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Hey there, I'm writing a note to you - but haven't finished it yet. But just wanted to let you know so you don't go deleting your post :)

Ok... hope this helps some

Hi,

I was on the treadmill trying to kick these blues when I decided to see if /r/sad existed and came across your post.

First off, you seem really bright and friendly, kudos to you for being aware of your situation. I can imagine that living paycheck to paycheck is scary and stressful. Even though you say you are all over the place, that makes perfect sense – why… well, self-esteem, self-worth and how you define yourself are being challenged. I defined myself by my job, which made items at work affect me much more than they should have. But in the end it is all the little stuff that adds up to become stressful and can lead to bad habits (not enough exercise, junk food, drinking…) (at least in my experience). Major life changes definitely are playing a part. Try to remember to take care of yourself.

First, there is nothing wrong with expressing yourself. You have a right to feel the way you do even if you’re not sure exactly what that is. Let yourself feel, let yourself accept that it is ok to be anxious, concerned, or sad. While others can always be worse off, that doesn’t invalidate your feelings.

I have a hard time not giving some advice, so take what you want from this

Watch out for “the voice” in your head, it is the one that says “Should” a lot. You should be, you should have… Instead focus on saying “I’m working toward”, or “It isn’t perfect now, but this takes time and I know I can put in the effort”.

If you are in to books – maybe try this one: https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B00AKKS278/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?ie=UTF8&btkr=1
It’s a bit over the top, but it did help me to find some time for myself. There is always meditation, affirmations, or something to try – what you are doing now isn’t getting you where you want to be so shake it up, try something new. Maybe browse /r/personalfinance/ for tips.


Would it help to talk to your wife about how you feel? – I know; I don’t open up easily either. Would it help to break it up so it doesn’t feel so hard – meaning, instead of looking (worrying) about the future (what if the car breaks), just worry about the day or the week.

What really matters are your motives.

As Mr. Rogers would say, I like you just the way you are.

Don't be certain that things will get better. They might not.

I say the above at the risk of being massively downvoted, of course. But I say it for two good reasons: (1) It's true and (2) Few things are more crushing than believing that things are absolutely bound to get better, only to find that they don't, in fact, get better. Such cases tend to make people feel even more confused, isolated, depressed, and unsure of themselves than if they simply acknowledged the possibility that there is no strange, magical law ensuring that one's circumstances will become happier over time.

Your description of your high school and early college experiences reminds me of my own, in a way. If you're curious, I had a great deal of trouble making friends in college. Throughout my four years at college, despite many genuine attempts, I never did manage to become close to anyone, except maybe for a few professors. But I learned to become more self-sufficient, which was very important. Lacking close friends is sad, but sometimes it's simply the outcome of having an uncommon level of intelligence, maturity, and sincerity.

For whatever it's worth, this was a book that helped me become more efficient at studying. Perhaps it could help you... at the very least, having your academic side more developed would probably make the college experience as a whole be less hellish. Ayway, good luck.

Watch a movie called: Cinema Paradiso by Giuseppe Tornatore (Make sure its the original theatrical cut NOT the Director's Cut) Watch it in Italian with English subtitles.

Please trust a random redditor, you'll find a beautiful and bittersweet resolution in that film. http://www.amazon.com/Cinema-Paradiso/dp/B007HJ96NO/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1368922368&sr=8-1&keywords=Cinema+Paradiso

https://www.amazon.ca/gp/aw/d/B01LWM4EU1/ref=mp_s_a_1_28?ie=UTF8&qid=1520953512&sr=8-28-spons&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=mugig+ukulele&psc=1

This is the one I got, except at the time it came with a bag and a spare set of strings, but you can get those cheap elsewhere once you're interested

Haha no problem man.

If you hit a wall read these two books:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/014312451X/ref=wms_ohs_product?ie=UTF8&psc=1

http://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Thrift-Editions-Marcus-Aurelius/dp/048629823X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1413298896&sr=1-1&keywords=meditations

Here's a good one I wrote! Some of the poems were started when I was a sad, depressed teenager. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07ZK1DGN9/