Morty fans. This is exactly what Rick tells Jerry in the episode "The Whirly Dirly Conspiracy".

Yeah. I mean, there's nothing inherently wrong with needing attention sometimes. But at least do people the respect of asking for it in a straightforward way. And you need to be prepared to a) be declined for any or no reason, and b) give them full attention when they need it too. And if those conditions are unacceptable, then what you need is a therapist, not a friend.

Serious mental illness is the same as serious physical illness. A friend or family member can nurse you with chicken soup and cough syrup if you have a cold, and they'll be especially motivated to if they know you'll get them back someday when they have a cold. But they can't single-handedly treat you if you have cancer. When it's that bad, you need a doctor. Likewise, a friend can probably help cheer you up if you're having a bad day, or maybe even a bad month, but you can't expect them to fix your longterm suicidal depression. You need a professional.

It's just completely unreasonable to expect your friends to manage your precarious health when they both don't have the expertise, and they already have their own lives and their own problems to manage.

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Thanks so much for the gold! I'm really glad that people are getting something out of this post. I'm going to take this opportunity to make a book recommendation, because it's full of the most amazing, no-bullshit life advice I've ever read. It's called 'How to Be a Person in the World' by Heather Havrilesky. It's a collection of her 'Ask Polly' advice columns. She's amazing, and her perspective has been changing my life lately.

>Another writing rule that's big is to avoid adverbs like the plague, particularly words like "suddenly". Such a shame Brittain used this very word (which is considered a cheap and childish way of conveying suddenness, FYI) to describe a wolf howling and Ella jumping back in fear. So not only is Ella physically perfect, she's faint-hearted too. Such a fair maiden. Never was a maiden so fair nor so beauteous. Nor so boobilicious. Oh please.

Her review is fucking hilarious! Ruthless! Is there a screenshot or archive of his Wattpad activity anywhere? edit: He's a mug.

Okay, the only thing that was more funny than this product, was in the bottom under 'customers who viewed this, also viewed: https://www.amazon.com/Tanya-Supplies-Costumes-blonde-Wigs-gift/dp/B00JR5CGJ2/ref=pd_sbs_121_4?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=T0QVGANB7A3SE0XBF0J0

A female blonde hair wig for a dog. Use your imagination there, as I'm sure the buyers do.

Read these two books:

• The Way of the Superior Man
  
• Models: Attract Women Through Honesty

Like this: https://www.amazon.com/Models-Attract-Women-Through-Honesty/dp/1463750358?

check out /r/redpill, read this book, contemplate existence